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Admirer? Idk about that.

I think it is back up but only a shadow of what it used to be.

lmao!

jennykadri:
exactly how it is

men r babies chika,treat them like one,know what they need,give it to them,the key to every channel of their heart will b under ur care

it takes one intelligent person to understand that

I know they are. That is no news.(sometimes it is sickening sef) I just wanted him to explain it with his own mouth/hand.

[quote author=frank3.16 link=topic=179756.msg2908272#msg2908272 date=1223401776]I want to tell you all that men are just like babies(grown up babies therefore more complicated) you just give them what they want and u are in control of them.it takes an intelligent, strong, and sexy woman to do this and not and overpampering girlfriend.[/quote]Please explain this bit to me??

If you haven't listened to this album please do so. By far the best album of the year!

Pepper

The wives know about it but they chose to keep quiet.

Whatever happened to the courthouse? I swear some people are dumb!

It won't work if they aren't compatible. There is nothing you can do about that.

Women who say they don't get along with other women therefore they keep male friends are the troublesome ones who can't get along with others.

Hansome4U Oh the irony of that name.

Molare: Boucan
Douk Saga: Doug Saga en fete

onyinye2:
Not necessarily a guy who has and Ego of a Dove, but a guy who knows how to turn off that stupid ego. I don't want a guy who is weak, cause knowing me well. . . . . never mind.

Anyways, hey he can be fearless. But I don't want no man who feels he gotta be fearless all the time. That is just utter stupidity to me. Because they bet then who are weck as hell. I don't want someone who has a huge ego and feels that just because he is among the male species he has some of authority over me.
The only thing about marriage that sounds remotely beautiful is the wedding ceremony. The rest is uhhhhhh. . . . .

Singing cassie's " you got a long way to go"

onyinye2:
Hold Up! There is ALWAYS a choice to be made.

Marriage is hard work mayne. I mean serious work. With the Grace of God, I will marry a guy with the Ego of a Dove. Cause i know otherwise, there is going to be some serious collision.

Sounds like a push over to me. I don't think you'd like that very much.

One can never fully understand marriage until you get into it.

onyinye2:
Oh yeah mayne, you have just proven me wrong. That is so much of a compromise for a man. I mean giving up his space for his wife, is utterly breath taking. He deserves all the world. Nonsense. Like women don't like their space.

Sarcasm

onyinye2:
Na lie. Gini has he given up? Nothing.

This chic. . Odika imaro na men LOVE their space!! Just think about this little bit

davidylan:
my mother said the same thing before she got married. She learnt how to kneel down pretty fast, my dad and his family are yoruba so there's no how you're going to greet his parents standing . . .  

Men are simple creatures to deal with. The most important thing to cater to in a man is his ego . . . once you have that covered he'll eat from your hands.

Problem solved.

davidylan:
I feel for you . . . next time come as a man.  

But seriously, men do compromise a lot too. If you find a man who loves you with all his heart, you can get him to worship the very ground you walk on if you are intelligent enough.

Explain please

Compromise isn't a one sided thing. Men do compromise as well

All in the name of opening a new post.

[quote author=Gucci_Babe link=topic=173975.msg2834380#msg2834380 date=1222039699]yes i do understand you,   im just curious when you said when he hits you  n all,   I just needed to ask a question![/quote]All I'm saying is that it isn't easy just walking away when a spouse resorts to physical violence. At lest not immediately. I'm in no way saying that physical abuse is acceptable.

Queenisha: Thank you very much. These people don't even understand what i am on about.

[quote author=Gucci_Babe link=topic=173975.msg2834354#msg2834354 date=1222039222]abuse is a serious issue,  its a big part of it[/quote]When did i say abuse is ok? I just said it is hard to walk away!! Big difference!!

[quote author=Gucci_Babe link=topic=173975.msg2834327#msg2834327 date=1222038576]so its not even to leave him even when he abuse you?  my Gawd , all you have to do is pack your bags and serve him divorce papers, I mean so you should stay in marriage even though your husband beat you? [/quote]That's all you understood from reading that??

[quote author=_Queenisha link=topic=173975.msg2834249#msg2834249 date=1222036924]a lot of hard work and seflessness realising that I'm in this thing till death do us part.
no plan B[/quote]You what I'm right there with you.
Marriage is WORK. It can only work when people love each other, have and share the same values, have a GREAT deal of respect for one another and willing to be totally SELFLESS. It isn't going to work if you feel like you always have to control everything or you get upset all the time something doesn't happen they way you would like (trust me I know). You have to be humble and understanding. That man has to see his home as his serene abode. . where he can come and feel safe and happy. You have to resolve your issues but don't believe in that not going to bed angry thing because it doesn't work sometimes BUT always find ways to work it out.

Leaving will cross your mind. Yes it will but you have to know that it is till do you part so you can't just walk away. You can't change a man and having a wedding isn't going to change a thing!! So if there's something he does now that pisses you off better believe that it isn't going to change after you say IDO. Marriage is more of mental  commitment  than physical. You just have to get a legal document to prove it.  How many of us will say " oh if he hits me I'm leaving"? Do you really think it is that easy?? You just have to pray that God gives you a husband that will not resort to physical violence that's why respect is very important.

In the end, Only God keeps a marriage!! Only him!!! Men can be difficult to deal with and understanding them can be hard sometimes but once you find that one person for you, then it makes things a lot easier! Don't settle or else you will frustrate yourself and end up an angry married woman.