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Lewaluv:
My bae has all this and more!

Do you have them too?

fumisko:
True
So it's possible to love without commitment
But is it possible also to commit without lovin in a relationship?

The capital answer is NO but you see the definition of love by some people these days is scary. Exactly this question u asked popped up in my mind in my last relationship which I just left some weeks ago. I was committed in various ways - money, time(even though am a programmer) , sacrifices with her doing nothing other than her just saying I Love u nw. But when I ask her about commitment she goes crazy on me and start the "you nag too much talk", so if we look at it again from your angle I can conclude that the love wasn't there or probably was there but somehow got lost in transit

gentlegenius:
You are right, her studies is paramount. But do you know that what she learned in school alone can never make her a better person in life? In fact, what she is studying in school right now can never make her a good wife material or a completely successful woman. So if I don't date her now, how will I make her learn the basics principles that can make her successful in life? How will I get to teach her and mould her to be a good wife material? How will I get to correct her whenever she succumbs to peer pressure and make mistakes as a teenager?
My brother, as the saying goes "catch them young", I'll advice you that with the kind of things happening in today's marriages, if you want to marry and have peace of mind, get a teenage girl now and start working on her. They are the easiest set of girls to influence. Teach her, guide her, correct her and mould her to be the kind of woman you want to marry. Then settle down with her once she's matured enough. I have seen most men did this without regret.

you are so funny, let her enter the university then you will know howfar

btw will you let your own daughter start dating in secondary school

fumisko:
Marriage has no graduation. A lady or guy can pretend for years but not forever
You knew it would be over soon didnt u?

yes but i just used that as an example of commitment .you can pretend to love someone but you can't pretend to be committed to them , commitment requires work,sacrifices,compromises etc.

gentlegenius:
You are really lucky my guy. But if she's still a teenager, then you need tolerance and understanding to flow along with her.
I am currently dating a secondary school girl and I think they are the best kind of girls to date.

Stop wasting your time, in fact I will say stop wasting her time. What should be paramount for her is her studies

fumisko:
I believe it is hard to offer commitment without love. Why would I want to commit to someone I have no attraction or liking for. Don't u know its love that would make you see your wife crying and you would feel it at the center of your heart...if u don't love her...nothing would make u want to tell her sorry....or ask for forgivenesss even if you not at fault....
Christ said love is d greatest...that's wat makes him forgive us wen we sin again and again
I think the issue is that we take love to be a feeling...
I see love as feeling +commitment+ tolerance etc

If I have no attraction for you or that thing deep inside that ( we call love).....I won't care..ask those my male friends that ask me out over and over again that I have no attraction for......my point is when I have no feeling for you....I cannot even think commitment
You are committed to, tolerant of, and devoted to someone u hv dt depth for.

Do I love the maths I did while in school? No I was committed into passing them so I can graduate

bigfather:
Teachable and Tolerance are d biggest attraction for me.

Me it's commitment and tolerance

This is a mature write up, this is indeed reality. I used to tell people love do fade away when commitment is dead

NtoAkwaIbom:
I jus tire oo, those people can hate.
The hate Buhari no mata say him d fuckub small. they hate everything about him.

they hate Fulani people like mad.
they hate Hausa people like Killed.
They Hate Yoruba people who are accommodating them hugely.

now, if we say we dnt want to join Biafra, they will now hate on Ibibios they claim as their brodas, they will hate on us as if we attacked and raped all their daughters.

The level of hate in the region, is why it is so red.. too much bad blood..it sickens the very ground the walk on, and it cries blood.

The thing tire me o

YorubaForum:
Right from the onset, i knew you were not from there, maybe you manage to learn the language because majority of the akwa ibom i know and have come across, have never in their life said poo about Biafra.. They don't even joke with it, i was supprised when somepple said there were little movement in uyo.. I wonder.. I didn't believe it uptill now..
Afonja demon ,pls go to hell with ur Hatred for Biafra..

What do you people gain in always attacking afonjas sef

mfm04622:
Are you an eye witness? How did you hear the story? Any evidence? Maybe reported anywhere?

Am not an eye witness, we read it here on nairaland and it also came out on punch too, you can use Google

blingxx:
we all know that you know nothing ,your brain is full of dust and cobwebs

And in the month of Ramadan you can say this, so what happens after Ramadan..now you see

Asidiq23:
You be mumu,no peace loving and sane Muslim would disturb any other religion group from practicing their religion.. Islam preaches peaceful Co existence among every people irrespective of tribe and religion...even in the days of prophet Muhammad, there were Christians and Jews and nobody disturb each other

We both know that's a lie

mfm04622:
Where and when did Muslims flog Egungun worshippers. I really need to know. Will appreciate if you include evidence

They did at Oyo, oke ogun precisely that was this month sef

DONSMITH123:
that is to say, you are giving the masqurades thumps up.

I don't really like that Kathmandu babe but I think she made some sense here if we compare it with how muslims flog egungun people during their festivals. If muslims were in the majority in Ekiti they will have disrupted the egungun festival. But above all I think its barbaric for the egungun guys to go attack people in the mosque

huntila:
Fashola mentioned it this morning on Channels that he had approved it and wrote a letter to the Governor.
Why are the playing politics with it? If Fashola does not approve, Presidency can't approve.

So fashola is greater than presidency I give up

Fremancipation:
You said it. I didn't.

All i was saying is that considering all akwa ibomites i have come across in my dealings, i have never seen anyone like him. They are straight forward and easy going people. I don't know where NtoAkwaIbom's Igbo-phobia is coming from so that why I was asking him to look into his family roots.

Hmmm

Fremancipation:
You can insult me all you want but it won't change the love I have for akwa ibom people. There are lots of them in aba doing business and working hard. Both men and women. They have the "can do spirit" i see amongst Igbos. They dont have the igbophobia I see in some other groups and they are confident people just like igbos.

You on the other hand need to ask your mother who your father really is. Something went wrong with you.

So any akwaibomite who doesn't support biafra is a bastard?

Where I fit buy popcorn pls?i must stay till the end of this thread

Let me follow this thread, the thing go sweet die

badthinds:
Very cool and abstract. I like creative people like you. Just keep it up Nice Job

no be me do the tutorials nw

badthinds:
shouldn't a nigeria programmer understand simple english ?

And what's bad in the pidgin? I think its cool

Thinking of what to say.....

dhtml18:
I think you should go back to your psychology, those that told you so are telling you the right thing - you will do well to listen to them.



that is how they use to tell me to go to my M.B.B.S back then




but if you are like me - ANYTHING THEY SAY GOES IN THROUGH THE LEFT EAR AND OUT THROUGH THE RIGHT EAR!

On which side are you now ahahahahahah

Consult IFA for this one o

makydebbie:
Very useless Nigeria.

You don't have to reply him

mooremoney:
How did he get the photo that he posted online?

Was thinking the same too

Olokun17:
They are firstly Yorubas before joining any political party... that's why Yorubas always sing that Amorawa oh taba ti ri Rawa.. meaning we know ourselves when we see each other. So no big deal..

That's what subtlemee doesn't understand. We are first Yorubas before anything even before religion sef

Kathmandu:
she doesn't deserve any help from him.

You are always too violent with your comments , haba is she not a fellow lady like you?

I will do it for 500k sef. 3m is too much

honmusa:
With the level of kazeemisation I dey see so ,Is better i allow this cup to pass over me.

its not fair ooo

honmusa:
I thought u say u want AC

yes i do, but i want to know if the engine has the capacity to carry it