You are not alone in your plight. I lived for four and half years with my wife in Nigeria before coming to UK. We came for no other reason than for the fact that we could not have children back in Nigeria. It happened that just after five months of our marriage, I took her to UK for a holiday and she became pregnant. However as soon as we arrived back to Nigeria she lost the pregnancy. After waiting for four years and doing all the necessary tests, which confirmed that there was no serious problem with any of us, still my wife could not conceive. So I decided that God must have shown me the sign that I should have my children in UK and not Nigeria. When I had my leave, which was for 6 weeks, I decided to take my wife to UK again for holidays and also to see if she could get pregnant again as before. And to our greatest surprise it happened again even after three weeks of our stay in UK without having to see a doctor for any treatment. So I decided that UK is my promised land and we should remain there.

During our stay in Nigeria before living for UK, I earned more than ten times my wife. She did not have a good job but I had a great job that catered for both of us. In fact I could work for an entire year without having to withdraw any money from my salary as I got more than twice my salary coming in every month by way of allowances for out of station assignments. I drove a good car and lived in a comfortable flat. I provided everything my wife wanted and even did not buy much for myself. I looked after my wife as if she was a queen. I was the person who fought for my entire family to become citizens in UK; she did not contribute anything towards that. I went through every immigration hurdle until we all got our residency and then citizenship. But all of that is music to my wife’s ears now. This is a woman who came to me with rags and I transformed her within the first one year of our marriage. I bought all her wear and shoes from UK and really did not bother much about myself. She has been the cause of every quarrel and misunderstanding we have ever had since our marriage. Even when I asked her often to tell me one occasion that I had offended her, she had not been able to mention one singe occasion when I ever started any trouble.

The real problem started after my wife completed her training as a nurse and started earning some big money mainly due to overtime work and working during unsociable hours. We had always kept our money together and ran our accounts as joint accounts. My wife decided to run her own personal account where all her salary is paid into. She then decides how much out of her salary she pays into our joint account. She stopped listening to whatever I say but instead listened to her colleagues at work and friends. When I confronted her about her change in attitude, she told me that “the character a woman shows when she was coming into a marriage is not what she shows afterwards”. She has turned all our children against me and dictates to the children whatever she likes even when I am opposed to her directives. However our children are grown up with some of them already in universities.

On one occasion I went to Nigeria and reported her bad behaviours to her mother and before I returned back to UK she went and reported me to the police. I asked her why she reported me to police and she said that she consulted her brothers in Nigeria and they advised her to report me to police fearing there could be violence when I returned to UK. I went to the police in UK and asked them to show me the statement she made against me. But the police said that for confidentiality, they were not allowed to tell me about my wife’s report against me. So I decided to make my own report there against her. Nowadays we hardly talk to each other and I am making every effort to establish myself in Nigeria and only visit UK when necessary. Our women do not know how to repay us for our kindness and goodness towards them. Instead they see us as ladder to climb to greater heights.

very touching and informative.

santa fe 2007,rav4 2007,crv 2007,mitsubishi outlander-2007,infinity fx 35 -2005 or 2006,mazda cx-7 - 2007,xterra-2007,cherokee laredo 2007,pathfinder 2006,grand cherokee 2007

i need the prices of the above suv's.

@jenny ur hubby u go kill me lafta

inspired,am impressed by your response.These vehicles are for my guys whom has been following nairaland and you. so pls give me the prices of the below too.I know the cost to deliver to PH is 50,000.so pls let that be outside your quotes.

infinity fx 35-2005/2006,mazda cx-7 (2007), mitsubishi outlander -2007

Guy, get me the details of the below suv's.all american specs

santa fe- 2007,rav4 2007,crv 2007,mitsubishi outlander,2007,xterra 2007
my email is kenekaza@yahoo.com

why is the owner selling,any fault with the car,when was it first registered in nigeria?if u give me a good reason.i will introduce to you a ready buyer. kenekaza@yahoo.com

any reason why owner is selling and what is the last price?

my question still remains why are ppl sellin dis cars so cheap?if i get an answer i will introduce a straight buyer.

inspired,pls let me know the prices of the below suv's:
sante-fe (2007),rav-4(2007),crv (2007), infinity (2005 or 2006),xterra (2006),tucson (2008),all american specs.

dis xterra for 2.5m

1Model : CRV

2Year of manufacture : 2006

3Tokunbo/Naija used : tokunbo

4Mileage at purchase : 32,000(KM)

5Year of purchase : 2007 August

6Manual or Auto : Auto

7Best features of car : good looking, balance on the road, quite a strong and responsive engine

8Worst features of Car:cd loader

9Developed problem : None,no food for mechanic aside servicing.

10Would you buy or advice
to buy another Used of It: Yes, But mileage must be between 10-35000

what is the working condition of this car and why is the owner selling?i am interested. email me at kenekaza@yahoo.com

@shinningzin,u wife try ooo,i respect her.my wife is same too

poster,the first mistake u made was leave the house.

@badesco,i feel your pain.my first advise is take the man's number or seize her phone,go show her family members (father) hv a meeting with him and tell him exactly what you feel (do you have kids?)definately the marriage is over but my candid advise is that dnt spill blood in any way cos you will regret your actions. we hv too much of pressure out there now and bad enuff your wife fell for this one.take heart man and move on.

kida kudz is good but i thot osagie should hv won sha,all d same wish him well in future en,

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that is jus how 99% of our women are.seriously one only need patience to carry through wit them

If Atiku is ready for arrest we can contribute for his flight to the U.S then we can be sure he is truly ready for arrest.jagnssssssss

Wit the high rate of kidnapping,hw many of us (igbo or not) will travel to the east this period?A friend who works at CBN went for the father's burial and after the events he was kidnapped on sunday morning a before he intends leaving for lagos and we had to cough out 1million to bail him.imagine?this happened only last wk oo in an eastern state.

LAMO una go kill somebodi here ooo,ur gurlfriend is too big,her lap too big,yet she de chop lik pig .ur man snores and enuff saliva fallin lik river niger,yepa,fartin drama,i one die ooooooo cheiiiiiii

y'all is really crackin me and my guys offshore at d rig up,we don laff tire here,una try.fr me
1-my wife will delay no mata hw hard u tryt o speed her up for an event of 6p.m,u hv must begin to mak her get ready from 2p.m ooo otherwise no way.
2-she cant remember anythin,she will remind me i am an efiko back in school days so i should hv everythin in my head dat God made her from my ribs so i am better only in terms of wahala sha oooo
3-she will go late to d ariport.dis one is one attitude dat can neva stop,hv come to live wit it and she can forget travellin papers even for d kids

I am happy to read the fact that u hv moved on,i am married and i undastand what the situation could mean with babes lik dis.lik u rightly said alot of 'us' do dis thins but na who dem catch b 'tif'.u hv taken a good step to allow her to move on while u hv done same.stick to ur decision and neva neva look back.

I NEED COOLING VAN PLS CONTACT ME ON kenekaza@yahoo.com very very urgenttttttttttt

who has a cooling van for rent pls contact me on kenekaza@yahoo.com very urgent

@dacork,dis is completely home grown ikebe ooo and i go sue u to magistrate court for oshodi ooo for sayin dis is an SA yansh walahi if u dont reverse ur stament wit immediate effect and mind u na dis babe here go b my attorney,sey u no mind to b sued shey

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hahaha wen were kids sha enuff tia tia nika plus tia tia socks to school
wat about kukuli, tanfirin,loli-pop

I am with Mrs right, right now,marriage is sweet with its up and down plus drama it brings enuff effizy out of u plus mak u alot more responsible

yee paripa @ googles,nice one @y.me

@ileke-idi,as ur ido-osi broda abeg mak u do dis size oooo atleast u go win world cup wey wingless eagles no fit win from SA.