Penuelseun: Hmm, WOMEN!!!. They are necessary evil, wondering what can make a woman married for eleven years to suddenly seek solace in another man's hands. I think it is the promise of more money
Women are only learning from the masters in the game. We have read about unaccountable cases where the man brings in a new wife while still living with his wife. And every one sees it as normal. So what's so special about this one.
MojAyo: dats why its good to marry with some sex experience,I can't imagine two virgins trying to d thing without experience
Whatever rocks your boat. Remember that everyone was once a virgin. Being a sex expert requires some experience and one has lots of years in marriage to acquire that.
Redoil: no culture or tradition expect any man to be faithfull to his wife. Do you know that the sexual organ of a man has a lot of sweet/sensitive nerve ending than that of woman so expecting woman to be faithfull is reality but expecting man to be faithfull is a joke and a myth.
Redoil: most women are asymtomatic to almost all std that they might have spread the std to more than 50 men b4 knowing. Besides do you think you can have the strength to handle the demand of those four men? Be truthful to ur self
I expect my husbands to be faithful to me so that cancels the aspect of std. Whether I can handel it is a talk for another day.
Redoil: @ chinum. We men are not complaining and i see nothing wrong with having at leats 2 to 3 wives. Statistically women of marriageable age who are yet to get married are more than the men of marriageable age. Now for those women who could not get a single man as husband and they want to get marry should do what? With the ratio of women of marriageable age increasing geometrically while that of men is increasing arithmetically. For those of you women who will not want ur husband to take more wives after marrying you i will say you ar wicked and evil minded
iammrjohnson: Not to get the textbooks but to rest a little before another round of beating. I had given out all my textbooks to my junior colleagues after the exams.
Polygamy isn’t a new phenomenon, especially with regard to a man being married to several women. It’s rooted in culture, history and religion. And though many people are likely to condemn it for so many reasons, most people have no idea that being a polygamist also has severe health implications for men.
For one, sociologists say polygamy can negatively impact the psychological health of everyone involved, while the wives might also develop psychological issues such as anxiety and depression. In recent times, however, scientists have come up with empirical evidence that this ancient practice actually increases the risk of heart disease by more than four-fold!
“There is evidence that married people have better overall health and longevity; but until now, no study has assessed the effects of polygamy on cardiovascular health. “We found an association between an increasing number of wives and the severity and number of coronary blockages. This could be because the need to provide and maintain separate households multiplies the financial burden and emotional expense. “Each household must be treated fairly and equally, and it seems likely that the stress of doing that for several spouses and possibly several families of children is considerable,” Daoulah says.
Stress and Your Heart
To start with, researchers say, anyone who is involved in a polygamous marriage would attest that it puts enormous stress on all concerned, especially the man who owns the harem. Professor of Cardiology at the European Society of Cardiology, Mr. Michel Komajda, says long-term stress in family life increases the risk of coronary heart disease, which invariably affects the quality of life – in this case, the quality of the male life since the study focuses on men.
Consultant Cardiologist, Dr. Kunle Olabanji, corroborates this, arguing that the effects of occasional stress on an individual are unquantifiable, and that when someone regularly undergoes stressful situations occasioned by the type of domestic challenges that usually attend polygamy, the result is better imagined. In effect, physicians say, when you’re stressed, your body undergoes chain reactions that include increased heart rate, constriction of some blood vessels and dilation of others, slowing down of the intestines, inhibition of digestive secretions, and prompting of the glands to flood the system with cortisol (the stress hormone).
Alcoholism, Precursor of Heart Problems
Some studies have shown that men in polygamous relationships are more likely to suffer from alcoholism, which is thought, in turn, to perhaps arise from psychological problems they encounter in their families. Olabanji says the effects of alcohol on the heart is better appreciated when you realize that your heart acts like a pump that keeps blood moving around your body. The cardiologist says heavy drinking that many people engage in to escape harsh realities of life also increases the risk of high blood pressure. He says, “Drinking excessive amounts of alcohol causes raised blood pressure, which is one of the most important risk factors for having a heart attack or a stroke.”
Coronary Artery Disease
Daoulah and his team found a significant association between number of wives and the presence of coronary artery disease, narrowing in a major epicardial blood vessel and multi-vessel diseases – signifying more than one diseased blood vessel in the heart.
Hotstepper: Hahaha. Time really do flies ooo. Now to my story.
While in the university, apart from lectures and hanging out with friends especially during summer, I come on NL to pass out time and answer questions especially in Education and Travel. In the course of this hobby of mine, I met a friend here and we just became friends and briefly saw him when I went to Nigeria for Xmas hols.
We remained friends and he was on clutches and jobless. I spent a lot of time online chatting with him and a lot of money making phone calls. He had potentials because he was on clutches and in pain yet looking for a job because where he was working before didn't want to take him back.
At a point, because of slow Internet service in cafes at that time, I asked him if it's OK for him to send me his CV and details of his email and he did. I re did his CV and started helping him to apply for jobs since my Internet service was fast. I would apply and call him to tell him the places I applied and what position incase he gets call from them.
He got called for test and interviews for some but didn't get the job and I would always tell him not to worry that he will get. In his own part, he stopped telling me when he has interview so I don't get to tell him not to worry that he will get the job.
One faithful day in 2009, he called and was so excited and I could hear noise from the background and all he could say was that I should marry him and we will get married that same year. Mine you, this was in July and we are both jobless as I was doing my 2nd degree at that time. I.told him how can two jobless people get married? He laughed ehh and then told me he has gotten a job and I now came to understand that it's with a very good company, a multinational at that.
As usual I visited that year for Xmas and he proposed and the following year we got married as it was the same year I graduated. Not up to 4 months after out wedding, he bought me a car.
Mind you even his parents had people they wanted him to marry but he said it must be me because I stood by him when he had nothing and we're where these girls then. On my own part, my friends were telling me how can I be dating a jobless man and a man in clutches when I had wealthy suitors from here and some from she'll and chevron etc from naija.
I saw the potential in him even with his clutches and I knew he would make me happy now matter how much he is making. I am happy because after everything, he appreciated it and shows it. He is a good man, ambitious and goal oriented.
We are happily married with two lovely children, both born in Canada .
Ladies if you see someone that has potential please stick with him.and encourage him
ttymyluv: i am a follower of this thread since it started. i have posted herr before about I and Fiance then.. Now we are married both virgin. its over one week now but we do not know How to have sex. Hubby camt penetrate at all i feel too much pain and i am not aroused at all despite pre-intimacy. i am always scared whenver we want yo try cos i feel we do not get the spot. Hubby p***.s head didny enter at all. Infact i am noy enjoying anything about sex. i dont feel nothing while smooching. we love each other buy i am disturbed. He enjoys it a little but i do not. PLEASE I NEED GUIDANCE. Thank you..
I think this would be better treated in the sexuality/romance sessions.
sexynne: I served him lunch, guess he didt hear when I told him food is served, went to the room to feed our son, then he came in and complained that I didt inform him that i'v served food, so I shld come clear the table. Told him, if he wnt eat he shld clear the table himself. He left the room and came back with the plate n poured the content on me.
Filashade: Sure. You can use it on both Relaxed and Natural hair.
For better styling i.e you can part your relaxed hair into sections and then do bantu twists/knots on your hair (shown below) and leave it till the next morning then take out the twist and you will see how lovely it looks. It would look shiny and beautiful. Gosh I wish I wasnt wearing braids now I just dont like touching my hair to much, I like to rest my hair.
You can check out how to do bantu knots/twists on Youtube or you can click on this link below: