ersonleads:
I'm presently working with a reputable company. I met a girl I really flow with. She's matured & understanding. She's in her 400level in school & I said within myself never to let her pass me by. We've come to a compromise that she should finish before I take her to the alter. Want to do so when She's 22yrs of age. I'm 11yrs older than her.

Please I need your Advice if I'm doing the right thing?

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as she has a burning desire to be with you, you can also maintain your frame and not make her the epicenter of your life and forget about those that is saying mature of a shit cuz women don't mature what a 19 years girl old will do, a 45 years old lady will still do the same thing so there's no difference... Keep your options open as well cuz you never can tell you might loose diamond while chasing gold....

h0pze3:
Why? Bcoz 1. It require technical knw how 2. Cost of maintainance is high 3. Difficult to operate 4. High risk 5. Many pple are onboard.

I AM NOW OPERATING RELATIONCANOE.


I AM NO LONGER IN RELATIONSHIP, I AM NOW IN RELATIONCANOE. WHY? 1. Easy to operate 2. Less or no cost of maintainance 3. Less or no risk 4. Few pple onboard

How old are you if you are in your 20s forget relationship and spin as many plate as you can this will not only get you good woman but also build your confidence and self esteem...

omniwater:


Please for god'sake, don't change who you are for anybody. You will discover that they are not worth in the long run.

Look within, find out and know who you are and you will find peace and love.

Shalom!

Just being who you are is overrated big man it won't get you what you want especially when it comes to women it's like telling a fat dude to be himself not to loose weight that he will find someone who will love him for who he is there truth is there is limitation to this fact while he could just loosen weight and be fit and embrace the sky of limitless pursuit of options

soundOsonic:
I met a lady last year, we talked well and vibed well. Later on I would go to her shop to discuss and I would have this eye contact with her and I thought I felt something like a spark though. Even the Lady with her suspected we had a thing together but I just recently knew her. We both talked as if we know each otherfor like forever.

She asked me for my number, I gave her. I never asked her for her number simply because I wanted to make sure that the signal we are getting from each other was purely romantic and not platonic and I wanted to take things slow.

I felt that her asking for my number was that she needed to spend more time with me if I am not available physically. So we started chatting. The chats was going smoothly and to my surprise we do chat all through the day we literally chats all hours of the day.
Then I did what all single Hot guy will do, out but apart from the Hot which I am not most times; I asked her out. I was not after sex perse I just wanted enough closure bridging through the platonic platform to a more romantic setting.

But she replied with this exact same words "I am not ready for a relationship, I want to complete my schooling and be focus with my education."

Well despite her reply killed my envisioned sun setting romantic bliss; I understood as she was a good girl, a virgin and someone very focus with academics. I know this because she tells me everything about her things happening each day, minutes and seconds.

I was contented with the platonic relationship, I thought I would wait maybe 2 or 3 years as that's what she was indirectly telling me.
A month later from the time I asked her out and was turned down, that time was December: Christmas period. I took my sister out to a nice eatery and I asked her if she could come along as a friend. She obliged but told me she would be going some place after that I said ok.

So after she left to her place of wherever. My sister told me she is worried, I asked her why, she said she went to her guy's place. I was shocked this is a lady that is not ready for relationship. This guy in question is a Yahoo guy by the appearance and all. The guy later broke her heart as that's the first time she is dating I think at 21. Another guy in the area too was like dating her as well after that guy, at the point of dating he got another girl pregnant and broke her heart (same Yahoo guy).

I thought why did she ever chose not to date me. If at all you were not physically attracted to me why didn't you just tell me instead of all these mumbo jumbo. I am actually an average looking guy. Maybe a 6 or even a 7 based on world standard.

My question is why do girls always refuse to date me, I am not a good guy neither am I a bad guy. The one I am asking out says I am not in her level, that she is in a very low level for me to look at her or ask her out. She believes I am after sex.

The next one said I am too low for her. Though she was older.
The one I confessed my feelings for her heart isn't even with me but another but she started catching feelings but sometimes she gets to her senses and she convince herself she belongs with another.

The girl who I don't even know that keeps greeting me Everytime but I keep ignoring her, I later went for her after a year she turned me down.
I just tire o.

Edit: Not every woman I meet, I ask out. I have a particular type of lady I ask out that depicts my taste. Any Lady beyond or below I show zero interest.

People saying I should move on, I have already. I was never pained o. And those calling me a simp I no even understand, where did you read any simpish move from me? Or do you at all know what SIMP is?
My problem isn't sex o. If I wanted sex I would get it easily from those low class street girls without spending a dime. I am after my kind of girls but they are saying NO.

You are what we call Average Fustrated chump (AFC) try to build yourself above average, stop chatting with women unnecessaryly, stop wasting your time trying to make the perfect move its boring women like chaos and want a guys that knows what they want, chatting with a woman should be strictly for dates and meet up unless you want to entertain a white lady, hit the gym, change your appearance don't believe that shit of I just want who will love me like I am and last but not the least find a book about women and game.... I recommend the book of pook or the rational male by Rollo Tomassi stick with these advice you will be alright

Baamisere:
Help Me! I'm Fed Up

I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now and she has been a good woman through and through. I've met her parents and we're discussing on the next step. She has been supportive, responsible and caring despite our tribal difference.

However, the problem I'm having with her is that when she's angry she tends to use foul languages and curses on me which I don't like. She end up apologizing after the ranting but I'm tired of going over this. Please how can I deal with this attitude of hers?

I need honest contributions to this thread.

Big man this is a red flag already but your emotions will always tell you other wise. A woman must respect her man to the core whether she is angry or not...
Don't let love blind you save yourself by standing on your ground tell her what is unacceptable from you if it happens and you will walk away from the relationship... Don't forget rejection is always better than regrets

bigpriik:
I brought up this topic two years ago, it was about a girl i loved so much we were good friends, but she is Just into a kinda flashy lifestyle funded by runs. She always posts twerk videos on her Instagram and whatssap status and of course she is very beautiful and the kind of woman I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Hoestly I don't know why I love her, it's just crazy. Last year I deleted her number and pictures from my phone, because we had a fight over the tatoo she drew on her upper arm so I avoided her..

But yesterday I saw her in my street, meeen this girl don fine scatter and she is looking so fresh like those men are really paying her well. She called me and I answered we talked and believe me all the nuts in my head was loose because I talked to her.. ,i felt all the old emotions back again and it was so strong again. I immediately collected her number and she sent me a hi on WhatsApp so we begin talking again, we chatted all Night and she told me how she missed me so much and all.

Is it sensible iI take her in, i am 29 now and rounding up for marriage and she is the only one i see but i am afraid because i feel runs girls don't really retire even after marriage..

Elders please i need your help..
I need

Brother help yourself and read a book about women, go and read the rational male by Rollo tomassi. It will help you life

Most men have been rejected so many times that they just want to get down to it when they get a woman. This is the reason many men don't vet women properly: they have a scarcity mindset.
Most men, who, of course, are beta males, are so desperate for sexual access that they feel lucky when a woman says yes.

Why are the majority of men so desperate?

Because most women don't want them. Not because women have options - they don't. They would rather buy a dog and be a baby mama for a high-value man than settle with the average Joe.
Women think that most of us are ugly because simps all over are telling them they are exquisitely beautiful queens and they don't belong to the earth.

Dataclysm research from Tinder shows that women think that more than 80% of men have below than average looks.
Not average looks: below-average looks.

In other words, women are saying, "men, you're ugly!"

If you add the fact that 80% of the women want only the top 10% of men, then 80% of us are indeed left desperate to get any woman, however ugly or poorly behaved she may be.

You will not find women telling fellow women to marry a broke man or a butt-ugly man. Because women feel they have choices (the pickings are way slimmer than women think, though - nudge, nudge, wink, wink – wait till you sail past 35).
But you will find men encouraging fellow men to marry baby mamas regardless of their shape or size. Mara ooh, fatherhood is sociological and not biological etc Because of this desperation, men have no standards - hence women talk of body positivity instead of dieting and hitting the gym. Ugly women say only your heart matters, and so on.

Women have normalized wearing artificial hair, nails, eyelashes and butts, while if men borrow cars to show up nicely, they're called scrubs and fake. In other words, women don't even feel they should follow their own rules.

It is because of this desperation that men simp and pedestalize women. Beta males have even taught men that the proper way to ask for marriage is to kneel like a beggar before a woman before popping the question. In other words, they encourage men to supplicate to women, like a marriage proposal will save the man's life.
It is because many men regard sexual access as unassailable that men idealize women and become pu*sy beggars and ass worshippers.

It is because of this lack of standards and desperation that men marry downwards while women remain hypergamous.
Because of this desperation, men have made women the prize. This desperation makes men approach relationships from a weak position of scarcity.
That's why they kneel before women to ask for their hand in marriage - like beggars seeking acceptance.
But it hasn't always been like this.

In a state of nature, a woman's purpose is to get a man because only he can protect her and provide for her. Getting a man, therefore, is a survival imperative for women. Without a man, a woman cannot survive in a state of nature.
You have seen even in parks, baboons and monkeys know women and show them no respect. Hyenas take away food from lionesses in the wild, but a Lion shows up, and the hyenas scatter.

Because women need men, men are the prize because men are needed by women for survival. Along the way, this understanding was lost. The world became feminized, and men were reduced to beggars, and now, they are ugly beggars.

However, men are the prize because they increase in value over time while women start declining in their mid-20s.

Men are the prize because, whereas the primary agency of women is their sexuality, men can draw their value from their status, charisma, looks, resources, and skills. In other words, it doesn't matter how ugly you were born as a man - what matters is what you make yourself.

All these assets a man can build over time and increase his value, almost limitlessly, while a woman is constrained by her biological clock.
Men are the prize because whereas women are born with value (they can use makeup to enhance their beauty and sexuality), men can create value, and the purpose they pick becomes their primary agency. They have so much latitude because there are almost no biological limits imposed on their agency.

Thus, a discerning man who is willing to apply himself to the pursuit of a particular goal or mastery of a particular skill is invaluable to society and should hold himself and those he chooses to associate with, to a high standard.

A man who has paid his dues doesn't have to kneel or settle for anything that drops on his lap.

He is the prize because he can bring comfort and pleasure to the woman he picks.

He is the prize because many women want him.

He is the prize because so long as he masters his environment, he can function as a competent male with several women in his orbit desiring him.

Gentlemen, do the work.

Prioritize your looks. Clean up nicely and dress up well – do not allow yourself to be ugly.

Commit yourself to your purpose and be the master in your domain.

You're not ugly: you're just broke.

Step up, Kings, take your rightful places.

Embrace the burden of performance.

Become, and women will come.

Do not beg. Remember, desire cannot be negotiated.

Acquit yourself with dignity and honour.

Share with Kings that need to read this.

By Jacob Aliet

I live with my girlfriend. She has been staying with me for a year and 8 months now. Sex was perfect 3 to 4 times a week.

But ever since she started working sex has become a problem. She will make excuses that she is tired that her back is hurting or headaches. For 3 weeks no sex. She doesn't care at all and we are living like roommates and yesterday was worse.

I was in the mood for it and she bluntly refused so I had to force her. I ripped her pant but she didn't give up she scratches me on my face. I slapped her so hard out of anger. I didn't mean to and I left the house for a few hours. I apologised for forcing her and I told her I am not going to leave with her anymore if she will not give me sex. I asked her to leave so my next babe can move in she said she is leaving in 2 weeks.

Note I don't have any other babe except from her and I have never cheated on her before. I love her a lot she is my life but I just don't like her new attitude.

What do you think I should do for her to be happy with me and give me sex without a fight because I don't want what had happened yesterday to ever happen again in the future.

ONEITIS will kill you my only advice go and buy the book rational male by rollo tomassi and read it will help you life and make you a better person

Geovanni412:


Baba, many common folks have never heard of intermittent fasting. To follow normal exercise schedule to lose weight na world war for most people sef

Yes is true allot of them are not aware of it. It is now left for us to enlighten some of them

Kobojunkie:
I wholeheartedly agree with you that the general kind of Fasting which involves the starving of the body of sustenance is beneficial to individual health. In fact, that indeed seems the only real benefit to such fasts.

However, the kind of "fasting" recommended by God is indeed of a higher standard than man's idea there which has its roots in pagan traditions really. In Isaiah 58, God puts down His Law on fasting indicating it the way for any who believes in Him to cause the light within them - Jesus Christ according to John 1 vs 1 - 6 - to shine. Christians are commanded by Jesus Christ to let their light shine forth and Isaiah 58 is where God indicates the rituals/works necessary in order to bring that to pass.

Alright my friend

Some of you guys are ignorant of the true meaning of fasting. Fasting is not only practice for praying to the almighty but also for individual wellbeing, mental health and improvement of gut, eight loss and many other benefits I fast 18 hours everyday and i have never in any case include prayer in it. just make your research on the benefits of fasting there are more to it than fasting and praying

HenryDion:
You're afraid of a liability rejecting you?

What kind of men are we producing for Christ sake?

And your only advantage is your handsomeness...

That's a new one.

I wonder men of this days

This one pass me let sit and read comments from the doctors in the house

Bola146:
age is just a number, na common sense matters which I think you lack, you need to pray for more maturity please. First take good care of your parents and siblings at home, if you don't have any, invest in your future since you can't think straight or if you don't have a good future, please buy her the phone and cleave to her, you will surely be alright, Pele.

I love you you really hit it hard as it is in my mind

Patrioticman007:


The technique you mentioned ( about not wanting to sleep) is an old tradition. The op should try reading the holy Quran at night, sleep will visit him before he finish reading one or two surahs. This a well recognized fact.

funny you

numtums:

What's the name of the book?

Stoic wisdom by Nancy sharman

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Don't be a weak man don't be manipulated by her accum you are her husband you are in charge don't let your wife ruin your relationship with your family. Had it mean it her family will she will act the same way...
This how a rich man who has been in the US didn't empowered any of his family members and was able to take everyone of his wife family members out to united states at the end the wife dumb him and chase him out of his house in US now he is back in village and now a laughing stock he doesn't have a say in the village...
Stop telling your wife every thing especially your finances

Kriss216:
There's this kind of money you'll have, you'll be above manipulations from broke and wretched Nigerian girls. Trust me. Nigerian girls tend to manipulate the broke guys forming rich.

The worse thing that can happen to any man is to be manipulated by a broke, wretched and low life Nigerian girl who has only only her sim card registered in her name.

Just learn to be street wise, no matter your financial ability.

Lol brokenness is bad my brother

Men while you are focus on making money also focus on improving yourself mentally, physically and otherwise learn gaming too and the mystery behind women nature cuz you will need those in long run when money is no longer a problem...

I have seen a scenario where a man with work himself off with the aim of making money and improving himself and ends up not having anything to do with women and doesn't understand how women nature works. And When he finally enters into dating/marriage world his life becomes complicated and miserable and he will realised while chasing gold he lost diamonds, he is taken advantage of and easily manipulated by his woman...

There is more to life than money as long as your basics necessity is not a problem

Confidant010:
I met this babe in 2017 while in school. She was in Diploma program then and I was in my final in degree program.
Initially, she pretended to be everything any man would wish in a woman; obedient, submissive, helpful in house chores, etc.

I left for my national youth service the following year and I have been supportive through her thick n thorn with the resources at my disposal. Sending her cash for upkeep, supporting her during her dad's burial, sending cash to her mum occasionally, paying her dept without her notice, etc.
If am to take into account all that I have spent from her since 2017-date, 300k wouldn't be an exaggeration.

Recently, having helped her in Jamb to get admission into a degree program on scholarship, while I am in Lagos, trying to build myself. The girl is completely a different human being entirely. She openly tells me countlessly that the cash I give to her now isn't enough for her, that her ex boyfriend she dated used to give her more. Last month I sent her 6k, I was really stressed financially, when we had issues, she told me not to stress her bc of ordinary 6K. She flares over very minor misunderstanding.

Please what should I do guys?
She's planning visiting me next month.
I'm very confused bc I really love her.
Pls mature minds only.
Your input will be of help.
Thanks guys.

well first of all you are wasting allot of money on a girl that might eventually leave you detest from giving her money for upkeep you are not her parents but only her boyfriend therefore you are no obligated to spend your money on her but rather be supportive in your own terms not hers.

When a girl start comparing with her ex is a big red flags cuz she might cheating on you and also why dating one particular girl when you can have multiple options at your disposal.

You need to figure this out by yourself, you either change or perish, be stoic and ruthless when dealing with women that will love you more for it....

TimeTraveller:


Yes, I would. How are you even sure I am not married to one already?

well I wish you all the best with your marriage as for me I must be older, wealthy and fitter than my spouse before I consider marriage that how it has been in my family so I won't be dumb enough to do such...

TimeTraveller:


Even religion is a social construct.

yes I believe religion is socially constructed but let's call a spade a spade will you marry someone 6 years older than you.

TimeTraveller:
Age difference in marriage is socially constructed. There are no rules that suggest the man should be older.
If you find a woman or man you love.
If they make you happy.
If they can make you laugh.
If you can fart in their presence
If the sex is enjoyable, whether it is for a minute or an hour.

Marry the person quick quick

Better a day in a happy marriage than forty years in a sorrowful one.

Make e be like dat.

if age is socially constructed why do Muslim marry young girls instead of older women, age is important in marriage its only in a few cases I have seen a marriage where the woman is older than the man survives in the long run please don't deceive the op cuz love is not even enough in marriage

darkstar6971:
Hello fellow Nairalanders pls I'm here for a suggestion and let it be positive pls ain't need no insult...
I'm having a girlfriend which is 29yrs and I'm just 23 years, We both love each other to the extent that we don't even knew the time we start the relationship... pls I need your suggestions here...

Please moderators help me to move this thread to front page so as to get more positive suggestions.

You need the F's
Fossils = be older
Fortune = be wealther
Fitness = be fitter

If she older than you are detest from it cuz she used you to quench her emotional trauma... Know this and know peace find some one who compliment your age for you to live long...

Nonpartisan1:
IPOB Terrorists on the beat. They want to divert attention from the atrocities they are committing in Igboland.

Useless idiots

why must you insult the character instead of airing your point, this shows how low your IQ is and how difficult your vill mentality can be... Grow up

helinues:


Heh heh

So you have been telling those different girls truth right?

You added more to your lies.

Unless you are not a man enough or you aren't strong enough as for me I have four different girlfriends and the funniest part is non of them knows each other... The game is never get caught

helinues:


Having 4 girlfriends mean you are a natural liar.

Wondering how you would be stressing yourself in order to keep up with the lies

Believe all you won't I have aired my mind out is not everyone in this platform are liars...

UndauntedYOCA:

You have 4 girlfriends? Asin 4 ladies you're dating? If this is the.case then you're cheating if they aren't aware.

lol it's not what you think

Creativeace:
First of all i aint no simp and never will be, i have always been a person that respects myself a lot before men and women, but everything escalated when i encountered the redpill.

I was 19 when i was exposed to TRP, out of academic and hustling stress i started reading threads on nairaland and i no time as a lover of knowledge became hooked on ubunja's miseducations and after practising TRP for two years going now, i cant really say it has won me favour in the eyes of people, especially women.

I broke up with the first and only girlfriend ive had, because i changed drastically over night because i was high on the pill, my circle of guys started leaving me out cos i suddenly became the odd one out.

Girls started giving me attitude, cos i reduced the attention i gave out, so i decided to take it to the extreme and went all out ignoring all of them.

Lets cut the story short, am toxic, alone, with no female attention to validate my ego, so i decided to fuel my ego some other way, by making money... typing

Gentleman you are not redpill rather black pill, when I embraced red pill my girl friend left me I built myself from the scratch now I have 4 girlfriends am not lonely it was a blessing in disguise, I'm still focusing and improving myself and most importantly maintaining my frame redpill saved me... No regrets!!!

SUPERPACK:
Owning a gun is one thing, being mentally alert to use them is another issue. America has the highest armed population in the world yet are top in Homicide, murder, mass shooting, gang attacks, car snatching and daylight robberies.
We have also seen heavily armed military units being killed in Nigeria every day. When it comes to firearm related incident the greatest weapon remains The element of surprise.
If you own a firearm it will always be on safety to prevent accidental discharge, whereas the attacker knows his victim and removes his own from safety, the target barely knows he is the target of an attack. Japan has a strict gun control law that even the citizens are afraid of buying one, but yet remain far more safe that USA with almost zero gun laws. A working system is far better than a firearm republic.

Yes I support the narrative of a system that works the US is on a bridge of collapse cancel culture, woke community, new segregation, defunding the police and the rest of them, Chicago crime has sky rocketed ever the governor defunded her police this made some good citizens to get there own ammunition for safety.... As for me the thief deserve what he got

jansonn:

Thanks for the comment. But you didn't help. I've checked Google, I wasn't getting a direct answer to my questions that's why I'm asking professionals.
Ive seen videos on how to do the installation and all, I just want to know if the dual booting wont affect my laptop in a long run.

duel boot won't affect the other operating systems you can work with the two smoothly I have Ubuntu installed in my system for I mainly use it to bypass icloud and jailbreaking iPhone... If you are not satisfied then install a virtual machine in your system and install any operating system you want...

If any of my kids f-up and the teacher flogged them I wouldn't mind cuz the bible said spear the rod and spoil the child... Don't believe in those western ideology that children are not meant to be flog or punished its only a fool that will believe it...

My uncle flog sense enter my head when I was young and naive and he will letter talk to me and explain to me they reason why he did it I love that man may he soul rest in peace