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Tradernaija:
Will you also discard me if I marry you?

This is a road that will leave you frustrated for life if you don't desist from it.

It required serious therapy.

Thank God you're honest, call me lets chat.

Do you want to help me?

I'm a very antisocial person. I literally avoid talking to people because I don't like talking. In fact, I can only can express myself properly in writing. But I found out that when I meet people I like, I find myself trying to please them. I get to know them, understand their personality and find out what their likes and dislikes are and try to become the type of person that they can trust. I force my self to be 'flawless' for other people. Its like a hobby, or a mission. I can't help it . The problem is, I found out that they tend to get attached to me and I hate when that happens because I get tired of people real quick. Keep making yourself too available and I start getting irritated. I become cold, short tempered and sometimes I can be mean because I don't what you around anymore. When people get real close to me, they start to seem...pathetic (I'm sorry) to me. Its really affecting my relationship with people.
About three years ago when I was seventeen ( I was in secondary school), I had this 'friend'. She was soft hearted and kind of fragile and didn't have many friends. I befriended her and for some time we were cool. Later I didn't want to hang out with her anymore because... Well, she always wanted to hang out with me. She confronted me when I stopped talking to her as usual, she was apologising( for nothing in particular) because she thought she had hurt me, her eyes were teary. I was sad but I was angry at the same time because I couldn't get why a human being would be so dependent on another human bein. She was too weak to me. I wanted to say I was sorry, that I was wrong for the way I treated her but I dead ass looked this girl in the eye and walked away. I felt bad but I hoped she would stay away. That was when I first realized I had a problem because a part of me hated me, another part of me hated her. It was like a crisis in my head. I wanted to stay friends but I wished she was tougher
Fast forward to three years later. I'm in the university now and I have new friends but I still like to isolate myself because I get bored of them and I don't want to be around them sometimes. Those nasty things we say to each other start sounding disgusting to me. Its so bad I'm not able to say "I love you", or " I miss you" when they said it to me. My new roommate is also a very picky person but I got to know her and now she's real close to me( perhaps too close). I'm already worn out. The other day she noticed a change in my attitude and she asked me if I was angry. I snapped and yelled ; " you keep calling me and its annoying!" She only wanted to talk. I was so embarrassed at my self.
Its worse with men. I never take guys who approach me or text me first seriously. I tend to be more attracted to people who give me little or no attention because I feel they are 'stronger' or 'tougher' emotionally and I won't take advantage of them (easily). If these people eventually soften up, or fall for me, I'm out.
I can't remember a time when I wasn't like this. When I was younger my mum used to scold me a lot because people kept complaining to her that I dont socialize. Most times I just hate being around people and if I am, I try to maintain a low profile but I get the most attention because everyone wants to know why that mysterious girls leaves her friends to sit at the back and never talks to anyone.
It's not just people, its everything in general. I'm a 200l student. The other day I was telling a colleague that I was bored of life, that I wouldn't want to work in a hospital in the future. She asked me what I would do if I dropped out. I told her I didn't want to have a job because "I don't know if I can wake up to do the same thing everyday".
Everything bores me eventually. I feel like a narcissist. I'm also very straightforward. I tell people how I feel about them even though it hurts them because I've always believed that my feelings come first ( I'm not sure if that's a good thing anymore).
I've tried talking to people, nobody seems to understand. Im tired of breaking good relationships simply because I lose interest in people. I feel like I have different personalities and I become a different person each time one of them dominates.

Did God tell you all this through WhatsApp?

Ewwwwwwwwwww

That kain music video for road. Kids could be on that road too

I watched a service kanye put together with this amazing choir and many celebrities like Sia. It was awesome. Its on YouTube.

simonlee:
Born again for where?
with all that ass you're tapping in your music videos,promoting immorality and all sorts... you think you're a christian?....

Why don't you worry about your self first. You think you're better? Hell to the no. Typical Naija 'Christian'

adecz:
E pain am!!

Won't waste my time exchanging words with a man. You're under me.

tfash96:
you should know excess of stuff ain't good.. Teni of all people should know what excess fat can cause in the body.. Oya judge but Money apart

If at all u were asked to choose any of These Tenis
.which 1 u gonna choose

I didn't say being fat is good. I'm correcting your statement. Its not how 'normal ladies' should look, rather its how 'healthy people' ( men included) should look. Fat people are normal too. You're welcome.

adecz:
Orphan with no home
training sighted....

No be me make u parentless...

Git off me back.......... orphan!!

You're such a fool. If you didn't know what to say, maybe you shouldn't have come back at all. Bastard.

tfash96:
This is how normal lady should look like not bag of beans she has turned herself to.. She looked like girl then and put on what normal girl should be putting on.. If not for money now men hardly woman she's turned herself attractive..Some will just go and be fat intentionally not that giving birth made her to look like that o I pray it won't be too late b4 she will realize.. If u wanna do ur tomboy who told her she can't do it with normal weight

You mean: "this is how *healthy ladies and men* should look..."

Praktikals:
The guy is right and you know it.
I gave up on you folks the day I met a lady whom I had screwed about 2 years previously and she did not recognise me again. I had to tell stories upon stories to reset her brain.

And your point is?

Cioccolata:
[color=#008080]1 man to 2500 bìtches
Says a lot about how cheap women are. [/color]

One man sleeps with 2500 girls, girls are cheap
One girl sleeps with 2500 men, girls are cheap. You're a sexist clout chasing.

adecz:
No....

Maybe he should have tied a bomb
to his waist & entered the market...

nitwit..

Its your mum who is a nitwit. Monkey.

Cover your nipples

adecz:



Why didn't he just hang himself,
instead of hanging his death on an
innocent driver's neck..??

Now, soup don come for police..

Hanging himself would have been a better option, huh? Smh

qualityGod:
[s][/s]

What a silly way to die

When sniper ,lagoon,river is there without blood spill
Youth rise up and stop letting old men fool you.


Ftc dedicated to pfpmoderator

Gosh you're evil. I don't know how some of you can just pick up your phones and write rubbish for clout. God forbid.

Techfave:
Hello guys, please I need enlightenment on this



My sister got married Last Year, she was pregnant already when she married, the man she married is over 40 years old, my sister got her husband through a religion organization, when the leader of the organization insisted that she must marry that man..

Now my concerns about is that this man she got married too is not financially okay, My mum always send money to my sister..


When my sister was about to give birth my mum finance nearly all the hospital Bill, the funniest thing is that my mum also borrowed the money somewhere..

My question is that,

Is is okay for my mum to send money to my sister after she is married??

Is it okay for the leader of a religion organization to dictate to my sister to marry this man??

Please I need enlightenment on this issues

For me its not wrong as long as the man is not pretending to be financially unstable. After all, she would do the same thing for your mum. But the man should also try to get assistance from his own family.

Pastor's reaction though. Lol

Rubicon67:
I am sure your means of livelihood depends on that section of the country you are trying to throw your cheap jab at.

I think he meant that a large number of Nigerians that love to eat ponmo will not like the news, not like he meant to insult.

Jabioro:
This one that looks like ape? I am a very decent man..no woman can thrilled me to rape..I am a father with much responsibility, thinking of rape any woman is last can come to my mind ...my children are stars well known home and abroad..I am not your mate.. follow me to reasonable comments..Ok

Very immature and irritating. You say you're a father?

dotunbidemi:
FCT after 4 years na wa for all those previous FCT's it's as if they are breathing Nairaland. I dedicate this to everyone that want to FCT one day, never give Up

Hmm. Are they paying you people?

Joshmodest:
Not only Tasha !
If u attended Nigerian schools , you'll discover that most beautiful girls , don't have brain thier side !

Its the same with boys, bro.

Looking at this picture you'd see that iPhone is better than Samsung.
Fine girl.

Charleys:
Send her Recharge card. That's all she wants.

What's doing you?

Nbote:
Dis guy is on a roll... He's definitely by far d biggest and most consistent artiste in d industry at d moment.. If he has had d connect and exposure Wizkid has, Burna will b rolling from album to album in d states

YESSSS

Whatsittoyah:
Pls how can I add meme to my comment.
Any time I try to add meme the app will stop.
If you know the solution pls leave a comment

Use chrome na

Take him to a police station

CosmicPhoenix:

6.not giving a fvck about nigerian ladies

Keep your fvck

People don't get that it was a joke

fasho01:
Loyalty is a scarce commodity these days.. Would even become obsolete soon if care is not taken

It was a joke.

amiibaby:
Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion u might as well say urs and shift ..... Don't quote me again cos the next one will be outrightly ignored... Tacha kill u der Mumu