eze moses: . There are man like that. who believe that marriage does not tie him down at all so he will continue with this cheating habit until forever. just get used to it o because a man can not easly change

n.I...g..gah I feel like emailing a slap to you what sort of advice is that ?

@op it simple if it does not work and is not working get the hell out of the marriage, if you die of high blood pressure , hypertension , stroke and heart attack in the marriage the woman will just move over and marry somone else or look for someone else , life is too short to be worrying about what is not working .. Marriage is not a do or die affair as some people has made it to , life is for the living and not for the dead. Enjoy your life while you can .. Despite what the bible says if for better for worse is not working out beg God for forgiveness and move on ..

And there is a saying that says that behind every successful man there is a woman , please men stop cheating on your wives , leave small girls alone , help and support her , love your wives and remain faithful , provide for her and your children and stop giving excuses

eze moses:



so you mean to tell me i can not even try avoid it sir?

nothing is guaranteed .

@op there is no ready made answer here for u concerning your question , even if there is do u think any one will come and tell you they are divorced here , what happened and will they want to get married again you must be joking . Sh...I...I..t happens move on with your life and pray you meet someone better and suited for you .. Nothing is guaranteed in life .

lao: I will like to know if debt can affect a marriage/relationship. The scenario is this, the lady is working and making good money, she does not have any loan or mortgage while the guy just finished his studies with student loan and he has some credit-card debt as well. Although he has a good prospect of getting a job but with the state of the economy right now it is not certain. I will like to know if the lady gets married to the guy will she be incurring some of the debt.

@op the issue is wat are you afraid of ? are you scared of marrying him because he has a student loan hanging on his neck or you are scared that if u marry him he will become a liability to you at the moment ? Note u are not obligated to incur his debt you can assist if you want to help don't let that be an issue because all I can sense from your post is you seem to like the guy because he has a good propspect of success but you are more concerned about sharing part of his financial debt look missy let me educate you and be honest about this when you are married to a person what do u think that phrase for better for worse means in marriage ? In case u don't know you if you sign the dotted lines in marriage you have decided to be a helper to the man which means you both have agreed to share in each others burden , debt , problems , suffering, success, the good , the bad and the ugly. don't listen to some people here they are full of hogwash going sentimental and feeling sorry for themslves and people and S..h..iiiii..T , op it is ur call u decide ? And yes DEBT DOES AFFECT A MARRIAGE.. And there are lots of solutions in mitigating those debt to a lower minimum so as not to be a major problem in marriage talk to a financial adviser and google as well can help with your questions on debt management. The key is all about planning and sticking to the plan so op please I suggest go ahead with any plans you have with your man and you both should have a financial plan and things will work out

Like some one rightly said the game is changing Guys too have learnt to package themselves to deceive the girls, most guys on a first date with a girl is all deceit and just few out of this lot are genuine , spending on her to impress and the girl too play along they both keep deceiving themselves all the while until one catch one mugu it is either the guy F...U..c..K the girl and dumps her or the girl chop his money and refuses him s....E...x in a game of chance like this GUYs are the winner because at the long run the guy gets to F.u..c..k the girl after spending so much and the girl the loser some get di..svirg..in and along d way and some girls P..u...n.....ny lose value due to lack of interest from the guy and girls tend to attach emotion to something especially when it is something that they hold of high value which is lost that's why women and girls are the ones hit hard when there is a break up in a relationship , ladies find it hard to let go of a relationship especially when they have given something of high value that belongs to them to the guy but guys don't give a rat a..s....s they move on to their next potential victim in waiting ..

Op there is nothing wrong in you picking your hubbys fone what is marriage all about then if he has nothing to hide why is he complaining about u picking his fone have a talk with him one on one to discuss your weakness and both of you should decide on a solution and work out things

Only if she is a virgin I will wait and if she is not a virgin no point waiting till wedding night ..I better start having that p.u....S...Y now.

Konji go kill you if u remain single inshort y must u be single with women looking so appealing everywhere u r on your own

Laughing at you in greek ... no guarantee there but you might be lucky to get that person suited for you to get a good woman these days is all about LUCk and God on your side

@op hw exactly did your fiancee betray you we need more clarification on these so as not to be dishing out wrong judgement ? And u were wrong by telling him that you were done wiv him and u even told him to go to hell is this hw u want to be behaviing when u finally get married to him I sense one thing in you , you lack ~TOLERANCE if you can not tolerate little things he does now I am sorry u will use your hands to destroy your marriage which any way u just started and pls go sort yourself out first because you are not ready to get married yet go for anger managemnt classes my point is u were too quick in reacting ,marriage and relationship need patience + tolerance to make it work and Gods guidance in both of your lives.. Do away with your pride and Ego go and apologise to him and get your plans back on track men have more pride than women but one must submitt to the other no matter d circumstance

ODE !!!!!!!!!!!!

ODe!!!!!!!!

Then u must be a very ugly moongoose if u can't find a girl to date as far as I know there are loads of girls out there for u to choose from, step up ur game then u will catch one...

Okija_juju:

Bitches be hussling brothers everyday for everything from; Recharge cards to Cellphones to cars, house rents, lands, open up boutiques for them, shopping in Dubai, Private jet lounging, Yatch cruises, expensive vacations, money in the bank, etc.. This has been the case since the beginning of time. We men complain, but we keep it on the down low..

A Man gets some help from a woman, she opens a website and tells the world...

Whats the ratio of Guys who hussle women to girls who hussle guys?! Prolly like 500,000 : 1 (in just Abuja o!!)

Missy u r wasting your time the whole world knows women are the original and creator of Gold digging .. Gold diggers Generation of women

hectortex: They are everywhere. Mostly subtle moves I'd definitely recognise for what it is (heck I was once in the game) to the overtly brazen gestures and expressions.
I cant remember how many times I'd had to remind some of them am married and so couldnt call them or recieve their calls especially at the odd hours. Even with a ring permanently on ma finger anytime am out and a ring mark you cant miss when it isnt there, they'd flirt around you with those coquettish moves(especially when you are young and successful) that even a blind man knows what it is.
Just yesterday, a colleague that took a loan from me to execute a job in a show of appreciation invited me to her hotel room to pay the interests. Guess weare supposed to pray there.
It takes a lot of control for a guy to be faithful to a gf talk more of a wife, please do not make it impossible. when you girls see us with our ring, it means we are really trying to make it work with our wives. Its not wrong to appreciate us but do not tempt us before we 'ruin your future'.

P.S: This is not common to all girls. There are still decent ones who treats with us with such decorum who wouldnt (or appear to) be inclined to any affair once the guy is hooked.

Are you sure you are not one of these married men that keep spoiling this single girls by spending your money and dashing them gifts when you finish spoiling them this same girls become TERRORIST in MATERIALISM harassing the single men who want to have a nice decent relationship with them

jidegirl12:

Wad'ya fink? do I sound alright or not?

*continues with flies killing*

enjoy

jidegirl12:

Who are we ojare? * kills the buzzing flies* ( cris cross apple sauce )

#erankojatijatialaileko

are you alright ?

preetydiva: Fellow Nairalanders,

pls ur sincere contributions to this thread will be very much appreciated. Because it'll give me an insight on why most of our nigerian men take their hardworking wives for granted...They stop complimenting her looks,or cooking,simply because they're not 'toasting' her anymore. I feel gestures like compliments,gratitude and the likes of it shouldnt be seasonal. Especially in marriage! It shld be for always.FYI,depriving her of all these things (which by the way are free)might lead to Depression,Comfort-Eating habits,Adultery,hatred, etc


(Pls ladies in the house,feel free to join in.)

.missus, Stop hiding behind a thread , we know you are loved starved and your marriage is about to hit the rocks go talk with your husband one on one and stop ranting here were are tired of married women here everyday and your rantings we need some fresh air on nairaland abeg

jidegirl12: Speak for yourself missy , if you have marital problem (s) feel free to open a thread rather than hide behind ruthless thread to condemn the institution of marriage , Everybody is not miserable you know? ..... I'm seek and tired of these NL generalization threads lately.....Misery loves company!

yea right another bored house wife again ranting about not being loved by her husband . Clear evidence of rantings about marriages that aint working , another loved starved married woman hiding behind a thread asking for advice and seeking peoples opinions . A clear example of what has Been the topics on nairaland of late .. An example of a marriage that is about to hit the rocks again .marriage indeed mteeeeeecwww

Women so appealing but they are enemies of themselves

kimberluge: AND YET YOU STILL HAVE THE ENERGY FOR SEX! YOU ARE REALLY A SUPER SUPER MAN!! RUBBISH!!!

we do all the thrusting for you every night while you lie down doing nothing yet u complain we r not satisfying you why do u think after sex most men sleep off its because we are tired madam .

ItsModella:
blah blah blah!!

Nigerian men---> super men??

I laugh in Hindi...mschew!!!

let's say the truth and shame d devil we feed your lazy a...s...S.Ess and provide everything for you

Good article but does not correlate with the african society.. Especially nigeria and poster it is not true that women in nigeria are more likely to be tired than men in our society as far as I am concerned majority of the nigerian workforce are men and are more likely to be tired than the women the men carry most of the family burden here in short nigerian men are super men because if one is able to read the thought of an average nigerian man all they think about is hw to pay house rent , children school fees , money for food for d family ,wife wahala,sending money to help mother and father, siblings burden , work matters , girlfriend maintenance money , guy abeg make una help me add the list make dem understand that men worry more than women and are likely to be tired all the time from stress, worry , high blood pressure so op that ur article na you know were u for see am

@op give it up ur argument is pointless and a waste of time in reality its a mans world so wake up from ur dream or I will email u a slap to wake up

Amelian: Wow, am short of words.. .....and girls will still look desperate and sad, cause we are single...hmmm, life

hahahahahahahahahahah its a mans world ...hahahahahahaha singing james brown hahahahahaha it is a mans world..

Godmother: Mehn, I hope her husband never gets to see this oh. Would do well. We all have an idea of what marriage in Nigeria is all about, but most women wud never come out boldly like this for fear of d repercussions

say d truth and shame d devil

She is soooo on point and right .. What else can I say ? Coming from a fellow married woman. Funke egbemode since she s in it herself and she s wearing d shoe of a married woman thanks for d confession maam..