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It's inevitable for us to feel like shiť from time to time, even, over a long period of time but hey, don't let it submerge you.

Please teach your children how to make themselves happy from things not connected to money or other immaterial things, it can preserve their souls when they first discover they're suddenly not happy anymore with themselves.

Equally, learn to encourage people to keep going in life, you never know who's about to quit all entirely.

Adults too should develop an alpha sense of responsibility towards the next person who comes into his or her life, two broken people can heal themselves.

Nairaland sha.

pocohantas:
Urgent 2k

If I collect from Izzou, Kondomatic, Tapout, Ishilove and Twoclans, na 10k be that.

Chai! Kaptain!!!

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

Being an introvert is not your problem.

If you're goal oriented, dedicated and steadfast, people will gravitate towards you and you'd begin to live normal.

First, to must subdue your elemental need to recluse yourself from people and try to engage random people in vehicles, and be intelligent too.

Leave cultism, that one will bolster your chances of violent death.

slimmoney:

Thanks

pocohantas:
Nah. Proud member of Team-submissive- women. You are the captain…

Okay o. No more arguments.

Me na Cap? Hmm! Okay o.

pocohantas:
Doesn’t take anything off my post.

Ait Kaptain.

pocohantas:
Nothing surprising and new in this storyline. When men are young and with some money, they think they are gods. That is when they will be locking their wives out of the house at night.

They forget that water wey hot go cold. Keep up with that lifestyle and you will definitely get sick. Not forgetting that you guys are most times older. When they now fall sick, they immediately come back to the VIRTUOUS WIFE. It would be her job to cook vegetable soup and nurse them back to good health. All the girls they practiced “men are polygamous with”, would be long gone.

Na why when I see some women wey leave their husband go stay with their pikin, I no dey too put mouth. If he didn’t sacrifice his youth for you, I wonder why you should be saddled with him when he is old.

Kaptain be calming down now, biko.

We all make mistakes, sometimes the mistakes are too enormous to cancel out whatever good we might have to offer those who love us.

Please, men are not perfect.

I read through this story for the first time now and when the woman whom was directly affected by this man's acts confirmed it, stating his recovery and all, I knew somehow, we just don't know what hit us until it happens.

Lemme let you in on my own personal life, by age 8 I had almost died from getting drunk on beer, I had followed some adults drinking beer from a depot outside my then family house to enjoy myself in one corner, and before you know it, I had lost consciousness, my sister’s voice was the only thing that I remembered vividly to this point.

But stupid me went back in my 200-300level break for yet another spin and I fell ill but no sister in far away Ibadan (didn't go home) could nurse me or cry whilst begging me to not leave her again.

I swore off alcohol or whatever since that day.

Was it women? Smoking? Though I didn't indulge in those to know how bad it were, I grew up in a messed up town to see where such had led many to.

The truth is, a lot of us without that father figure from much earlier in life are highly still impressionable when we find one remotely close to that image no matter where we have reached in life. And some men just want to get lost on their own irrespective of the presence or absence of those who control us.

Men are sometimes delusional and wanderlustful and it can easily ruin many of us.

Na make we dey use sense think of the past, and also, look towards the future.

Home screen? Can't post that.

Lock screen? Yes.

slimmoney:
our current judicial situation

Send please o.

kogic:

Please give me this your wallpaper.

JOACHINpedro:
Pls who noticed?
I don't know if na the daily anxiety and worry but It now comes like period, max of 5times per month. Lucky if you hit 6


Or am I the only one it happens to?

Bro, try to live a healthy lifestyle, it helps.

Stop sugar, alcohol and drugs if you do any such indulgences, and manage your stress level.

You'll be having mad erections that can even wake you up from sleep. You're OK, just stay calm and monitor yourself.

Caaz:
This baby really nor get joy.i just pity his future girlfriends cox he would turn dia breast to slippers.

This child really needs to be watched in the future.

Lol! He might grow up to hate it self, no rush go conclude on the bobo destiny.

Rozcol:
I wish to be a wife and a rock too to this type of successful man exactly like my mum is to my dad but unfortunately most Nigerian young men are not focused and success driven.Hbd llnp ma.

There are motivated young men out here in society, learn to be patient, tolerating, and empathetic with some of them, success takes years and many women don't want to try waiting on these men.

Also, be careful, some can not lead you to the dream you seek.

BLOODYSPERM:
You aren't worth it, biologically you have passed your prime fertility years and I'm sure you have diminished in beauty and would find it difficult to compete younger and more youthful women

You must settle with what you can get or you marry at all

Period

I don't know where you acquired this level of toxicity but don't go around spilling it all over the place, and on innocent people.

Sirlins:
Right now !!!!
Money dey
House dey
Work dey
Food plenty
But no woman yet, masturbation is closing my eyes and making the other gender useless

Toks2008:
There is this popular theory that a man must either be a smoker, a lover of liquor and if not these two, he must be a womaniser.

How true?

I think It’s up to a any guy to smoke if he chooses to ignore the health warnings and no biggie if any man drinks from time to time and of course, liking women and being a horrible flirt is up to any man. Anyone can pick their vices and live their lives in the way they please. No judgment.

But be that as it may, I think it is wrong to presume that every man would belong in either or more of these categories. There are men who don't do any and they are not less than a man.

So nairalanders what is your take, which one do you indulge in?

Oga Toks, plenty of people erroneously hold that going out with people who don't do any of these are socially suicidal to their imagine, I guess such people have chronic herd mentality going for them.

yazga:
A lot of men are willing to talk and a lot do talk, but here's what happens:

His secrets re used against him in an argument,
He looses respect from the supposed confidant,
A lot of women don't listen, they hear what they want to hear, string piece of words he said together.... And jump to conclusions FAST

Battle scars are real reasons men lock up and melt the key and the moulder.

IyaTola:
That's if you're even lucky to meet a Nigerian man that talks. I tried everything I could to get him to talk and be vulnerable but he thought it as weakness and just kept shutting me out until he managed to push me out of his life You can only listen to someone willing to talk.

Iya I'm one of those people who do this.

Person like me don forget wetin e mean self.

MissJoy29 abeg come help me answer this question biko. D;