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Most Nigerian girls are claiming to be virgins these days, even those in maternity wards are also claiming to be virgins.

Press-up position, DOWN!

Raise!
Lower!
Raise!
Lower!
Raise half-way!
Hold it there!
Get off your f-ucking knees!
Raise! On your feet, UP!

Army no be joke oh! I have been there, done that, and got the T-shirt.

Mizita03: @ Combatmedic,

My issue is not with the Ladies and their right of choice, it is with guys that feel all Nigerian women sees love in only Naira and Kobo. I totally agree that women are attracted to Alpha males, but it depends on the kind of security a lady wants. I am fiecely independent, a dreamer and can allow things to worry me if i am not to careful, my sugarbanana is the total opposite, he is so emotionally stable! he knows exactly what he wants and even if hell is breaking loose, he will stay calm and would be more concerned about my state of mind than the situation. For me, after years of doing superwoman, it is fun to find someone whose first thought is to care for me and that makes him my superman. If he had no leg and no arms? God will have to help me then, because if he is still who he is , then am sure i would have still loved him.

You are a rare gem. Goodluck to you and yours.

BUMP!

Living the dream. Train hard, fight easy!

Mizita03: Reading the comments of some people here made me really laugh! Granted that our society is quite mean to disabled people but the question that if a Nigerian girl will marry/date a disabled guy without money involved is a resounding Yes! At least i am. My sweetheart was afflicted with polio from the age of three and walks on crutches. Today, he is living a good life, gainfully employed and should i mention, deliciously handsome to boot! FYI, i am not hungry and if i am a golf digger, the gold is in his heart and not his pocket. He has the most beautiful heart and believe it or not he has lots of girls that want to be his, so he is not nice because he is afraid or insecured.

If i have to do this all over again, i will do it over and over again. With him i feel like the most beautiful woman in the world, i call him my emotional rock and shield. Am totally inlove with him, crutches or not.

We are not just talking about disability, but its extreme forms. Would you have still been attracted to your spouse if he had no hands as well as having no legs?!

Personally, I don't blame ladies who say they can't do it. It is typical for female animals to be attracted to the strongest alpha-male animal, they do it subconsciously for the strength and survival of the species.

Hooray! Hooray!!

Two of my threads have hit front page within the space of 24 hours, this calls for celebration!

Time to pop Champagne, God is good!!!

If all the above responses are true, then there must be a disconnect somewhere. I wonder how people who live in a country that is the second most religious nation on planet earth can be selfish to their own ilk. This is another reason why we cannot progress as a nation, we are a bunch of selfish hypocrites.

‎"By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher". SOCRATES

In my opinion, married people and religious people have one thing in common. They both say it is the route to happiness; but how come they are not happy then?! Singles seem to be happier than married couples.

tobssyt: Dis one crious o. D girl get good heart. Indeed, this is true luv

She is a rare gem.

This is NOT a Nigerian ladies bashing thread, so please go away if you are looking for such.

I came across this picture on Facebook and decided to share. Can we find this kind of love in Nigeria or is the lady in the picture married to this man's money?!

Would a Nigerian lady marry a man who is 'hand-less' and 'leg-less' regardless of his financial status?!

Would a Nigerian man marry a lady who is 'hand-less' and 'leg-less' regardless of her financial status?!

I wonder. . .

I wonder how come ALL the ladies who have spoken on this thread are against this research!

There has to be a paradigm shift from a culture that subtly stipulates that a man/woman is 'incomplete' unless he/she is in a marriage. Marriage has since outlived its usefulness.

Yield: Correlation does not equal causation.

Let me just address this point you raised. I totally agree that correlation doesn't necessarily imply causation; this is the reason why before this research (and every other statistical research for that matter) was published, it was tested using other statistical tools besides basic correlation analysis.

Correlation analysis is the first basic test used to pre-determine causation, it may not imply direct causation, but it is a useful tool widely used within the scientific community to narrow down possible causative factors.

The life expectancy of the average Nigerian male is less than 50 years. I think we can safely say that the Nigerian female plays a big role in reducing the life expectancy of the Nigerian male.

Getting Married and Getting Heart Disease: A National Study

A report of an 8-year study of heart disease, based on a nationally representative sample of more than 9,000 people in late mid-life. When the study first started in 1992, the participants ranged in age from 51 to 60.

The participants were contacted five times from 1992 and 2000. Their marital status, cardiovascular health status, and health behaviors were assessed. Other information (for example, socioeconomic status) was also recorded.

There are five different marital statuses:
• Continuously married (i.e., first and only marriage)
• Remarried
• Widowed
• Divorced
• Always single

Let's look first at the prevalence of heart disease at the start of the study. (Heart disease = doctor diagnosis of heart attack, coronary heart disease, angina, congestive heart failure, or other heart problems, or stroke.) In the table below is the percentage of people (averaged across all ages) who had heart disease at the start of the study. Lower numbers indicate less prevalence of heart disease, so the group ranked #1 is the healthiest. The rank-ordering of heart disease for the 5 marital statuses was the same for the men as for the women. See if you can guess which marital status goes with each rank.

WOMEN MEN
1. 8.4 13.0
2. 8.7 13.5
3. 10.7 16.4
4. 10.8 16.5
5. 11.6 17.7

Okay, here are the answers:

1. Always single
2. Continuously married
3. Remarried
4. Widowed
5. Divorced

So there you have it. The lowest rate of heart disease is found among the women and men, ages 51-60, who had been single all their lives. The rates for the continuously married are higher, though not statistically so.

The study went on for years, and the authors calculated the probability of experiencing heart disease for each age, from 51 through 65. (See Table 5 in the article.) Of course, the probabilities increase with age for men and women of all marital statuses. Let's see where they end up at age 65. Here are the results for the MEN.

1. 29, always-single men
2. 33, widowed men
3. 42, remarried men
4. 46, continuously married men
5. 50, divorced men

Look at what has happened to the continuously married men. At 46%, the likelihood of having heart disease is greater for them than for any other group of men except the divorced. The always-single men are doing way better, at just 29%.

(For women at age 65, the probabilities were 32 for continuously married, 38 for always-single, 43 for widowed, 45 for remarried, and 47 for divorced. So even though men typically have higher rates of heart disease than women, the always-single men have the lowest rates of all 10 of the groups.)

The authors also looked at how the risk of heart disease changed for each successive year of marriage. Here, in their words, is what they found: "Each year in marriage increased rather than decreased the risk of cardiovascular disease by 2% for both men and women." The risk increased each year both in first marriages and in remarriages.

Because the authors collected data on health measures such as smoking and obesity, and on conditions described as morbid (really, that's the technical term), they could venture a data-based explanation as to why each year of marriage added to the risk of heart disease: "Longer marriages were associated with less healthy behaviors and an accumulation of morbid conditions, such as hypertension, diabetes, and high cholesterol."


Culled from: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/200902/single-men-have-good-hearts


Basically, what this research proves is that the so-called 'peace of mind' that people say we get from being married seems to be at best elusive or at worst a mirage.

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If nothing is "fishy", you might as well ask the question here so everyone can benefit. I would not waste my time opening a new email account simply because of you.

learn: HI Combatmedic

i sent u an email via nairaland but u hav to be online before i can mail u

learn: combatmedic, please can u mail me on schoolgirl352@yahoo.nl pleassssssssssssssss

Ask your question here so everyone can benefit, I don't give my email out to online characters for security reasons please.

In conclusion of this epic tale ,I have since safely passed out of basic training. A word of advice to Nigerians in the diaspora; NEVER, EVER GIVE UP!

Already on week 3 of training, 11 more weeks left in this shithole and I will be on my phase 2. No massive injury worries yet for me, my body seems to be holding up remarkably well.

Sapele_Don:
@combatmedic
The part in your post still very confusing to me is the part of you getting medically discharged while in training.

How can you be medically discharged while in training?when the CHIEF pre-requite in joining the military is that you have to be certifiably healthy?

The British Army does the same medical checks as the US Army, but you can be medically discharged whilst in training if you pick up an injury. I'm not aware of any monetary compensation though.

jennykadry:
^^ you don't get it do you? Your mind was already made up long before you started this thread

Since I can't make you believe the sincerity of this thread, no worries.

dnative:
The 4-year contract is not necessarily guaranteed as well with the ongoing Tory cuts and servicemen losing their jobs while in the field on active duty.

It's a 12 year contract actually, but you are committed to complete 4 years before you can leave. The Tory cuts is applied to 'deadwood' in the system, not to fresh recruits. Moreover, Medics are exempt from cuts due to the critical nature of the work they do.

Well, I have thought about it for the past 24 hours.

I have made a decision to start with the Army tomorrow. IF I get medically discharged within the next 4 weeks, I will simply take my scholarship letter to the Australian High Commission, and apply for a student visa to Australia. IF I am able to pull through the Army basic training, I will honour my contractual obligations to her Majesty, and then pursue a PhD afterwards.

Bonne Chance. . .

TroyJay:
Let him use the "Elimination Method". Let him:
~Leave his house in a mess anytime he wants to invite each one over. A caring lady will notice the state of his house and do something about it.
~Always suggest eating out. A caring lady will care less about eating out, and would be more concerned about his thriftiness.
~Make up spurious gossips against his very close friends or family members. A st[i]u[/i]pid lady will take his side, instead of trying to calm him down.
~Pretend he is broke. If he has a car, let him park it somewhere and lie that it's been sold.
~Arrange for friends to always harass him over a spurious debt. To be continued. . .

These are things some of my married friends did before they finally chose a wife, and it worked for them. If she's not concerned about your personal affairs when you are contemplating marriage, she probably will not when you finally marry her. When it comes to the issue of choosing a wife, all hands must be on deck else you make a mistake of a lifetime. There are a lot of "ladies" but "wives" are a microscopical few.

May the best lady win!

@OP: Just ignore this drivel. It will be by far better for your friend to go back in time and take advice from cave men, than it will be if he does what this poster says.

jennykadry:
You have made up your mind already, why did you come on here then? I don't buy the story of wanting to hear opinions. Your mind has been made up already. All the best

If my mind was made up, I wouldn't have bothered to open this thread in the first place. The thing is that my own family are also as divided over this issue, the same way the opinions on this thread are divided. It may be likely to get a good job in Australia after studying a PhD in Public Health, BUT it's not guaranteed. The thorny point of this PhD has to do with the long-term prospects, but in the short-term, it is by far the best option.

violent:
Don't listen to Jennykadry and the many other posters advising you to head for the land of oz and forgo the highly valued opportunity of putting your life at risk to protect the British people. 

Why anyone will choose a classroom to a war front is something i'm afraid i don't have the intelligence to decipher. As a matter of fact, reading your post has made me give my own life a second thought.  It makes me wonder how much i may be missing by staying stucked up to a 9 to 5 job and spending free time with families, friends and mistresses. . .when of course, i could be in faraway Yemen, living my life in fear on a Boeing AH-64 Apache, hoping my dad won't die of heart attack each time it's announced that another body bag is due to arrive home and of course  watching as people's lives get destroyed that Britons thousands of miles away may get to sleep soundly in their beds.

I smell sarcasm here.
My guy, I just wanted objective advice, no need to be sarcastic. Cheers anyway.

@JennyKadry:
The value of the tuition fee is $24,400 per year, and the living allowance is $23,728 per year, all applicable for 3 years with a possibility to get a 6 month extension. If not that I already have this Army contract starring me in the face, I would have jumped at the opportunity to go and enjoy free money in Australia.

alfablondy:
@ op I think you prefer the British army Job, if what you posted above is to be applied. [size=14pt]Why not join Nigerian army   You prefer to risk your life for the British government  [/size]

On a more serious note, both offer are good. Go for the one that really suite you. people can argue for and against the final decision is all about you. I was once in a delimma like you to choose between two noble professions, I got admission for both at the same time and decided to choose my present career based on the feelings of my family and friends whereas in my mind I prefer the other profession, I am comfortable with my job but I still have the feelings that I would have been more successful and fulfilled if I had followed my mind.

I get paid the same wages a Colonel in the Nigerian Army earns, if not higher. I'm due to report to the barracks on Monday though, so I guess I have only got 24 hours to make a decision. Thanks anyway.

^^
Cheers my guy, nice points you have there.

To answer your question as to the reason I chose to apply to join the British Army, I was once told that an ideal job must contain 3 key ingredients;
1. Love what you do.
2. What you do should help people.
3. Have fun/adventure doing what you do.
The Army is one of the few opportunities in life to actually provide these 3 attributes in a holistic package. I would love to pursue a PhD in Public Health in Australia, I may even be able to use my knowledge to help people, but the question is would I have fun in that line of career?!

Another way of looking at this issue is for me to self-sponsor a PhD after my Army contract is over. The proviso here is that I would live through my contract with my limbs intact. As a Combat Medic, we are in the thick of the action, we MUST go to war.

This is really a dilemma, but I think I'm tilting more towards the Army option. Cheers lads.

^^
Sound point.

chika98:
A British passport in hand is worth a whole lot. Plus being in the military has its benefits. I'd strongly suggest going the military route because even with a PhD; You'll need a work permit from prospective employer(s). A British passport will eliminate that uncertainty plus peace of mind.

I agree. The only problem there is that I'm assuming I will live through my 4 year contract with the Army. There is always a possibility of getting killed in a war zone, that's the major risk of this option.

Kx:
Why do I have dis strong feeling that u ve made up your mind for the "soldier" job?

There are times when I think of it, and my mind tilts towards the Army job, but on some other times, it tilts towards pursuing the PhD (the PhD offer is valid for 2 months before it expires). I'm just trying to weigh opinions, and do a cost-benefit analysis of both options.

chika98:
I'd go for the Army job simply because the benefits ie British passport and a job guarantee is a good deal. You can always get a PhD much later if you want.

That's what I thought.

frank 94:
my brother that's a nice offer,first you have to know what you want in life.But if I'm in yr shoes,i will go straight for the phd and I will never think twice.with phd certificate from Australia,you can get a well paid job in australia,Canada or any order good place.any way pray for gods direction.

The thing is that getting the so-called well-paid job after a PhD is very likely, but not guaranteed.

claremont:
@OP: I hear Australia is a racist country, especially towards immigrant students. If I were you, I will choose the army. You can always do a PhD later in life.

It seems racism is rife in Australia.

British Army;
Advantages:
1. Guaranteed contract of employment for 12 years.
2. Opportunity to travel round the world.
3. British passport at the end of 4 year service.

Disadvantage
1. I could be beheaded in Afghanistan by the Taliban.
2. I could get injured in training, and be medically discharged.

Australian Scholarship
Advantages:
1. Free Tuition and monthly stipend for at least 3 years.

Disadvantage
1. No guarantee of employment after PhD.

ojdollars:
Bros or Sist, I beg een, choose your PhD Scholarship in the Australia Uni and move to Australia. If you still not sure, then Pray.

I wish it was that easy. I have put in a whole year of my life going through the selection process of joining the British Army, and just when I signed my 4 year contract, this PhD offer came through. Wetin man go do now!

yemmy_ma:
Have you made any self evaluation on what you will like to do personally?

I really don't think anybody can advice you xcept you know which one you really like to see yourself. Working or in academics?

To be honest, I would like both equally. I'm equally comfortable doing both, but the thing is that I can't do both at the same time . Thanks anyway.