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Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:20am On Sep 30, 2019
Oops okay. I withdraw myself but let peace reign.

I enjoy seeing you guys get along.

@prestonn, English language is very nuanced. Let’s just say some words mean different things based on context kiss.
Mariangeles:
That was not actually the first time...
The other time, he used the words " you can have her "
I'm like "WHAT DA FOX" undecided
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:17am On Sep 30, 2019
You are not serious grin
Logobenz:
grin grin
Always write in full.That POV abbreviation reminds me of porn cheesy
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:15am On Sep 30, 2019
Honestly it can never 100% be equal all the time.

Left hand wash right hand and right hand wash left hand. That’s the beauty of love.
Logobenz:
Is there a time when it's ever equal?
grin
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:14am On Sep 30, 2019
Have you considered that maybe he doesn’t understand ‘good time’ is a slang that doesn’t actually mean just having a good time?

It’s a possibility.

Mariangeles:
I didn't expect that from you .
Please never mention me again with such words!
It doesn't go with my personality .
You have no rights whatsoever to tell someone that about me.
I wouldn't do that to you .
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:12am On Sep 30, 2019
Contribute but not equally. Okay.
That a valid design that works for a lot of folks.

But what if she makes more money than the man? Maybe he had more money when they started out and of course provided very well for everyone but somewhere along the line she started making more money.

At that point, I don’t think she should still keep it bottled so that the man can contribute more. If their harmony was based on him making and bringing more money, then they will start having problems.

That’s the reasons why I believe in flexibility. No fixed roles. Supporting according to each person’s strengths.
Mariangeles:
I believe a woman should contribute but not equally.
Whatever works for each family sha...
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 10:54am On Sep 30, 2019
We are at the point of turning off our brains and just going rubbish eh?

Destined2win:
Before I forget, my regards to young princess, she makes more sense than you
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 10:53am On Sep 30, 2019
Are you of the school of thought that women shouldn’t bring financial contribution to the family?

Just trying to understand your POV.

Like I said no fixed rules for everyone.
Mariangeles:
Also make sure she doesn't bear your name o...
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 10:52am On Sep 30, 2019
I think both of you are saying the same thing.
pocohantas:
Don't women do domestic chores and still work to support the home? So?

They should do it together. Except if they want otherwise- different strokes.
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 10:49am On Sep 30, 2019
Yep. Run away
Destined2win:
Have a nice day.
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 10:32am On Sep 30, 2019
undecided
Destined2win:
I just checked your profile and saw the picture of a cute girl. Whether she belongs to your husband or not, I love kids including her. For that single reason, I won't use wrong words on you again
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 10:32am On Sep 30, 2019
Argh we’ve finally gotten to the heart of the matter.

The sexism and misogyny masked as something else.
Women being held more responsible even though they are not the supposed leaders of the home.

Lay on the bed y’all have made.
Destined2win:
Not everyone sleeps around but there are terrible eggs. Women are held more responsible because they are the primary home builders
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 10:14am On Sep 30, 2019
Really?

I thought the research is out there to prove otherwise. That we are all going around sleeping with other men and bringing bastards home.

Who are the ones doing this and who are the men impregnating them?


Destined2win:
Not every woman is like you who opens her leg for every man while married, and not every man is like the men you have known all your life who go about impregnating people's wives.

So I'll advice you shut and seek psychological assistance.
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 10:11am On Sep 30, 2019
I don’t think it has anything to do with being good or not.

Don’t worry, just find a lady who agrees with your outlook on life (there are many)and y’all won’t have any wahala together..

I must also be invited to that wedding
Logobenz:
I will not cook,whether you like it or not.
But that doesn't mean I'm not a good man.
I am amongst the best men out there,trust me.Most women that have been in my life can testify.
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 10:08am On Sep 30, 2019
The same way y’all are being dealt with now right?

Don’t worry your own baby form another man is coming. Hypocrites

Destined2win:
You will be caught and dealt with
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:59am On Sep 30, 2019
My Chinese replica will be made in China and You know Chinese men can cook too right? grin
She will be expecting you to know how to cook.

Logobenz:
I get it,sweetest coco.
You aren't bitter and I like it.
Your husband is such a lucky man,I hope I get blessed even with your Chinese replica.
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:53am On Sep 30, 2019
I was speaking generally. The only part that was kind of directed at her was where I said women are amazing like your mom.

It was a compliment that I also gave to myself and other ladies reading. You know typing sometimes doesn’t fully convey the message as face to face communication does.

Logobenz:
You kind of insinuated so with your descriptions which is nothing like her.
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:51am On Sep 30, 2019
Never said I do
Logobenz:
Sorry,you don't know my mom.
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:49am On Sep 30, 2019
Thanks kiss
cutiereborn:
Sure do looks yummy kiss
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:48am On Sep 30, 2019
Logobenz:
But then,how many of today's women are like her?
undecided
quite a lot actually

Today’s women are amazing like your mom.

We’ve done a good job raising women who are shamed for being dependent. We call them leeches and gold diggers bla bla bla.

As a result we have women who are told they need to be able to do everything for themselves. And they do.

But we don’t have enough men raised well enough to balance that. We just have a lot who want to have an independent woman who is also traditional.
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 9:38am On Sep 30, 2019
grin grin

Have your cardiologist’s number on speed dial
Richy4:
That could give a man some heart attack and lots of sleepless nights..
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 9:37am On Sep 30, 2019
Okay. And so what?
Destined2win:
This comment reeks of guilt on your part.
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f):
Logobenz:
Archaic mindset ABI?
When you all retire to Nigeria ehn,share chores with him let me see.
Or you need me to tell you people do things like that over There to prevent you all from running to the law and kill their ass with alimony undecided
Also,being a man or manly has everything to do with money.Spare me the emotional blackmail please wink
We met 10 yrs ago when I was 19 still in naija. So yes I knew the kind of person he was then. He taught me how to cook a lot of things and I never got to play the role of good wife material killing my tender fingers with hand washing clothes and cooking and cleaning in order to be liked. It has nothing to do with where you are.

In this same country, there are men who won’t pick up a stick because they are men. You are who you are no matter where you stay. And there’s someone out there who will like it that way.

Hopefully you will find someone who agrees with you. Just don’t force it on her if she doesn’t. Every home can’t follow the same rule.

When I retire I hope I can afford a driver, butler and house keeper etc etc so none of us will have to do any work except that I’ll still be cooking. cheesy
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f):
I do cook, do laundry and take care of baby girl 60% of the time. I’m also the public relations officer of our house (very hard job grin ).
Her dad cleans, does dishes, yard work and other home maintenance chores and take care of baby girl 40% of the time.

We both work full time but I only work 3 days a week and then take one day off to recover from work. So the rest of the days I’m free for other house keeping things like stocking up the pantry and miscellaneous stuff.

The truth is that it can never be 50/50 all the time but if you’re both willing, it will be balanced and no one will be overworked and suffering while the owner is brandishing their genitaliia as a reason why they can’t do this or that.

I guess my point is that you will surely find someone who will be willing to work with you to ensure a functioning home where you don’t have to suspend your dreams because house work and bla bla bla.

Stick to your guns girl.

pocohantas:
I will sure handle the cooking. It would be an added bonus if he can cook too. But I would never want a man who will make so much fuss over the days I am too stressed to cook.

As for daily running of the house chores, if we can't do it together, then we are getting a cleaner. I don't want to break down. Someone will na say "women age faster". Na poor man stressed wife dey age faster. Bianca and Otedola's wife have refused to age grin

My friend claims to be a defender of the patriarchy. I keep telling him he has not seen the main defenders, lol.
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:16am On Sep 30, 2019
You’re entitled to your opinions. I do share chores with my husband and he’s as manly as they come. Both financially (because I can see that’s what being a man means to you) and otherwise.

Chores in your own home is a way of taking care of yourself as a grown adult and taking care of your loved ones who can’t help themselves (like the children and elderly). It’s not beneath anyone. It’s not a lowly duty that is reserved for the lowly people.

You need to change that archaic mindset.
It’s a new day. You know this! We’ve moved past that.


I think we might end up getting banned if we go further on this topic as it does tend to get heated.

I’m just trying to say your opinion is not fact. Just an opinion. wink
Logobenz:
Yes.
Show me a man that does that and I will show you a man who isn't fulfilling his manly duties.
A man can feel jovial and decide to help around,not that he should start sharing chores!
Today na papa Stanley go wash plate,dry clean parlour and corridor while mama Stanley sweeps backyard and make golden mourn for Stanley.
The day a woman tries that with me ehn...e no go funny o!
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:11am On Sep 30, 2019
Someone had stir fried vegetable rice noodles with grilled beef and shrimps.

I had a salad. But not a sad salad this time. A yummy one smiley .

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:02am On Sep 30, 2019
Really? undecided
Logobenz:
I also hope you will buy the house,pay fees for kids and provide for him and the family since you want to switch roles.
Only a poor,good for nothing man enters the kitchen to cook while he has a wife.
You can take this to the bank.
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 8:34am On Sep 30, 2019
It is what it looks like
Acidosis:
What's this Coco??
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 8:34am On Sep 30, 2019
Lmao: una never start.

The polygamous nature at work.
Jayslicky:
According to recent stats the percentage of bastard children in Nigeria is at 33%, so if you have three children, there is a high possibility of having a bastard in your home.

Men save up to do DNA so as to not save up for heart attack in the future.
Family › Re: 2 Out Of 3 Kids Are Not Mine - Man Married For 12 Years by cococandy(f): 8:33am On Sep 30, 2019
Die mad
Jayslicky:
See natural stupidity, how did you know he has children outside his marriage, you are always trying to form feminist but you just a dumb.
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 6:28am On Sep 30, 2019
Happy birthday to your little cutie.
cutiereborn:
My princess turned 4 today kiss
Phones › Re: How Can You Rationally Justify Spending N600,00 On A Phone? by cococandy(f): 12:38am On Sep 30, 2019
Okay
missjo:
I believe the 600k in the topic is the converted rate in Naira of the new iPhone 11 pro max, not an X max which is what you use. He posted the wrong photo.

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