Girlwhocares: Please help me, I'm loosing my sanity everyday! I'm scared to open up to friends and families because of what they will think or how disappointed or bad I will make them feel, also I'm afraid people will be judgemental about my actions.
I'm not physically and emotional connected with my husband which is affecting our marriage and my well-being, we live as co-tenant, we hardly have any conversation, we do things differently, we share different rooms, no sex for the past 3 years! Even during courtship and the fist two years of marriage I can account for days we were intimate.
Things are fallen out of place everyday, we have a child together who will be 4yrs and the thought of having another child has not crossed my mind.
I get irritated at everything, I hardly show appreciation towards him even if it means he has done his best, which later i will find myself guilty and try to make up but the spark and connection isn't just there.
Most times, I have a non-challant attitude towards him and everything he does to make me happy.
I feel lonely, bored and incomplete even when I'm 90% sure my husband loves me and always ready to make me happy.
I feel awkward communicating my feelings and thoughts to him because I know I might flare up with anger even when he hasn't done or said anything to warrant it.
Please I have come to this faceless forum to pour out my mind, my heart is heavy, I need someone to talk to, I'm afraid my personal intention of walking out this marriage even when my husband hasn't done anything to deserve this might backfire and has its negative effect on our child.
I honestly don't need anyone to insult me please as I'm going through a lot. All i need is mature married wo(men) opinions
Thank you for your time.
your situation is not strange, so many people including pastor are in such situation but quiet and dying in silence the chemistry btw you both is not working because one of you is hiding something( dirty secret) from each other , could be your husband or you, simply confront your husband with the issue, You find easy and quick solution , am talking from experience
Chikpat: I have never seen a country like Nigeria and a people like some Nigerians. Politicians steal from their common wealth and steal away their prosperity. Yet, any attempt to get justice, the same people who are being robbed by managers of the system never cease to rise to defend nonsense and rant "witch hunting". Saraki was too scandalous, idiots can say he was the best senate president for understandable reasons (he worked against his former party and his country for most of the time)... However, he should have lived above suspicion so that whenever they come for him, we would know what it is...This is no witch hunting and the guy should face the music. Nigeria deserves better
All we ask for is let the war against corruption be total, but is there any war at all or just oppressing opposition, because A to Z of naija politician including Buhari are all thieves.
exlinklodge: Prosperity Doctrine Is A Fraudulent & Satanic Doctrine From The Pits Of Hell - Daddy Freeze
OAP Daddy Freeze have another eye opener message for the people of Nigeria, Africa and the world beyond. I don't care if you hate him or like him but he is making serious sense and he is librating a lot of people from mental dementia.
The convener of #FreeTheSheeple movement and initiator of #TitheAgainstPoverty in his new teaching on YouTube and Instagram, shared a wonderful message which no pastor in Nigeria or any Nigeria school can ever teach you or even dream of teaching you.
casa101: Please can anyone connect me to a Priest/Pastor in fact anyone that can help me with Deliverance that is not fake.
I am 29 yrs old Medical Doctor. I stay in Lagos and work in a hospital(name withheld). My story started yrs ago wen I was very small that is in pri. Sch. Then I used to have sex in my dreams but never discussed it with any1 bc I don't know what to call it. But the sex in my dreams continued till date.
Again at a time I got worried but i bluffed it saying it was just a dream that it meant nothing. But now it seems it meant something after all.
During all those years till now I always have issues with relationships. Once I sleep or starts sleeping with any girlfriend of mine within 1wk the friendship ends especially if it is someone I planned dating.
But I observed something too then any girl that is just a friend but just sleeps with me in terms of mutual/friends with benefits without any luv or r/ship thing attached to the end used to last.
So when I noticed it I started keeping girls as just friends or mutual one. Luckily I got plenty for mutual friends but what baffled me most was that one that i used to sleep with in my 100l to 200l said one day "nawaoo why can't I get pregnant for you upon we have been sleeping together for over a yr without condom and yet she never take in. I became worried and decided to go for sperm analysis test. It came out fine but when another girl said the same thing again last 3yrs. I decided to find 3 runs girls that I paid to be having sex with me during their window periods to see if they will take in and willing to abort. From the day I started sleeping with them none ever took in. They said Oga you have a problem, go and get help". Note that we carried test on the 3 of them and it showed they are fertile and fit to get pregnant. But I never looked for an answer till date.
But then on Friday I went out with a friend that i planed dating but yet to sleep with her but that night it happened.
Hell broke loose yesterday when she called me yesterday and was so angry with me saying.. In her words "why did u not tell me you have a marine wife "?.. I was like what?.. She then continued saying that have I ever asked myself why can't i get into a serious r/ships , my episodes of sex in my dreams and getting someone pregnant. Don't you know the person you are sleeping with in your dreams?".. I was shocked bc of how she knew?
I asked her who told her and how come she knew about this problem?.. When I knew that I have never discussed it with her or anyone. She now said she met with my spiritual wife and that I should forget getting r/ship, married or having kids without her permission. I should seek for her(spiritual wife). Then as for her I should never talk to her about love and r/ship unless I want to just be having sex with her which she permitted her to give me. Besides she is an Ogbanje so I should not be surprised as she knew..
Now I seriously need a deliverance bc it is now giving me worries.. I will appreciate any help pls. Thank you
First step : go back to ur root , talk to ur parents ask questions about ur birth, from there u discover the cause of the problem, then u will know the right step for solution
casa101: Please can anyone connect me to a Priest/Pastor in fact anyone that can help me with Deliverance that is not fake.
I am 29 yrs old Medical Doctor. I stay in Lagos and work in a hospital(name withheld). My story started yrs ago wen I was very small that is in pri. Sch. Then I used to have sex in my dreams but never discussed it with any1 bc I don't know what to call it. But the sex in my dreams continued till date.
Again at a time I got worried but i bluffed it saying it was just a dream that it meant nothing. But now it seems it meant something after all.
During all those years till now I always have issues with relationships. Once I sleep or starts sleeping with any girlfriend of mine within 1wk the friendship ends especially if it is someone I planned dating.
But I observed something too then any girl that is just a friend but just sleeps with me in terms of mutual/friends with benefits without any luv or r/ship thing attached to the end used to last.
So when I noticed it I started keeping girls as just friends or mutual one. Luckily I got plenty for mutual friends but what baffled me most was that one that i used to sleep with in my 100l to 200l said one day "nawaoo why can't I get pregnant for you upon we have been sleeping together for over a yr without condom and yet she never take in. I became worried and decided to go for sperm analysis test. It came out fine but when another girl said the same thing again last 3yrs. I decided to find 3 runs girls that I paid to be having sex with me during their window periods to see if they will take in and willing to abort. From the day I started sleeping with them none ever took in. They said Oga you have a problem, go and get help". Note that we carried test on the 3 of them and it showed they are fertile and fit to get pregnant. But I never looked for an answer till date.
But then on Friday I went out with a friend that i planed dating but yet to sleep with her but that night it happened.
Hell broke loose yesterday when she called me yesterday and was so angry with me saying.. In her words "why did u not tell me you have a marine wife "?.. I was like what?.. She then continued saying that have I ever asked myself why can't i get into a serious r/ships , my episodes of sex in my dreams and getting someone pregnant. Don't you know the person you are sleeping with in your dreams?".. I was shocked bc of how she knew?
I asked her who told her and how come she knew about this problem?.. When I knew that I have never discussed it with her or anyone. She now said she met with my spiritual wife and that I should forget getting r/ship, married or having kids without her permission. I should seek for her(spiritual wife). Then as for her I should never talk to her about love and r/ship unless I want to just be having sex with her which she permitted her to give me. Besides she is an Ogbanje so I should not be surprised as she knew..
Now I seriously need a deliverance bc it is now giving me worries.. I will appreciate any help pls. Thank you
First step : go to back ur root , talk to ur parents ask questions about ur birth, from there u discover the cause of the problem, then u will know the right step for solution
Built2last: At the heat of Nnamdi Kanu's travail in court, I remember my good friend telling me that all men have a price tag. That Nigerian government should make him an offer he can't resist.I told him that Nnamdi has crossed the rubbicon. I told him that an Igbo man is wired strangely and that's the reason for his success in whatever trade he chooses. Dogged and very audacious. I told him that even if Nnamdi sells out or dies. Over a million Igbos who are Nnamdi wannabes are on the line.
The twarts in Nigeria's government are capable of offering you anything to maintain status quo.
Nnamdi will make his final statement with Anambra election. Afterwards most Igbo elites will surrender as it will be obvious that power belong to the people.
Concerning having Benue and Rivers. When the time comes. Statesmen from those states will seat to discuss where they want to be. No need to disagree or insult him. Your insult or opinion on him won't change his stand nor influence the decision of the elders when it's time
If it happen that election did not hold in Anambra state, a state of emergency will be declared and military administrator will take over , that's when Kanu and his group will appreciate the freedom they enjoy now,all the gragra will stop
I read the well publicized article in which respected Bishop David Oyedepo of Winners Chapel called for the killing and sliding of throats of potential Muslims/Fulani attackers. In the words of Oyedepo
“You catch anyone that looks like them, kill him! There is no reporting to anybody. Kill him! Pull off his neck! And we spill his blood on the ground. What nonsense.”
Bishop Oyedepo Views Against Christian Doctrine: The call by Bishop Oyedepo with due respect goes contrary to the Christian teachings going by what is recorded in the Bible as well as Bible teaching on how Christians should live.
Firstly, Jesus, our perfect example displayed it when in the book of Matthew 26:52, he condemned Apostle Peter for cutting off the ears of one of the servants of the High Priest that went to arrest him, named Malchus. Jesus not only healed the servant but admonished Peter that "for all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword."
The action of Jesus Christ in the above story was in line with his teaching in the Mountain as recorded in Matthew 5:44, where he said But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;, as against "an eye for an eye" treatment that was practised by the Judaisers under the Mosaic law that was never perfect.
His disciples and the Christian Church lived according to this teaching by not retaliating even in the height of persecution during the Roman empire that saw Apostles Paul beheaded, Peter crucified under Emperor Nero, and other members of the early Church die violent deaths under the rule of Roman emperors. In fact, during that period, God showed John the beloved revelation of the last day BUT never did he empower him to retaliate or kill.
If Jesus Christ and the early Church stuck to Christian doctrine, where did Bishop Oyedepo got his own authority?
What Makes Us Christians: The believers were first called Christians in Antioch because they displayed the rare characters of Jesus Christ. If this is true, it is safe that the thing that made us Christians is our leading of the life of Christ, not that of any man irrespective of title. If we can't be like Christ and heed to his teachings then we have no business calling ourselves Christians. Jesus stance against retaliating to the oppressing Romans made the Jews to prefer him to die instead of the violent Barnabas. We must be like Christ by insisting on non violence.
If Apostle James could admonished the early Church that was facing trials of various kind because of their faith to "count it all joy", how much more us?
His Call Against Nigeria Law: Despite the fact that we have choose to accept our society to be lawless, the law of Nigeria is clearly against incite to kill fellow citizens and residents, as well as taking laws into ones hands aka self help.
The only authority empowered to bring defaulters of the law to justice is the Police and other agents of the State. No citizen has that power. As citizen, it is our civil duty to avail the Police and other security agents information to arrest criminals potential criminals and their activities. While jungle justice is usually employed by citizens due to ineptitude of the authorities, it never made the act right. But for one to incite the gruesome killing of people that "appear" as attackers and not just attackers, it is unfortunate. statement like “You catch anyone that looks like them, kill him!” must be condemned by all, and without partiality.
If these statements were made by Asari Dokubo or Nnamdi Kanu, I am very sure that the authorities won't take it lightly. The law must respect nobody irrespective of perceived standing in the society.
Statements Endangering Christians And Non Christians: BEfore any war is fought, there is usually inciting statements from so called leaders. The statements credited to some Muslim groups and clerics, as well as this credited to Governor Elrufai and Bishop Oyedepo is what fuels sectarian violence in Nigeria. Truth is, should there be violence (like we have in Southern Kaduna), it is ONLY the defenceless innocent that get killed, while the elites and their families are fully secured. Nigerians, both Christians and Muslims must understand that the elite are never enemies irrespective of their noise in the media.
The statement of Oyedepo is capable of causing counter statement from some Islamic leaders and attack on citizens will start. The statement is not different from those of Abubakar Shekau or other extremists like Miyetti leaders and some other muslim fanatical clergies.
I condemn the genocide in Southern Kaduna, it is my belief that agents of Kaduna state government as well leaders of Miyetti Allah are complicit in this shameful killing. It is my hope that a case is established against perpetrators of the violence to higher authorities (like the ICC), but it does not in anyway justify incitement against anybody or group of persons.
As Christians we must adhere STRICTLY to Christian doctrine and not apostasy! Bishop David Oyedepo must be called to order.
I shall end this with the Words of Apostle Paul to the Church in Ephesus when the Church was under persecution in the book of Ephesians 6:12;
Just watch and see what we will do to those fools if they attack any church in the south,even mosque will not be spare and that wicked Buhary and his demonic brothers would get more than they bargain for , any Christian that does not have gun should sell his cloth and buy one in battle readiness because Nigeria has reached the boiling stage
TunezMedia: Popular actress Bukky Wright looked sexier than her age as she stepped out recently, fully kitted in Military gear. Hard to believe she will be turning 50 on her next birthday This is not military outfit, ordinary flower cloth, if she comes to Naija with it Military officer will not look at her twice.
babz007: sometimes i am really afraid to go to bed because my dreams are always horrible and very real, i have defied gravity so many times to the extent that i know how it feels even when i am awake i use to think it was just a normal thing until i start having persistent dreams of seeing myself flying and defying the laws of gravity it is so real it baffles me a lot, sometimes i tend to speak big grammatical English that i have never spoken when i am awake, sometimes while awake i tend to predict future happenings, because i use to have this feelings i cant explain about seeing a particular event happening before but i do not remember......please help me out i didnt bargain for all these
do you live alone or with someone , or are you a male and married, just flash back when it actually stated and what or who came into your life during that period you will find the answer, categorically somebody at close proximity to you is riding you to witches meeting, just change environment or send the person away ,
GJames: This people will spend their time, energy, intellect and resources creating weapons as if they are preparing for an alien invasion. How will humans create this kind of weapons against humans.
The recent U S missile is called Hell missile and now Russia called theirs Satan, so every evil thing come from the devil to figth God creature
In an open letter he wrote to Rahama on Facebook in Hausa, Mallam Daurawa described the problem the actress had with Kanywood as trial from God to test her faith.
He added that Islam agrees with people being told to mend their ways when they make mistake.
He also suggested that marriage would be better for the actress.
Too many mad people in the North
And to think about the Northern backwardness, they want us to believe they are superior to other tribes , how did we become one entity with these Animals call Northern Muslim in the first place.
teemanbastos: this portion completely watered down Reuben's letter
Those prayer and spiritual cleansing were to suppress the evil forces, just imagine GEJ was growing older faster than his age while in Aso rock because of sleeplessness, story had it that the man has to get drunk to be able to sleep, I know a friend who is facing same problem from his demonic wife and except. He drinks 2 Goldberg he can not sleep,
Stella Obasojo , musa yaradua , Abacha died under suspicious circumstances, while in Aso Rock, well only those with spiritual eyes would. agree with these revelations, I hope Nigerians remember millions of money Jonathan paid for spiritual prayer according to Dasukigate,and when GEJ lost the election He said "thank God am free from bondage"
DrinkWater10: Whats the difference between ages nine and six? Can you give out your daughter's hand in marriage at a tender age of nine, and lastly why do these islamic religious leaders and monarchs like getting married to underaged girls? it is obvious that they are following in the footsteps of someone who we both know. Your guess is as good as mine.
They married underage as part of evil rituals to give them long life as instructed by their master Satan, what I don't understand is why they don't usually pick children from their own side, why always Christian
tinziemaine: This talk is disgusting to me , is paranoid, nobody can Islamise Nigeria or whatever name its called. because if the Muslims want war, we are ready for them!
one small girl Linda ikeji bought a N500m mansion for her comfort,and some Niggas in Nairaland said we should rather worship our God on a dung hill, this. Faith Theatre is just the beginning after it we will build another one, and another one , and the more you get us angry we continue to build bigger one , so that from this Earth all of you would know whose God is God indeed!
ValentineMary: Yet many of their church members can't afford 3 square meals a day.
Before I joined Winner Chapel a room at Iyana Ipaja. In Lagos was N5,00k per month(5naira) I couldn't pay for one, now I have four houses. already just following Bishop OYEDEPO teaching , so what you don't know find out, simple common sense
deeonlyme: The only thing I can ask God for is to forgive you for your lack of knowledge and not make you pay for the sin you just committed against his servant. This commission has built multiple primary and secondary schools in every state and has also built two standard universities. All these institutions have employed thousands of Nigerians with different academic qualifications. Please don't attract course on yourself and family.
please don't waste your time defending Bishop or Gods work, the theatre will be built no matter who is angry, because this is what I will do with my means cannot be CHANGED " Ba yi ni emi fi kan mi se, ko yi pada " As for me am already preparing my own Financial seed for the Temple.
Iykestix: The president and founder of the church Bishop David Oyedepo made the announcement on Friday 11 December 2015 Shiloh. The church is said to be a 100,000 seat capacity for adults and 10,000 for children. see the proposed church
As God live , I will take part in Building this temple , Almighty God is moving again
hotobo: All this sia boys look bigger than there senior brother ( SE) still they don't have skill, control and can't even run. All the back line is useless only d guy with 15 Jersey is good, d worst is the 6 Jersey tall for nothing. Some of them at the front has Yarm legs preventing them from running properly.
Sia never produce good player after 2005. It make one to conclude that truly he's taking bribe to kick players.
This players can't go beyond group stage on Rio. God is the one scoring for them since
Thank you my guy, these are worst set of players have seen for long time now, they don't play like Nigerians, just a confused elements who paid their way to make the Team and that siasia will destroy his career by selecting these nonsense players
GudluckIBB: Dokpesi said he collected the money for publicity on behalf of jonathan and u are here defending him.
Its a pity that people like you exists. You should have come to this world as a bathroom slippers.
I recalled that Dokpesi did not support GEJ initially at first term instead he pitched hist tent with General Banbagida campaign team,so is a simply equation the money was to buy his support and others Dasuki distributed money to
bros you just heard the word" SCAM" and you lack the meaning? If you don't have anything to say, you watch and read comment only, never say that again .
femidejulius: Yesterday on this forum I read how a church bought sorrow to the life of a to-be couple by turning down their wedding even after people have been seated inside the church. A lot of churches nowadays will not give their nod to marriages because the wife to-be is already pregnant. Whilst this thread is in no way justifying pre marital sex, it does intend to open the mind of people to the truth about churches and their responsibilities as regards marriage and to save people from shame which might eventually lead them away from the church :
1. Church wedding is unchristian and unbiblical: Go through the bible and see for yourself. The weddings take place according to traditional belief. From this, traditional wedding is the acceptable wedding according to the bible.
2. These churches won't test for your virginity but will test for pregnancy. The result is that dos who have constant sexual intercourse but are smart enough not to get pregnant and those who have been severally pregnant but have done abortion are free to get married in the church. This is injustice by the church.
3. Lord don't despise sinners : Jesus throughout his life on earth is always seen amongst sinners. Remember the parable of the lost coin and the parable of the lost sheep. He said he came because of them. He will never turn them back. Okay, but the church will refuse to join the to-be couple together because they have sinned (she has indulge in pre marital sex). When you turn them down from the church, where do you expect them to go? A lot has since been discouraged from the church because of this.
4. Why do marriages still crash even after the wedding took place in the church? Why do even pastors wedding crash? Getting the "pastor's blessings" do not in any way guarantee your success in marriage. You don't necessarily need it.
5. I know some pastor and churches have turn the church wedding to money making venture. If you hear what they collect to make the church wedding happen in their church, una go fear fear. They ask for this and that before the wedding,but then, how much do they pay for salvation? Conclusion: A traditional marriage is what actually makes you husband and wife. While there's nothing really wrong about with church marriage, it is actually avoidable. You aren't committing any sin by doing only traditional wedding.
NB: While these are my person opinions, I am open to criticism.
bross thank you , its not ordinary opinion but deep knowledge, No wedding was conducted in the Church throughout Bible , if the father of the Bride did not give you his daughter no matter the church wedding, its fornication
For those who may not understand. Spiritual aspect of politics entails paying prophets and spiritualist to turn the atmosphere around and all unseen forces therein in politicians' favour. It is an old practice that's capable of giving politicians upperhand. They identify alfas, wolis, prophets, jazzmen and witches & wizards for hire, and pay them to work in their favour. They rig the spirit realm because nature abhor vacuum; either the good people stand up or the bad people fill in the gap forcefully by default.
When their political godfathers no longer effective they resorted to consulting their political ancestors in the grave N4.6b, fools!
politricks: Good this is the change we seek. But wait o, if this ex-commissioner could get 10 years for stealing 51 million, how many years will Dasuki get for diverting 2.1 billion dollars 'fastest fingers first'. Note, dont use small calculator, it will blow.
you now see the injustice in the judiciary system, The man who stole N32billion pension fun only end up paying fine of N750K , without jail term
feedthenation: If true this is serious, the Office of the National Security Adviser has been turned by the last government to an ATM for election cash disbursement.
No wonder the security of the country was in jeopardy, Mallam Dasuki and others have so many questions to answer.
Yet with the 'supposed' amount received by Dr Dokpesi, the staff of AIT are still be owed many months salary. Two things still baffled me in AIT, the man is always owning staff salary of 6 to 8 months and every year one notable AIT employee must die mysteriously, something is not right
EVILFOREST: I tire ooooo. See how them wear CUBICLE for body.
Person fit dey inside start Baby Factory business The hijab help the so called Muslim women disguise to enter Hotels to commit adultery with all these Alfas, we have seen incidence of such many time . and as for that professor of fools, may his family be at front row when any Bomb explode
Family › Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Cateyes07: 2:39pm On Feb 23, 2020
