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JourneytoEL:
You can start by creating a whatsapp group for the extended family without excluding everyone. Make it a culture to celebrate and share their picture on their birthdays. Include other fun things like who is this uncle, who give birth to this girl and the winner gets a free recharge card. Little by little their hearts will warm up and they will begin to miss the family togetherness, then you can proceed to having a family thanksgiving/get together on a fixed date. I am sharing from my personal experience.

Hathor5:


We should all do lots of happy things.

sassysure:
Well, depending on your ethnicity sha. Mine follow a cultural pattern. Even when u want to be left alone in peace, those cultural norms passed on by generations of old will force you to unite with your family members, or distant relatives at a particular time of the year.

The reason why people from my side travel for Xmas celebration isn't because they love Christmas too much.
They travel to meet with families and it's done by a gathering called kinsmen meeting. Nobody jokes with that. From the general kinsmen meeting to smaller units of closer families.
Within the space of few days, u are supposed to tour the various houses of your extended family, even your grandmother's family join and u go with goodies. They do the same too. Married women do their own meeting too. That's why some married women spend part of their Christmas holiday in their fathers house. It's something u can't avoid and it has always kept families united at the front even if they are fighting within. I hope u understand what I mean by that.

If u happen to live in a city e.g. Lagos, u will join your kinsmen there and do monthly meetings, u join what we call your village, town meetings. U see, you can't run away from your people even if you want. It's a cultural norm. People that are free of this somehow are those living abroad. Still, you are very much represented. Has nothing to do with money or influence.

oluplus:
Start by creating a group on whatsApp and add every concerned person. Then let the discussion start from there. Some will appreciate it while others may not. They can even pull out. Don't be discouraged. Raise your concern there and let everyone say whatever is in his/her mind.
You can then organize how you'll all meet physically

FlordFlorez:
This isn't peculiar to all families and i think money is the binding factor. However, Igbos are trying in this respect. They occationally gather their family members especially during festives.

Hathor5:
Time, food and traditions keep families close. Invite your family over for celebrations (Christmas, Eastern if you are a Christian) and on Sundays (once in a month) to eat together. Everyone can contribute some home made food. We always divide the dishes among the family members. Some of us make the starter, others the main course, the jollof, the cake and so on and so forth. We also plan trips together taking the kids to the park to have a picnic or some other fun place. And do not underestimate the power of the little things in the daily life. My brother told me yesterday how he hasn't eaten some food one of our aunties used to prepare when we were young ever since. Guess what I will surprise him with tomorrow. I will just drop it at his door on my way to work.

Yenefer:
Hate to break it to you, try your best for God sake. it's like part of human evolution there's nothing you can do that will reverse this trend. Money can temporary unite them but as soon as money disappears it will be Worse.

Chamath Palihapitiya, former vice-president of user growth, expressed regret for his part in building tools that destroy ‘the social fabric of how society works’

“tremendous guilt” over his work on “tools that are ripping apart the social fabric of how society works”, joining a growing chorus of critics of the social media giants.

“The short-term, dopamine-driven feedback loops that we have created are destroying how society works. No civil discourse, no cooperation, misinformation, mistruth.”

“This is not about Russian ads,” he added. “This is a global problem. It is eroding the core foundations of how people behave by and between each other.”

“exploit[s] a vulnerability in human psychology” by creating a “social-validation feedback loop”

Parker had said that he was “something of a conscientious objector” to using social media, a stance echoed by Palihapitiya who said that he was now hoping to use the money he made at Facebook to do good in the world.

“I can’t control them,” Palihapitiya said of his former employer. “I can control my decision, which is that I don’t use that shit. I can control my kids’ decisions, which is that they’re not allowed to use that shit.”

He also called on his audience to “soul-search” about their own relationship to social media. “Your behaviors, you don’t realize it, but you are being programmed,” he said. “It was unintentional, but now you gotta decide how much you’re going to give up, how much of your intellectual independence.”

“That’s what we’re dealing with,” Palihapitiya said. “Imagine when you take that to the extreme where bad actors can now manipulate large swaths of people to do anything you want. It’s just a really, really bad state of affairs.”

We are been programmed and destroying family values is one of there primary objectives

Plead:
What exactly is your problem?
You go about posting religious bullshîts on every thread.

overall90:
stop acting holier than thou.
with all the preaching and every,have fornication and adultery stopped.
even the very people who preach against it do falter from time to time.
we all know that abstinence does not work and yet we keep pretending.

Made4naijalove:
Who knows her address, make I sharply go buy one house beside her too... Man needs this kind ginger every morning

Firstorderwizard:
600 million plus have just been approved for looting by politicians while the leaders of tommorow are busy discussing sexcapades on nairaland

TheEffective:


Those who are focused in life use that one year to acquire certifications(not NIM) that will define their advantage once they enter the job market but you are busy knacking away a valuable and most important phase of your life.

If you understand the competition for graduate jobs and the complexity of hiring, you would enter the NYSC gate like one going to battle.

By the time I was leaving NYSC, I had acquired three (3) badass certifications in my field. I came out with my head up high while my guys had their tails stuck between their butts. Two months after, three good jobs came calling. Empowerment is greater than 'knacking'.

YorubaKinging:
People can protest anything
Just like some foolish youths were protesting tacha's disqualification

Now, another big brother is on the way

The devil and your governments knows how to enter you

Another 3 months of distractions while the continue selling your future

Thank God Jesus is almost back

illicit:
Bleep her but not in the office and make sure you get paid one way or the other.


Don't do it for free, or else u might have nothing to show for it later.

ZINIBANKS:
Babe you're so clean as fúck giving you a head up won't be a bad idea

Happyfela:
The fakeness started seaping out at the Third paragraph of the story.

DenreleDave:
Which curfew sef?

Curfew are for low budget geng wey dey wear fake rolex


But high end geng like us, no curfew can hold us down..... We rather hit soldier and police comot for road than be held down for violating curfew for some dancing Corona patient in music isolation..

Your composition is VERY POOR!


Geng Geng Geng

Here in anambra, the road is free like way to hell....

johnnyenglish02:
op from my angle..u bro has a kleptodownsyndromphobiativity disease...... doctors in d house abeg chill..na joke i jur dey joke

watchindelta:
lol you know anything candy always beautiful, abeg na, now for play they take they enter dance oh Eva.

watchindelta:
ur pictures or I dnt

TimiRume:
3 sachets of water in one shot is too much for the kidney. And did you say throw up? Is that not a telling sign that your system is overwhelmed.

BabaOwen:
Please can you explain more about how this work? Maybe me sef go dey practice am.

Pearlyakin:
Must you derail every topic with your Jesus, we all know about him go to the core North and preach to them.

Righteousness89:
What a waste of Destiny!

Am pained for you bro!

I Pray For you that your Understanding of Life be opened in JESUS NAME..

Xisnin:
Trump worshipper, stop spamming every thread with your nonsense.
Seek psychiatric help as soon as possible.

Righteousness89:
The Million and Billion $ are Good!

Having them Without JESUS is Waste of Life..

don't take them as Pirioty! Don't kill Yourself for it !

One cent will not be taken to the other side

Money is paper that humans place value on

There is Much more to life than all that..

Knowing and Having JESUS CHRIST is all you should Do at all cost!

Every other stuffs will end here..

Having JESUS CHRIST give Access to Eternal Life .

Xclusiveme:
OMG! Even a dullard would understand this post

EricBloodAxe:

Are your kids being fed from this too?

ProfDview1:
I love ur laps Abi na thighs..

I dont mind resting my head on it