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coogar: i am not harsh.....
just telling you as it is. never leave yourself in the position where your calls would be ignored. in short, don't ever call any woman unless she has begged 5 times to make that call. use your text message, BBM or whatever applies to pass the message across. calling should be the last resort when all other avenues have been tried.




but that's exactly how men should be - stonehearted!
i doubt any woman wants a guy that calls them every time. they simply don't like such overbearing partners so it's better you don't even attempt calling at all. if she wants to hear your voice, she would ask for it.



let him run all those tales with his male friends.......
a man should stand a man - not an object to be ridiculed by the female species.

I have read through your thought. Thank you. Anyway I don't know how to do the stony heart stuff but all I think is to get some more things to distract myself with. In that case I will require less of her time.

biolabee: Interesting to meet a auditory-stimulated guy

I know someone who is like you
Well one suggestion is to use chats, SMS and web links to pass topical stuff, happenings around you and then have a round off chat in the evenings
This way you take into cognisance her schedule which may not be talk-friendly

You then discuss your concerns and bring the above as a possible solution

If it does not work, then you can move on or manage if she has other virtues you dig

Thanks all the same, she does not do social media at all. i will try to discuss with her anyway.

biolabee: @kool J], coogar

Guys it does not mean he is clingy or jobless
He is just a 90s man....
Attitudes & Comments like this are what make men seem to be stone - hearted and supposedly insensitive

He may want to run some thoughts on investments, office politics by someone removed from his surroundings and get a fresh perspective on stuff


OP if it is really important to you, go for it

Thanks my guy. i have just been transferred newly to this place. i don't have any friend around here to hang out with. i prefer to stay at home and gist with my friend but as she is not available mehn life has to go on.

coogar: bloody talkative!
go get a day job and stop haranguing the poor lady on the fone with your tale of woes. if you get another friend, she would ignore your calls as well unless she's a good-for-nothing idle mind like yourself.

Oga am not really idle, somehow i think am more busy in the office than she does. its just that, i feel after work, possibly by night one should call a loved to share work and related experiences of the day.

i think you are being too harsh on me man

kool J: Advice? You are clingy. Get a life, man.

Thank u, i think i need to work on myself and free her small lol

am this kind of person that likes phone communication with a loved one, for God's sake, i don't even need you to call, i will call you and talk as much as i want.

but my friend is this quiet type that finds it difficult to engage in discussions, she prefers once in a while call rather than all this everyday talk on the phone.

now i have this firm believe that since we are working in different states, the easier way for me to know her is by engaging her on the phone regularly.

sometimes i might have an urgent need to discuss something with her, she will not pick or return my calls, sometimes over a day, and i am like, is it that you did not see the missed calls or you did not feel it is important to return the missed call.

am now thinking of getting someone else that i can always pour out my heart to anytime i feel like i can not hold it anymore while still keeping her as my friend as i still love her dearly. i just need to satisfy myself and also keep the relationship going.

Advise!

this is a clear incidence of 'persistence pays big time'

Honestly, the only time i remembered SURE-P was last month, as i boarded Arik flight to Abuja from Enugu, the girl that sat beside me was wearing SURE-P id. i opened discussion with her on this SURE-P thing. she was not ready to give me the attention i was looking for, so i let her be. Probably she felt i was looking for favor or something.

Obviously we need more information on how this thing works, even if i might not need it, i might have persons i can refer some opportunities from there to.

All thanks to this thread, am looking forward to seeing more educative responses from this thread than all these silly name calling that have already started trickling in.

RIP

i will be interested in your intelligent discuss whenever you have the time

fellis: Man, I've got so much to say to this. So much. . . .
But I am not in the mood for long talk this evening. I think every couple should just do whatever works best for their family.

final decision making, catering for the family, spiritual head of the home, bread winner, directives. it does not mean, that the woman cannot perform these roles, but at least they should emanate from the man and then spread across the household

if am the guy, i will not go on with the marriage again. For God's sake, the bible that i read, says he that finds a wife, find a good thing and obtains favour. it did not say he that marries a wife but he that finds a wife. my dear, consider it o, as this favour indicator can also be considered in this context, are the two of u actually meant to be one? *just saying sha*

i did not advocate a subservient relationship in a marriage environment, what am driving at is this: though there is need to adequately carry your partner along in your decision making, that role of fatherhood in the home should not be played down upon. in a situation where husband and wife are running the home on a parallel line, mehn you can agree with me that there is harmony in such family.

for there to be orderliness in the home, somebody should assume the leadership role, that naturally is the role of the father. like it is said, two captains cannot navigate same ship concurrently. this does not mean, i dont support women empowerment, but there should be a balance in the pursuit of the empowerment such that submission is not totally ruled out. that way, peace and coherence can be obtained in the home and the right values are passed over to the children. children learn from what the see in the home more than the whole advice they receive from the same home. it was once said that ' i rather see a sermon than hear one anyday'

as if u re describing mine

Kitchen politics

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my guy, u said it all.

I have an auntie that had similar issue. i had to always encourage her to relish her life and move on. today she is doing very well with her daughter. am not a single parent and am not praying to be but whatever situation we find ourselves in life. the best is not to give up.

I think one of the challenges with single parenting is the psychological attachment an average African has with it( by this, i mean, un married or divorced single parent). Once you can get over it and instill reasonable level of confidence in the child. though its not easy but you will eventually win.

Goodluck

This is very true. My Mum went for an Omugwo and my Dad was always complaining. i had to implore my Mum to please go home and stay with your husband. sometimes i think about these things and it gives me concern. God help me to marry such a woman that will want to spend her old age with me and not the type that is abroad frick.

#JUST PASSING SHA#

@27 bought for 500k Peugeot 406

U guys are good with your suggestions. Abeg some of usthat are really very busy what time do I have to even start studying this partner. God dey

my hand is up

azimibraun: And hw does dis help in a country wia its man knw man dt gets u d job or hw mch u cn afford to pay the N300,000 above dt jobs are sold? The last time I commented on job opportunities on dis forum I asked a question and ddnt get any answers. I wll ask again,if u knw anybody dt got a job frm 2010 till date by jst applyin and nt hvin any backing let me see ur hands up.

check ur mail

Drdreluv: @chseth pls send it to my mail adigundare47@yahoo.com pls oh @pidivine i will call when ever am in lag

anybody that needs it can just drop their email i will send it to them. i have sent it to some people on this thread. check the thread well u will see where somebody affirmed that she got it.

i have a softcopy of the BCRM in case anybody wants it

Oga, i no u hv ur facts all correct, e don do abeg. u can use the mb for some other important things either here or some where else . u hv tried. Anambra is no 1 . no problem. thank u

EASTSIDAZ: Shattaaap imbeci1ic animal..

You forgot to mention that your owerre is a single town with 75% of its population p/r/o/s/t/i/t/u/t/e/s.

Harlotry Owerre is livable? Hmmmmm why is your 2/3 population living in Anambra state precisely Onitsha, earning their living and giving birth to their children their..?

please u people should stop painting us black and blue. we re igbos and that is it. please enough of all these name calling. if u like write from today till eternity on how bad or excellent anambra or imo is, who is going to pay u for the work. plz listen to the voice of reason and let us unite and cover ourselves. there is no state or nation without its flaws.

Abagworo: There's no need to pretend. The most liveable towns in the Southeast are Enugu, Owerri and Umuahia. The most viable town is Aba. The most beautiful rural town is Abiriba. The State with the highest number of heavy weights is between Abia and Anambra with Abia having a clear edge through the military angle. The most populous State is Anambra. The most influential clan in Igbo history is Arochukwu. The most bubbling city is Owerri. The pharmaceutical market is Orlu. The spare parts and transport is Anambra. The agriculture is Enugu and Ebonyi. The warriors are in Northern Abia and Ebonyi. Football is Aba.

nothing is to be continued my friend. re u people not ashamed of urselves. them swear for una today?

Mr Everest: @Eastdaft, you are indeed so daft. Now let me educate you, there is no city/town in Anambra that is liveable except for Ommata people scavenging for a living, Onitsha is a jungle, Nnewi is ravaged by erosion while Awka is simply a village. Have you asked yourself why your elite choose to live in Enugu, Owerri and Asaba? Anytime I am travelling by road and i'm unfortunate to arrive upper Iweka anything later than 6pm, I'll simply wait till the next day to avoid being robbed! It amazes me how people manage to survive in that failed town; bad roads and refuse dumps everywere, as if that is not bad enough, you have to watch over your shoulder if you dont want to be robbed or run-over by okada, what a bedlam! All the sane states in the SE have all banned Okada but not Anambra oh I forgot that the state is still backward!....., To be continued.....,