₦airaland Forum

2buff:
Chiaman Be like say money plenty for your hand. First of all, you know say N50m na like $350k right?
If so, make we yahn on to some kain business like dat.

Misogynist2014:
Hmm! The identity crisis is a huge case. I just shake my head when I listen to feminist on twitter, and shake my head. How can a sensible human say she needs right to kill her child. Pathetic fo.ols!

Misogynist2014:
I will not pay bride price, I will not buy credit and other stuffs for my gf, I will not give a dime out of my hard earned money to my wife, I will get a house help. These are things that will happen in a world of gender equality. If there is a feminist here that genuinely likes my comment, click like. Hypocrites!!!

They want gender roles and still want equality. This list is just an epitome of what a man faces in africa under the guise of 'head of family.' I see the 'weaker' sex in shops built by the toil of men, while their husbands toil in harsh sun.
From primary to secondary, till university, men are made to go through harsh conditions, which these pathetic things don't care about, rather than their narrow and selfish views of life. To hell with 'head'! Who wants it anyway? That white elephant thing that brings no yield.

AlienSPY:
I hate it when an 'ordinary' woman that cannot pass urine standing upright insult me

thorpido:
What would you like us to chat about?

Misogynist2014:
This is the best and most soothing comment I've ever read anywhere . But still puzzles me how you're unable to see the reasons for comparison, which is to prove that paying bp is not what makes a wife deputy to her husband, but his ability to rule his home. I really wish Nl 'feminists' can reason like you. Equity, not equality is what is needed in a home. Thanks ma'am.

Debbiemma:
He is a business man.pls no in
sult

2buff:
Maga why?

Only to waste time lovey doveying up just to realize that I am supposed to buy 200 white paiiint for all the women in her village (among other personal effects)? And she too would be expecting me to do it?

Noooo. There are other women from much more well-thinking families who would filter such things before they even meet my eye. (See aisha's post for example)
Those are the kind of in-laws I would want to be associated with, not hungry slave traders.

Debbiemma:
Far from that.what happened was that i wanted to further my education but he refuse saying that its not necessary

2buff:
Na to do home work before hand.
As I state in this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/1989442/why-ibo-people-connected-village
I wouldn't get myself involved with a chick that is too in love with her village, because that is where all those silly expectations come from.
I prefer to stay away from such places as much as possible. She would have to think and reason like me concerning core opinions about the [un]importance of heavy, costly traditions to a modern pragmatic life, etc, etc.

Debbiemma:
Im having issues with my husband and now he is neglecting me and rejecting my food.pls i need your advice

MrTA:
As much as I'm not happy about the international break, I hope its a chance for some of these injured players to return. The likes of Falcao, Evans,Jones, Rafael in particular, Who all seem to have weird unspecified injuries. We really need to be pushing on from here now.

CFCfan:
Its simply a sign of extreme poverty

2buff:
@coogar, na you be senator Oh, this one wey N50million brideprice/list no go shake you
When I grow up sir, I want to be just like you.

But for now, I gats respect myself, I will not even bother "negotiating" after hearing that kind of nonsense. Na to just enter car like robot, off phone, drive commot dat bastard village go my house go sleep.
No time for bullsh1t

Misogynist2014: Dear coogar, why is it that the groom price is seen as profit, while the bride price is seen as purchase?

As far as I'm concerned, it is not necessary for a man to pay a bride price, before he owns a woman, all he needs is wisdom, a virtue women lack. I'm proud to be a man. I would have killed myself a long time ago if I were born a woman. sad

babygirlfl:
I still insist it's not that easy

The bolded is very funny. We don't give such lists from where I come from. We also don't have Umuada or anything like that. Bride price is also returned to the groom.

Most Nigerian men seems to hate feminism. Why do you hate feminists? I absolutely agree that domestic violence will reduce in Nigeria if bride price was abolished but I also don't think it is justifed to be violent towards your wife because you paid her bride price.

rozzay:
She s lying right sir?

1stCitizen: 1. 20 litres of hot drink
2. 7male goats for elders
3. 7 female goats for the old women
4. 22 Jersey, 22boats, and 10balls for
the youths.
5. 120 yards of Nigeria wax for
the young girls.
6. 30 tubers of yams and 40 sea fishes
for the oldest men and women in the
family.
7. 7 kola nuts and 10 bitter kola.
8. One bull for the king and elders in
council.
9. A sewing machine for the
younger sister.
10. 5 trip of sand and 17 bags of
dangote cement.
11.Three gallons of 20litres
palm wine.
12. 2 white sheep for her elder and
younger brothers.
13. 200 bathroom slippers for
the villagers.
14. 50liters of petrol
15. 4 handsets for her other
siblings.
16. 7 cartons each of star
beer, coke and snap.
17. The father and mother's
clothes with the sum of N180,000.
18. 2 big box that will be use to park
her clothes.
19. A white bicycle for her uncle.
20. when coming with the
above items, come with the cow
that will be killed for the marriage
ceremony.

moca:
On a serious note, that is why u young guys should start going home and voicing out ur concerns over all these unusual traditional rites.
By d time somebody from another town tells of what he spent in ur town compared to urs and use it to ridicule ur gals, nobody will tell u and ur people to do something fast so u will not be left behind.
D thing is our guys stay in townships, never going home and still expect things to change when they r supposed to champion d change, u get it.
Its not a feminist thing. Though daughters protest to the hearing of their fathers. But d final judgement always come from d men of d house.
So men, go to work and stop whinning.

rozzay:
I want coogar. Is he handsome?

babygirlfl:
I and many women will be happy if it was as simple as that. You need to remember that it goes beyond the girls immediate family. The extended family are all involved. We have started doing something. I believe that with time, it will stop.

I totally understand what you mean by hypocisy but bride price should not mean the woman is no longer an equal. Also remember that unless a man is marrying from a very poor and/or greedy family, the brideprice is nothing near the cost of hosting the traditional marriage which is usually hosted by the brides family.

babygirlfl:
I have always hated the idea of bride price. I personally think it is one culture we should stop.

freecocoa:
I honestly don't understand what that thing is all about, I hear it's tobacco, tried it once when a friend and I visited her grandma and almost died, Omo the thing do me like say them put pepper for my brain via my nose, come see sneezing na, my eyes come red like person wey them spray tear gas,highness I no kuku feel, that snuff of a thing na rubbish abeg .

freecocoa:
I agree that a girl's mum influences her life but that's not always the case you know, a bad mother can have a good daughter and vice versa so one shouldn't rush to conclusions.

Adults drink beer na, that one no mean anything jor .

SAMBARRY:
You and who?
sho wa mentally ok sha?
check next bus stop. Osharo Monday

freecocoa:
Lmao
The "carteen" of beer is not for the MIL alone, they use it to entertain their age grade or whatever union, you know you have to call a meeting to inform them your daughter's getting married.

SAMBARRY:

Na that one you go see

oniranu

RuuDie:
Welbeck has suddenly stopped scoring...!? Oh I get it, he is still "developing"!

elampiro:
Yes, but is this how we are going to continue? I thought we were more creative with Herrera. Our forward play was faster, or does that have to do with Rafael on the right side?

slimyem:
My days are like every other day.
I do not exhibit any unusual attitude nor does it affect my relations with people or situations. Maybe my hormones just agree with me.

crackhaus:
So what I really need to know, is there ever a time when hormones have absolutely no effect on a woman's emotions?
Like after you eliminate days of PMS, pregnancy, and cycles - is there a time your hormones don't have an effect on your moods and emotions?

Just curious...

RoyalRoy:
I will not hesitate to ban you and your different usernames from this section if you continue to make spurious and unsubstantiated allegations against the mods here!!

Be very careful of your utterances please.

Stillfire:
Yes I'm surprised in this day and age where Se..xx is one of the easiest commodities.
If these ladies stand on the street and say they want to loose their virginity, I bet no less than 1,000,000 men will turn up.

moca:
Coogar, infact u need deliverance!
R those gals not pretty?
Get a make up artist for them and u won't regognise them again.
That's not fair now
Coogar,repent!

Stillfire:
Power over you! Jesus has redeemed us from the curses.
Headship in christianity is a spiritual thing.
But since men refuse to go to church and be a spiritual lead, the mantle has been taken away from them!
Like the way God took away the kingdom from Saul!
Every church you go to there are more women than men!
More women for headship!

freecocoa:
Chai! I don die , coog why evils na? What do you suggest be done about the matter?