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It's sad, but here's what you should do;

1. Have a conversation with her about your needs. Tell her how important it's for husband and wife to have sex often in a week.
2. Ask her what she likes during sex, or what she wants. More pre-intimacy? What positions she like?
3. Stroke her clitoris during sex (it would make sex enjoyable 100%)
4. Get a water based lubricant for days when she's dry during sex instead of using spittle or cream.
5. Slowly suck her nipple during pre-intimacy. Circle the nipple with your tongue.

BlueAir:
U killed ur own post by saying rape is caused only by lack of self control,well I beg to differ that rapists rape in control.nothing like I had no control that's why I did it.

Read again. You seem to misunderstand the meaning of 'self-control'. Synonyms for that word is self-restraint, self-discipline.

When one is drink in the stupid idea of having 'power' over their victim, self discipline flies out of the window.

You need to understand that the term self-control is not just the ordinary meaning you think it is.

What you should take home from this post is this; rapists always have this sense of power. When they can't control the urge or the thoughts, they unleash their demon on the victims.

Two, I never said 'self-control' is the reason for rape. Read again.

Dazzol

AdamsAbubakar:
The truth should be the world's most bitter pill. When some of us maintain that indecent dressing is one of the causes of rape, some cyber attackers are quick to conclude that we are 'rape apologists.' They are quick to declare that babies and hijabis get raped too. Someone even poised that why are women not raped in beaches for dressing indecently? Of course the rapists are not really dumb to that extent, for they know they will be mobbed instantly by people there for attempting a criminal act. While it is true that babies and hijabis get raped, we must not forget that indecent dressing is not the only cause of rape, but just one out of many other reasons why it is perpetrated by rapists. Recent revelations show that some rapists heartlessly have carnal knowledge of babies because they were instructed by a spiritualist/babalawo/boka to do so in order to make quick money.
Ever wondered why a country like Saudi Arabia records as low as 0.2% of rape cases per year? Some may think it is because of their laws, but that is not the reality. A high level of morality and decency has been inculcated in these people. The punishment for rape under Islamic Law differs among scholars. It may include exile, crucifixion, amputation of legs or killing of the rapist if they used weapons on their victim(s) and threatened them.
A country like the US where rape is a heavy crime, and women supposedly have 'freedom' records one of the highest rates of rape in the world. Al-Jazeera reported in 2016 that more than 100,000 American women are raped yearly. This number would have greatly increased.
It is a well-known fact that a 'rugged dressing' by a female can easily arose a man's libido. When you wear a sexy dress, you are not only looking supposedly attractive but sexually inviting to predators who may not be nice enough to ask for your consent. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines sexy as "sexually suggestive or stimulating". This is exactly how you appear when you dress 'sexy.'
Contrary to the death penalty some are advocating for, the truth is, death penalty will never solve the problem. We have many bodies in Nigeria for example designed to fight corruption which is still thriving in all sectors. More attention should be given to the root of a problem. It is not until it grows into a tree that we will start thinking of which axe will be sharper to cut it down. Since the society is a product of various homes, the fight against rape should start from the root, our homes — charity they say begins at home. Parents should therefore be able to properly discuss sex education with their children and let them know that rape is wrong. If this is done to a good extent, we can start talking about the sanction/punishment which is secondary.

#SayNoToRape
#SayNoToIndecency

© A.A Isa
Saturday, 6th June, 2020.

Hello writer,

It is true that opinion is like a navel and everyone has one. However, it would be wrong if I don't tell you this; once you bring in the matter of indecent dressing as one of the factors of rape, you're simply egging potential rapists to go on, because yes you understand that indecent dressing is enough reason why one shouldn't have self control.

The truth is, there is no excuse for rape, nothing contributes to rape.

If you had studied the recent rape cases in Nigeria these past two months, you'd realize that it is a thing of power.

You gave Saudi Arabia as an example, what about Indian where the ladies supposedly dress 'decently' yet there is a high rate of rape.

Something tells me your idea of decent dressing is hijab, niqab and what have you. Then maybe, this post should be in a religion forum and not here.

Marriage is not for everybody sha.

Just find out what works for you! If marriage isn't your thing, don't allow society pressure you into feeling miserable for the rest of your life.

sagna112:
I can't think straight for now sir.. until I inform my parent on what has happened

Happy birthday dear.

Meanwhile, I'd advise you not to tell your parents on phone. Go home, and talk to them one on one.

You'll be fine.

Generalnomercy:
thank you very much.

Are you done? call me more names.

Aturu Awusa.

Onye nzuzu. Anụ ọhịa. Efulefu. Onye iberibe.

Ent3rpreneur:
It's a good that as a youth I have a very different mindset about timing.

Many people that did G and are still doing G, picking money, living flashy etc, no dey carry eye chook for their mata o.

If you feel oppressed and want to do, fine, but I'll advise you not to.

Sha, one thing I know is that I can never ever judge someone when I've never been in their shoes.

Government has forsaken the youth. I remember an episode in school, one final year guy was peddling his laptop he wanted to sell it for 10k.
10k!! He wanted to pay some stuff relating to his project and deadline was the following Monday.

People are suffering. Ndị mmadụ na ata afufu. Odiro easy.

But back to what I know about money and timing, whatever comes quick, goes quick. No two ways about it.

I've handled money before (legit) but because it came quick, I lost it in just under 4 months.
I learned a great lesson from there.

My advice, instead of joining the get rich quick gang and put your hands into diabolical stuff, I'll advise you to invest in the greatest investment ever: YOURSELF.

Real Estate o, Crypto ọ, no investment is greater than the investment you give to yourself.

Learn new things, things that will stand the test of time, devote your time to learn at least one new thing everyday. Walai talai I can bet you that the knowledge you acquire for yourself (I no say school o) would help you immensely in the long run because believe me I know how getting a huge amount of money in a flash is like and how you lavish it recklessly.

To my brothers out there that feel there is no hope, there is. I don't blame you for putting your hands into voodoo in the name of yahoo, na how country dey.

God bless

Daalụ nwanne

Kingscee:
brainless Biatch, why do you remove everything you typed, your brain still remain dead and dried

Be careful how you use words, dear.

You don't know who is who.

About being brainless, I wouldn't waste my breath to argue with you.

Why?

My Brian is fetching me hundreds of dollars a month.

Be careful, dear.

You Don't know me.

MedicH:
lol i can relate deeply with Nduka. i used to be like him sha until one day oo in my 5th year i sat in front of anatomy lab in on pavement thinking about my life on an empty stomach. Survival was tough, i only get to buy new clothes and shoes during exam period because i be pro mercenary running around exam halls writing exams. As i sat there thinking my guy joined me, this guy became my frined because i taught him relativistic mechanics in a way he never thought it was possible to teach physics in year 1. we talked about internet hustling, i told him my near success gists, he laughed. He told me to come to his house on a weekend and i did. dude opened his laptop and right there i saw something that changed my life forever. To cut long story short, a group of my department girls saw me one day and be like hmm guy u are shinning these days oo, see your phone, you smell nice, your clothes wow

i laughed lol.

I don't know how I feel about this.

I do hope what you're doing is legit.

Kingscee:
Where are those jobless marketers, you just scam this brainless guy for nothing

Brainless?

Are you stupid?

StubbornGENIUS:
Allow me to say this in English: You are an excellent writer.

Thank you.

StubbornGENIUS:
O dimma,ahula m ya.O nwere agumagu nguru ugbua toro mu uto nke ukwuu.Nne, o bu gi bu Chinwendu Okafo?

Eh ya.

Ọ bụ aha m.

StubbornGENIUS:
Ee Ihiala dikwa nso na steeti Imo.Biko afughim obodo gi,degharia ya.

Orlu lga.

StubbornGENIUS:
A bu m ezigbo nwa afo ireakwa nke di na Ihiala.

Ihiala nke dị n'Anambara?


Abụ m onye Ọlụ, nke dị na steeti Imo.

StubbornGENIUS:
Alright Omalicha.Eche m na obu mmadu,amaghi m naobu efulefu.

Ị bụ onye Igbo?


Nwanne nnọọ


Kedu obodo ị sị?

In 2016 when I joined the flock of newly admitted University students, I became acquainted with a boy my age, who lived downstairs with his somewhat churchy elder brother and another room mate.

I remember too well, the times I found myself in the self-contained room shared by these three young men, and how it was a battle of will power not to scrunch my nose, or show that the room had an offensive odor of wet clothes and unwashed bodies, drowning in cheap air freshener.

This young man was called Nduka, and it was his brassy bush behavior that drew people to him. His self-mockery was top-notch. It amazed me how he threw jabs at himself, and welcomed sarcastic comments like they were disguised blessings. Our friendship was fostered on “abeg borrow me your GST past questions”, “you get pressing iron?” Enquiries that didn’t outlive ten minutes yet left my ribs aching from too much laughter.

You see, Nduka was not your regular University student who is prim and proper, with all dotted I's and crossed T's. Once, this young man showed me how he wore his body spray. First, he applied it on his right palm, then slapped the palm all over his clothes. I had been dismayed, amused even. But he wasn't done yet. Lowering his voice, he told me that “the perfume dey strong. As I apply I am like this na the best. E go last me till this semester end''.

I would always recall this scene each time our path meet now. Because in a flash of one academic year, one wouldn't believe that the old Nduka is this polished “A bigi nwa”, the proud owner of a luxurious room, a collection of expensive clothes, and a trophy girlfriend.

Nduka's story mirrors that of some boys I started university with. It only took 'abeg show me the way, your boy dey loyal' to the right source and die-hard consistency, for these boys to brush up, some ‘blowing’ to the extent of owning a Honda accord or Toyota Camry.

The starter pack is the same; a laptop, a generator to battle the sometimes epileptic power supply, and two phones - one smart phone that could replace the laptop anytime, and a small phone for family and friends phone call. The smart phone was meant for indoors, but if you must step outside with it, you have to wipe the gallery and call logs, even delete the Facebook and Instagram, because eke dey street, men are not smiling.

Whenever there was a raid in my street, you'd see them; the Gee boys running like headless chickens. Hiding their laptops, phones and generators. Tossing out the roll of weed and bottle of spirits. Nothing is spared. Not even the WIFI router or the tin of coffee on the table. Because Voom ka mma karịa statement. It is better to be safe than sorry.

One time, a poor girl decided to save the ass of a young man. A young lady with a benevolent spirit. She collected his phone when the bus ferrying us to student area approached a police check point. During the open your bags and wallets search, the policemen discovered she was with two smart phones and on further enquiries realized she couldn't unlock one of the phones.

The plot developed an unseen twist. The young man denied knowing her talk more of giving her the phone. His words were buttered in 'I swear to God' whilst touching his tongue and pointing the finger to the sky, his innocence as clear as crystal. Well, let me spare you the details. You know how stories like this end.

Two months ago, my junior brother, a boy of sixteen years, sent me series of WhatsApp messages;
Please I want to ask for a favor.
That your Facebook account of seven years, you fit dash me.
Please thank you.
Your guess is good as mine. Cat-fishing. It is only possible with old social media accounts. My Facebook account fits the slot. But acquiring a Facebook or Instagram account is just one step in tens of steps. You would need to get rid of the pictures, friends and personal posts. God help you if the owner of the account is a social media freak with thousands of posts, friends and pictures. It would take you weeks to get rid of all that cluster.

During the early days before Nduka learnt to guard his mouth, he once revealed to me the different types of Yahoo Yahoo. The highest of them all is the ‘Ifesi’. The type where you don’t have to hide your face to speak with your clients. You only need a strong charm backing you. It might cost you your girlfriend’s womb or a fetish like not bathing with water, before you start picking lots of money.

‘I chere na o gbaa aka? I know one guy that his own is to chop shit, nsi. Small boys like us our own is just luck. If you’re lucky, you’ll pick. If not, you can start a typing business’ he said, smiling.
‘The white men collected something from us, now we are taking it from them. E no easy, but we go make am. This na the surest way.’

I don’t know who started this dance. One moment, education is the key to success. Another moment, no be who no book, na who wise. What I know is this; surugede is the dance of spirits. Over my dead body would my brother step into Nduka’s shoes.

- Chinwendu Okafo ©

StubbornGENIUS:
Am very suprised with this
Slim maybe the deal for you,but don't criticize someone who looks chubby.
Just because you seem young 4 your age and have abs doesn't mean a lady who doesn't have similar features is ugly.
Stop bodyshaming your fellow girl

Oga stop replying this person.

I'm fat ehkwa? I love it!

I'm ugly?, I love it!

StubbornGENIUS:
Since when do weight loss make someone beautiful.And by the way,chinwe4real is not ugly

Hello dear, don't give her/him the satisfaction. Going through his/her posts, I saw tons of slandering from this person.

So if he/she says I'm ugly or fat, so be it.

Being ugly has not killed anyone.

I embrace this ugliness ���

Candyness:
Darlin you are ugly. I know ugly. You can grow out of it if you loose weight dear

Lol.

Thank you.

BigJoe19:
Until you women stand up against women raping young boys and men I could give zero fvcks if women are raped, you women thought them how to rape remember, starting from when you women touch the small boys sexually.

Zero fvcks given, zefo fvcks taken. If you don't like my post you can commit suicide

You're mentally deranged, dear. I pity the women in your lives, dear.

Generalnomercy:
@op, you've spoken well, However, women, ladies, girls should also respect themselves and be responsible for once.

Insecurity is insecurity everywhere in the world irrespective of male or female involvement.

It's not about the men but about common sense and fallen moral standards.


You will always find girls at the wrong place, in the wrong companies.

You will always finds girls doing what they're not supposed to be doing.

Like the girl's case in Benin, NOTHING, I MEAN NOTHING SHOULD HAVE TAKEN HER TO THAT SHRINE/CHURCH AT THAT UNGODLY HOUR, THE TRUTH BE TOLD.


MY SISTERS, NO MAN WILL EVER RAPE A GIRL IN AN OPEN PLACE, THE GIRL MAY HAVE GONE TO WHERE SHE SHOULD HAVE AVOIDED BEFORE RAPE CAN OCCUR.


GIRLS USE YOUR COMMON SENSE TO PREVENT RAPE.

GOD SAVE ALL !!!

You're stupid. Very stupid. There is no justification for rape. What about girls that were raped in the safety of their homes?

You're simply a rape apologists that has no sense of empathy

Receive sense.

There is something soul lifting about gospel songs. Each time I feel confused or depressed, I go to my 'Soulz playlist.

Candyness:
Hiya. You very ugly if I may say

In your eyes, not mine.

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Chuky7:
Four months ago before the covid 19 pandemic, a company I was working for (On contract basis) flew me and my team members to our destination of work and back when the work was done.

During this flight I saw this pretty fair skinned Flight Attendant. She was just so astonishing beautiful and diligent, always smiling at everyone (obviously being the nature of her work)

I guess she had a magic touch on because I couldn't get my mind off her. She only had contact with me once, when I requested a change of seat so I could view the sky. I told her she was gorgeous and good at her work. She smiled and asked what I do I told her am into tech. She said she knew nothing about tech but would love to learn a thing or two. That moment she left to attend to other passengers.

We got to our destination. The plane landed and passengers were getting off.

I looked around for her as I stood up but didn't see her. I even asked one of her fellow flight attendant if she knew her but she couldn't recognize who I spoke of. So I left it that way.

She just stuck in my mind until now..
I’ve searched from Google, facebook and instagram and even some dating websites. Nothing.

Of course i sent an email to the Airline to
Praise them for their service and codedly asked for her contact number. Unfortunately they told me the info is Private and they can only share the email to him when she's off duty.

I am hoping on trying all the possible way to find her. I bought some flight tickets of her airline for
traveling.

Am just hoping i can meet her again and get her number myself.

How I hate myself for not being smart and fast enough to ask for her contact details before I alight from the plane. I even forgot her name and I do not know how am I going to locate her.

I love meeting people all around the world and in spontaneous places. Other than the normal. That really gets my blood rushing (I guess that's why I have so much interest in her)

How you suggest I find her?...

Has anyone had similar experience... Maybe in the air or in some crazy location

What if she is engaged or in a committed relationship?

I wish you luck though.

May what is yours find you.

Amen.

tyup:
I tell people we northerners don't flood the internet to prove fake cheap point, We're low key millionaires in numbers

Probably those who yell Northerners are the most poor and backward bla bla can have a reason to shut the hell up forever

All northerners are not poor.


However, the wealthy ones are few.

I've stayed in Katsina and Kaduna states respectively. The rate of penury there is alarming.

You're very much lucky to be among the wealthy few.

Rawhumper:
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Lol....your diary i checked on it and you mentioned you have changed.


Sorry i asked cos i was surprised dear,dont be offended. Hope you have understood why i asked the question.

Take care...pele











quote author=Chinwe4real post=89970923]

You're very stupid for asking me that question.

You're stupid and senseless.

So, all you could deduce was prostitution? There are many evils younno. Fraud. Lies. E.t.c

Pictures of the 2 percent wealthy ones.

During my stay in the north, I saw abject penury.


One time, two almajiri boys snatched the ice-cream I was licking from my hand.

It is well.

Nwaonyishi69:
Wetin and where are we going to with this disposition? Anything one says now about women, unless you clap for them or shower praises for even dirtiness, nudity, immorality, despicable acts etc, earns you a shout down. This is not freedom nor wisdom. I have seen wise women lament that close associates leave them, to bloat into monstrous beings, without show of love in efforts to criticize their shape and size changes. But, mofos will skin you in defense of their warped sense of feminism or distortions of the meaning of body shaming. To live, carry likeable body size or shape, keep a smooth skin, talk sense, keep family or friendships, pass exams, succeed in any profession etc, demand some cautions and efforts. It is not every word that reminds people of good shape or size that is body shaming. And, some shaming words are opportunities for the hearers to fix themselves and not a recipe to abuses and courses. Our sisters should learn to see some good in criticisms. Afterall, everyday everywhere, they use all sorts of words on men (even their fathers, brothers, husbands, colleagues, children and acquitances); and men still manage to strike some balance. Draging somebody's mother into a nairaland discuss because you think/misconstrued that you were body shamed is not the noblest of ways, sorry please.

I'm sorry if my response was kinda rude. Just that it hit differently. Her body size isn't none of his business.

How did we go from applauding her for keeping the pregnancy to making such brash comment?

Rawhumper:
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Sorry were you once a prostitute?

How come but your looks can really deceive










quote author=Chinwe4real post=82735937]I bought a Xiaomi Redmi Note 7 on 18th August 2019, from Pointek branch here in Owerri mall. I was given a three months warranty. Barely two weeks, the phone's screen developed serious issues without falling down or any accident. First, the screenlight started flickering, then it started bleeding colours. I had to take the phone back to the mall were I bought it, and they promised to send it to MI Warranty Centre in Lagos.

This is three weeks now, no tangible feedback. I have trolled them on twitter, Facebook, even called their customer service in Lagos, all to no avail. As it stands now, I am really devastated, as I spent a huge amount purchasing that phone (58,000) . Each time they keep requesting for the phone's IMEI number, promising me my phone by weekend, all in vain.

I'm really fed up. Someone gave me the Xiaomi's boss number, but he hasn't been picking my calls. I don't know what else to do. I would be leaving east soon, and I desperately need my phone by weekend. Please is there any other thing I should do?

Please I need your help or opinion.

Thank you

You're very stupid for asking me that question.

You're stupid and senseless.

just2endowed:
But all school have closed down. What or which school in kastina that is open?

I guess you didn't see the date I made that comment?

meobizy:
At 36 she’s still a baby herself. When she gets wiser she’ll undo the message. My only pain is like most Naija women she let herself get fat. I don’t know if the average Nigerian female above 34 years of age is cursed with fat genes.

Why should it be your 'Pain'?

It is people like you who go about bodyshaming females.

Cursed with fat genes you say?

I guess your mother too falls into this statistics of 'cursed women'.

Malik1338:
when there are some first class with empty brains�

There are no first class with empty brain. They might not be street wise doesn't mean they're empty upstairs.