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[quote author=undecidedYoruba post=50024971]Imo state has already become Okorocha's personal property just like Edo is oshonmole's[/quote

So it would seem...

But it once seemed to be Ohakim's, and Udenwa's, before him.

The future is unwritten...

rozayx5:
now they are using 270 Million to cut grass in the desert...

Talk2Bella:
I smell trouble

does this have anything to do with the other group of terrorists who visited the president in aso rock?

please if u don't understand the humor don't quote me

They can find you - through your blog - and blow you to bits...

Apologize.

"Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who wants to live in an institution?" ----- Groucho Marx

mrk74:
Thank you very much for your suggestions. I'm very honest in this and I've also tried my best to be objective. She is a wonderful wife and I've boosted to family and friends even before marriage that she is 99% of what I want in a woman and truly she is. Concerning the talk, I had pointed out that we had such a serious talk just before we began our marriage process and I think she had genuinely accepted to adjust and for over a year we didn't get to this point, though I think there must have been some instances I had simply overlooked. As per this very item, it's a very common cooking item that most people can't do without but it gives me running stomach when the quantity is much. My late mother always used it in her cooking but she was very moderate that mistakes were like 1 in 50 times or probably less. I only told her to stop after she can't adjust. And she knows very well the trouble it gives me. But the request is like a sacrifice on her part but the alternative is for her to add this when she wants to eat and the objective will still be achieved. After we've had this slight row and I threatened not to eat her food again, she has again promised not to use it. But from experience, I won't be surprised if she gets back to it after a while. I'm also of the opinion that if she actually apologizes, she will take it more serious and will be more likely to uphold her promise.

Imagine if every time someone arrives late to work, the boss ONLY says some words (with no implied consequence behind them), and asks for an apology

...order will break down...

Productivity will suffer as people will get to work, everyday, by 3:59 PM - or not all.

If your wife's boss tells her, once, never to smoke in the office again, he will only need to say it that one time, and she would never repeat it.

Why?

Because there would be a swift and unforgiving consequence...

Consequences keep civilization in orbit.

Remove it and people will behead their neighbours, torch others properties and loot markets...


Although both relationships are different, the dynamic behind why your wife will comply with her boss' request command and not yours is the same...

Motivation 101: People take action that moves them towards pleasure or away from pain.

If all you'd do is whine, with there being no repercussion, then there is no motivation for her to stop.

If she adds the offending ingredient in the food, don't whine, don't complain. Simply don't eat it...because it genuinely upsets your stomach.

The same way you wouldn't drink a glass of laxative, if she serves you that in place of coffee.


You might ask, "so how is not eating the food a potent consequence?"

Oh it is! But not by itself...

You see, it is your sacred duty, as a man, to "escalate her escalation". If she gives your peace of mind, feminine sunshine and compliance, you take these up a notch and reward her accordingly.

On the other hand, if she gives you unpleasantness and discomfort...

You don't play chicken.

You escalate this too and reward her accordingly. "To be prepared for war is one of the most effective means of preserving peace", said George Washington.

See, whenever she puts that stuff in your food, she's essentially not giving you food. And if she's not feeding you, she isn't being wifely. And if she isn't being wifely, you stop being husbandly.

You can appeal to people's sense of duty, responsibility and fairness, until the cows come home, and they will still take you for granted and do as it pleases them.

But add one ounce of repercussion to the equation and their behaviour lines up nicely.

"Speak softly, but carry a big stick" ------ Teddy Roosevelt

mrk74:
Please don't just view. I need your suggestions/inputs.

Let me add that I believe in leading by example. I take her suggestions seriously. Where I don't agree we discuss it and I get her to understand and willingly agree with me. The only complain she has ever had pertaining to me was about me calling her by her name (actually short form of her name) instead of her pet name when friends or visitors are around. I just wasn't used to it but I had apologized and adjusted.

You'll learn a lot from the married folks here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill

Start from the sidebar.

Sort by "Top > All Time" as well, and check out the top posts.

holluwai:
Money is a bittch!

Make it your biitch...

First thing you should do is get educated.

Read posts on SeoMoz (now Moz), QuickSprout, Backlinko and maybe AuthorityHacker.

Google has some of the sharpest knives in the kitchen fighting web spam.

You don't stand a chance with shitty content and drive-by spam.

Get educated...

Rape moto...

Babe's an attention seeker.

eyinjuege:
But seriously OP, how can your wife just wake up one day and say she's not interested in the marriage again? Just like that
And her parents seem to be in support?

What exactly went wrong in the marriage?
It's such a strange story.

Nothing strange here man.

Man not balling. Wife go.

Fair-weather wife...

Boleyndynasty2:
So his clean? He can afford a crib in Dubai?

When we were kids, there was this urban legend of pythons vomiting diamonds at night...

Dude's a snake merchant. Do the math.

ColdHardTruth:
OP, truth is that almost every human would steal if they're SURE of getting away with it 100%

You should change that to YOU will steal 100% of the time - if you'd get away with it.

okpukpu:
Who else notice that man behind the scene?

To me, he's the star of the shot.

That intentful look...

menix:
I am beginning to suspect you...

Me sef dey suspect you too...

"Wey your particulars?"

blaze7x:
"However, when the police were confronted with the superior firepower of the kidnappers they ran away, leaving her and the other victims in the hands of the criminals."

My br, the problem of Nigeria is multifaceted .The NFP is not well equipped. In fact i get infuriated each time i see the wood they give to our security agencents as gun

I feel for the woman

May God save us

But seriously, on a good day, no be assault rifle police suppose dey carry.

We are not in a war zone (technically speaking ).

menix:
Billion no be moi-moi oooo..

Just $3m.

Emiefele is the master of coin in a period people are "hammering" from round-tripping.

mengho:
I think a tactical retreat with the most valuable employee should have being their first priority, meaning they should have divided into two teams, one holds of the kidnappers for a few minutes by drawing fire & distracting them while the second team tries to escape with the supposed target. after that the other team can also retreat immediately.

I guess they don't teach that at the police academy

Bros na NIGERIA POLICE no be US Navy SEALs.

menix:
1.5 billion
i go even warn the kidnappers make them no call my line again..

Overnight FOREX deal ego arrange the money sha.

One of the loveliest threads on NL...

This ride isn't armoured.

Sweet-looking though.

betty100:
is this the most you could get from the bible? with what you have said I can guess you have gone through the bible and even probably been to a church.if this is the kind of thing you want to keep saying in mockery of God in this 'half time' then you need grace

There's more sis...

There's also cunning, murder, genocide, rape and pillage.

What do I know...let's keep only to the convenient parts...

chiedu7:
You know one thing I love about you.

How though ur an atheist, you respect islam and will never joke with it.

Fear...

Them go issue fatwa for im head.

He sure doesn't want an exploding person paying him a visit.

crazygod:
Can someone ban seun? Where is the mod?

You'll probably have more luck asking God to strike him with lightening or some pestilence...

Hajeeyah:
you know very well that what you posted here is never from the Quran. You will never find vulgar words in the Quran because it has and never will be corrupted by man unlike the Bible.

Yeah, it only teaches old men to fornicate underage kids...which I'm sure is very godly.

Funny thread...

Seun my good friend, as an experiment, post something similar on the Muslim sub.

I can supply you with what to post.

adewumiopeyemi:
kenya and bad news be like 5 and6

Imagine what they hear from our own end...

Did you go too far?

Perhaps.

I know it was hurtful, but you could be the bigger "man".

No need to throw her out since the rent is almost due for renewal.

Women place men in two categories: Lovers and Providers. It's not hard to see where you fell.

Maybe next time try not to buy a woman's affections.

What we think isn't important.

The only thing that matters is what YOU think.

If you like her, date her.

Wow. That his babe looks like an angel.

Chanchit:
And they told us this men are saints when he was appointing them.

They operate under a higher level of grace...like pastor COZA .

chuksbogus2001:
I don't know how Saudi deals men beating women .let me tell u when we were small my mum used to be very arrogant and rude to my dad cos he is a quiet man not until my mums mother I mean her own mum told my dad to beat her .After my dad gave her a better beating peace ,love respect came to our house since 1984 till now my mum has never raise her voice against my dad. Am not advocating women battery but a times small spanking does the magic

Now this is funny .