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[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Hehehehehe....Coogar made a funny!!!

Oh women would be so lucky if the bias against them was only on the section of some obscure website, won't they?

I'm laughing at comments about what cheating women will tell their children and blah blah. Yeah, the mother is the ONLY moral compass a child needs, he can watch his father change women like hairstyles and treat his mommma like crap....that's not damaging at all oh because his daddy kukuma has no influence on him (which makes me wonder why they then say stay for the kiddies but that's a story for another day) but his momma going with other men. . .well open the psychiatric wards doors because it's about to rain mentalos!!!!

Lmao!! All sorts I tells ya!
By the way, Ile...1 million thumbs up. [/quote]hahahaha
sisikill, but it's not the same. let's look at the extremes of infidelity in both cases. the worst that can happen to the man is knocking one of his girlfriends up and having a baby out of wedlock. in the woman's case - if she gets pregnant from one of her lovers, she would name her husband as the father of the bastärd!

i ask again - are the 2 cases the same?

biolabee: well maybe she has an history of judging men harshly but we have to judge her based on her post today
I agree with this statement It is not right for society to expect women to be the moral compass while men throw caution to the winds
However the reality is that when women commit adultery the impact is felt much more through out the society hence the seeming unforgiving stance towards the women folk
It still does not justify either gender

which is exactly what i have done - she's a fat hypocrite!

biolabee: This post killed it!
JUDGED!!

ileobatojo's long-winded missive is filled with hypocrisy.

she cannot judge this woman because if the woman's conscience is right with what she's doing then who is ileoba to judge her? this would have been a good point had ileoba not judged hundreds of men in the past with the same infidelity act. did she check their conscience before judging them?

what peeves me about this section is the bias against the men. when a man misbehaves, nobody tends to blame his partner for it. he's a man and he should shoulder his responsibilities. however, when a woman misbehaves - the accusing finger points straight to her husband. all manners of excuses and conjectures would be thrown in the air. the husband must have done something to make the wife misbehave is just a truckload of bullshyte!

[quote author=fellis_e]women...o women, i hail thee. women of the sun, moon, cross and sticks, i adorn you. this is why i have chosen to remain a

bachelor. Apart from the great woman who bore me, i only use women when i am hörny, may i include that i reward them handsomely for their precious time. sorry if i come off as arrogant, money has never been an issue. is there any decent

woman? there is none.[/quote]hubris!!!!!!!

armyofone: you are right Tpia. not sure if given life to Christ will help them because some women cheat as pay back or do what their husband is doing. In days gone by, when husband cheats, their wife will cry and carry on, but today it is a different ball game.
I think women should take a walk from such marriage, I definitely will move out than do what he is doing.

i doubt it - you would just rinse your credit card on QVC to get your hands on "big tools".

kulyie: of course,to shake what momma (nature)gave me long tome na,its been a while.where have you bee? Hows work and family.i've missed you on nairaland

i have been busy - my dog put to bed, 4 adorable puppies and their mother to deal with. it's been quite a task.

kulyie: ose jare,i dey busy ni......you know i be alatika,i like party well well where we go wear aso ebi and spray money na from party i learn all those songs na

anywhere to shake your bootay, right?

[quote author=tpia@]Whoever is cheating, repent and give your life to Christ.

Its not good the way people table others' personal lives here on nairaland ( not only on nl actually, but since its here, lets just use nl as an example).

But if you give them room to do it, they will.

If they are telling lies, thats different from if they're telling the truth.[/quote]can you please remove religion from this matter? why do you people generally assume everyone else is a christian? a woman is using her hubby's infidelity excuse to cheat and your solution is repentance and born-again?

kulyie: hahahahaha how did you know oga coogar sago'n bugo

i know you would be anywhere fuji music is blaring. how are you? long time no brake lights!

i knew madam kulyie would be here....

what a story.....

so ezinne tricked solomon into marriage without a fallopian tube? some nigerian women are dangerous, i would have left her too with such a big deceit!

Tgirl4real: @ Topic
I know couples that pretend they are happily married, whereas, they live a fake life. I now can't say if the women are getting satisfied sexually elsewhere. But I know that many marriages isn't what it appears to be.

it's a no brainer - far majority are in their marriage just for convenience. a lot of people did not marry who they really wanted - it's a universal phenomenon.

The thread is to discuss the wife's action and resolve that's why it appears that she's being called out. No one is excusing the husband's character.

don't mind the yeye fowls and their gender-bias.

ileobatojo: Imagine the hypocrisy. The man has slept with more girlfriends than she has changed her weaves yet she is the one getting called names.

I wonder who made woman the sole moral compass in a relationship. So the man is free to be as immoral as possible but the woman must remain pure and holy under any circumstance. She is not a human being too right? The man is made of flesh and blood while she is a tin robot not so?


This is a marriage that is now one purely in name. The husband is unrepentant and has said she is free to leave anytime meaning he doesn't care whether he's married to her or not. Why he can't grow some balls and just kick her out I don't know. Whatever his reasons which he has a right to, she also has a right to her own reasons for deciding to stay married to him. If anything, that's what we should be discussing, how society and the presence of children make women stay in dead marriages.

Shebi the man is the head of the home? So his subject is now following his lead shikena! Next time he should lead by better example.

Is she wrong, yes. Would I do the same? Probably not. I think a clean break would be best too. But will I judge her like some dumb sheep following some useless two faced culture? Hell no!!

If she feels like she has the liver to do it and she feels she has romantic needs that she will never obtain from her husband and doesn't want to live the remaining 40 something years of her married life sad, depressed, lonely and yearning for something better, if her own conscience doesn't judge her for her course of action then who am I to judge her?

Far as I can see,she tried to fix things with the hubby but since he refused, she has chosen an option that works for her. There is no law that says the woman must remain the moral compass of a marriage in the face of all manners of sh*it!! Until there is equal condemnation for both people's actions in our society then I say kudos to her!!

probably not? probably??
fücking hell - the fact that it's even a case of probability for you to cheat in a marriage explains it all. some of you guys have no business getting married!

elampiro: I knew you were going to write again because you like argument too much. And your style of argument needs plenty of time devotion. Obviously no one can keep pace with that except there has to be another Coogar. I also think you can be more polite in your writing.

i do not like argument - i only resent intransigent souls like yourself who put forward conjectures to back your claims after being found out.

On the topic, let everyone keep his/her opinion as we can never reach a compromise on this. It only tells why coaches adopt different pattern, and sometimes different players in the same team. If Mourinho were to come to United today, some of our supposed best players might not find it easy again. Same if another coach had to come, some other players may not find favour with his pattern.

this does not explain why you think de gea has performed worse than cech or hart! you have resorted to your usual nonsense again to mask your weak arguments! what has different managers and different styles got to do with the role of a goalkeeper? formations and tactics do not involve goalkeepers. 4-5-1, 4-4-2, 4-2-3-1, 4-3-3, 3-5-2, etc do not involve goalkeepers - so your point above is null and void!

Here we don't think anything good in Jones playing midfield, some other forum think if not for him we wouldn't survive the big matches. In some cases, I agreed. Like the Everton game, he was marvelous. But Carrick and Cleverly paired in most matches more than any.

which other forums? your facebook forums filled with plastic football fans? how many games did united win this season with jones playing in the midfield? did jones play in the midfield in stamford bridge? etihad? st james' park? big games my foot!

Carrick is said to be the best defensive midfielder while Ferdinand the best defender. To me this means we had the best defence protecting the goalkeeper. We are now looking at PFA rating. When it come to shot at goal, a lot of opponents were only trying their luck in De Gea cause they knew he is still learning, that is the reason there were so many shots at goal. Most of them were from far withou much threat. No one would unnecessarily try Hart or Cech that way.

another weak argument - carrick as the best midfielder and rio being one of the best centre-halves means we have a good defence? as if those 2 can effectively prevent a goalkeeper from conceding........how many shots from outside the box did united concede in comparison to shots inside the box? you are just making conjectures over and over again. the era of de gea getting tested with long range shots was in his debut season - that era is long gone. his supposed weakness is commanding his box in aerial assault situations and that is within the penalty box(not outside)!

I don't intend to argue this too much because PFA have spoken. So we take it that the players selected are the best this season. If I had to continue my argument it won't end, because I will also want to compare Carrick and Toure. As for Ferdinand, I am not a fan of his deep defensive style and sluggish play, though I still hold him to a high esteem.

PFA award is mostly a popularity contest......
apart from baines, de gea, suarez, RVP, bale and mata, the other players on that list are easily debatable!

Lest I forget, whenever United conceded a penalty, what do you usually see around De Gea? How many EPL does that happen to? You see two or three players (Carrick, Welbeck and Rooney) always shielding him. And if a header eventually comes through it has to be Rafael, RVP or Evra clearing from goal line while De Gea turns a spectator. Anyone watching our matches regularly should know what I am talking about.

conceded a penalty or a corner kick?
why won't you put players around him when opponents put players in front of him to hinder his jump? you mean city don't put defenders around hart and chelsea players don't protect cech? other clubs don't put men on either post to make goal line clearances? lololololol. you really need to brush up your football intelligence.

taryour: The saying that 2 wrongs don't make it right remains and it will forever be so. A woman who uses her husbands infidelity as an excuse to cheat is definitely maad and a jezebel,she is no difference from a sex hawker and should not be called a virtuous woman. What example will she b laying for her kids and those looking up to her,how the hell will she open her mouth to explain it that she is cheating on her hubby cause he is doing same She has always been a cheat from the beginning and will forever be,she was only waiting for a string to hold on to,a string that would give her eternal SHAME to womanhood. Such woman is as dirty as a p.I.g and has no dignity whatsoever. The act is wrong and will forever be wrong!! Gaskia

may you be blessed!

ileobatojo: I'm sorry but am I supposed to be mad at this woman?
*brb*

be nice to her.....
after all, she's a woman and her husband pushed her into infidelity. she's blameless 100%. women are never guilty, men push them to do horrible stuff.

Tgirl4real: I would rather take a walk than let hubby turn me into what I am not.

If the woman searches herself deeply, she isn't happy Deep down, she is hurting and unhappy. Just as Debrief said, they all live a pretensious life. They pretend to be happy and even people use them as examples, not knowing the marriage is long gone.

Exactly how many men will she sleep with before she gets the true happiness she craves?

I'll rather take a walk if I can't bear it.

if the woman searches herself deeply, she's a slut!

the moral decadence is sickening......
i don't think i would become an armed robber just because armed robbers invaded my home. this wife has always wanted to cheat - she's just using her hubby's infidelity as a cheap excuse. little wonder 50% of firstborns in nigeria are bastärds!

Ozin: The fact that I once lived in different barracks and can easily identify a Nigerian army weapon tells me this propaganda this time around fell just flat...these weapons are definately not from the Nigerian army

not a chance
boko haram are liars - a group of frustrated never-do-wells aided by an incompetent federal government. put 5 drones in borno state and the boko haram saga would end by the ending of may!

can you imagine this nonsense?

why is jonathan goodluck such a püssy? if he reduces what his family consumes in a year on food, he would be able to afford drones. put 10 drones in borno and smoke out these bastards. northern nigerian is arid and desert like - no rocks or caves to hide so i see no reason jonathan is not using drones already to destroy boko haram. i am starting to think jonathan himself works for boko haram!

elampiro: The West Ham goal was a close range shot from Carroll, that can beat anyone. Hart may have made a few errors, I guess not more than three. What I look at is goalkeepers overall ability to read the game. His movement off his line to pick corner kicks and crosses before they get to players, his positioning , the way the defenders relax around him, I.e the overall team reliance and dependence on he goalkeeper. For these, Cech and Hart are far ahead of De Gea.

close range shot and the ball went between hart's legs? are you shïtting me? how much more of hart's änus would you lick just to save your face? over here, we put our hands up when we make a bad call. this is why we all paid tributes to ruudie with the lewandowski angle - he was the only one that called it some 14 months ago.

You guys keep mentioning articles. I only used those articles to corroborate my opinion about the goalkeeper. At least I am not the only one who has noticed the lapses. What I saw most times were defenders plus forwards working very hard to ensure no shot gets to the goal. I had a feeling these affected our attack in some instances because balls cleared into play immediately fell to the opponents as United players were mostly in the box. I didn't get to see any other keeper being shielded or protected by two defenders.

isn't that the job of the midfield? united conceded the most shots in the top 6, is that de gea's fault? you are just talking rubbish whilst trying to save face. other teams use natural defensive midfielders(destroyers), united have carrick(a deep-lying playmaker) to dictate the play and cut out opponents through interceptions and we often partnered carrick with misfits like giggs and jones.

Even Gary Nevile said, the defenders would be nervous of what is behind them. I perfectly understood him as he spoke my mind, my worry.

and fergie called gary neville an idïot when he made that statement. in the same match, schmeichel said without de gea, the score would have been 4-1 to spurs. he made 3 world class saves to keep the scoreline respectable!

You made mentioned that our defense was weak. Hmmm, I would have agreed, but considering Ferdinand who was voted best central back was in the defence, I wouldn't agree anymore. Ferdinand played more than any other central defender, and he is a master organizer. He paired Evans more than anyone else, Evans is no longer a baby defender in Europe. In my opinion, I think United had a better organized defence than Chelsea.

united had a better organised defence than chelsea? you must have watched your football upside down. compute the number of shots conceded by both teams and get back to me. chelsea protected their goalkeeper more than united did. shots conceded is the determinant.

dayokanu: Van persie and Bales productivity shows on the stats chart why is Cazorlas missing?

He is a midfielder but trails Walcott in the assist chart, In goals they are tied despite playing more minutes

And Walcott has delivered in more tough games
Scoring vs 6 of the top 7 sides.

If someone deserves it, Its Michu and not Cazorla

it's about popularity, dayokanu

fellow professional footballers voted, i doubt they consulted any stats site before thumbprinting. they just voted for whoever was the flavour of the month as at the time the voting process was going on. cazorla deserved to be in the PFA team. he really dragged an arsenal side suffering from creeping neurosis to chasing the 4th spot - something they had no right achieving with the useless squad wenger assembled.

dayokanu: The durability should have shown on the stats chart. When someone who played almost 10hours less has better stats then you sure aint doing something right

you don't know what you are talking about.....

cazorla is opta's 3rd best player this league season with a whopping 9 MOTM awards. he appeared 35 times and he's only got one yellow card in all those bminutes. only bale and van persie have won more MOTM awards than santi with 11 and 10 respectively. it's a travesty his name was omitted from the list especially when he's arsenal's highest goal scorer in the premier league....

dayokanu: Walcott assisted a goal vs Sunderland on February 9, He assisted a goal vs Spurs on March 3, He also assisted a goal vs Norwich on April 13

Now tell us the 4 months span which Walcott didn't score or assist

cazorla is better than walcott abeg....
santi's durability must count for something - he's copped 3000 league minutes this season. the value of any player is his availability for big games. santi's first season versus walcott(premier league dinosaur) - abeg, it's a no brainer.....

elampiro: At the end of the season, we shall see who the best goalkeeper goes to. Perhaps the only time I will return to remind you and De Gea.

United facebook page has no rival in keeping up with Manchester United. You get to know things as they happen. When they are raw, being cooked and when ready to serve.

Bye.

elampiro, come back and eat your vomitus.
de gea is the best goalie in the division as i predicted almost 6 weeks ago. alan hansen and dailymirror have you fooled!

[quote author=Mr_TA]I'm pretty worried about the fact that Nani gets far more stick than Valencia. Valencia has been borderline atrocious this season but its Nani that gets most stick and gets asked to be sold.[/quote]valencia is rubbish....i don't even know what he's capable of doing these days apart from just running into blind alleys. nani beats defenders for fun and van persie should have scored from his cross in the first half. it was also nani's pressure that forced sagna's error that led to the penalty. valencia turns his back and allows defenders to pick passes from the back. valencia has gone lazier, his pace has suffered and he's got confidence issues.

zaha won the championship player of the year, i hope he hits the same form with us next season and demote valencia!

debosky: So no Arsenal player in the PFA 11 - not surprising really, although I feel Santi Cazorla should've gotten the nod ahead of Hazard. Hazard had a good splash early on but has faded IMO - Santi has been more consistent over the course of the season and has more EPL goals than Hazard I think.

michu and cazorla should have been ahead of hazard but the media wänkfest of hazard is peerless. the media influence the minds of even the so called professional footballers.

gareth bale won the pfa player of the year

what a joke!!! van persie scored against all the top teams away from home. etihad, emirates, anfield, white hart lane, etc!

Fabville: This is the 2012/2013 PFA team of the year. Man United has four players. I am personally happy for De Gea for making it into the team despite a lot of criticism from some fans on this forum that he is not better than Hart and Cech. Some members even said that Asmir Begovic and Julio Cesar. Most especially @elampiro who was so critical of De Gea. This was all myself, @coogar and some other fans were saying that De Gea has improved a lot this season. Also, he wasn't as bad as some fans painted him last season. These are facts and not articles some individuals sat down somewhere and wrote. I believe this is just the beginning of greater prospect for him.

de gea is the best goalie in the country by a country mile. his rivals are not even close. did you see the goal joe hart conceded yesterday?

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debosky: ^^ I hope you've finished shedding your tears of shame?

PS - your flip flopping is unparalleled - one second you don't have time for epistles and then you write chapter 1 of war and peace up there?

Don't worry, I won't even bother to read it or respond to it.

don't worry, fellas
we would beat chelsea next week...... just make sure you win your next game!

we should agree to disagree...

however, if this ruling stands then it starts an awful precedent. a pröstitute would even claim she's rapëd because of one kiss too many or because she's unpaid after the show!

Gboliwe: lol. I am fine. You?
We are in the circus playing games as Mrs Allen dictates. Its sad

mrs allen is a circus mistress!

Gboliwe: Hmmmm

madam gboliwe, long time no see!