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gazeup1:
I created this new handle to hide my identity.

I got married 11 years ago. We both started working before we got married, but my salary was way above my wife's own. I was earning 195k while she was on 108k when we got married, after my MSC, I was promoted and started to earn 350k, this got to me and I started to misbehave, I was doing all sorts and would insult the hell outa her. As the cry cry girl, she would cry, and thereafter I would hear her praying. At times she would say she will one day be greater than me. That to me was an impossibility.

I can't even remember ever giving her money for home keep but we never lacked food at home (we delayed before having kids, so I don't see the need for me to give her monthly money and she never asked). I started giving her after we had kids. She agreed when I told her her money was for the home and mine for investment, but I never included her name in my properties. she knows this as well.

After our kids, it became very demanding, coupled with her office not increasing her pay, she resigned, and that was when I felt the impact of her income. Meanwhile, her pay was reduced to about 80k and mine was increased to like 600k as at when she resigned. In one month I started asking her to return back to her work as to me I was not ready to foot her bills, she never even asked for money, she would even say what I gave her is left 5k or more self at the end of the month.

Now her new journey - When I started disturbing about going back to her former office or getting a new job, she said never and asked me to stop giving her money but go to market to buy food myself. In less than 4 months to her resignation she started talking about online job here and there, I thought it was a scam so I warned her. One day, I was in the office when she said she needs me to help her wit the best laptop to buy, I tried to talk her down on buying one but she ended the call on me.

I got home to see her with a new laptop. fast forward, she paid for a training on how work from home without my knowledge, got her first job of about $200, I also washed her down on going that low for such an amount but she said it was better than her former 80k job, before I knew it, she started talking about $1,000, now it's $3,000, to $4,000 monthly. I earn lower than #1M, my wife gets over #2M monthly working from home. She helped me finished my house project, very transparent and would not hide any $ she earns.

I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. I remembered when she asked back then to open a joint account with her, I laughed her to scorn, like how would the ratio be. she saved over 6M and credited my account with everything, just for us to complete our home. I can't even produce 1M.

She doesn't seem hurt, but sometimes she reminds me of those words, I have never officially told her sorry neither have I really changed because I am just like that, I don't mean evil. I wanted her to braze up and never stay low.

Married, men, please how do I ask for her forgiveness? I don't think we have up to 2% of her type out there.

Mko123:
Where are those nairaland guys whose job is to beat thieves until they look like twins?

this one is still forming cute because he never see you guys

flames007:
That's exactly why the country is not making progress.

which day was it that a nairalander said he and his Canadian girlfriend went to student fellowship and the pastor was like "All your names will miraculous disappear from the loan debt list". They all screamed a loud AMEN!

The girlfriend tapped him and said 'this is wrong. You gotta pay your student loan'. And that, my brother, is why other countries work and yours seems to be eternally crippled; everyone wants to make money off the system without putting in anything. it'll eventually crumble.

immortalityk:
u never add factory work

engrzico:
Wow, Great thread here.

Resigned from the bank in 2019, Opted for fitting and smaw welding training. Rounded off in 2020. Currently employed because of my welding skills in a reputable company.

Welding is not just a skill, i see us as artists with strokes of fire and liquid metal.

iamyemiakins:
"JUST TELL ME THE TRUTH, I WILL NOT BEAT YOU".

How many of us fell for this trap?

nairavsdollars:
leave facebook alone oo. i take God beg you

Faller:
I had this friend back then....We do call him OCCASION....

If this guy come your wedding....Your food no go waste....

House warming..... Naming ceremony...Child Dedication.... End of year party....This guy no dey miss any of these occasion.....

And he has one special cooler for takeaway...Inside that cooler there's another cooler....

backbencher:
I doubt the youth working at his factory are uneducated. They probably have some form of certification which enables them to work there.

Plus management, research, even floor supervision requires at the very least a diploma. Car manufacturing is a specialist profession. I suspect most people working there are educated at least at SSCE level...to understand instructions centered around car manufacturing. or have something called 'guild qualifications'(those with SSCE may have a credit in automechanics...which is offered as an SSCE subject in some schools).

And as the company grows, he would need more and more educated people working there

Plus, I don;t regard an uneducated man paying educated people a salary as an anomaly. innoson may be uneducated, but he is not unintelligent.Uneducated people can create jobs just as well as the educated. Being uneducated does not mean unintelligent or uncreative.

AlhajiNatty:
OP, go and learn a skill if you haven't but if you have, I shouldn't be giving you this advice.
Las las, you do dey alright man.

proxitaly:
Make we hear
There are myriads of jobs where you can't add any other tangible value than what you are employed to do. Imagine telling a bank teller to add value.
Also, most Nigerian jobs differ little from slavery. You're being paid 50k in today's economy and work 7 to 7. Which other value you wan add?

dopedan:
Just saw my cgpa and I landed in 2.2 and my dad already told me not to bring bad result home I guess 2,2 is not so good and my dad is not someone that is understanding so how do i tell him?

tolakush92:
Good evening nlders I’ll be very brief and precise .This thing has been bothering my mind and I felt I should seek for reasonable and experienced opinions from senior men them on this forum .

The issue is .. is it a bad thing to cook in my Brothers house (although he has a wife and kids ) .His wife felt bad yesterday cus I cooked small okra and Eba cus I was hungry . The only food she likes me to cook in her kitchen is indomie . I feel if there Is love what’s there if I cook anything I want to eat in the kitchen .must I always take permission to cook

Pls I want to know if it’s right or wrong

Front page pls

Sunkanmiwise:
Any of the Spark Series will do, most especially the Spark 7P with strong reliable battery capacity