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damiso:
Coogaarrr. did I say that now.that was why I asked what is attention sef? If you spend all your time together however go pay bills na? Most naija guys that I know don't even want to marry a jobless girl talkless of a guy? But ambition is relative like I always say.let me give an example two doctors one is content being a GP and is home by 7pm most week nights he is not poor but might not be as loaded or as revered as the consultant neurologist who is working long hours with research scientists to formulate ground breaking surgical techniques. Sometimes sef time spent away pursuing a dream might not even translate to hard cold cash.

SirShymex:
The one from Miss NL.

Her face isn't all that, but her body, especially the bum, is crazy lol.

BABE3:
what does the highlighted mean? Why did you feel the need to put in that piece of information?

As a 'miss independent' that works in a multi national company, what are you asking for again? Brazilian hair? Are you a beggar?

damiso:
Nothing wrong with attention naa .Some girls do not necessarily want money,power etc some don't mind a modest lifestyle,sharing one car etc if it means they get to spend more time with their spouse.

In other words,know what you want.Dont marry or date a fiercely driven person(some women are too) and start whining about attention.apart from driven some people's line of work need it .even we the children knew that daddy goes to island club every Friday night.we could be eating dinner and next thing he has to go to Abuja for 2 days.Funny enough my hubby is direct oppodite because in a way I knew I was not like my mum.If my hubby is not at work or studying or hanging out(very rarely) he is at home and we are doing stuff together.Deep down I don't think I could have coped with that my parents lifestyle.then again we even live in a different environment.

abeautifulchick:
Pls stop all this.I am a graduate and i am working in a multi national company.i can afford some of the things he gives to me.so money is not the issue here.

abeautifulchick:
I am.its just that i need maximum attention from him

damiso:
My dear sucess(which is relative sha) comes at a price and sometimes TIME is a currency that most very successful influential people do not have.Now I am not saying you should not make time for loved ones but in essence the quality of the time with folks like this has to take over from the quantity of time. Ask the spouses of most Fortune 500,FTSE 100 CEO's politicians etc.Dabid Cameron had to cut short a holiday to call a cobra meeting on British nationals joining ISIS imagine Samantha Cameron whining that he Is not giving her attention co she cut shirt a family holiday.Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown.

damiso:
Not to derail coogar but he too can dump her or get a side chic at the sight of an extra pound

MarvellousGod:

Coogar, a successful man should know how to manage his time... He should specially make out time for his loved ones, very important. ..

BABE3:
coogar are you seeing this?? her own pasanal car..
this thread has to be fake.

BABE3:
Guys, listen to this nonsense at your own peril....

Chris brown don talk am finish

"When a rich nigga want you
and your nigga can't do nothing for you
these hoês ain't loyal"

most women will rather have a rich and cheating husband than a broke and faithful one that showers them with attention.

why did OP say yes knowing "attention" was a major problem? Answer on a big placard pls... anyone

damiso:
OP what do you mean by attention? As in you guys don't spend time together at all or he is very career/business focused? I am not being funny here but if a man or person is very career/business driven or has certain dreams believe me as a spouse you might have to make certain sacrifices.that is just the hard fact.my mum told me my dad left her at home two days after their wedding on a political campaign that meant she actually rarely saw him for over a week.They later went on honeymoon to 3 countries when I was about 2 years old and left me behind with my grandma My mum knew she was marrying someone with political ambitions right from their courting days and she prepared her mind that he might not always be there due to that ambition.Now I am not saying it was always ideal as i remember late nights,long absences but when he was there the time we spent together formed some of my best childhood memories.My mum knew what she was getting into and I can't really say he was actually not a good father or husband because of the time he spent away pursuing that dream.

My long epistle (sorry OP ) is just pointing to one question 'can you deal with it?' If you can't it's ok just think long and hard about it because it might not get better after marriage.

abeautifulchick:
How do you mean clueless.If trying to be on thesame page with a man you want to marry is what you term clueless then you dont have an idea what it means.

FynBabe:
Guys, please do not ignore your wife/girlfriend deliberately o! This is how it starts and madam will begin to eye your male domestic staff in your absence. Pickabeau1, I laugh in swahili . I repeat, no woman loves money more than attention!

BABE3:
so by using his car instead of a cab,, the distance will magically reduce ?

FynBabe:
@ Coogar, I had a good laugh @ your comments.

FynBabe:
Why do most guys think women value money more than anything else in a relationship? Just like guys can not survive without respect in a relationship, so women can not do without attention.

MarvellousGod:
i understand what you're saying but It's not like staying at home dishing out attention, your partner deserves some level of attention na..

@bolded, I disagree. . Both are very important but woman/family takes precedence. who are you making the money for if not your family? and you're placing them below the money??

SirShymex:
If I can add what I'm seeing in that ripped jeans to the equation, she is closer to a 7 now. And my 7 is very high lol.

The Lupey chic is the only 7 I have seen on nl. So she is alright since she is also up there now lol.

BABE3:
you dey mind them. Small girls.
If you don't want to put up with a broke man, you have to put up with a busy man.

For all we know, his "friends" could be business associates. Even if there're not, what's the big deal in taking a cab (not even danfo) home from the airport? It's not like she'll carry the "heavy" bags on her head; and the man will still foot the cab bill anyway.

MarvellousGod:
So making money while still giving his gf necessary(not excessive) attention will kill him?? Ain't there rich guys who give their wives attention? how can he prefer staying out with friends to spending time with his Fiancee?? That's not a good sign because he may keep late nights after marriage. .

Op, are you boring a person? ? Just figuring why he may not be spending much time with ya

TV01:
Exactimondo! The West is deadly - weight wise - to any Naija fresher who is not disciplined. Especially those that are at that point were the metabolism slows down or likely to give birth in the near future.

I went to a birthday party recently - if you see the parade of gbo gbo big girls - and they are hungry. Wifey said she couldn't tell if they were eyeing me or my plate of rice, moin-moin and pepper stew

Avoid like the plague.

TV

50calibre:
As many as I can bruv!! Now or never

When I'm married, I may not be able to.

MarvellousGod:
We cherish attention and the op's guy seems not to be giving her that.....

abeautifulchick:
Yes.What matters most to me is love.

abeautifulchick:
Hi guys,i just said yes to my boyfriend of 2 years but i still have doubts because there are some of his characters that i dont want in a husband.E.g The fact that he makes business and money a priority over me and so on.Should i go ahead and marry him or i should quit the relationship now that i still can? Will he ever change?

TV01:
It falls under "due dilligence" - and plain ole' common sense

There's a old Ukrainian saying "before you marry a woman check out her mother" - paraphrased somewhat.

You are spot on about environment change - and that must be factored in ! I once met a girl fresh from Naija. Fabulous figure, but within 3 months she had rolling flesh everywhere - even at the knees

My wife was born and bread in the UK, not up to 3 years in Nigeria in total. Exposure to KFC won't make a difference ! Diligence must be manifold .

TV

wonlasewonimi:
Next time don't come with your first tester role and you make 400/ day. You faked 5 years cognate experience.

I don't really have time to be going back and forth with you cos I'm a bit busy. But, you and I know you lied on the pay rate. How much do you expect them to pay the Solution designers, the architects, and the project manager if they pay you ordinary bug detector £400/day. (and It'd will be clear as a day to any experience lead tester that you were faking it).

wonlasewonimi:
Abeg abeg drop your veteran status. There's no way you are rookie and you will take up lead tester position even after a creative CV. Your ass would be exposed.

I asked again professional tester mr Coogar...which area of testing did you make 400 a day? Non functional/functional --manual or automation?

TV01:
^{**thank God got foresight & discernment - I checked out my wife' mum and made sure WTB was a little below the ideal size when I married her. Everyone shine eye wella before marrige. Shut am tight after !**}

wonlasewonimi:
What area of Testing were you paid 400 a day as a rookie? Clean the lies on your mouth away.

Sagamite:
You would have to have more than 2 years experience to make that on contract.

To make that, you would need to be making close to, or even more than, £500 per day.

Not many testers make that much, more so, not those with small experience or no leadership responsibilities.

Any company management that tried paid that to a mediocre rookie, would be roasted by the board and investors as 'moorons on a pyre'.

You can get Accenture or IBM in to provide testers for way less than £500 per day. More like £180 per day if their business development and senior consultant team do a good sales bargain. You will get the organisational experience, the robust testing methodology, the IT knowhow and the transfer of risk for far cheaper if you hired them. And this £180 would not go to the tester, only about £23,000 per year would hit their bank account (pre tax).

50calibre:
Bitc*h when I'm I going to fuc*k you?

I thought I made you an offer?

Winter is coming, & I could do with some naija puss*y.

I'd have to take you to the hospital to be screened for Ebola first

Sagamite: Another was one cretin that claimed he was making £100K per annum 2 years after graduating in the UK. When I asked what he did, he said he was a software tester. grin grin grin grin grin

I told him he was a blatant liar. No one would pay a software tester £100K with only 2 years experienced. I explained that I know for sure the CEO all the way down to the line manager would be sacked by the Board if they found out they are paying that much for the services of a graduate that has no special skills out of their annual budget. Even many CEOs and Directors in the UK managing over 300 staff would struggle to make that much annually, talkless of a graduate with 2 years experience who is a mere IT tester. And he did not even attend any of the UK's top universities.

He disappeared and went to continue drinking the garri he drinks in London while claiming some false success. grin grin grin grin grin