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Which bomb dey for afaraukwu, afra wey me dey stay, this people and the propaganda.... They looking for way to slaughter innocent soul and and blame it on NK and they won't succeed...

Must everything be politicize in Nigeria....

Terry44:
Hello nlander, Had to create this account for anonymity sake.

Kindly forgive my Errors.


I am a guy in my late twenties, at least I can say am doing good for myself in this Buhari's next level. I've dated this lady for two years and I'm almost considering walking down the aisle with her before I started noticing some changes with her, mind you she is 24.



Issue all started when I left Abuja for Lagos for a contract job, before then she had been a very good lady and faithful too. For the time we dated she never demanded from me untill she lost her Step-mum, even at that her demands were untypical of a Nigerian lady, because she always fended for herself unless I willingly intervened.


Problem started when she first visited me and I noticed her long unusual calls, I confronted her but she convinced me with the normal just a friend stuff from female folks. Fast forward to the present day, she has kept her profile of been a good lady before me and family. I even introduced her to my people and from time to time she spends reasonable time
with my ailing father and younger siblings.

The actual trouble bothering me is this, toward the end of completing my contract job, she had accommodation issues and I couldn't lend a hand due to the fact that I had a lot to take care of financially and such emergency spending was not budgeted for. She was so much desperate that I couldn't help looking at her. So I had to use part of my younger brother tuition fee and also borrow from my colleague to help her secure a self contain apartment as well as everything needed to make her feel comfortable, she collected the money from me to give to the agent who was supposed to source for the apartment. She resolved to squat with a friend pending when the apartment would be ready and acquiring necessary furnitures.


Almighty God been so good to me, I got a permanent job offer in a multi-national firm in Ogun state. She came to visit me and I had to pay for her flight ticket to and fro, she just left my house on Tuesday after spending two weeks with me. During her stay with me I found out that the friend she told me she was squating with all those while has been her Ex-boyfriend. And the same person we started having issues over previously due to the fact that she was having sex chat with the said Ex and also another guy who is a member of their family church, which she told me is nothing to worry about that the ex was disturbing her that he his still having problem moving on .


I'm at the cross road and unable to decide whether to end it or wait for her to apologise. Though, I haven't told her of my findings, truth be told she's everything of a
good woman and has really supported me
except for my latest findings.



Am as confused as hell now, I be not even confronted her,
my mind is playing games with me. Pls somebody should
talk to me. All the thoughts I have in mind are so far futile.




NB: no insults please. I'm really unstable at the moment.

number 1: she lied to you, that's a red flag,
Number 2: she is having sex with her ex
Number 3: she is broke
Number 4: long distance na scam

These are red flags what else do you need to know...
When dating a women especially Nigeria ones you need to be very cautious and observant... I won't tell you what to do you already know it, don't let pussy cloud your mind...

G

toren:
That's me. I'd rather have my head hung than owe. Never owed anyone money in my life.

Nice keep it up

inahlot:
I have heard and seen many ridiculous relationship breakup story, mine was actually quite funny and at the same time not funny.. which goes thus ....



so we've both been in this relationship for more than a year, she is a good girl with a good heart and not a demanding type of girl unlike wordly girls of nowadays, and beautiful with her melanie popping skin, average height and slim... so here is what happened I just don't call her again and she too didn't call me with my reason been that she is most of the time rude either we're together or over the phone, but she mostly exhibit this act whenever I called her and I have complained severally about this act sometimes she will apologized and at times not, but I think the cause is been that I'm way older than her and she is a Muslim while I'm a christian, it was funny to me cus it's the first time I will be breaking up with a girl in that manner.. whereas I was expecting her to call or msg me on whatsapp on what happened but her ego won't allow her to....

what is your own funny way you've breakup with your girl or guy before or heard, feel free to share and let's learn.

it's my first time of creating a topic here tho' so there might be errors but I'm willing to learn so feel free to correct me but not criticize me

mine was she asked me if i was missing her and I said no I wasn't, she decided not to pick my calls and I ended up deleting her from my life.... We dated for three years

There are some individuals who don't like to own any person especially rent, the prefer to starve than to own or be in debt and luckily for you, your tenant turns out to be one of them...

Chai my VC, you really help us when lecturers wanted to kill us with buying of text book, you shunned those lecturer's and rebuke them from making it compulsory.... Even though you made lots of enemies you still deliver majority of the promises you made...

Some may say you are the worst VC but you helped our life, made us write exams without paying school fees, you helped those students who couldn't meet up with that payments, my roommate was one that enjoyed the privilege...

It hurts me deeply, I pray your soul rest in peace

Yes, it depends on the individual and how exposed he is intellectually, being educated is different from schooling...
I have a friend who is full of intellects, he can read very well, speak very well and write very well, he expose his mind with lots of books and activities, everything is has done are self thought and he understands life way better now some of our universities counterparts....

So the answer is yes, you can be a secondary school graduate and be educated....

Since when did nairaland become a child's play

Issues40:
Forget Jokes and Sarcasm. Have you guys taken time to critically observe what is going on around us lately? If you have, then you will discover that the FUTURE IS REALLY FEMALE. 70% of our workforce now consists of females. Check it everywhere. Women are now beginning to handle top top positions all over the country. We are witnessing the first female vice president of the united states and there's more to come. Even in families, a lot of women are beginning to assume the role of the bread winner of the family in the presence of the man. Watch how females dominate the world in the next 10 years and reduce men to nothing!

until then for now men rule the world

ImpregnaTor:
this could be true o, girls are becoming more intelligent as years passes by..

for example now, for my department na boys dey pack carry over like party rice this period o the future is truly female

there is difference between intelligent and intellectuals.... having carryover does not make one dumb besides the only difference between first class and third class is retention information in a course

jclave22:
Please avoid this serial scammer.. Musa alasa..first bank plc 3172939510. He scammed my friend the sum of 200,000 on telegram and remove him from the group. Guys be careful how you buy btc best meet one on one or find a trusted sites with good reviews .. Help bring this couprit down. Because he has many victims at hand

some individuals don't listen don't ever trade on telegram 99% of them are scammer use top crypto companies like binance, if the owner refuses the send your bitcoin, appeal and he will be ban and all his coin will be freezeed secondly, they can't not trade fake cryptocurrency to you...

AbujaCitiBlog:
Na weak men like una women dey take play joke!
What is premature in retrieving his money collected under false pretenses? Is you head correct? You went to the same university with a lady, got the same degree. She is working as well as you, she may even be earning more than you, but you are the one footing all the bills dying of high blood pressure. Tell me again, what is the definition of hell? That woman never loved him! And you can quote me anywhere!

leave him jera he's just talking trash, na so some go dey form wetin dey no fit.... The man took the right action...

Absolutely nothing

Gossiping with someone name, I can't do it I abhor it

Lakadastickla:
You are not wise, No cap

no mind that fool na woman rapper wey him be

tete7000:
He is damn empty and ignorant but thinks himself wise because of accolades he receives from his followers

see them stupid fellow if you like spend your life saving on woman when she dumps you Na here you go come dey cry.... Ass licking boy

You own yourself, seems like you are just looking for stupid excuses to me no woman is extraordinary, that's just your mindset deceiving youd is affecting you, change your mind control your emotions and your life will turn around....

Very educative and quite helpful cuz I might serving in Port Harcourt

allandutch:
Oshey, Made in Shanghai Beyoncé.

see finishing

allandutch:
Oshey, Made in Shanghai Beyoncé.

see finishing

Chai look at how this fools wasted military resources, well the will north always suffer the most as long as they keep on lying to them and deceiving themselves

Spending123:
When God said "let there be light " I wondered what our Nigerian nepa people were thinking. Let the dog bite them joor for disobeying the Lord's commandment.

guy you funny die

I told my babe it is a Ponzi scheme but she didn't believe me, gave me her hard earn money to invest I started with standard package, cash out told her that I upgraded with my own additional money while I used it to buy a cardano ADA cryptocurrency stored it in a trust wallet... Have already told her the site is gone she is just quite buy she does not know her money is trust wallet... Make I dey do my thing I go surprise her when I double the money

I trust abịa government on this, this one's are dead already... No trial for them, will be executed and the organ sold to FMC...

Funny indeed jegaban lagos state

My university was full of struggle, some of my colleagues will be having fun during the weekend while I will go and hustle during, although it makes me comfortable and independent, I was able to acquire the necessary skills, phone repair, barbing, computer software, reading outside my school curriculum, personal assistant I tested it all and did great with them... I contest for an election in my college and still lost, wrote my exams, and had one carryover rewrote it and passed... School passed through me and I'm proud to say it...

Life is difficult but it never stop me from improving, I acquired new skills, upgraded my phone skills, up my game in barbing and computer software after I graduated even though ASSU kept me at home for a years plus but I'm grateful I will be going to service this year and i have vouched that my allowance will add to my way out of poverty, I have never worked a salary job and I don't intend to cuz I planning to open my own business after NYSC.. I'm not waiting for anyone.

I have never stop improving, I read books, I hustle... I still have nairaland to thank more especially Redpills which has open my eyes to know the bitter truth... Life after graduation is hard but as long as you have your own standard and build upon it without fear or favor, you will definitely make it, I know where am heading to, the road might be rough but I will definitely passed through it....

Don't forget the most important of all, love God and love yourself.... Peace!

Veltan40:
Please help me. This may sound funny but it's simply the truth.
I am 28 and I have never been in a relationship before. I mean I have never had a girlfriend.
Initially, I ignored this issue and tried to focus on my education and building my future, thinking that it will happen in its time. But it never happened.

Now, indeed God has blessed my hustle so much these days that I am now contented and ready to settle down and build up a family.

But I have now realized that what I waved away earlier as a minor issue is currently a serious problem to me. I can't find a girl. None of them seems to be interested in me.

All the ladies I have approached seem not to be interested in dating me. I am not that handsome, but I don't think I am that so ugly. ( At least those I am better than have one)
I have also been so benevolent and cheerful just to woo them, yet I always meet rejection.

This is seriously weighing me down and affecting me seriously, especially my business. I have prayed, I have tried and I have done all I could, that I now think it's not ordinary.
The last pastor I have visited told me my wife is around. It's been 7 months now, and nothing happened.

Please what should I do? Is there anything wrong with me? I need help

There is nothing wrong with you bro, what you need a Don Juan or a Pook who will couch you in the dating game you get to explore this creatures

Xenry:
Young man, it's not every free food that is genuine,
not every hole you see you go enter...
By the way, what have that sex benefited you?
Misplaced priorities everywhere!

Thank you very much he seriously need to hear this and swallow it

doris4u:
Good evening guys, hope our weekend went well cos my did even though I was full of thoughts.
Have you ever have feeling that you can't love again or your finding it difficult to love.
I am in this situation , even though I have been out of relationship since 2019.
I have a lot of admirers but I don't feel like trying to love anyone to start up something. Even when a guy tries to get close to me, I feel scared and push him away. Have anyone been in my shoes before?

Is a sign of your hoe journey about to start, be vigilant or once niggas start drilling it never ends

RavagedHeart:
I had to create a new account for this thread. Please try to read everything, so you would know what to say

It's been more than a year now, but I still hurt badly. I entered a relationship with this girl when I was in my 200L and she was still a jambite. She was beautiful, but it didn't show because she was suffering at that time. I was equally a handsome campus guy. Everything was fine between us and the journey was so sweet. In her, I found all the important things I needed in a relationship, and the love blossomed. Though she's got her bad sides, which is pride and stubbornness. I overlooked this believing love conquers all. At some point, I began to give her a third of my upkeep every month.
Fast forward to early last year, she was already in her final year. One thing led to another and we had to cohabit, and this required me to move to the state she schools. I quit my job in my state and focused on getting something better in the Internet space, and it worked for me. The whole arrangement felt like it was made in heaven. We lived happily like in the movies and more money was starting to flow in.
All this while, everything I earned was channeled to seeing her through the university, as she's got almost no financial support from her home. I'll say I was her provider 85% of the time all through her school days.
When I got the big job online that paid roughly $1,500 per month, money became surplus. I began to polish and furnish her with everything she needs to look good. She responded well to the spending and within months she dressed and looked like the daughter of a politician. During all this time, I never thought to invest or even polish myself to look better. I was only focused on her happiness.
Before we began to cohabit, I had some girls I do with, because of the distance between my state of residence and her school. Besides, she is not the type that fancies sex. Because she knows she's not giving me enough shots (like once in 4months), she doesn't make serious quarrel when she finds out I am doing other girls.
Within a few weeks of staying together, she asked me to stop sleeping around, that she's not comfortable with that anymore. She said I should leave all my girls that she would give me anything I want from a girl. I was convinced and that was what I even wanted all along. Cheating has never been my ideal. So, I left all my girls and clung to her. We both agreed to marry and everything was good, at least for a while.
After two months of this faithful arrangement, and about 3months into my dream job. Something happened.
Out of curiosity, she went searching through my phone and reading all my chats with other girls. She did this for weeks especially when I'm asleep after some shots.
What she found in her search made her believe I was still dating one of the girls.
One morning, she broke up with me saying that I still cheat on her. She broke up a 5years relationship. I tried to explain and make her understand her assumptions are wrong. I even called the accused girl in her presence with the phone on speaker and asked her to tell my girlfriend my position in her life. The accused girl confirmed it to her that we are now just casual friends and nothing more than that. But my girlfriend didn't believe that. She changed overnight. She began to disrespect me she stopped doing anything with me and even left the house and stayed where I believe is her girlfriend's place (though not sure). I took her as my everything and when she left, my whole life crumbled before my eyes. I turned from a vibrant intelligent and happy lad, into a depressed, unproductive, and confused person.
The emotional blast caused me to lose concentration and I began to make mistakes with my job. I woke up one morning to see a sack email sitting in my inbox. This was the second blast and at that moment I wished I could die. Everything that made me happy was no more with me, and I cried most of the time.
When she comes home to take clean clothes and drop dirty ones, she'll just walk in and out of the room like I wasn't there. Even when it's written all over me that I was dying from the heartbreak, she seemed very happy and unconcerned seeing me in that state.
This went on for like 5months. During this time. She still comes home only to eat the food I cooked and to change her clothes, after that she's gone again. At some point I noticed a little remorse in her as she began to come home more frequently, but her pride won't allow her talk to me, not to talk of apologise.
One day I thought I should apologize for doing nothing. I called her to come home. She came home that evening and I asked her to forgive anything I did to annoy her and come back to me. She reluctantly accepted with the clause of no more sex and no extreme romance. I objected to this because I can't stay without doing something once in a while. She said that I'm not yet serious, packed some clothes and left the house. She never talked to me except she needs money which I still gave, thinking it would bring her back. But I thought wrong.
This was how it went on till I went bankrupt and completely broken.
I continued trying to get her back as that seemed to be the only thing that can restore life to the creature I have become. But the more I tried, the more I was burnt.
Because she's now polished and looking the path, she began rolling with very rich men as some used to drop her off with exotic cars when she comes to pick clean clothes. When I try asking she'd tell me he's just asked her out but nothing is happening.
After one year of suffering from heartbreak induced depression. I decided to help myself. I began to pick up girls again, I tried having a lot of sex, but it only helped for a moment. No matter how good my new girls are, and how well they do the do. No one seemed to fill that hole in me. I still hurt and I'm still depressed.

Fast forward to this day. She's gone, my money and dream job also gone. But the hurt and emotional damage remain. I had to go back to my family house as my finance doesn't permit me paying rent, and my new business is not receiving the best of efforts.

Now the problem is. How do I move on? How do I get to heal? How do I find the vibrant and happy me that once was? How do I erase her memory so I can find love again? How do I become a man again because time is no longer surplus like that for me?
It's been more than a year but I still feel betrayed and broken, as if it all happened yesterday.


Mods please. Let this get the maximum exposure

This what happen when you give too much power and money to a hoe, now the hoe has left you for another you are crying you can't move on you got what you deserve that's the bitter truth... You don't love yourself bro until you learn how to love yourself then you will be able to move on