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there's no significant difference between 57% win and 50%. the two of them have been shyte compared to the teams of mourinho or avram grant.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]I believe there is a lesson to be learnt here - We all think Daddy is being a big boar, when he really is just a big teddy bear!!

Ayep! Case closed!!! [/quote]call a spade what it is ..
daddy is being a boar - a very aggressive one if i may add

oh yeah - why did you stop updating your blog. what happened to the naija wife? don't tell me after all her attempts to be obsequious, she still got thrown out of her hubby's house.

ileobatojo: Don't mind him. I don't know in what English comprehension class he learned to interpret the OP's post as meaning the wife wants to know "everything the husband is doing with his baby mama."

you need adult classes.....peruse the op's comment again and read where she felt the hubby is keeping secrets.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]I know Coogar is just messing around because he's been here when several threads have been opened on how VIOLENCE REGARDLESS OF GENDER IS NOT OKAY!!

So all this talk about someone saying "He must have deserved it" is just an attempt to yank people's chain.

Dude, I got your number!! [/quote]christ - i have been found out!

[quote author=Efemena_xy]I don't think so.
No one has, nor should feel they've got a monopoly of violence on others.[/quote]but most women do......
they initiate the attack and cry foul they have been abused.......

And yes, this issue is extremely sensitive because a baby's involved. An adult male, you'll agree would be able to report if he's been abused, but a five month old baby? C'mon.
I know you seek to play the devil's advocate here, but this is truly distasteful.

would be able to report? how many men have reported in your county that they have been abused by their spouses? in terms of domestic violence, men and babies are in the same category. babies cannot report because they cannot and men don't report because of the social stigma attached to it.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]I don't believe you!
How can you say / type that?
And what do you mean by "defenceless man"??[/quote]i am saying if the footage had shown a woman beating up a man, people like you would still find a way to blame the man - he must have caused it.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Seriously Coogar. . .like seriously?!![/quote]when you take off the mask of hypocrisy women often wear, then let's have a debate........because the victim is a child, you are disturbed. if the victim was a defenceless man, then the doubts ooze out....."the man must have caused it" "the man must have cheated on her" "the man must have physically/sëxually abused her" or as the last line of defence, "it's her hormones".

why even arrest her in the first instance? what is unusual in what she's done?
if she did that to a man - feminists would back her up in court and blame it on her hormones.......

montelik: http://blog.squawka.com/2013/02/07/the-top-5-best-passers-in-the-final-third-in-the-premier-league-inc-manchester-united-arsenal-spurs-players/

Lets show Tom C some love.

a lot of people can never see what cleverley does - they are only interested in raw stats and if he's not scoring/assisting then the general consensus is - he must be useless. starboard said cleverley runs around like a headless chicken.....can you imagine? a player using space and mobility to knit the play is a headless chicken?

emmalezy: You disappointed me with ur comment, even Messi,Ronaldo and co score goals wit deflections, moreover it was only one deflection so why (s) you must have hated him so much. Guy go hug transformer ok. Bad belle... Ode

you're a tool!
you must have been living under a rock when yekini represented nigeria in football tournaments. in the present squad, only victor moses could have gate-crashed the tunisia '94 squad and i said that with a dose of doubt! call your uncle to give you the tape of the tunisia 94 semis between nigeria and ivory coast. you won't see a better quality of attacking football from both teams in an african tournament till the day you die!

emenike? who would he bench? yekini? amokachi or siasia?
who would musa bench? finidi? mikel obi won't even get on the bench let alone make the squad. like i have said, compare emenike to chrisantus, agali, agahowa and keshinro before mentioning the legends like siasia, yekini and amokachi.

ileobatojo: It's not a part of Nigerian culture to do that. His reasons for doing that are personal to him and not due to any cultural obligations. I completely agree with you. OP is appropriately upset here. Even if her husband has innocent/ altruistic reasons for his actions, it's wrong of him to continue to lie and be so secretive and dismissive to his wife.

this is grand delusion!
men would always liaise with the mother of their kids and they would never ever tell their main wives everything going on with the ex-wife. some men would lie they are telling the whole truth but it's not possible. if women don't want to be caught in such situations, do not date/marry a divorcee - especially the ones with kids. the children would always be a constant link to the ex-wife and there would be many issues that would rather be left unsaid to the main wife. any woman expecting her husband to run through everything he is doing with his baby mother is hopelessly deluded!

what is the science behind rituals making people rich? i really don't understand so i find it hard to believe some of these stories.....

adebayo201: and wat happened 2 england's midfield after ez (clev) substitution

it collapsed now - who can keep the ball in that english midfield? wilshere kept losing the ball even though i agree he played well and he was bursting forward. cleverley is a facilitator - keeping things simple whilst retaining possession. i have never seen england keep possession the way they played against brazil last night - and that's brazil's first team! gimme tom cleverley any day - he understands how football should be played. pass the ball and make yourself available to receive it.

mmagdalene: Coogar I am not complaining and I do not see his kids as excess baggage. My concern is his secretive ways! If he wants to be magnanimous towards his ex, it should be done openly. I think you just want to be judgemental.

Jallowbah, we're in Nigeria.

it's no business of yours what he does to the mother of his kids - duh! you should have taken all these things into consideration before uttering "i do". you actually expect a grown man to table the plans he's got for his ex with you? you must think men are brainless!!! i am not being judgemental - i just wish women could think harder before jumping into a marriage such as this one.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Probably from the north side. ..that's where the "Nigerian Embassy" is.

It is said that no matter where you come from in Nigeria, you'll find someone you know or someone who knows someone from your village on the North Side especially on Sheridan.

Just land there and ask the first Nigerian you see for Mama something and he will give you her new name (they always find a way to funkify their names. Bet you mama Isiaka became mama Isi or mama Isaac), phone number, address....work (some nursing home) and home, even email sef should you desire it.

They think the law does not apply to them because most times the cops just let them be....black on black crimes....better yet African on African crimes, that's their business. This girl is most definitely not Naija. ..and she's underage too. ..yep, that's why the police got involved.[/quote]i hope the punishment for this type of offence is life imprisonment or manual castration(performed by their victim).

mmagdalene: We got married five years ago after he divorced his ex with two children. The reason he gave for their divorce was incompatibility. They both agreed to the divorce and to let her have custody of their two kids. Aside the incompatibility reason he gave, he does not like to say anything about her even when I ask. I felt he was not happy or comfortable discussing his first marriage and let him be, not wanting to appear overbearing or nosy.

He buys food stuff, clothes etc and send to his kids. He also sends money to pay their school fees and upkeep. But what surprises me is that he never calls nor take his ex's calls in my presence. He saved her number with a fake name which I later discovered. This is funny because I have never shown any sign of jelousy towards the woman. Why should I? I even encourage him to check on the kids often and ensure they lack nothing and he told me he doesn't like going to his ex's place that often because he doesn't know what she's likely to come up with.

On one occasion, he left home very early telling me he was going for an official meeting. Unfortunately for him, his phone was in his pocket and he mistakenly dialled my number. I picked it said hello only to hear him speaking with a woman, they were having a heated argument and the woman was even cursing him. From their discussions, I gathered it was his ex. I even heard the voice of the kids. I was perplexed as to why he lied about his meeting. I don't see anything wrong in him telling me he was going to see his ex. They've got kids together and I know the kids will always connect them one way or the other.

After about two years into our marriage, the kids started coming to our house during holidays. Later, I don't know how he arranged it, he moved the kids to a boarding school and they come straight from boarding to our house. I had to ask him why he did that. I said when will the kids be seeing their mum if they do boarding and spend the whole holiday with us. He said their mother is not doing a good mothering job and he doesn't want the kids to grow wrongly, and besides she was moving to another state and couldn't go with them. I told him I think I deserved to know about this plan before he implemented it. Afterall, it's more or less like the kids live with us fully now. He didn't say anything.

I understood him buying stuff for the kids and their mum when they still lived together. But even after the kids moved in with us, he still sends money to her account regularly, pays her house rent and stuff. He travelled out sometime ago, bought things for me, clothes, shoes etc. and to my amazement he bought some for her too and sent his driver to go and deliver to her. I kept quiet about this as well.

He snaps at me whenever I ask any question about his ex. I asked what state she lives in, he said he doesn't know. I know this is a big lie. They call each other regularly and he still sent money to her acct last week.

I can't say my marriage with him is perfect, we have our own shares of ups and downs but I don't like the way he keeps secrets. It was from his siblings that I heard that he used to visit the kids when they were with their mum. He told me only on one occasion and I did not give any negative reaction to make him not inform me of such again.

Do I have a cause to be concerned or I should just leave him to live as he likes?

leave him alone, he didn't marry you at gun/knife point. you knew he was married before with kids before you accepted to marry him. the excess baggage would always be in his life. you should have thought of this before marrying him - stop complaining and chin up!

this is depressing.....
i have not heard a decent story about chicago in 5 yrs.

[quote author=Mr_TA]Pretty obvious Wilshere is better than Cleverley. In fact so is Gerrard and Carrick.[/quote]how is it pretty obvious? any empirical evidence?

damiso: Coogar i agree with you.I met hubby while i was on holiday in the uk and i lived in Naija.We courted for three years travelling back and forth.Am sure some people might not have been able to travel like we did but at least you said spend some time to woo. Am talking never ever met and going straight to wedding.

that's douchebaggery!

And i am serious i know someone who did this.He told his sister to look for a wife for him.The girl said she was in Yabatech.Ase all na lie.Homegirl could not even pass the english test now required for spouses of Non Eu nationals.

you mean the girl cannot read/write? that's kinda odd! what kinda mgbeke babe is that one? the dude should be flogged too - asking a sister to help look for a wife! why can't be do the job himself? is he on a wheelchair?

damiso: Just to add one reason i am not too comfortable with people marrying someone they have never met.I see people say am going home to get married but they have never met the person.I think its weird on both ends. .

love is blind - sometimes deaf, dumb and even paraplegic!
when people say they are going home to marry - it means they are going to naija to spend some considerable length of time to woo and date. it's not a one day event - it often takes months and the process is not complex. it's as easy as going to the biggest church around and smile every 5 mins. for a quicker process, let the pastor/parents broach the subject and options would pop out here n there. i don't really see anything wrong with it. there are deeper issues that should get people worried than the location of their partners.

dayokanu: Bundesliga is weak? BvB thats 14 points behind Bayern molested all the other league leaders in their group including man citeh

it doesn't matter, dortmund are concentrating on their european games than the bundesliga. when dortmund cared about the league, arsenal decapitated them last season - so speak another language. bate borisov scored 4 goals against bayern!

when i am sure of the travelling squad going to bayern - i would take your bet! so hold your horses. a bet can be arranged even 10 mins before kick-off! stop making so much noise about an event that is still 2 weeks away?

4 Play: A fully fit Arsenal squad won't stop Bayern's vastly superior squad. This is a Bayern siđe that's only conceded 7 league goals all season.

bundesliga is very weak!
they have only conceded 7 goals in 20 league games but they conceded 7 goals in 6 champions league games.......

bukatyne: If the FIL wanted to check his financial status, I don't think the office would be the best place to do that. The FIL might have been too direct, but he's doing what everybody in his shoes would. Today in the office, an health organization wanted to register our company under their scheme and a member of staff asked for the health organization's audited accounts. We can't be too careful in our world today.

i don't disagree with the kind of world we live in - i am saying while the father in law is screening my history and what i do, the bride should also submit herself to the scrutiny my mum would subject her to. all checks must done on both sides of the coin!

bukatyne: Is the guy's FIL to be testing him for infertility?

nope, he's testing what concerns him the most in the son in law - the mother in law should also test what would concern her the most in the bride to be(fertility)! what is good for the goose should fit the gander perfectly!

adconline: Who paid for your sister's MLE exams? Who paid for her reviews and classes? Who paid for upkeep and maintenance when she studied for her exams? Who paid the rent/mortgage/car note? Why did your sister bring to the union outside Med degree that required validation in the US. No pain no gain.

the bastard!!!!

ileobatojo: Personally, the only thing I see wrong with the father's proposed action is that it's a crude, intrusive, in your face, poor man's way to go about it.

I would think making some calls or getting others to do the investigating would be more classy and less likely to cause friction. At the end of the day though, looking into one's employment history/ status is still part of a background check. Whether the father decides to slap himself from the guy's work to his family home in the village to his ancestors graveside, or decides to hire a PI, all na background check.

None of my folks would do things this way though and I would be quite irritated if any of them suggested such a thing.

i can't believe this - ileobatojo is agreeing with me on this section? time to kill a ram and top it with some guinness stout. ileoba, what came over you? i guess it must be payday in your office.

400 naira is too small.......
add another zero and i would give you a good name that would drive traffic to your new forum

Jarus: Yeah, that Alain Trarore guy na baller. Too bad for Bf he's out to injury.

i heard english clubs are after him.....my club included. his football brain, positioning and his shots are top quality!

[quote author=baby_123]I have never lived in the same town and house as my parents since i was 17. Not even same country. But no matter what, when i am serious with a guy. He has to meet my parents. My parents will talk and assess him. If they give approval, we most definitely would have had a relationship. Your father raised your ex, but still didnt have the judgement to know he was bad eggs. Was that not your job? To tell yourself the truth and look out for your own best interest? So why will a father that goes to check on his prospective son in law know anything at all? Is it the money that should matter or the personality. Obviously you have said your ex was rich, maybe your dad wanted to maintain the same lifestyle you were used to, and that was the focus. I am married ma'am, so save the conjecture and your speech for someone else. What is wrong is wrong. My father would not bring himself down to that level. Nothing wrong with doing background checks, but it is the guy's attitude that should be most important. I also will never bring shame to my family by marrying someone with a shady past or present. My dad knows who he raised and he trusted us to make the best decision for ourselves. for my dad to be escorting my husband to his job, what an insult and a let down. I shouldnt even be getting married, as i cant think or reason for myself. How many more times will i need my father or family to think for me in my husband's house? My family is not inlay of bournvita or chin chin[/quote]this!!!!!!!

Ovo Close: Mikel plays the same way for Chelsea. Nigerians just don't understand the term "play your position". Notice the difference in the Chelsea game since he went to the AFCON?

he doesn't surge forward at chelsea like he does for the super eagles......
they don't even trust him enough to make those sweeping passes to the attack or to the wingers. mikel is top quality - our best passer by all standards. he has shown nothing but absolute class in this tournament throughout......

3 standout players for me in this tourney have been mikel obi, emenike and alain traore(burkina faso)