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Arthur2021:
The psychological differences between men and women are shoved aside as gender constructs even when science proves it.

It is honorable to walk away and have him crawl begging you

DebbiBianca:
Please wake in the name of Jesus. Jesus have mercy on me. Jesus, take pity on me.

I ask you to wake up in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. In the name of Jesus Christ, I'm calling you.

"It's your body that's being bundled so. Jesus take pity on me. I'm begging you."

fiery:
Also, at the end of the day I have every right to choose and decide whatever characteristics I want in a man. I have the right to turn a man down however I deem fit without having to explain myself! So if some ladies don't want to date broke men, how exactly do you want to force them to?!

MEN ALSO HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE AND DECIDE WHATEVER CHARACTERISTICS THEY WANT IN WOMEN. THEY CAN TURN DOWN WHOEVER THEY WANT WITHOUT HAVING TO EXPLAIN THEMSELVES.

IT'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR YOU TO WANT YOUR OWN RIGHTS TO DO ANYTHING, BUT THEN TRY TO DENY MEN THEIR RIGHTS OF WANTING ONLY LIGHT SKINNED WOMEN, VIRGINS OR WORKINGCLASS WOMEN.

OTHER WOMEN HAVE THE RIGHTS TO WANT BROKE MEN, AND ADVOCATE MARRIAGES TOO.

MODERN DAY FEMINISTS WANT TO BE THE ONLY ONES ABLE TO CHOOSE? WE WILL NOT ALLOW THAT .

zionmde:
guys are just too stuppid

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT HERE TO TELL YOU THAT I AM A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS THE DEVIL. I AM JUST A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY WOMEN LIKE TO PRACTICE WHEN THEY MOVE ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I succeeded and they finally arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and I have now significantly calmed down as per ''abroad levels'' and due to determination. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment w e find ourselves in. First thing she did when she got here was to cut of my family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career as well, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. You would never even think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my Pali and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

OUR SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

LinLinGentle:
All these people here that kept saying I did not treat my wife right in Nigeria don't actually know what they're saying. The answer is NO. In Nigeria, she never touched her salary, I never leave house chores to her alone, I did most things men do to show love to a woman. She just makes sure to tell me how inadequate I am and how she could have had better than me and deserves more. She had this ex boyfriend she always compared me to. Also, she has always had this pathological attachment to her extended family and makes it a duty to paint me in a bad light to anyone willing to listen. Her family expect more from me than I could offer, but did not even nurture the kind of relationship where this could happen. I was always the one doing the calling and visiting and all I get back is criticisms. Throughout our stay in Nigeria, none of her family members ever visited our matrimonial home, cos my wife cannot stop staying things like ''He drinks too much'', ''he never stays at home'', ''I think he is cheating'', ''his mother is a witch'' etc. We were both young professionals and we had busy lives back in Naija so we used to keep a maid, a driver etc. It was not really what you would call a patriarchy at all, just that I had a lower threshold for bullshit. The only difference between when we were in Nigeria and now is that I cannot keep up with her gbas gbos here, and have to back down most of the time for peace to reign, but back in Nigeria, she dared not do or say some things to me cos I would reciprocate swiftly. I am just a normal man with ''African mentality'' like most of y'all, I am not a trouble maker. I am just unfortunate to have this kinda wife whose expectations I have never met and who thinks I don't deserve appreciation, affection, respect, loyalty and love.

1Sharon:
I trust you

So what happens if the person uses the airtime?

emmaodet:
The op of this thread is crackclap while yours is crackland and crachhhaus, i thought it was you.
Seems a lot of people like this crack.... something as moniker.
Is the name really from hard drugs? Like cracks? Or just an inspiration

Baloranking:


Currently sharing a room with a marijuana addict,

Dude approached me that he's looking for a roommate, he seemed too cool then I volunteered. Contributed money for the rooms decoration . My grandma died, had to go spend 2weeks+ at-home, came back and saw that this dude is living in our house with his girlfriend.



He has told her that he's the owner of the room that I am squatting jeez so how did I know, me and the so called girl got into an argument then I told her to leave that she's no more welcomed here, next thing I heard was this is my boyfriend's room and you're squatting so you leave

Ladies and gentlemen I confronted my roommate in front of his girl, he told me to my face that I'm the one squatting, I decided to pack my things before this Corona issues started.

Once school resumes I going to get my things, can't believe some guys can be this toxic.luckily for me I own 70% of the properties in the room.

Arthur2021:
There are still people who hold on the stereotype of men being the perpetrators (they don't call this stereotype,they only call "women are naturally more emotional than logical" a stereotype )

This people abuse traditional people as archaic, they don't realise the mantra they keep chanting of women being oppressed are archaic themselves

kunleajaye:
. I spoke to my kids after a long time, and they kept asking when I was coming home to be with them. My daughter told me mummy told her I decided to leave them there in Nigeria. I was dumbfounded.

silverr:
A man that bathes smells how much more a man that doesn't bathe. They both smell but on different levels.

Of course I know Asa, let me and there. It doesn't change the fact that the hair is dirty and synonymous with mad people

shekauvsbuhari:
What of those born with it? You cant say they had it bcs their hair was not combed while they were in the womb. You dnt know de answer. Simple and short. Stop trying to manufacture an answer you dnt know.

ajl:
Many of you are not enlightened and lack knowledge of your culture and traditions. In Yoruba mythology, Dada is the child of Yemoja and elder brother to Sango (god of lightening).

silverr:
The first guys hair looks artificial like twisted wool. So I can't really say.

For the second picture, even though she tries to keep it clean, the dirty vibe is still there and doesn't change the fact that the hair is oozing with all sorts of bacteria

Grandmeister:
Those dreads are mostly not the real deal naa..look at the locks and you will see they ain't the real thing.

silverr:
Of course, a very good sign of laziness and dirtiness

silverr:
Why is it synonymous with mad men and prisoners?
Because it's symbolic with dirtiness. Ever heard of unclean spirits?
Why shouldn't you comb your hair?

dayleke:
A wife/husband that you both said "in sickness, in health till death do you part"?
So pulling resources together as a family is now an abomination?

UjuJoan2:
I agree . . . I will never respect any man I have to feed. I just won't be able to.

I imagine it may look unfair as that would mean men have no room for failure, or they will never find love. But that's just the reality.

emmaodet:
A neighbour of mine who isn't doing bad, working at Lafarge cement/Wapco in sagamu, driving a nice 2006 toyota camry and apartment averagely furnished was shocked when his wife whom he has 3 kids with abandoned him and the kids to follow her friend to Oman last year.
I was shocked that how will a woman have the heart to leave hubby with 3 BOYS to go to Oman, to do what? hustle? runs?

O'BOY! THE ANGEL YOU MARRY TODAY CAN TURN THE HIGHEST DEMON TOMORROW.
ALL THE WEDDINGS, ALL THE MARITAL BLESSINGS AND VOWS, STILL YET THE WORST THINGS HAPPEN IN MARRIAGES BETWEEN GOD-FEARING PEOPLE.
THEM NOGO SEE MY BRAKE LIGHT.
BY THE WAY PERSON LIKE ME NOGO WASTE TIME TO DIVORCE AND MARRY MONTHLY.