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MamiTer:
Hello good people of nairaland, I have a pressing issue and I really need your help.

A couple of years back I broke up with my boyfriend whom I really loved due to distance barriers. Getting over him was difficult for me so I had to go into a relationship with one of my toasters in order to get him off my mind.

I achieved my aim after a couple of months but the current guy was unwilling to let go, I didn't love him and couldn't get myself to love him despite trying to. I know I was selfish and opened up to him but he insisted that I would warm up to him with time and grow to love him.

The relationship was far from perfect, I was in it solely for what I benefited but we weren't compatible and it was from one issue to another. We were always at logger heads all the time. He insults me and my family at any given opportunity and talks down on me using secrets I shared with him as leverage each time we quarrel. He shredded my self-esteem.

He was insecure and attacked my male friends at any given opportunity including my lecturers, he would access my social media accounts and send derogatory message to any male contact he feels is making a pass at me.
All these attitudes made me fed up with him and I decided to breakup for good.

Early this year I met a guy online and somehow we vibed together quickly, we met physically for the first time and it felt like we've known for ages. Everything moved so quickly with this new guy that I started developing serious feelings for him. I was scared because I never knew I would feel something like that again after I broke up with my other ex.

This new guy makes me happy and treats me like a woman, anytime spent with him is always memorable and I don't feel like leaving. The chemistry that we share is super strong and everything seems so perfect.

Now to my issue, this new guy is a fresh graduate and not yet stable, I don't have issues with his financial status because he made me realize a Lady can actually be happy without money being thrown at her. But I'm still scared of going all full into the relationship he might go for service and never come back to me. I don't just want a repeat of my previous relationship that got shattered after my ex relocated.

On the other hand, the other guy is hell bent on getting me back, he's been pleading and sending people to beg me even though I told him I've moved on and has even had sex with the new guy but he still wants me back.

I'm confused and don't know what to do, my heart is with the new guy but the other guy is making things so difficult for me and almost driving me insane. Can I still grow to love him?? Though I've been unable to after almost a year.

Should move on with the new guy?? I've known him for barely two months but it seems I've known him for ages, my feelings are exploding and I can hardly control them which is making me scared.

I'm sorry for the long epistle but I had to let it all out.
Please advice me.

Well to me you have to calm down and be real to yourself. Please love is not enough in relationship be warned. Go for who you love deeply and don’t just be pessimistic about it. How old are you anyway to know if you still got time? Can you give me a call 0-8-1-6-4-5-7-1-9-6-0

Fadafada231:
What's big in that car? Hyundai of 2.5 to 4m is big to u, ask some of young boys near u how much they are making online legitimately. Those police men sha, that means if they see a young boy driving 2015 to 2018 rx 350 na to send the person to prison.

Bro Some people are just enemy of progress

Yankee101:
Young IT boys are cashing out in Nigeria
They get remote jobs from abroad
Not everyone is a yahoo boy

God bless you brother. I’m one of them and I see low life guys or civil servants who make less than 100k a month jealous of younger people making it big.

Kingpin1000:
They should have called EFCC on him.. He should explain how He got the money. If He is clean should be set free but if found wanting He should face the full wrath of the law
..... why are people attacking me for saying He should be interrogated for his wealth.
My teacher in secondary school always say " a thief runeth when no man pursueth".
I am not scared of the EFCC because I can account for the little I have and when it gets bigger I will still be able to account for it.

You are the most foolish and stupid person I ever came across in my life because you will eventually die untimely death. How can you say something of such. So no young person must have money again. Even in advanced countries scan is real and people do many other legitimate jobs which fetched them huge no both in Nigeria and online also. So if they investigate him and he’s real they should hang u to death or you should die or you will be happy he’s going to jail and I’m � sure ur mom or dad or relatives are into politics or civil servants who still money or you want to say ur parents are clean also. My brother u re worst more than enemy. I can personally kill you if I set my eyes � on you. Can I have ur digits?

BoredBerry:
Weird.... This made me giggle...

This guy needs an award for this advice Omo and you go born girl soon or maybe you have one already. Thank God we still get some 2000 born guys here

Gadafii:
Some girls go use that gun massage their congo

Wetin girls never Bleep I never know

Na everything you sabi bro. Nawa for you ohh

GOFRONT:


Op welldone, welldone.....you try very well. The way to a girls punny is by gifting her a brand new phone....We always find the younger sis of our girlfriends more sexually attractive than their elder sis who is our girlfriend.
Op, while I applaud your benevolence and act of cheerful giving on this kid sista of your gf, I sha hope that your heart is clean and that the above bolded is not your intention towards her.....else only a matter of time before the

breeze would blow and your yanss will open Waaaaa!!!!!

But then, I hope you nor go vex if I tell you to send her Whatsapp number to me. I just want her to snap and send something to me so I can use to check the clarity of the Spark 5 camera you bought for her.......Nothing more..

I will love to have her number also

Trajan:

I swear you be madman lol �. Wetin una dey smoke sef? You don believe you can’t travel out of the country. Any update at your end ?

This country can never be okay with this set of criminals. Make them hand over this man to the FBI nah what’s the delay all about.?

silibaba:
All the best.

If employed, pls keep our details safe oo.

The way money dey disappear from our account is becoming worrisome.

No let devil tempt you with my account balance coz I have an account there ooo

Werey guy e fit be say Na 1k dey inside the account like that lol �

As I dey marry like this Na to dey save money foe DNA no matter how much I trust or love my woman. I can’t take such risk. This Pussycat women can be very frustrating. Show the nigga his real father and let peace rain

Sekoni003:
I'm following the order in which they are listed lol. As a Chelsea fan it's a no brainer . Start Cech, bench Buffon. As for Van der Ser, I'm loaning him to Queens Park Rangers

Start Buffon bench Van Dee sar and sell Czech to Eyimba United

Space booked


I can’t ignore sex and money

Younghacka:
No Be Small
This Is The Second Time I Am Killing A Snake With My Leg
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Nah Rough Play I Wan Dey Play Now
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Python Next. . .

Bro e be like say you get 2nd life. But please don’t try it again because I love you � and I have seen it in my dreams that you will be the next president so don’t risk ur life again

JohnNgene:
As the chairman of the Bachelors Boyfriends and Husband-Materials Association of Nigeria (BBHMAN), I hereby announce that we are rejecting every BOXERS AND SINGLET gift this Valentine's.

We are tired of recieving singlet and boxers every year from women. Enough is enough! Ike agwugo anyi. Hooha! Let them go and buy us watches, shoes, perfumes or any other gift apart from singlet and boxers biko.

Any man found recieving singlet or boxers will pay a fine of N14,000 (FOURTEEN THOUSAND NAIRA) into the chairman's personal account.

Signed
Chairman
BBHMAN

I have never been a lucky guy to receive gift � from a girl talk less of Val. Na una sabi make I just buy fuel ⛽️ inside my jalopy muscle drive go ICM go chill and catch fun. Anyone who wants to chill out around Ayobo Iyana Ipaja should dm

pretydiva:
Keep quiet. She no be mango

That dude go don finish all the fruits around his neighbors in the name of knacking. Lol ���

HenryDion:
How much will you pay? Nah person wey chop belleful dey learn English in this Buhari era

Bro send me ur account make I send you #20 naira

murphyung:
The guy above me scored A1 in English language so lets hear from him

Wetin you score in school F9? Just asking no war please

Togobroz:
Happy new month to everyone and I wish to thank God for his grace so far.

I have been a hustler for long trying to make ends meet and at a point I was able to save about 1.5million naira to travel to China but unfortunately I was duped and my hard earned money went to voicemail. I kept struggling and saving money to go to Europe but I was denied visa twice to two different countries and then I gave up.

I decided not to travel again but the stress and insecurity in Nigeria has been worrisome especially in my region so I decided to travel to any french speaking African country and just experience a whole new different life outside Nigeria. My initial plan was to go to Burkina Faso or Equitorial Guinea and I did some research that would guide me as I didn't know anyone in both countries and I was just determined to go on this adventure myself.

I saved up some money which got to almost 3 million naira and then I crossed my heart and made my trip. From Nigeria I crossed into Benin Republic and then to Togo where I was supposed to cross to Burkina Faso. On getting to Togo it was quite late so I had to pass the night in a cheap hotel of 2000cfa franc. In the hotel I met some Nigerians going to Ghana with some friends based in Togo. I was hearing their conversations as they drank at the bar while I sat alone with a bottle of their local beer Castle.

Being that in Togo I discovered they hardly speak English, I decided to introduce myself to those Nigerians so that I can make some enquiry from them and that was how we all got talking and gisting till late night. The guys based in Togo told me alot about Togo and how life is cheap if one has some capital to get accommodation and start a small business. I was made to understand there is steady light, water and security in the small country. The next day I was suppose to leave for Burkina Faso I decided to pay for the hotel room for a week and explore Togo a bit. The guys I met that were based in Togo already were really helpful and they took out time to show me around, know the prices of stuffs and where to buy cheap stuffs as well. I began to fall in love with the country except for the fact that most people don't understand English, though some try to understand and speak a little so you have to scatter the English for them to understand.

I decided to find a house and few days was enough for that. I got a room and parlor self contained house for 30,000cfa a month and paid a year which is 360,000cfa. They hold 6 months as deposit and after six months I start paying 30,000cfa monthly or anyhow I wish to stretch it based on my pocket. I just furnished it a little and I am just chilling with steady light on a brief. The house has a prepaid meter so I recharge and use according to my power.

After making some deep enquiry about what business to start at least for now, I bought a tricycle they call Apsonic here in Togo. It cost 1.4million cfa brand new plus the plate number registration and all. Then I found a driver who took it on hire purchase to balance 2.5million cfa at 25,000cfa per week.

My good people, I know I have not reached where I am going but I bless God for where I am coming from. Right now I just relax myself planning my next move while every Saturday I wait to receive my weekly salary. With life here if you are someone that knows how to manage, even 1000cfa can feed you a whole day so I am really doing my best to see how much I can save by the end of this year over here and know my next move.

Please you all pray for me as I also pray for you all. The journey of a thousand miles always start with a footstep.

Please I envy you and I love your courage brother please try and save enough money to cross to Canada, USA or UK from there and I pray God almighty will see you through. Please stay safe there and be very careful also. I have only spent 5 days in Cotonou so I really don’t know much and that was 2017. God is already leading through away from this shit hole called Nigeria for you to have met with good Nigerian guys same day you arrived. Please update us as things unfold in another country

Iyaebe:
This boy's life has been in disarray ever since Chioma left him.Just wandering about

I don’t think you think with your brain or leg. A musician for that matter. Does he even think Chioma even exist again. A musician doesn’t stay in one place he goes about making his money every day.

SultanOfPuna:
Go smoke some weed, calm down and meditate.
When you start getting High
Gently from your heart, Ask the Most High to show you the way.

Carry Dry Gin and pour on the ground for your ancestors.
Tell them to protect you as you hustle.

Lastly, postrste infront of your mother. Not father ooh, postrate to her tell her to bless you.
After she bless you.
Leave your home and enter the city. Dont look back when you are leaving home.

Once you do this, youre life will Change For Good

To add what this person above me said. Leave home without looking back. Well that’s what I did running away from Lagos to Ado Ekiti in 2011 without knowing anybody from the state. Started mingle with guys. I fought with everybody back home. Changed my phone number and neglect everybody’s. But now brother I owned a plot of land with foundation behind CBN Iyin road Ado Ekiti worth 2m and I own a Toyota Camry muscle worth 3m living in 3 bedroom flat worth 800k at Ayobo in Lagos now. I have reunion back with my parents have them money for not being there when they need me. Now I’m doing pretty fine. It pays for me but don’t pay for everybody I’m not advising you to follow my path and I’m not saying you shouldn’t as well. Pray to God he will definitely lead you through

Kuruptnigga:
Oga it’s my choice! I can’t buy a car for a girlfriend accept she’s my wife! Women are not to be trusted biko? You buy the car now and you see her with another man. Na your type go dey come nairaland they seek for advice about your relationship problem. Abeg shift make i pass biko.

Brother leave him let him learn his lessons the hard way. He never get experience about ladies if he has he won’t say he will spend his fortune on woman. Eve like say woman never show him pepper before

Esseite:
Bro... at 1:14am you are this bitter about someone's personal practical, someone you dont even know from anywhere or even if your paths would ever cross in life, someone that does not impact in your life in anyway possible neither did you lend a kobo to execute anything?... bro.. bro.. this is not banter at all, this is witchcraft.

The guy offend you before? Lol some people never appreciate anything good from anybody except themselves. Either real or fake the Venza turn Rolls Royce at least he should applaud him for doing something and not stealing or venture into drugs like normal Igbo people business

duro4chang:
You two don try . From 2017 to 2020 you don do an taya. Make i calculate am 365 X 4 = ? I salute. Congratulation.

Nawa for you ohh when you dey Bleep up and down you no go serious with your life. Na person marriage you dey calculate. Better go find something do with your dick

Well your decision is your decision.I’m not married yet but next time keep your home affairs to yourself. What do I know sef? But what you did might work for you and not work for another soul. Women needs iron hand sometimes. Best of luck

I really don’t believe this maybe the NA are denying him because how can he impersonate for such periods without being caught. Nigeria is finished nothing ever works right. Zoo nation

Hisbah21:
are u kidding me? he must be a thug..and how comes can someone impersonate as a general for all this years.. m confused

Confused more than as you are. I still don’t believe he’s not An Army or general maybe the NA are trying to deny him. How can someone impersonate for years without being caught.