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dayokanu:
You just highlighted that the kids have a right to gripe on you so why is it bad for them to pad their fees?

kids are in their formative years. if you tolerate such, they would grow up to be armed robbers - you cannot compare.

Your wife being with you in 50yrs is not a given, she might decide to bail out on you before then, while we have had instances of kids who put their parents in with them when the parents are old

this is why i am marrying a wife. this is why i chose the best out of the 5674936204730243735 women i have slept with. do you not think i have done alpha and beta testing to come out with the best of the lot? no woman is capable of leaving me in marriage. if she is capable, i wouldn't have married her in the first place.

In Nigeria especially, its not strange to see parents live with their kids when they are old

most times, when one of them is dead!

dayokanu:
^^ So according to you, your kids are justified to pad up their school fees, steal money from you since they have a right to gripe from you?

the relationship i have with my wife is different to what i have with my kids. i have highlighted that.
when i grow old n grey and get struck by stroke in the next 50 yrs, this woman would be with me whilst ma kids would only pay monthly visits.

Let me get this straight and also anyone that supports this view

my kids are different from my wife!

BlueDiva:
Yes, some are even killing their husbands to claim his life insurance.

The man bought his wife an expensive BB, that is some sort of luxury for a man u people say is stingy abi ?
This same stingy man wants to buy her a car? Another luxury for a stingy person.

all those other stuffs are lies to make himself a sorry-arse victim of the most wicked wife in the world.
why would a serious husband even reveal those kind of details? abegggi, spare me.

when i read stories like this from nigerians, i focus on the main point and ignore chaffs like i bought her a blackberry fone, bought her indian hair and i am about to buy her a lexus jeep. spare me those ogrish details. i don't wanna know!

dayokanu:
A woman gives her husband money.

Honey pls on your way from the stall help me buy an iphone. The husband comes back home that he bought it for $600 the wife later finds out he bought it for $500

Can I assume the responses would be the same here? Or they are just flesh and blood

Whats wrong in telling your wife I bought it for 500 but I have used the $100 on it for something else?

Trust, truth, Honesty seemed to be a strange concept to us

the man is the head of his house. a fact every nigerian woman acknowledges.
so there's a hierarchy.

i cannot gripe to my kids. my kids can gripe to me.
my kids can gripe to me or their mum. my wife can only gripe to me. i don't think i should gripe to any of them( i lead the pack).

if you know any man doing the example you stated above to his wife, then he's a loser!
i can't even imagine telling my mates my wife took $100 from me - they would laugh at me and pour a glass of beer in my face - as if that's news.

the same way we want women to think a cheating husband is normal is the same way i want you to think a wife pinching her husband's money is . very normal! it's a global phenomenon.

chaircover:
**putting on juge judy's stern voice**

Thats Baloney sir . . .thats just baloney

Bird take that man out of my court  

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chaircover:
Just gone back to read the OP's thread. He says that he gives his wife every single penny that she asks for , . . . .

Well if he does, and she has so much at her disposal then why does she need to inflate prices?

Its also amazing that in the one year, hubby never for once stopped off on his way back from work or whatever and bought his kid pampers or baby milk.

he has to cook up the story to be believable.

if we bring the wife here, you would marvel at how the story would change direction.
how many times has that happened on this very section when partners have come here to do their dirty laundry.

you have made the point. if he knows for sure the woman has been inflating the prices of the groceries, why hasn't he taken over that task?
this is the same question judge judy would ask this lying petty husband.

BlueDiva:
I don't worry about the men defending this act.
I worry about the women.

Women who reason this way will likely inculcate this habits in their kids.
I hear of women who encourage their kids to inflate their school fees for their fathers.

I tell my kids, if you take someone elses biro you are just like the man who robbed a bank.
No matter what their needs are you should be able to tell me.

What stops a woman from saying ''darling, these money will only cover our babies items, i need some extra to get a few things for myself''?

Even if the man is stingy, a woman can still get the money out of him without pilfering small small change. She is a woman, she knows her husbands soft spot.

One poster is talking of getting a Range in Dec from her hubby. It's when a woman knows her man that she can make him get her such a car. Know your man ladies and you won't need to steal.

oh please. . . . . .spare me this eulogy of yours.

a woman must do what she's gotta do. if this woman has indeed be doing this like the husband alleged, then i must still blame the man.
women don't just become rogues by nature. how do we know she has not tried your methods and the husband looking the other way?
a husband this petty wouldn't even welcome any sort of luxury. every price-list has miscellaneous. . . .the husband should overlook this and deal with what real men deal with in the marital home.

naijababe:
Na wa for this NL sha. OP, does your wife work? If she doesn't, do you provide enough for her needs ?

My dad always said ' okunrin gidi ni lati l'amojukuro nibi awon nkan yepere' . . . . . . a real man ought to ignore inconsequential matters.

a fact that evades bluediva and her army of lunatics supporting the husband.

what kind of husband gets that petty? he probably keeps a record of the people that eye-ball him, the ones who don't say hi to him, the women who don't kneel properly for him and so on and forth. any man this petty is a loser and a man not to be toyed with. people like him metamorphosed to abdul-mutallabs.

sadistic twats!

emmatok:
So you even agree she stole something.

Well, my boss ordered his wife arrested  for stealing his money.

tell that boss of yours he's a loser.
quote me anytime anyday. matter of fact, print this comment of mine and show him i said so.

BlueDiva:
^^^^
Don't mind coogar. We know ourselves very well.
He likes to argue and deludes himself that he wins every arguement.
He's my pally though.

don't try to be silly now.
there's no difference between 2400 naira and 3000 naira.
the difference in pounds sterling is less than £3.

Anyways, this topic has lost it's flavour and i'm out.

The op should get his wife something to keep her busy and earn her own income.
That might just cure the klepto illness she has. 2k ni? What a cheapstake!

be forming there! only the cross knows how many times you have stolen your husband's credit card details to buy stuffs.
anyway, the man is a loser, a moaner and a crybaby. i need you to prove he isn't instead of this megedefegede you are spewing.

dayokanu:
^^ Does it matter if the kids are 12 yrs old or 24yrs old?
A 24yr old who inflates the prices of handout and school fees is allowed to because he/she also needs money to look good

he is a kid - he's not allowed to.
when he marries, let him steal from his partner.

again, i'll ask you to compare like for like - a task you find difficult to accomplish.
the wife has not stolen from her parents. she stole from her husband. let the kids steal from their spouses as well when they get married!

If ppl see your 22yr old son/daughter looking cute and compliment I am sure the man would smile
Paraphrasing some of the ridiculous excuses some posters have used to justify the wifes thieving attitude

let the son/daughter steal from their spouses when they get married.
the wife has not stolen from her parents. your analogy is stupendously daft!

dayokanu:
Ronke,
Are children allowed to inflate prices of items to parents too? Like school fees, groceries etc
Since they are your flesh and blood

why do nigerians find it so hard to compare like for like?

man and wife. . . .2 adults
what has this gotta do with the kids?

so because a man and his wife are having s[i]e[/i]x in their bedroom now means the kids should join in?
nigerians and their uncanny ability to spew rubbish! you guys don't get tired of baloney.

pendo89:
3 weeks is too short and 5 years is a lifetime as well.At 6 months some clouds ought to be forming if both of you are mature enough by the way.
2 serious people don't waste time playing hide and seek.You ask straight forward questions and you enter it fully aware that you are looking for a partner.

what about their finances? i think that is often the issue when it comes to marriage in this generation.
a far majority of the ladies think only about the wedding and not the marriage itself. all they want is a glamorous wedding, a fat rock on their finger, a stunning wedding dress and exotic drinks/food at the reception. that is how far they think. they don't even want to know if their partners have enough in his tank to start a family or face the challenges that lie ahead.

But ladies dont care how much you do for them if you fail to commit and define it.The reason you start hearing that question.

there are different kinds of men. some men would marry regardless of what the future holds for them. i will not marry any woman if i am not sure my finances can guarantee a life of luxury for her and the unborn children. those are the issues. so it's not about failing to commit and defining it. sometimes the issue is about money and mostly the mental part of it .

If you dont put a head to it after a while she starts pulling off. This she does to protect herself from hurt because ladies give it their all and want to be sure they are with the right person first before they fully surrender.
Am not talking high school dating here by the way.

oh ye weaker s[i]e[/i]x of little faith!

the moment a man says let's take it slow - a woman starts pulling off. she loses faith completely and she's seeking other options. while she's doing that, the man is doing his math. how to get a house comfortable to house his newly wed, how to put money in his savings account for the coming child, etc. the woman is now making herself available for her other admirers. then one day, she gets unlucky and her partner finds out she's been flirting lightly with some other blokes. he's vexed and he kicks her out. then the myth that men are evil is reborn!

BlueDiva:
LOL. . .this coogar is really slow.
Grow up and stop those silly jibes you think you know how to throw.

These community sponsored people always make the loudest noise.
I had to laugh at my not ever entering a plane. . .lolz

community sponsored people make the loudest noise? you were the one hyping your husband as the first black man to explore europe.
now who's the loudest? i think you need to practise what you preach.

Back to the topic.

Why can't a woman just write the real prices and ask for extra money for her needs?
Is that such a big deal?

what makes you think she wasn't speaking the truth?
is it not possible for the husband to have gotten a different price-list from a store that sells substandard items?

Maybe you can school me in sports but in issues of marriage, you're a dummy.
I hope you're just trying to win cheap popularity here, i seriously hope you don't reason this way.

i have a vast knowledge over every topic. in marriage, i would school you on the do's n don'ts.
the only thing you would know more is the gists in the labour room and how to wear tampons.

What sort of person will pinch 2k or 3k in a month?
Poster, you married a hungry girl, sorry to say.

and any man grumbling over 2-3k every month is a loser, a moaner and a crybaby!
such men would not complain when his mistress demands 50k for a round of s[i]e[/i]x he gets freely from his wife.
life is about check n balance. even if i find out my wife inflates the prices of her groceries, i would even pretend i didn't notice.
men should be men not cry babies.

pendo89:
. Yep just spare me the details but when you apply perfume on a stinking body,it only gets worse.Its no longer perfume but very bad odour. eew.
But being female I know there's nothing females cant do.
Fine but if you are dating always encourage your woman to go for medical checkups for her own sake and accompany her if u have doubts.

and you think men have such time in their hands?
men are mostly blessed with options. i don't think i have the time to aid the cure of a partner suffering from g[i]e[/i]nital halitosis.
in most cases, a man would cut her loose.

anonymous6:
that was a mistake, I meant Nigeria

of course, i know.
i just like the way it was worded!

mobf:
Funny, but a lady should know if her man is serious enough about her to make her his wife.
Thing with most guys is that once you start asking where the relationhip's headed, you're looking for trouble

i hate that question!
it oozes of desperation. she should wait for me to make up my mind.

don't ask me where it's headed to in the 3rd week.

anonymous6:
English is not a native language of Nigeria, it is the official language of Nigeria. Native languages of Nigeria are like Hausa/fulani, Yoruba. Igbo, edo and etc. English can not be a native language of Nigeria because it is was never a native language of the tribes of Nigeria in their first place, it was the native language of the British, who were the ones who colonized England.

thanx for making me laugh!

pendo89:
Good Lord. You should have given a better example say deformity, cz such an issue is detectable when you are dating due to the odour.No need to go down south to discover unless everytime you meet you are sitting 10m from each other.

says who? her perfume does a good job for her when she's clothed.
the odour oozes out the moment the panties come off. odour bad enough to kill live rats instantly.
don't lemme go into details. some women aren't hygienic at all. if you have stayed in the hostel before, you'd know what i am talking about.

musKeeto:
Lmao, posting from dolphin browser hd on my galaxy s2 running criskelo rom on pephtamine firmware. Do u need more info?

i laugh in boko haram.
if that error does not prove you are lying, nothing else would.

BlueDiva:
@coogar
Stop giving excuses for a failure.
Any person with half a brain will know what i meant by 0-0-10.

you don't even have up to half-a-brain

Please the media you say? The same English media that has been criticizing Lamps form.
We all thought he was gone till he proved us wrong.

what has lampard proven? he was taken apart by arsenal's midfield and charlie adam sodomized lampard all night last weekend.
i dunno how you folks hype individual goalscoring of a player for the good of the team. lampard is poision to the chelsea team.

Dude even admitted that the media articles served as motivationn for him to step up his game, which he did.
This same Lamps has done the scoring that Torres refuses to do.

scoring and losing!!
when torres doesn't play - someone else scores and chelsea rarely lost.

Since we are throwing around formations, i would like to see 4-2-3-1. Ditch El Nino

------------------cech
----ivanovic----alex------terry-----cole
---------luiz-------miereles--------
----sturridge-----mata/lamps--------anelka/mata
------------drog----------

see yeye formation. playing all chelsea defenders at a time is your own brand of formation?
having mata wide has yielded nada. chelsea keep losing playing mata on the wide. it's like having fabregas as a winger.
you are taking out 90% of mata's ability to accommodate lampard. yes, lampard scores from that but the general performance is w@nk!

BlueDiva:
@coogar.
So you are westernized and know so much?
Ask your friends in the sport section, i'm mixed and don't need a visa to travel to any of the western country.

your being mixed means shyte. i know a lot of mixed people who have never travelled out of nigeria before.
and from what i know of you - i don't think you have been in an airplane ever before so leave race out of it and tackle intelligence.

Lived, schooled and worked in your ''heaven'' you are so proud to live in for many years before coming to Naija.
I'm married to someone who became westernized when you were still playing with used tyres on the street.

how do you know i am not older than your husband? you are getting too personal.
attack the issue, leave personalities alone.

That said, i know a thief and a liar when i read of one.
Posters wife is a disgrace to any decent woman. Those supporting her are even worse.

yet another misconception. this is the nigerian mentality. anything involving misappropriation of money is automatically stealing.
this woman is no thief as she has not stolen any ish. how are we even sure the husband and wife shop in the same area of lagos. there are diapers sold at 300 naira and there are some sold at 2000 naira. if we don't buy it from the same shop - does that necessarily make the wife a thief?
once again, your bush mentality has been exposed without even trying hard.

If you wouldn't mind a liar and a thief as wife, though luck.
A woman who has to lie and steal her hubby's money shouldn't be trusted.

this woman has not lied. products have different price-lists depending where you buy them from.
waitrose and aldi will not sell ordinary class a eggs for the same price.

That pilfering your hubby's money in 2011 is now legit shows how worthless we have become as a nation.

you are a disgrace to womanhood!

musKeeto:
If you were a brilliant troll, you'd have realised that I had earlier stated I rock the galaxy s2 not that apple scam. But, alas, you troll just for the sake of trolling. Be good,you 4ker

liar. galaxy sII my foot!
you cannot afford it.