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Shithole...

XhosaNostra:
I was inside a taxi once when all of a sudden my stomach started churning & I got all sweaty. I knew it was a bad case of a stomach bug. I had to go! It was so urgent, I almost used my handbag as a toilet. Needless to say, I got off the taxi & ran into the nearest house to use the loo. I couldn't even see clearly, that's how terrible it was. I walked into this house & asked to use the toilet, without waiting for a reply I found it by myself. After I was done doing my business, the embarrassment & shame set it. It took me about 30 minutes to summon enough courage to walk out. I sheepishly made my way to the sitting room, quietly introduced myself & apologized for the intrusion The mother was very nice & understanding, fortunately

So this was you...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HyS3TBKYqSk

Chinnyrita27:
Good day nairalanders. I created this account to seek for advice as I am confused and crying as I type this. I have been happily married for 4 years with a daughter of 3 and my husband. Not about a week ago, I had issues with one of his friend in his absence in our home. He had this close friend who came visiting on a faithful evening last Monday(I was not strong enough to go to work),he came when my husband wasn't around so I had to leave whatever I was doing to keep him company while we wait for my husband, at some point I offered to get him food, he obliged and ate, it was not upto 30 minutes after eating, he asked me to go buy him card. Politely, I told him I can't as was so tired and weak to walk about 10 minutes under the sun, i suggested to recharge free for him from my bank, he insisted, frowned his face and asked if I was trying to tell him that he can't recharge from his account, I was shocked, he stood up angry and aggressively and drove out of the compound. I didn't utter a word, I was angry but kept calm.

Not until my husband came back, and when I was about to welcome him but, he angrily yield and screamed at me and asked why I had to insult his friend and call him poor. I angrily asked him why he believed his friend without trying to confirm the from me, we deeply quarrelled and he made statement threatening to end the marriage if I cannot respect his friends and his people. I have never disrespected him or any of his friends and family members before, I'm so confused, we have not be conversing and relating well since Monday. I tried to make peace with him as I wasn't comfortable keeping malice with him but he said I will have to apologise to his friend which is something I don't think I can do.

I am so confused, what should I do?

I suspect you didn't provide all the details.

If you did, then something isn't right with Mr Chinnyrita27.

AdeMavrodi:
No big deal all just to appear professional. she go still follow am enter hotel collect properly.

Na money she go want.

Out of court settlement...

Ishilove:
Nigerians are so greedy. They don't even care about the losses being incurred by the company and truck owner. All they care about is stuffing their bellies with the fruits of other people's sweat. After they will complain about corruption and how useless the government is, forgetting that the Nigerian government is a reflection of it's electorate.

Hopeless leeches.

2013 Boston Marathon bombing, Oyibo were caught on video, stealing merchandise like kilode: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2310784/Boston-bombings-2013-Video-appears-dozens-people-stealing-marathon-merchandise.html

izzou:


Tata owns Jaguar?

Money no get enemy...

Think of it like Dangote dropping money to purchase Arsenal.

If he drops the money, they'll hand him the keys.

However, it won't stop Arsenal from being a British brand.

popweezy:
Hello guy! PLS how do I turn a girl down when she is requesting for relationship in a polite way without hurting her feelings. Please guys, it's very urgent...

Politely tell her you're not into fat girls

Just kidding.

Nothing needs to be said. Just don't lead her on and she'll get the message – they are incredibly perceptive of disinterest.

oyebanji44:
Obj's one aim in life is to make this nation a truly democratic country.he believed that in Nigeria, national loyalties were stronger than tribal ones.And this was one of the reasons why majority of the yorubas disliked him

Even the US isn't a "truly democratic" country.

MobilityExpress:
That is a very young male lion. Judging by the looks of his mane, this lion is probably about 3 years old. Still young, inexperienced and cautious. Let him try this stunt with a fully grown male lion in the wild, he will have the lion's teeth sunk into his neck within 10 seconds and he will be dead in less than 1 minute.

My oga, that lion wey big like pickup...

By age 2 they've perfected their hunting skills – not when they can kill a feeble, defenceless human.

And are considered fully grown by age 3.

If you listen to the guy you'll see that he has an idea of what he's doing – even though there are no guarantees.

delugajackson:
It's obvious the lions ate to their fill. Try that with a hungry Nigerian lion and see if you will live to tell the story.

They just intimately understand lion behaviour.

Like this guy who confronts one with just toilet paper...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WCfDiPIydZ0?t=84

MrDoGood:
I was in a similar situation. She feels she's still hot and sexy.. lol women with their ways of thinking.
Get another phone with a new number and register with another name cos she's going to check the number with true caller.
Register whatsapp with the new line and use the phone to chat yourself. Claiming to be one of your ex wanting you guys to see that she just wants to apologize and all that. If possible, make up for all the wrongs she's done to you. Just make it a very sensitive chat that would make her jealous and want to bring down the roof when she sees it. If possible, put one of your cousin's female photos that she doesn't know and make sure she's extremely beautiful but u need to play calm in the chat as a man who respects the wife and you don't want anything to do with exes. Your wife won't be happy with it and bla bla.
To round it up, tell her you will appreciate it if she stops chatting with you. (Remember this is yourself chatting with you) then let your wife see the chats. She will definitely bring up issues abut u seeing her. Then you have the upper hand to open her eyes and brain to see what you are talking about. Believe me bro, she will stop all those nonsense of felling funky and hot that exes kept calling her. na she dey give the room for the conversation. (That's if she is willing to change) without that, there's little or nothing u can do.

I do not want to use a disgusting word, but she should be ashamed to talk about her ex. let alone giving u the impression that they're many. She should count herself very lucky to have a man like you.

Instead of all this hide and seek, why not get a real girlfriend instead?

Instead of you guys quarrelling about her exes, let it now be about YOUR exes or girlfriends.

She should be the one complaining about you...

musa1987:
My brother, i have similar experience when i got married. a week after our wedding my wife woke up to informed that she want to go to the town to collect phone from her ex who came back from abroad. i just declare that she can go and should not come back home. she brag from that morning till in the night but i refuse to alter a word. i told her to choose her marriage or her ex. some times u need to be rigid to get it right.

Musa the man!

Richardonald:
Oldham should appoint this guy below as their manager he will take the club to the next level.

Abeg who be this guy?

I'd love to get some kind of back story.

Have seen him quite a bit.

I am not understanding...

Like, don't these girls have parents and relatives, etc?

Where I am from, if my sister does something like this, she will be disvillaged.

Stop entertaining girls who are not tripping for you they way you are tripping for them.

Cut her off.

If person no send you, no send am.

Learn to treat people exactly the way they treat you, perhaps even slightly worse.

I don't know why, but women are more responsive to guys who treat them like shit if they don't behave.

Some years ago, some girl came a-visiting and acted how I didn't like.

The next morning I dropped her off at the nearest filling station...under the rain.

You won't believe how she responded to me the next time she saw me.

Then she invited herself to my place, and was the most feminine compliant girl on the planet.

Finally, don't cut her off expecting a response. Do it because you respect yourself.

wetdick:
Marry a young girl with strong nigerian traditional values that you can groom from nigeria. Submissiveness should be a top priority. You just need to search well and observe her behaviour well.

A second or third generation western born nigerian female is filled with feminist thoughts, they are very unattractive if you want a good and stable marriage

I can assure you, you can't "groom" anyone.

Ijaycool:
Sorry, am not exactly interested in this disguised tyranny.

My interest really is, who else hate the "Find Video Here" link we always encounter in Nairaland. Is NL not grown enough to host videos on its own? Or allow embeddable videos from major video sharing site?

It's irritating that you see headline 'wife beats husband [video]', then you rush to watch, you then see one stupid link "watch video here" that will take you to a shitty website that takes 7 minutes to load, only to discover it was an Instagram video.

Mods, the time u take to delete anti-Jagaban comments, use it to figure out a solution to this. I don't open videos on NL all thanks to this rubbish

It's a kind of symbiotic relationship.

Those posts are from bloggers who want traffic to their sites.

On the other hand Nairaland needs to entertain it hungry customers, so it lets them get away with it.

Sikay19:


Maturity in pure display. I wonder how blackface would react to this. I hope blackface wouldn't react bitterly this time owing to his unrequited beef he has for his old mate

All na PR.

Taeewo:
It's called emergency exit..

Hehe, for witches abi

OkaNaUbe:
Believe it or not, climate is changing.

Yes, but it’s been doing so long before humans appeared on the scene.

The bone of contention is how much influence humans have on this.

It common sense that we should “protect” the planet (protect ourselves really) by not shitting so much where we eat.

Maybe we do have a minuscule influence on the climate, but at this time we do not have the data.

GraGra247:
Does your house help deserve your house for doing domestic duties. Men do domestic duties too and nobody rewards them for that.

And to be fair men reward their wives richly for whatever efforts she's making at home. They buy their wives cars, expensive clothes, jewelries, shoes, bags, expensive phones and expensive vacations. They pay her hospital bills and every bill accruing to her.

So to demand she gets the house he built alone just because of house chores she does is ridiculous.

It’s not even primarily for domestic chores, but for Opportunity Cost.

When people get married, there’s the unspoken expectation that the woman dampen her ambition and look more towards the home front.

Yes, it will be abused, as it currently is in the West. But you know how the law leans more towards acquitting a guilty man than convict an innocent person...

That’s the same thing here.

If not, the only thing women can do is cross their fingers and hope they are marrying a benevolent dictator who will not throw them out on a whim.

The law is just trying to give the same kind of protection it offers employees.

OkaNaUbe:
Dominique on the beat today

But seriously, global warming is before us. Weather of several countries has been changing over the years. This year alone, the East coast USA has seen ever increasing ice storms. It also affect Africa.

Industrialized Nations have been paying lip service to the issue of Global Warming. After several agreements to reduce fossil fuel usage and greenhouse gas emissions; they heavily use it to power their industries and it's by-product from industries and cars destroy the ozone layer.

They don't want to develop to full scale, alternative energy sources.

Trump recently (without hypocrisy) does not support reduction of fossil fuel usage.

Africa contributes less than 10% to global warming but its effect is felt in Africa. This is because of low level of industrialisation in Africa.

My brother “global warming” is bullsh*t.

We can’t even forecast with any accuracy what the weather will be like in a week, but some “geniuses” are so certain of the degrees of temperature change we’ll have in 100 years.

They realized it made them sound like ìdiots so they changed it to “climate change”.

But the climate is not static. Over large timescales, it fluctuates like mad.

Before we were even here, to “pollute” the earth, there had been tons of Ice Ages.

All these dolts that commit crimes on camera.

Xisnin:
We don't need a prenup law.
Since marriage is a legal contract, the parties may decide whatever terms they agree on.

Contracts are not made in a vacuum. There has to enabling legislation.

For example, we can’t sign a (legal) contract for me to kill you and harvest your parts.

Perhaps, it obtains in some alternate universe, but here it would be illegal.

Tedpgrass:
Definitely a boomerang effect will or has started to ensue..


The growing numbers of baby mamas is a testament..
No young man with a sizeable bank balance wants to marry..
The chicks that abound are either destiny-destroying karashikas or prototypes in the making, thanks to changing value systems of society and friends..

.

Laws adapt to address contemporary problems.

Any state with a future will pass laws that give the best chance to its young.

Soon, we’ll have court mandated child support, despite your marital status.

Xisnin:
That won't be a problem.
You can always sign a prenup to dictate possible divorce sharing formula before marriage.
But I guess many people are too blinded by "love" to take that root.

I believe we don’t have prenup laws here.

RTSC:
Only a matter of time..

The only thing stopping it is that women don't have enough representation in the national assembly to force such into law..

They don’t even need increased representation. Just more law makers with “good” intentions.

DanDeeBoss:
What if the man single handedly built the house

He didn’t “single-handedly” build it if he did during marriage.

Dottore:
What of those that don't have a house

Just chill for that one.

Soon alimony go be catholic.

You’ll be ordered to pay maintenance...and then child support.

Josh44s:
Watch how Afonja women will go on Adultery spree. In fact you just told them HIV now has a cure

Stay there and be laughing.

Na precedent be this, and other judgements in Nigeria, over time, will mirror it.