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Nice and very motivating.

I think you want to marry this woman for all the wrong reasons. You said you've had a crush on her since your earlier years. Bros, crush is not love o. You proposed to her because you didn't want any other guy to beat you to it, she is not some item you can quickly go buy off the shelf. It seems like she is more of a trophy to you, like some prized possession that you are too blinded to see its defects.

You don't need a crystal ball to tell you that she is psychologically imbalanced and unless you can get to the root of that, you are just playing with death. Most people always think that their girlfriends or boyfriends will change after marriage if more and more love and affection is showered but most times that's not true. What you are seeing now are clear indications of what your marriage would probably look like and my dear brother marriage in itself between the best of lovers and friends has enough of its own complications, believe me you don't want to carry extra baggage into it, especially a baggage filled with violence.

So my simple advice for you is break it off NOW while you still can. It is better you suffer from a broken heart now, than a lifeless one later. My fear is whether even after the breakup she won't even try to attack you. Bro, the girl no well o honestly. Also think of he damages she poses to other members of your family, which may even include your child if you live long enough to have one with her.

All the best.

Be careful and don't try in the towel yet. I know it can be very demeaning and demoralizing. But he could also be trying to frustrate you out of the job to bring his own person on board. Just block your ears to the insult and do the best you can.

coogar:
it's shameful to marry in absentia?
how? obviously, the dude cannot travel cos he's in another country. maybe his papers are processing or some sort of delay. if the couple feel happy to go ahead with it, what's the shame in that?

I totally agree with you. Moreover she won't be the first or last to marry in this way. I personally have seen close friends and relatives married this way. Its all about choice and we should learnt to respect peoples' choices.

Atmmachine:
I just want to take this time to apologize to the people who were scammed & brainwashed to vote for Buhari.
They framed GEJ as being unproductive in his tenure.
They faked the kidnap of the chibok girls.

Please the whole world should investigate this; it's obvious we were forced to Vote for Muhammadu Buhari in the last Presidential Election. I was not conscious of my actions and please, On behalf of the scammed and hypnotised Nigerians I tender my apology to the most tactful and fraudulent president Nigeria ever had.
Mr Goodluck Ebele Jonathan GCFR, I'm sorry for falling for the greatest scam ever known to man. I'm sorry, sir.

We should wait for the next 4 years to choose a good president like Goodluck Jonathan again.
Let's suffer & learn from our mistakes

Forced to vote for PMB? For real? Abeg who forced you?

Raiders:
APC should expel Saraki out of their party now because he is a saboteur. its better he leaves now than in 2019 because people like him will cause trouble in 2019. Saraki is greedy and selfish and only cares about his interest

Why should APC expel Saraki? Are the members of d senate not matured enough to have an election and pick their own President. Why did Tinubu and his cohorts feel they had to impose Lawan on the Senate. When PDP picked GEJ as sole Presidential candidate, the same APC complained that it was not due process. E don reach their turn now and due process was conveniently forgotten. They should just jejely work with Saraki as GMB has agreed to do, otherwise, they would be creating greater problems in the party. Shebi una want change, this is change o, so let's welcome it wholeheartedly. Nigeria home video, season 1, watch out for more.

That is the fuel they are supposed to give us abi? Useless people.

RIP

omonnakoda:
They were defeated almost immediately. Ojukwu in his pride chose to play games with civilian lives and refused to surrender.Thank God the Nigerian Army were professional and not inclined to genocide

Excuse me! Defeated almost immediately? You definitely have no knowledge on the accounts of the Nigerian civil war. Please do your background checks before saying things you don't know.

US shld go and sit down jare and leave GEJ alone. Why they not desperate to see him out of office? Abegiiii this one is medicine after death.

Whatever else he did in the past and whether he wins the award or not, I dove my cap in respect for GEJ. This singular act of his, has saved not only many innocent lives, but even our dear country Nigeria. At this moment, I am so proud I am a Nigerian and that I remained in my country to vote.

Why? Abi are they tampering with the results. Abeg if APC wins this time let's move on. PDP shey una don do 16 years. Eeeeeeh maybe better luck next time. Let's not create unnecessary wahala abeg.

Mynd44:
If he fails to get the 25% in 24 states, a rerun is called.

But it is not going there yet

Which kain yeye rerun.

Hia! GEJ leading in 22 states? Which wans biko? Cos all am seeing is GMB leading except in a few areas. Really didn't know abt the 25% requirement o. Learning everyday.

Very sad. May their souls R.I.P.

Yes o, was there today under the sun and later the rain to vote. I felt so proud as Nigerians defiled the rain and remained to cast their votes. Casted my vote at about 4.15pm, but didn't stay for the counting. Nigerians will decide whom they want as their next leaders come rain or shine. Long live the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Nice ride. But how long will this last on Nigerian roads.

Went to do my normal weekly shopping today and was stuck in traffic for close to 2 hours for a distance of not more than 5 minutes under normal circumstances. Was just soooo depressed and hungry.

APC go and rest jare! You pple are behaving like little children that raise alarm at every single thing. You see conspiracy everywhere. Even if GEJ goes to toilet, you will say its a conspiracy. Can't wait for this election to come and go jare.

From this moment on - Shania Twain
Obi my o - Obiwon
You're still the one - Shania Twain

MuguliciousMUGU:
I have told this man to stop smoking weed, but he won't hear, now he has smoked some weed, and his mind is telling him that his future is in his wife pant, and he himself wants to see his future, see what weed can cause...

lol

oremusanctus:
Islam!

What has Islam got to do with this one again. Didn't you read that the woman at least is a Christian. Sometimes we just like creating unnecessary wahala for ourselves.

mildteddy:
U spoke like u know what u're talking about.
Man o war is like police in FUTO. They call any student whenever they want. They can knock on ur door by 2:00am to check receipts. They are that enabled. Always ask to be clarified before criticism.

Hellooooo, I know exactly what I am talking about. Aside from the fact that I went to one of the best universities in this country, I also know that it is generally unsafe to walk or move alone at night. I am not saying she shouldn't have gone to answer the call, especially if they are that powerful in ur school. What I said is she should have gone with somebody who can at least if not be a witness for her, then maybe serve as a restraint to the molesters. If she had gone with someone and they sent they person back, then it would have been a different case. Pls do not go out at night alone, not even if it is Jonathan calling you. Many, many lives have been lost that way.

. I hear. Abeg I no ask make u do anything o.

Lisaflex:
Ah! bad mamajama,I knw dey do buh i sha hvnt seen dem o *covers face*..Na from ur mouth i hear am

chelsy20:
I need to find my birthday mate before may...
May 27.

Hello birthday mate.

jeffizy:
Una don Waka reach here too?

lwkmd :

Lisaflex:
lwkm@"...flicking it up and down..." U tk style bad o

Wetin I for do naaa, am a bad mamajama . But Lisa u know they do that .

Abiagirl777:
I schooled and lived there and I know what the man o wars can do, they intimidate hostel occupants a lot especially she must have been caught urinating infront of her room (bucket)instead of going to the toilet, I guess she went to negotiate with him lyk the girls always did unfortunately she met the unexpected.
If you are caught , you face the school security/senate

Then she should have gone with somebody else.

At that time of the night, she went out to see the guy alone? What was she thinking? And what did she expect from the guy, to sing her bedtime lullabies? SMH.

Rilwayne001:
Picture of Buhari/APC sharing dollars
www.nairaland.com/attachments/2224871_pdpstealing_jpeg6cc777faf8e5a4571e58812aac0042a5

Where I dey dey sef when they are sharing these dollars?

Zikkie:
Thank u. Yes we are interested. Where are u based please? I stay in Ibadan. Thanks so much for your concern.

I am in Lagos. I am ill so currently off work today and tomorrow. How can I reach u?

Lisaflex:
D lady is prolly marvelled at hw a grown man is displaying his ware in public...U don't expect ppl 2 suddenly go blind cos u decided 2 pee by d road in broad day light.... Cm 2 fnk of it, no matter hw hard one luks,d person doesn't c anytn..Hw do u guys do it?

Very true o Lisaflex, we usually don't see anything. When I was younger used to look to see how the thing be sef, but u just can't see anything, even when u know they r flicking it up and down to get all the urine off the head. As I don tire to wait to see the thing from peeing guys (and finally got to see it when the right time came) now person no dey bother again.