No need for the advice, Experience is way more better they learn faster and better through experience

Enegod: mayb i need to change the headline to "some girls are dumb"

yea the opposite of some Guys are dumb

Be careful gurl lots of scammers online these days

So funny ...hahaaahhahha imagine two dumb girls fighting over a guy when will some of these girls ever learn anyway they deserve to be dumped by the guy because that's the ony way some will ever learn.. Imagine going to spend a weekend with a guy that probably will never marry them. Some girls are Dumb all they no is hw to f....u....c.....K .

I will suggest you move on with your life he is not into you anymore..it is normal for ladies to be emotional attached to guys espcially their first love and him being the one that dis...virgined you.. The honest truth is he has found someone new that interest him and you have to let go sooner the better for you and deal with it. Women should realise that when a man has gotten all he wants from a woman especially that thingy underneath. He has seen all there is to see about you after this nothing excites him anymore about you some tend to start to withdraw like what your guy is doing to you now the only reason for this is he has found somone new pls move on its game over

@op give it up your wasting your time IT IS A MANS WORLd better go get married and and let my nig...gas start f.u...c..k....in..g that p...UU..s..S..Y

@op you just got f...uC...kE..d and played hw was it ?haAaaaaaaa

Yomieluv: Another marriage palaver,maybe Nairaland should turn to Nkan Mbe.

I tire oooo all dis bored housewife sef ....

Reyspin: Thanx for d advice...she is not as old as y'all are assuming..she got pregnant by mistake while she was in High skull and d second one too came by mistake according to the story she told me... And about loving her part I DO!! but my family dont especially my Old woman... She has even gone spiritual about d matta...

nigga......h listen to yourself two kids by mistake and u believe that grandma she is playing you , you better tel your granma gurlfriend to start talking before u become houseboy to those two kids by changing baby diapers and S.......h....IIIIIT

It is your fault . Once bitten twice shy. D babe don get sense not to fall too deep in love with Jokers like you again ...she's gone for good..

Oga bros are you alright u want chop your mama age mate 8 years age difference no be joke making you a Gigolo all the single young ladies of your age grade around town don finish ? Don't let me curse you , are you blind not to see that you have nothing to gain in the relationship she is older than you by far plus she has two kids already .. Take or leave she is just desperate to have a man or a husband around her for decoration because that's what you will be and don't bother to take all those yeye advice from some people here that nothing is wrong in it . There is something wrong big time I sure your mama and papa go flog that craze comot for your head wen u carry her to your family for marriage u need to re examine your head to check your sanity and with due respect to senior ladies with children looking for love don't bring yourself so low by dating this school boys with no sense who are still under their mothers care or mummys boy, matured and single men still dey available pray and fast God will do it for you once again .

Zodiac oil and gas indeed keep deceiving innocent people with your scam jobs . Why can't you tell people what you are really into instead of trying to deceive people bloody liar ....I see you and we r watching you...watever your name is real nnachi as you cal yourself

ucgirl: Do u also tink we dont feel is a bonDage too mtscheeeeew.

@ ucgirl r u male or female ? Ur account displays male or u gay ?

pleep: Exactly. It has nothing to do with "male chauvanism" or any off the wall complicated explanation

The vast Majority of women simply dont want to toast men, and would prefer to be chased. So Naturally females wont like it when other girls do the "chasing" because it unbalances the equation for them.

That is where 90% of the stigma comes from.

Good point .

Good point

@op pls clearify what u mean by she said she is with you because of the issues not because she loves u ? What does it mean .

slimyem: Please call them out make we know the yeye people..

abi op name and shame

@tashamania my dear don't mind those useless married men they are tired of their wives p....u.U..s....S...Y . They need a refresher like yours sweet , young and fresh . Anyway the thing there is I think most of dem married men are running after you are tired of their wives and derive no more pleasure in them.

This is the best time to call your fiancee and both of u should sit down and discuss all issues and fears u both have been nurturing before marriage because op if certain issues are not properly addressed and sorted out don't come to nairaland and be making complains about her and making her look like a she devil like some men and guys on nairaland do. after marriage they come here and be moaning , crying and bringing their marital affairs here for people to feast on in d name of am looking for advice after refusing to do the right thing by not clearly addressing certain issues with their hubby before getting married. Both of u should be in agreement of wat u both want .

ileobatojo:

What are you waiting for? This is the time to discuss all your concerns in a reasonable open manner before you get married. I hope you don't plan to start commanding her to quit her job once you marry her. That's a sure way to invite conflict into your marriage. Major aspects of marital life ideally should be discussed prior to marriage to make sure you are on the same page or can compromise. More so now that you are already having misgivings.

Good point and a good advice for starters like op

Black Peni5: Seems most people dnt really understand the OP's situation. A vacation will not solve d wahahala. Maybe she'll complain that the location was too cheap or too expensive. Like the OP clearly stated, what she wants is total control...i'v seen many cases like this. Soon she'll destroy the relationship between him and his family and friends, then she'll tell him how and when to spend his money, where to go and where not to go.

From the OPs tone, he seems like a soft person. Sum1 who doesn't like wahala and she's taking advantage of it. The Ops wife was either pretending dduring courtship or she has been listening to advice from the wrong people. Either way, marriage is not a do or die affair...if u risk living a miserable life then u can call it quits. You also have a choice of giving her control over ur life in order to have peace.

However u must first try very hard to understand the root of the problem through dialogue and being more observant. U had an agreement to get married, u must also have an agreement to sustain it or terminate it.

thank you ...

vivian chinaza: Passwords are no big deal for me.

You can even have my ATM card pin tho strictly for hubby.


I don't see any big deal in it.

sweetheart r u serious. ? No fall mugu for that bobo so tey u dey give am ur ATM pin in d name of love

vivian chinaza: Passwords are no big deal for me.

You can even have my ATM card pin tho strictly for hubby.


I don't see any big deal in it.

sweetheart r u serious. ? No fall mugu for that bobo so tey u dey give am ur ATM pin in d name of love

@op. Don't waste your time trying preach to him to change his ways if he wants to change he will change not because of you but because he wants to.I don't get it why women always think they can change a man only he himself can do that if he really love and care about that woman he will change for her .. I.e if he truly loves and care for u he will change his lifestyl , stop boozing and praying just for u .

@op mind your business . @op mind your business .

I don't think tribe should be a barrier in getting married the issue here is do u know what u want ? Are you willing and ready to settle down with this person without bias ? Will your family accept him ? If your answer is yes. Then go ahead .

@op mind your business ..

And remember some people are who they are they can never and will never change even after marriage only if God touches their heart then u will see changes this is my conclusion on this your matter op

@op you married a very BAD market . Sometimes in life u have to learn to manage what u use your hand to buy divorce is not an option anyways sorry for ur predicament manage her like that and bear whatever your eye see with her it is all part of being married enjoy . Godspeed to u .