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toboy:
Lol! This is a very good question that alot of men don't think through. Personally, I think I will be comfortable with a woman being in charge, especially if she is more capable than me. As long as love and harmony reigns.

As soon as that happens, check the last meal you must have had and where it came from... You must have successfully eaten efo riro with some baba's condiments ooo...

pejuhazel:
Why must there be a head in a marriage? I believe any man fighting or clamouring for that position is insecure because if he were a man who is confident in His masculinity, he wouldn't mind sharing responsibilities with someone he has decided to share his life with. Marriage is a partnership because it requires the knowledge of two people to make it a success. All this talk of submission belong in a master/servant relationship.

Submission is relative in the context.. It depends on how you interpret it, but before the marriage, why didn't they both go on their kneels to propose? As y'all want to be smart with equality now.. Did you propose to your hubby or he did? Why don't you ask yourself why you didn't propose together? Or why didn't you both go on your kneels to propose? Did he pay the bride price or you did? how much of a groom price did you pay?

Same guy you must have told severally or use your mind to apportion him the duty of always sending recharge cards and making the calls when you both were dating... Why do we want to be more saintly more than the Pope? Deep down in you guys mind, when you have sons tomorrow or even your brothers, and you go visiting, encourage the wife to seat while your son or brother sees to his roaster's time to making the dish in the kitchen all because he's married..

That is where the various gender roles as stated comes in.. I am not against helping your better half, I am against turning it to a 'must do' and by force

salford:
The arguments above further proves that the CBC was right after-all about the most common reason for divorce among immigrants. No matter how we twist it, some immigrant husbands especially from Africa, Asia and the Middle East would never accept a split of traditional responsibilities till strains start appearing in some marriages. The culture from back home is really strong.

Mum has now realised that dad can't just be sat in the living room with remote control on one hand and legs on the table while she does all the work at home.

I believe everyone has one or two things to learn from the arguments. Couples should endeavour to support themselves in Canada even if it requires splitting tasks into 50/50. Lets forget about pride, tradition or culture. it's all about working together to achieve success and a happy home.

Uncle Salford,

It will be 50/50 when both parties involved work the same job that will bring same income oo.. No one is gonna be one cent more than the other

Both parties will have the pregnancy for 4.5months and transfer it to the other for the rest 4.5months and on the delivery, the two parties will share the baby and deliver it the same time

Maternity leave and paternity leave will be shared equally also to cater equally for the newborn

The both parties will have to start work at the same time, close the same time and go and pick the kids in school at the same time

Until then 50 o ge 50 ooo..

While the above is never possible, the most important ingredient in marriage I should think is most importantly understanding, maturity and sacrifice.

O ju ti ri ooo..

vcole:
ceemac I read your first line and just didn’t have eye power to commit towards reading more. Just a little education cooking is for cooks. It is not a gender ascribed role and majority of the best cooks in the world are male, so go figure.
In the end, whether a head is hiding under the cloak of a religious or cultural practice that confers unmerited power upon said head or not, the advocates of a headship and 1 captainship or 1 drivership are all doing so for their own self interest to remain in the seat of power because it simply feels good and comes with perks. Whether you admit it or not, that is the truth.
Abeg my keyboard self don tire. You can reply oh or even throw insults sef but I won’t even care. #arguewithyourpastororimamorguruorwhoever

I can tell you have been immersed in the Canadian culture which is good, I respect women for what they are in its entirety, I didn't streamline the cooking as a duty of a woman, but she shouldn't in all sincerity now be using her mind to be sharing work, that in itself is actually my point. She mentioned it like it is only the woman that cooks which is erroneous. Me, I sha cannot marry a woman that will use mind and be doing cooking roaster for me, hunger go to beat am oo.. I can cook by myself and it is expedient she also tries to cater for herself and THE HOUSE altruistically.. She cannot say I will bear most of the financial responsibilities which I am willing to bear as a man and will now be using mind to share domestic chores.. She go wait so tey she go loose weight ooo..

My dad is a better cook than my mum, why he will always do it when my mom is not around or anytime he feels like when my mum is around, we will always pray mom should travel so we can enjoy the culinary expertise of my dad, but in all, my mum will never take that for granted. No wonder marriages before our generations lasted way better than what we are seeing now...

maternal:
3. LOL stand up to their man ? So a woman shouldn't have a voice or opinion ? So she should cook your food, have your child, do as you say, then open her legs at night for you. Then the cycle begins the follow day. The sec she says she doesn't want to do X, then she's "standing up to her man". I need you to elaborate what you mean by that. And yes most women stand up to their man in the west and form equality. She'd be stupid not too. Many woman have died for such a right.

4. YES. Any man who feels a woman loves to be treated unfairly is an idiot. Give a woman economic power and you'll see how she really feels about you. You think woman abroad are just more stronger than the woman in naija ? The woman abroad have a system that'll help them.

5. LOL Abeg go and sit down. Remain faithful to one partner ? A naija man ? Marriage for you is the ability to f^ck as many woman as you like. While your wife remains at home, submissive, while doing everything you say like a house girl. Who do you think you're fooling here ? Pop out of marriage at the slightest hint of unhappiness ? Bros, if your wife cheated on you with another man, would you stay and work it out ? Be honest with your answer Mr Saint.

Why would any man want a woman to remain in a marriage she's not happy in ? Seriously. Is it insecurity ? I'm confused.

I am kinda most interested in the bolded:

3. So she shouldn't cook? Maybe the man does not have to 'fend' as a duty for the family also. Did you say have YOUR child? I don't know when children became only the property of the man? You also mentioned open her legs at night? Is it only the man that enjoys the act? Can't you see from the previous post where a woman willingly forfeited 300k in Buhari's regime becos of 'soco'. If the man doesn't demand, the same woman will start raising suspicion that he is seeing someone outside..

4. Don't you think there is a reason the creator created a man first? Or why all the Supernatural beings' messengers like Jesus, Mohammed, Budha etc. pointed to are depicted as men and not women. For the records, I am not and will never be a sexist, there will always be a space for the sun and moon in the universe.

5.Don't be stereotypical about Naija men, the country already has a bad image enough to further single out some set of people for castigation. Go and see how other nationalities are rushing the same 'Nigerian men' . A prophet really does not have regard in his own house.

rainazoe:
Please what is the fastest way get to Kitchener from Toronto's Pearson Airport. With the cold, I am not even considering the rail service and I am not sure a pre booked cab will want to be kept waiting when I cannot determine the exact time I would exit the airport.

Your best bet will be Greyhound bus on arrival, you can check their schedule online and know what works best for you. You may also consider Uber as an option as it will be readily available on arrival and finally, you may also never go wrong with flat rate airport taxis from the to your destination.

I do hope that helps

Trizadove:
Also, what about her work experience here in Nig? cant it be of use if she gets letters from her employers?

Work experience from Nigeria do count provided she worked in the required NOC A, B or O as required by Express Entry
She can regularize to become a PR while still a student, No rule that forbids that... People have done it successfully and your sister is not going to be the first.

As being a student, her best bet will be FSW as she is not eligible yet for CEC (She can only be eligible upon completing one year in any of the required EE NOC job for 1 year minimum after graduation)

Having said those all potential immigrant requires a test of official language, the only reason your sister may not require IELTS is if she takes a Test d'évaluation de français (TEF)

I do hope she finds the information useful.

As for immigration lawyer suggested, I could be an unofficial legal immigration consultant...

For the most part look for the sister's thread for guidance... All you need is on there...

Walebayo:
hello landed colleagues... do tecno phones work in canada?

Depending on your luck, It will work as regards turning on and playing music
As for if it will work based on what phone is supposed to do as regards phone and not mp player, for the most part it should work the CASE 2 listed below. It is all dependent on the model(which may be difficult to tell), luck and maybe your service provider

CASE 1: It may in its entirety never be able to identify network
CASE 2: t may be able to identify only Edge and never 3G/LTE
CASE 3: Depending on the oil on your head, It may just be able to identify all of the required i.e. EDGE, 3G and LTE which is most times not the case

While I may need to remind you and every one else that you may do well to sow the seed of the charging block into family and friends' life in Nigeria and come only with the USB cord if you are so much emotionally attached to your charger like we do to 'follow come'. The charging block will not match the receptacle type used in Canada

salford:
Winter gears from the UK would not work efficiently in Canada. Their winter apparels are not suited for the extreme cold in Canada. I moved here from the UK and ended up throwing my UK winter jacket in the trash bin.

Say it louder!

Winter gears from Russia, preferably the one designed for Moscow will be well sufficient for Canada's temperature.. They are winter brothers like that!

cochtrane:
Yeah, you are mostly right. But one can also apply as Licensee without needing Canadian experience, don't you think?

AS APPLICABLE IN ONTARIO AS OF TODAY:

You can only apply as an EIT without a Canadian experience, You do need a minimum of 1 year Canadian Experience to be eligible for P.Eng and that will also include taking your Professional Practice Exam (PPE).

Find below the Licencing Requirements as regards work experience:


Licensing Requirements
• Acceptable engineering education
• Professional Practice Examination
•Good character (i.e. no criminal record)
• References (all supervisors, minimum of one
P.Eng.)
• 48 months of acceptable engineering experience
(12 months must be within a Canadian jurisdiction)

The below link may be of further clarity:

http://www.peo.on.ca/index.php/ci_id/30275/la_id/1.htm

cochtrane:
@Einsteino, What did you finally decide on here? I have found myself in the same situation pretty much.

Irrespective of the number of years of experience you have from Naija as an Engineer, you need a minimum of one year practicing and doing engineering duties in same role of your discipline to be considered for a P.Eng license. Having said that, I will advice you start of on arrival as an EIT as that will afford you good time to scout the engineering jobs related to discipline to gain the needed minimum of a year experience for the P.ENg application and you as well can write your professional exam during that period also.

cc: einsteino, this information may be useful after your excursion around choice destinations. You may also consider voyaging on Titanic II which is set to sail in 2022

safex:
Eyin iya osoronga, arogba aso mo bale, iba yin o. E waa dakun e jebure o, e fi iwe ase irina odomode yi le lowo o. Eko yin ree o, epo ree o, shawama naa ree o, ati holandia yogot

Ibile!

salford:

Not totally correct

When interviewing candidates at my work place and there is a tie in candidates performance, we would default to the candidate with the higher grade. I am sure other government departments in my province does same too.
When we take on Co-op students too, we usually try as much as possible to pick the ones with the highest academic averages, aslong as there are no staff kids competing for the same coop positions. Alot of oil companies in Alberta also ask for transcripts when submitting applications for jobs.

Not wrong either

We are saying one of the same.. While I agree that most coop positions considers grades, I am also in the know that some organizations require transcripts on application for mostly Graduate Entry level jobs..I intentionally made mention of 'vast majority' and not 'all'. Most IT jobs which is like the largest employer of labour will only require how proficient you are with their various software platforms and the related skills and certifications you can use to back those up and not necessarily institution grades.

TheCongo2:
OMG... am I dealing with a bully now?
Sorry sir/Ma , I can't remove it.
I can't be bullied
You have the option to ignore my post

If there is any bully here, you sure are the one! My request posts showed civility and appeals.

I responded to issues head on without calling out names apart from the OP which was necessary I did as a pointer to her..

Only for you to mention my moniker in some negative statements which I have appealed on two occasions for you to take down with no intentional action to doing so..

Who then is the bully? Repeat the question solemnly to yourself and let your mind give you a sincere answer..

TheCongo2:
Here we are talking about a permanent resident with the option not to work full time but to focus on school and family. International students may not have that option.
If I can pay a plane ticket to fly to Europe. Why on earth am I going to use a man made wooden boat?

Can you just do me a favour Sir/Ma by removing my moniker from the said 'mediocrity' post as hinted? Thanks for your cooperation

CAVEAT

No matter the means of funding that Ms. Shokoloko is looking at, Let me be clear about my stand that I totally support her passion as to getting an education whether in class or online to pursuing her passion

Whether through loans or grants as suggested or through managing herself through the minimum wage job in the interim as asked about..

Above all, my own is pay all the sacrifices required in the interim to achieving your set academic goal and live happily thereafter.

I think with this, I am done this topic

#Peace out

TheCongo2:
I never said you are mediocre. Please don't get me wrong bro. I don't know anything about you to come to that conclusion.
What I am saying is that the steps you are suggesting will lead to a life of hardship that may end in mediocrity where a person could have excelled

Irrespective, can you kindly remove my moniker from that post please..

Its all looking good because it is a case of an immigrant here with several options, I know several people that came as international students' with limited options that had to 'codedly' pull the full time job on the side while schooling, It was no where near easy but today they look back and are thankful they did... While some others gave up studentship and went for some other routes if you know what I mean..

It is all different strokes for different folks

GlitteringStar:
Even during winter? Some buses here do come late and I heard they will be worse during winter. My point is if one (especially those with kids) can afford buying a car here, the person should go for it. It is a necessity and not a luxury.

I sincerely do envy your background Ms. Indeed not all fingers are equal and not all circumstances are the same. I normally suggest to people to live in peace with themselves within the confine of their income.. While I totally agree that car is a necessity and not a luxury, there are conditions attached..

A quick one, I know of many people that work downtown Toronto and will rather commute to work by trains or bus because considering the many other factors such as the traffic and most importantly the amount accrued monthly for parking, making some of them that own cars left with the weekends to drive to wherever and for whatever. It then depends on the individual if they are still willing to pay for so much on monthly insurance when they have just 8 days in the month to drive (Saturdays and Sundays) or they just rather take an alternative..

Our cases are all relative and there is no one fits all solution here.

TheCongo2:
If you are planning to go to school, just apply for the Student Assistance Program of your province of residence.
Don't even waste your time with a minimum wage job. Usually the student assistance program will give you enough for your school fees and living expenses. Leave the minimum wage jobs to the refugees and others people with no academic background

That is another angle to it, while the loan is an option, it is not one that appeals to all. That is why we are all here with diverse suggestions so that she can choose the one that best suite her.

I treated minimum wage as an option since it was on that, rested her primary question.

TheCongo2:
Merci beaucoup
I couldn't find any better way of saying it than this

I am afraid Bleep is suggesting a mediocre life where people have the option of going for the best

Please, kindly do well to remove my moniker from that post, I am no associate to mediocrity, that is the whole reason I am in support of her education proposal.. I believe indeed everything worth doing is worth doing well, If her mind can conceive it, if she is convinced about it, she will sure achieve it by doing it well...

GlitteringStar:
Even for families with kids? Going for shopping with your kids and carrying your bags + your kids in a public transport will not be so easy.....Waiting for bus during winter with your kids? Waiting for like 20-30 minutes in the cold?.... Biko, buying a car is a necessity for families with kids here.

why wait for 20-30 minutes for bus in cites that have reliable transportation coupled with the fact that the real time schedule of these buses are on google.. I do agree they seldom have glitches not to the extent of 20mins mbok..

The Finch 36 bus in Toronto comes every 6 mins max.. And some other buses are in that range of 7-10mins during the day... I have seen families of over 4 using the bus comfortably and yeah, the person in question has a child of 7 years which is not too young, young mums uses strollers for even way lesser kids in Winter... So what exactly is a sacrifice if it is not for some future gains?

TheCongo2:
Correct...
Then again, what's the point of attending a tertiary institution?

Gaining required skills and knowledge that can be transferred into solving problems in the real world within the confine of the focused discipline, There are good grade students that really cannot transfer those grades into workable realities.

At the end, it is all about what you can do to solve problems for your employer and not what those grades in the school are..

I am in support of excellent grades, so you do not get me wrong.. But at last, it is not all sufficient in itself

GlitteringStar:
My brother aby na sister , buying a car is not a luxury here, it is a NECESSITY (especially for families with kids).

While I agree it is a necessity, It can also be a nerve wrecking burden if the proper calculations are not factored in.. If you live in cities where the transit systems are near reliable, you may do without a car for the short stint, It will all serve as sacrifices for the greater dream.

GlitteringStar:
This ya post though......Remember that anything worth doing is worth doing well.

I do agree in its entirety.. An average performance and applicable knowledge is better than shredding the plan in its entirety because of the fever of wanting to doing all greatly... Half bread is better than none remember?.. If she does not take the course as proposed since it is her heart desire, I am scared she may just gonna be stuck with some kind of minimum wage job for a very long time... My fear exactly!

TheCongo2:
You may learn a subject just for the sake of getting a passing grade and Then forget all after the test or you may learn something to be an expert in the subject.
And the difference will be revealed during the job interview

You can actually be an expert in a needed and required area without translating into an excellent academic grade on the overall...

TheCongo2:
Very true.
I was thinking under the same line as well.
With children there are always unpredictable expenses.
Not to forget birthdays. Each time a child is invited to a classmate's birthday, the child has to carry a gift for that classmate.

Lol... Under strict parental budget, for now, the child should be made to shred many of those frivolities.. If s/he must go, Let him go grab dollar gifts from Dollarama..

TheCongo2:
Adding to that, it will affect her GPA. She may be an A student but end up with a C.

Like you already know that in this part of the world, the vast majority of employers do not really care about your grades.. Not even for college degrees. No class of degree is even written on certificates..

Bsbabe:
The calculation also requires some additions and that was the point I was trying to make earlier. As tight as it already appears, it is not complete as children come with their own set of expenses - minder (if applicable), after school activities and even the ones they will ask you to pay in school, clothes and shoes to buy as they grow etc. All these should also be factored into the calculation to help her make an informed decision.

That was the reason why I mentioned that she should save her money she propose to buying a car with and channel it to first settling down and getting acclimatized, she may just find a way around it. In the long run, the sacrifice will pay off.. Those minimum wage paying jobs just kinda stick to peoples destiny after doing it for a long while... My dread exactly

Bsbabe:
Please also consider that a 7 year old by law cannot be left on his/her own so even though your child is above the stage where you incur daycare expenses, there will definitely be other childcare costs except you have friends and family that he/she can stay with while you're at work.

I hear you ..

I should suppose she hinted part time studies for changing her professional line, She can do it as what the mind conceive, it can always achieve..

She can also do online courses from these reputable institutions around.. All na for the certificate.. If she believes she can pull it, abeg let’s rather encourage her and not discourage her.. It’s good she’s starting early..

Above all, let her settle in, take some time to breathe and see if she is still willing to pull up with that.. Do minimum wage jobs if required.. LET IT BE A PLAN FOR ONLY THE INTERIM.., GET THE NECESSARY EDUCATION LIKE YOU ARE THINKING NOW GOING FORWARD..

Shokoloko:
@AzeD1 and @BOSS13 we can all stop at this point. While you warriors were fighting valiantly over my matter I received my answers.
Thanks again.
Now let's sheath swords.

Ms. Shokoloko.. That moniker funny sha...

If you have paid your school fees, minimum wage will be sufficient to give you and your child a comfortable life..
This also depends on the age of your child.. If the child requires a daycare, I’m scared minimum wage may not be sufficient but there’s also a tweak to it as the government subsidizes daycare for those within some income brackets to which may be advantageous to you..

Having said that..
You said you intend working full time = 40hrs/week

Minimum wage for Ontario is = $14 (likely going to $15 next year ceteri paribus)

40*14 = $560, considering tax and deductions, the income will come to say $460, it may not be as low as that tho..

$460*4 = $1,840 per month without overtime, You may be lucky to rake in some overtime hours which will be some extra cash, let’s dwell with the base on this maths which is the above..

Average house rent cost = $1200 -$1300( look for the one that is all inclusive assuming it’s just a small or shared apartment)

Car insurance will cost say = + or - $200 ( depending on your class of license and your insurance company, if you can, I will say you should save the car money to support this calculation while you are still a student, get your license done tho and rent car when it’s most pressing and unavoidable for you to run intense errands)

You and your child cannot eat $300 groceries a month if you are sure to be cooking and stocking the house..

This calculation will be very tight but it’s very feasible.. Good number of jobs gives a buck or two more than the minimum wage, so just do weigh your chances on arrival..

I wish you safe arrival and seamless integration!

Expectantbee:
Hello sir/ma,
Please from your own POV, Which of the two cities has a better transit system? Mississauga or Brampton? And any other useful pointers you can give me will be much appreciated. Thanks

You may have your specific reason for making Mississauga or Brampton a priority, Have you ever thought of living in North York, East york, Etobicoke and Scarborough to mention but a few.. these places all makes up the GTAs and they have the same Transit that transverses the whole areas and they are all some minutes away from Toronto downtown( call it the heart of Canada, you may never be wrong!).

Having said that, I can't categorically say, I will assume the Mississauga transit is more efficient as regards time intervals, they both have same prices for bus tickets on a single way trip and I should also think houses in Brampton are on the average cheaper than Mississauga.

Newmum0615:
My wallet containing my driver's license was stolen last week. See me see trouble, when I was happy that I would get my FRSC letter before I leave with a license having at least 2 years driving history. date of 1st issue was in 2011 though. I am applying for another one next week, I hope the new one will still be accepted with the new issue date of 2018?

Do endeavor the new one has a second issue stated with the date you are envisaging quoted on it, I really don't know if it is a new thing with driving history as it was before now never required.. to the best of my knowledge and experience, it is just basically the drivers' license that is required and they correlate mainly your names and the dates of issue/re-issue to determine the class of license you can actually test for... So with a re-issue date stating 2018 and the license indicating a first issue of 2011.. You should be fine to go straight to road test the G class license after taking your mandatory G1 test, knowing fully well that you are headed for Ontario..