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ThiefOfHearts:
bride price. money. same bloody difference

jennykadry:
It is not all about the money TOH. It is culture.

Jenny answered it very well, @Jenny u'r the daughter of u'r father

Da Doctor:
Oga Chines4 , you are really oblivion of your own tradition

please dont feed us nonsense , you are contradicting yourself.

IS THE SAID CHILD A naughty person OR A LEGITIMATE CHILD?

In ibo land, a woman having a child before marriage isnt tolerated even if its in courtship.

and if the child has no traceable father, makes the issue worst, the child is simply a naughty person.

U'r are not a real IGBO man, maybe IBO man. BTW you just don't know the custom, better ask any elder from your place to explain to you

milehigh06:
rem the saying "the insect eating the efo leaf stays in the efo plant"(hope i got it right)
the so called friends will be the one sampling her regularly

Bros if worry about that u will die before u'r time. Just marry someone you trust and get u'r mind off that. sampling her is because she want and not because of the gifts

[quote author=anointed_f link=topic=686431.msg8493445#msg8493445 date=1307712260]There is no free lunch anywhere. Very soon they will start demanding for y o u k n o w!. Men are terrible, those gifts are just bait. The man too may be failing in this are. How often does he give the woman gift.[/quote]Must you give the u know, just because a guy buys gift to you. Yes that may be the guy intention but must you give?

I don't have any problem with my wife accepting gifts from male friends. Where I have problem is friends not know to me, and gifts that am not aware of, till when she want to use it. I believe so much in being libral, but there is a limit to everything.

yesboss20:
It shocking and scary how people can misinterpret stuff! These pple went to a revered man of God for prayers against untimely/premature death, for cryin out loud, what is wrong abt that? It is certain that all men will die but y shld I not pray against dyin young? It's rather pitiable hw some pple reason. Even after prayin individuali, why shldn't they go as a group, representin the entire PMAN body?
Oh Lord, please continue to have mercy on we humans, even as we continue to exist by Your grace.

My bros In tire oo, So its a crime now to pray. and who is without sin?

ThiefOfHearts:
You people are obsessed with money. If the divorce is due to the man, her family is still expected to return bride price?

awon were.

We are not talking about money here, but the custom of the Igbo's

Da Doctor:
[bOga oga, me na ichei o![/b]Culture in ibo land differ but SLIGHTLY.

Ok Ichie do now believe that a child out of marriage remains with the girls family, as per Igbo custom and tradition

Gr8est:
No I have not left my wife. I have severed communication with the other woman but I am not finding it easy.
I am trying to resist the burning urge to get back together with her

Good that the best decision that you have taken. Family is very important, and marriage is equally a hard work. Continue to resist her. Take u'r wife for shopping and buy sexy wears for her.

Da Doctor:
Chines, ,,,,tell me something I BET YOU ARE NOT AN IBO PERSON, We have no such customs.

SO TELL ME HOW MANY CHILDREN YOUR FATHER HAS ADOPTED ON BEHALF OF YOUR SISTER?

please dont dent IGBO TRADITION here o.

EXTRA MARITAL CHILDREN ARE NEVER GIVEN SAME RIGHT AND NOT TOLERATED. tHOUGH SOME MOTHERS(LIKE YOUR) WILL ACCEPT ON BEHALF OF THERE DAUGHTERS.

IDIOTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

Hey no Name calling here, For u'r information I'm original Igbo man. that knows the tradition of my people. Ask your father he will tell you that we don't marry a woman off with pragnancy. And if a man marries a woman and they seperates or divorces without returning the bride price. If the woman remarries any child born of her new marriage belong to her first husband. because the bride price have not been returned. athough due to a lot reasons pple kind of play dowm on this.

frenchman:
Poster, whats going on, have u left your wife?

Or Better still have your wife left you?

pinkrex:
Im sure that 'coursing dude' must be a Yoruba guy

Another Ethnic M_M_

U want start another Ethnic war

[quote author=baby-boy link=topic=674069.msg8443890#msg8443890 date=1307051092]Am not jumping into anyone's conversation, I was part of the this conversation from the start but all in all,

"CUSTOM" my black-backside!!!!!!!!! and what would happen if she doesn't follow the barbaric custom, ?


On one hand we have people saying its not our culture or tradition to have a love scene on screen, But they still embrace the medieval act of their forefathers,
[/quote]I agree with you on this.

Good kid, Pride of every parent. Thank God we still have good parents out there, and equally a wonderful boy kudos to you

no1madman:
Who gives a flyin Zap . . .i don't fuckin respect money. . .Zap money! money chop Poo!

Madman are you sure that its not f.u.ck that made u mad. Everything about is f.u.ck

ThiefOfHearts:
^wetin? Is that a "tradition" one should be proud of?

No definitely not, But just want to let Da Doctor that believes that after 1 is a big issue in African tradition. That we have worse tradition

I don't know why ppl just can't see something good in others, Why pple just believe that the like of Dangote, Adenuga, Otudeko,Otedola etc are just wonderful entreprenuers. and should be look at as mentors.

Someone that Alhaji Dantata gave him his seed money. Good have u asked u'r self where are the Dandata's compare with Dangote today.

Otedola is he the only son of past governor?

Adenuga is he the only son of a rich mother, etc

A book like Rich Dad, Poor Dad is an eye opener. Our educational system should encourage more entrepreneurs than book worms. For some of us that have ventured into so many ventures don't give up. Starting can never be easy, and success can not be easy, if not every Tom D1ck and Harry will be Dangote now.
Entrepreneurship is the key, it is not late start thinking outside the box. I can remember one company in Lagos"poo is Serious Business" can you beat that.

Strolls in sees Posters signature sighs and strolls out

Mmmmm now I know why Rev. Okotie married wife number two.

[quote author=baby-boy link=topic=674069.msg8428866#msg8428866 date=1306867476]

Do we still live in trees or Caves[/quote]In as much as pple rarely practice it, due to Christianity, but its still the custom, and don't jump into pple conversation, try and follow the thread before jumping in.

Da Doctor:
SEXURITY IS KEY.

Bros I take it, that what on u'r mind and not security

MsSophista:
I CORINTHIANS 2:14

But people who aren't spiritual can't receive these truths from God's Spirit. It all sounds foolish to them and they can't understand it, for only those who are spiritual can understand what the Spirit means.[size=14pt]

You have said it all

ThiefOfHearts:
add what?

Add to the insult he sure deserved.

ThiefOfHearts:
Look at this moronic illiterate.  Lmao watch as he struggles with English.

You can always tell a phaggot when they have to insult people based on physical. You are no different from the male hairdressers of ATL. market phaggot 

Abeg carry go, phaggot of Nigeria 

Let me not add to this Da Doctor mmmmm

Da Doctor:
From natural perception, you throw you weight behind what you believe is good and conceive as okay,

From the above, it is clear Thief oh heart and Chines4 will be a good morals tutor.

i even doubt if you guys arent in that same category,

I REITERATE, IN THE PLACE I COME FROM, NO MATTER YOUR WEALTH AND POPULARITY, YOU NUST HAVE A MORAL GRANDSTANDING TO SATND AND SPEAK AMONG YOUR PEERS.


AS LONG AS I AM CONCERNED, GENNY HAS GOT A STAIN JUST LIKE ANY OTHER PERSON, BUT SHE REMAINS AN AFTER ONE,

She is from Mbaise, and go find out, there are some priviledges she can never enjoy communally for having a naughty person,


If she were proud of the baby,,,,, she would have been bold toalways showcase her, afterall it is an achievment.

In Igbo culture, any child born by single Lady takes the Lady's father surname, and the child is treated as the lady's fathers child, with all entitlement of a full born.

Are u aware that if a man, does not have a male child, that one of the daughters is required by custom to stay back and born for the father, to keep the family name. U'r yet to tell me where u'r from. or are u ashamed of your town?

Lady T is 100% right. Be firm with her and still show her love. shipping her us to boarding school is not the best idea. The issue her is not what she want, but what is good for her. Just Imagine a child that don't want to go to school and your like no school for you today due to u'r bad behavior, do u think that child will ever change?. the child will get worse.

What is best for the child, that what you will do, even if it hurts.

kabukabu:
Paul is a mugu and a complete olodo,who stops in Lagos to help anyone? .Lagos is like Grand Theft Auto keep it moving or you risk being hijacked.

Why the name calling the guy is brave enough to do what you can't do, Help someone in need, Am not his fan but this act, just got him a fan, ME

MzDarkSkin:
[color=indigo]Here is my list of suggestions. 

[list]
[li]Be more romantic - Cook for him rather than eat out. Should you eat out, go to a place that allows the two of you to dine and be alone. [/li]
[li]Spend quality time - Take strolls together  or rather than go out, spend time at his house, your house or if you live together dedicate a whole day to yourselves. Repeat this as often as possible perhaps a day of the weekend be it saturdays or sundays.[/li]
[li]Be intimate WITHOUT being physically intimate -  Show him affection without being s3xual. Hold his hand or Cuddle  . Rub his back or give him a massage. Give him spontaneous kisses be it mouth to mouth or his cheek. Smile at him more.  [/li]
[li]Tell him you love him more often - it might seem like it's no use considering this is the very thing he refuses to believe but you have to be consistent when you love someone. Let them know it by way of mouth and by actions.[/li]
[li][b]Support him - [/b]anytime he comes at you with an idea or seems ambitious about anything give him some support. Be someone he can rely on to have his corner/back and can trust.[/li]
[li][b]'Stroke his ego' - [/b]Compliment him. If you want you could give him pet names that make him feel good. You don't have to call him 'King' or 'Daddy' but think of his positive qualities and go from there.[/li]
[li][b]Show interest in his loved ones - [/b]Show interest in his family and friends. [/li]
[/list][/color]

MsDarkskin na waooo your guy is trapped, if u practice what you preach

@Poster,
Go and do as she said. shikana, and if that did not work, then you know that u'r guy did not want love, but s3x

May their tomorrow be far better than their today. May look back and say whaooo I can remember when every home use to have a power Generating set. But now there is 24/7 power supply.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=676491.msg8404336#msg8404336 date=1306506528]and instead of using there money register for English lesson, they are buying BMW [/quote]Why all these negative comment. A guy was robbed and some ppls are here justifying the action. what is wrong about buying BMW. Can 50cent speak IGBO must the guy speak English after all the guy can speak pigin.

Paul Sorry dear that the society we are in. To make money is now a crime. Thank God for Life, You will get another show to cover the material lost.

Jona, Jona, Is it not too early to start asking for extension. Let see what you can achieve in four years first.