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falseman:
Funny enough you may be the one hindering his progress spiritually and the moment you divorce him he will likely find a good job and get married again.

5minsmadness:
On the contrary
I am highly impressed, amazed and pleasantly surprised!

veave:
Anyhow you want it babe. I no get friend. I no dey find friend. I no even want be anybody friend. Dey your lane I dey my own. If circumstances warrants us doing anything together be it work, school, or church I try to do it well as a team. After that, to your tent oh Isreal. It doesn't mean I'm a snub or a dragon. Just don't have time for dem sey dem sey. If I have a burden that it's like it would choke me I'd rather run into the bush and scream it to all the trees and wild animals than to share. Friendship nor be by force. I say I no want.

TV01:
Whatever the "cure" is, it cannot be to further the persons confusion by pumping them full of hormones, them undergo mutilating surgery, and entertaining them in their "emperors new clothes charade.

And more seriously, you are assuming that re-assignment actually makes them happy and comfortable in themselves. I ended with the fact that there is a lot of regret over surgery in the trans community, but it's suppressed.

http://www.sexchangeregret.com/
http://www.sexchangeregret.com/examples
http://help4families.com/?page_id=437
https://gendertrender./tag/sex-change-regret/
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2783583/Man-10-000-treatment-woman-wants-REVERSE-sex-change-criticises-NHS-lack-psychiatric-evaluation.html

And what of those that just like to cross-dress and accessorise? Why don't they want to go all the way? Different degrees of the illness - a fetish and not as serious an illness maybe?

Full +75% of teens that identify as homosexual, fully identify as straight by age 24. Why would we start gender re-assignment for children/pre-teens? A fuller transition is made if treatment is started pre-pubescence, hence the reason for starting earlier, but what's the chance they would simply grow out of it if left alone?


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5minsmadness:
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ogawisdom:
Tell him to hustle thro other means while applying for white collar jobs. If u can sell food he shld learn hw to drive n drive keke, taxi, bus etc for ppl. He shld realize he has a son dt must b feed daily n other bills to pay. He shld learn some handwork or even go into farmin

Divorce is a no no, u married him jobless bc u love him soo he is ur cross nw. Pray dt God sees u guys thro this tryin period

TV01:
If one speaks from a belief in the Christian God and the bible - given the fall, we understand that man can a vast array of possible dysfunctions (evidence of the sinful nature).

If one subscribes to evolutionary theory - which is dispassionate and drives towards the survival of the fittest - what purpose would that kind of disconnect have? Why would it not be "bred out" by natural selection?

As for no proof, studies show that right from birth, baby boys and girls demonstrate different traits. So for example, if you slam a door in a room full of babies the girls are 40% more likely to cry. Nothing constructed or built at that age. Toddler boys preferring guns and girls dolls is not a construct, even if it's not 100% correlated - the exceptions merely prove the rule.


It's the notion of "gender" that is a construct, biological sex is determinative and cannot be just about the body alone. Hormonal effects and puberty all lead towards distinct physical and psychological traits - even if there is overlap and some exceptions.

After all, the total population of people whose biological sex,"orientation" and "gender" do not align no reach 5% - and that's estimating generously. And evolutionary speaking they do not drive the human species forward or procreate


Because humans are sexually dimorphous for a reason - the compliment perfectly - there is no need. What ever norms we have are based on biological and functional reality, not the other way round.


The case in question has clear causality. Even if we accept some may literally be from birth - although children are not born sexual, that development comes later - it has to be seen as dysfunction.


I'm aware


I don't agree, there is something patently wrong, and it is an illness. Are you saying gender re-assignment surgery is the right course of action? That is "physical" mutilation for what you yourself consider a problem of the mind. Does that make sense? Not least because surgery cannot recode DNA or re-assign reproductive function or correct a psychological malfunction.

And it's pertinent to know there'a a whole body of "re-assignment regret" evidence on the net, it's heavily suppressed.


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1.
relieve (a person or animal) of the symptoms of a disease or condition.
"he was cured of the disease"
synonyms: heal, restore to health, make well/better;
"after a long course of treatment, he was cured"

TV01:
How far?

That's how he chooses to understand/explain it. It's not necessarily the reality. And note, the trauma came first. When a human being is born and develops normally, biological sex and gender expression are aligned . Anything else has to be considered dysfunctional, no matter how sympathetic we are.
The body certainly biologically determined - minute cases of true lack of development or differentiation aside. And even the mind, it's largely hormones. The societal construct largely reflects that, it does not determine it.
That's fine in principle, but in practice it often means wholesale changes for us all and accomodations to the lives, behaviours and practices of others, that they are not comfortable with.

Society has to have shared, values, morés, codes of conduct, terms of reference and engagement, and protocols to function harmoniously. An ethos of "free for all choice" however "principled", is hardly practical.


It's evidently a dysfunction, a pathology and should be treated as such - affording them the best medical care we have. I'm not a medic, so can't speak knowledgeably on specific interventions.


I clearly stated "treated" and with "all sympathy".

Your approach suggests affirming the behaviour - like they do now, commence gender re-assignment procedures on 4 year olds? If something is wrong, especially psychologically, it helps no one to affirm that belief.


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TV01:
A child can't "start having sex" at 6 - he was abused, simple. And for at least 8 years . Tragic. The trauma has evidently left him dysfunctional in terms of sex and intimacy. And that is totally understandable - what I don't agree with is "normalising" this. It should be treated with all sympathy, but as a pathology.


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thelish:
they never talked about him, they only laugh at me for selling food.

thelish:
my dear I never said he was my lover, he is still my lover, I have never stopped loving him. am just confuse n angry. when I said he stood by me, I never mentioned cash or money. if I dont love him, I will not assist with his school fees while we were in school. my ATM was for the both of us. it pains him that after all what I have done for him, I have not really enjoyed money wise. even the money I realized from my sales still belong to d both of us. neighbors n friends had laughed at me severally, that how can a beautiful young lady like u degrade yourself to sell food. but I don't answer them. am just scared that for how long will I continue like this? he is the only man I have known all my life.

angieberry:
Lol no, but I've had my fair share of horrible experience with 'friends'

Lildreezy:
seriously even if I was indifferent about Buhari and Jonathan, I never knew things will go down south this fast. I wasn't expecting much from Buhari on the long run, but this little time has flawed the little respect I had for that pops called bubu....

Nigeria u see ya life....be like say I divorce cococandy go marry ngeneukwenu ...

MarvellousGod:
She has personality issues probably inferiority complex. . She sees you as her role model, that's why she tries to do things you do.. To the extent of going into same career path with you.. mehn

Such characters breed jealousy esp when she doesn't meet up with you. .

I think you should buy her some motivational books... I also think you should limit the extent you let her into your personal lives...

Qualer:
You, my dear, are full of wisdom in the real sense. Such clarity!!! Not just a pretty face afterall...

bukatyne:


How are you and family?

Back to ghost mode

ganja06:
Apc said during their campaign that "if insurgency last for 48hrs that the government has a hand in it".

mredwifeosband:



is this supposed to be counter thread

veave:
I use to have that type of friend(monitoring spirit). She doesn't admire you but rather sees you as a threat to her. She feels you are more beautiful and better than she is. So she no want make you win her.
Let me tell you how to deal with such kind. Ignore her. And stay very far away from her. Such kind will do anything and everything possible to see you fall. Even go as far as snitching to your boyfriend if she knows any of your bad secrets. Stop telling her things. I repeat, stop telling her anything. If she sees you with anything. Tell her it was a gift. From who? My pastors wife... by the time you tell her my pastors wife 5times, she will use her teeth to count her tongue or vice versa.

Me. Female friend? Tufiakwa!!! Have I finished roaming about on nairaland after the days work?

Odiegwu!!!

angieberry:
As in, i agree with you! Girls could be very terrible!