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@chubhie... thanks so much, I'd try

@tabithababy... I pay my bills complete... thanks

@chii8...seriously I wasn't thinking at all, but it is all well

@missdee384...thanks so much, I'm grateful

@GHoJes thanks alot, you've helped... I had no one to share this with, I had to come up here cos I was suffocating

@Acidosis...#smiles
I was actually looking out for your comment, I respect you alot... thanks Man. I'm not using my mum's money, I'd never do that. I used mine cos I felt he'd mirror it, you know... I thought he would learn. I never thought he'd be controlling. That orgasm part? Hell no! I feared something like this was going to occur so I enforced a no-sex rule (I'm happy I did), we've argued over that, but thank God I was able to stand my ground.
But being a disgrace? oh well, but I think this is a great mistake on my side.

@skyfornia thanks so much, you've really helped, thanks

@OmoAlata1...My resignation was a mistake or more like a sacrifice. I try not to regret but I've learnt from it, you know... this is someone I've known for years... I guess much pressure pushed me into this. and No! this has nothing to do with sex. I'm a no-sex before marriage kinda person. thanks sis

@safiaa, thanks sis, you've done well

blackboy:
u neva marry n ur complaining.. well seem to be. D guy must be old school. My advise... marry him n take all d heat... bust him and go 4 a guy u rily luv but note there is no perfect man . Dont b forced into marriage . y endure mental torture .

thanks so much man... I don't really know if I can continue to endure it...

Luckygurl:
Bukkydan

My then most favorite writer.

Why did you get into a relationship with him in the first place? Was it because of the pressure from him or from your own angle you had some feelings for him.

I might not be the best of relationship advicer, heck!! I've not been able to sustain one myself but what I do know is the idea of a perfect relationship is one where the two partners are all out to make sacrifices to sustain the union. You've made sacrifices from your own end, how about him??
Or is he a typical male that has that notion of the female been the submissive and ever obedient subordinate. If this is it, I'm afraid its gonna be a difficult one.

Don't think you should walk out of the relationship as there are other better options outside. Rather work on nurturing this to the best of your ability.

You talked alot about his not too good acts.
Definitely there exists another part of him that endeared him to you. Appreciate him in that regards whilst helping him improve in other areas.

All in all your happiness matters. Don't loose that in your bid to make things work

All the best bukkydan

wow... thanks so much Luckygurl

Skyfornia:
If what you wrote up there is the truth then I can say the relationship is DOA. The guy is a chauvinist and someone who will always want to be in control. Plus he has a low self esteem.

hmm... thanks...but what should done to help it? I'm just confused out here

tabithababy:
You resigned in this economic recession just to be with someone who might not marry you..

funny right... I know it sounds stupid... but then I felt it would bring us closer. maybe I made the wrong decision...

Cutehector:
A relationship shouldn't be something that zaps your energy and makes you feel depressed everyday. If you feel arent happy in it then you can just simply walk out.




P.s
Someone says she loves me, biko what have I done to deserve such love, when the chips are down will she continue to love me? Pls desperation shouldn't kill some girls o.. Pls advise. I don't want to lead anybody on biko.

thanks so much

phr33man:
My sister, these are red flags. You can continue only if you are ready to continue with this till end.

thanks so much

Skyfornia:
All these from him? Well I'd love to hear his own part cause you just painted yourself to be perfect.

Anyway, it seem you are tired of the relationship and looking for a way out. Walk if that will make you happy, what really matters is your happiness. If you are not getting the happiness in your relationship..gbawa door!

Hi... we are both not perfect... believe you me I am not looking for a way out. I just want this to work, how I can make it work.

I couldn't type somethings up there cos I don't want to appear perfect.
thanks all the same.

Note: this is really going to be a long gist, and I know I'm not supposed to bring this up here... but I really do need your advice, you know...your opinion, thanks?

I've been friends with Mr Jay for like... since 2013, and we started dating officially December 2017 (after much pressure from his side).
I'm in my early 20s and this is my first relationship, hey! not cos guys were not coming but mum still thinks I'm a child (different story).

When I and Jay got started, I was about to round up my service year. I got a job at my state of deployment, Jay asked me to resign and come back home so we can be together. I did, came home (we both reside in the same state) and I started looking out for a job. I was trying to be submissive cos one of the reasons my parents got separated was this issue of career and submission

It's five months into our relationship but then:

1) He talks about his exes and other female friends, how they want him et al all the time... #who cares anyways

2) He made me cut off all my male friends cos he believes they are threats. well?

3)I dare not miss his calls or I'd have to apologize for the next 24hrs #not exaggerating

4)He's never gotten me no gifts... yes I've done same countless times #flowers, chocolates, books and any kinda gift at all would go a long way.

5)We've never gone out on a date, no breakfast, brunch, lunch or dinner dates. We don't even get to hang out. I tried to take him out a couple of times(bills on me) then I got accused of something else.

6) No Pictures of us together on either our phones... not anywhere

7) He always wants me coming to his house, so we get to see only at his house, then after every church service(so I don't get to relate with no-one,) and I dare not keep him waiting.

He calls me all the time, and I have to report my location and what I'm doing ATM.

I know we're both not perfect and I'm trying not to put pressure on him. I've never asked for material things, cash or kind, he's never offered and I'd definitely refuse if he had.

I really don't want to be the reason why this whole thing crashes, I tried to talk to him and he got all emotional asking me not to leave him et al...

It's exhausting, I feel myself drifting away. This is the first for me, but I can't count the number of times I've apologized, cried, had sleepless nights ...

please I need you all to talk to me... am I over-reacting? what do you think I should do?

Thanks for your time.

It's truly sad how people make up stories and comment negatively about someone they know nothing about.

Faruq Abubakar is like a brother to me and I know him too well. He doesn't know how to swim so he won't attempt it, he died on a rescue mission. He was trying to rescue someone else.

The riot/protest occurred due to the Dean's negligence.

To those calling him aboki et al... He is from Edo state, brought up in Kano. He was a good boy.

And no! he is not into drugs, he doesn't do drugs, he would never do drugs.

Please no more name calling and insensitive comments... imagine the pains his family and friends are going through at the moment, you all don't have an idea of what it means for your son, your source of joy... to drown, and then his body yet to be found until the third day... you don't know what it means to lose a promising child.

He was a peaceful young man in his early twenties trying to make a great future for himself, he was his Parents only hope, his mother's pillar. He loved everyone, respects everyone, cared for everyone.
He lived a quiet life, he hustled to make ends meet legitimately.
He was a perfect child even in his human imperfections, He was kindness personified.
He made a positive impact on those he came in contact with.


I can say these and more anywhere without mincing words.

Rest in perfect peace Faruq,
The entire Mahauta quarters love you, we miss you. You loved all and was loved by all.
You were supposed to come home today from school, you promised your mum you'd do her laundry today, your friends were supposed to laugh with you today, your dad was supposed to go for Juma'at prayers with you today.. But all these...none of it happened.
Instead they brought your body today... instead you were buried today...instead we're all mourning...you are not going to smile at us anymore...
God loved you more.
Rest in Peace Faruq

debbie:
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Hi Debbie, please I'd like to know if you could make posts for jobs in Kano too... thanks

okay?...

The haters...they haff arrived! Lol
Beautiful Couple...

Bbox:
You had alot of ultimate combo today... Its not good for ur health... . im just eating popcorn with milk now... Im addicted to that....
Tomorrow, i wl be binging sinasir�

Sinasir... ejor... Biko.... Don Allah

Bbox:
Hahaha... Maintain your craveness...
Just finished eating alale da qwai with cabbage dope...

oooohh... where is my share... that's not fair�

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Burabisco

Miyan Kuka

Tuwon Dawa


Tuwon Shinkafa

Pate[/quote]How could you forget to mention almighty DAN_WAKE, DAMBUN TSAKI, Shinkafa da wake da Mai da yaji, Talliyar fulawa/hannu, wainar fulawa, wainar Gero, Gurasa... wayyo Allah na har kwadayi ta kamani.

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JikanBaura:
( Kapin na Karanta wan'nan tinani na shine, wan'nan baya gajiya da wahala , aiki baya ma yawa ba . Ko dai baya san inyamurai ba ne ,Sufa ko ta yaya dai su ga bayan mu. Tsananin jahilci, rashin sani da wauta wai ta hanyar Kabilanci suke fatar had'dasa fada tsakanin Hausa - Fulani wai hada bude radio biafra
hausa Lol

Bro ya naga sunan naka kamar dai indiya-indiya haka

Kai mallam, da gaske? ka dai san cewar wadansu akwai son musu... ko abun bai shafe su ba
#smiles

Igala people abi? #its_their_work o

Good morning, please what's the date for Abuja center? thanks

emmyreb:
Had similar experience diz week, was charging my phone plus pressing and a coursemate bluntly authoritatively told me to stop pressing phone coz he needs to charge his phone, but me ehn, continued charging plus pressing, even when my phone full ehn, I still plug power bank join...... he was like I'm a bad person and I told him I love it that way

you are just...bae
#smiles

chopfronter:
Once you drop at flyover in kawo, take kasuwa bus and tell the conductor you'll drop @ Leventis roundabout. From there take a bike and tell him You'll drop @ Access Bank Bida road close to National Library or NBTE

Aww... thank you so much. God bless you abundantly

chopfronter:
Same venue also.

good morning, please how do I locate bida road in Kaduna, I'm coming from Kano... thanks

hyzich:
it is the number at the top right corner with an alphabet

Thanks so much

hyzich:
i received it immediately after the submission

Hi, please... the NYSC number you used... was it your call up number or the number at the top right corner of your discharge cert?

Sapphire06:
Wicked

direct

SweetWJ:
. Narcotic

creative

donbrowser:
Temple

eschew

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