wonlasewonimi: What kind of folks do you people have? checking genitaliaa ewwww

stillwater:
Hehehe, na lie. You must prove it to him. Where's my ruler?

coogar:

very well then
i'll make a video of me slaughtering his daughter......one thing is sure, he won't be approving the relationship with the way i am battering his daughter. dislocate her pelvic bone, bend her over like a stallion and ...... lemme just stop - my methods are medieval - like the romans of yore!

nikkyshyne:

devour129: [b][/b]if mi dad did this in mi sisters case,she wouldn't living in "death beta pass" life in usa.mi sista have always been very exceptional ! she went to the gifted school,came out tops at unec medical school with the best result,came out tops in houseman-ship at UK,they one bastard came and mi sis fell hard,married and moved to usa.she got there and found out the man was married and had a daughter and was only hoping mi dad will take of his problems.mi sis calls sometimes crying that she is tired of life and this is a medical doctor.you know you take some exams over there before you are qualified to practice but this bastard keeps getting mi sis pregnant but thank God after three years,she has finished,and now she is about to start working,the bast claimed he wants to do his masters he never did all the years he was loofing around there.AND SOME IDAITS THAT WILL SAY MAYBE MI FATHER WAS GREEDY,THE GUY IS FROM MI VILLAGE,HIS FATHER IS LATE AND MI DAD HAS BEEN HELPING THERE FAMILY EVEN BEFORE HE MET MI SIS.MI DAD JUST THOUGHT BECAUSE OF HE KNEW HIS LATE FATHER AND HIS MOTHER THAT THE BOY MUST BE A GOOD PERSON WITHOUT SENDING SOMEONE OVER THERE TO CHECK HIM OUT.like one poster said,in igboland,marriage is for better for worse,this marriage has not only killed my sisters spirit,it has also killed my parents spirit to the extent my dad has told my sister to come back and he will open a hospital for her.so PLZ PARENTS SHINE YOUR EYES FOR BOTH BOYS AND GIRLS ! SOME GIRLS ARE EVIL SPIRIT THAT CAN DESTROY TOO

FXKing2012:
ok...seriooouuusssssllllyyyyy.... is that your picture on your profile or is that photoshoped?

devour129: if mi dad did this in mi sisters case,she wouldn't living in "death beta pass" life in usa.mi sista have always been very exceptional ! she went to the gifted school,came out tops at unec medical school with the best result,came out tops in houseman-ship at UK,they one bastard came and mi sis fell hard,married and moved to usa.she got there and found out the man was married and had a daughter and was only hoping mi dad will take of his problems.mi sis calls sometimes crying that she is tired of life and this is a medical doctor.you know you take some exams over there before you are qualified to practice but this bastard keeps getting mi sis pregnant but thank God after three years,she has finished,and now she is about to start working,the bast claimed he wants to do his masters he never did all the years he was loofing around there.AND SOME IDAITS THAT WILL SAY MAYBE MI FATHER WAS GREEDY,THE GUY IS FROM MI VILLAGE,HIS FATHER IS LATE AND MI DAD HAS BEEN HELPING THERE FAMILY EVEN BEFORE HE MET MI SIS.MI DAD JUST THOUGHT BECAUSE OF HE KNEW HIS LATE FATHER AND HIS MOTHER THAT THE BOY MUST BE A GOOD PERSON WITHOUT SENDING SOMEONE OVER THERE TO CHECK HIM OUT.like one poster said,in igboland,marriage is for better for worse,this marriage has not only killed my sisters spirit,it has also killed my parents spirit to the extent my dad has told my sister to come back and he will open a hospital for her.so PLZ PARENTS SHINE YOUR EYES FOR BOTH BOYS AND GIRLS ! SOME GIRLS ARE EVIL SPIRIT THAT CAN DESTROY TOO

stillwater:
Yeah let both families watch it. I'm game!

debrief08:

You Probably live in the same town and the same house with your Father, some people don't, hence Papa doesn't have the sit down and gist opportunity .
Secondly, Marriage and dating are 2 different things, My Father practically raised my Ex, but the day he mentioned marriage, questions like: What village is your mother from came up. A delegation was sent to his parents village first to investigate if we were in anyway related , secondly to find out question marks.
When its time for you to marry all that pally with your Bobo will stop, it will shock you how Baba will turn business man.
This has been part of our culture for years. It is not about money, you dont know how cleaver these yahoo boys have become, most of them hide under the radar till they put a ring on it, they are the most polite, the kidnest, the most sensitive, once them land madam fangs come out.

baby_123:

I have never lived in the same town and house as my parents since i was 17. Not even same country. But no matter what, when i am serious with a guy. He has to meet my parents. My parents will talk and assess him. If they give approval, we most definitely would have had a relationship. Your father raised your ex, but still didnt have the judgement to know he was bad eggs. Was that not your job? To tell yourself the truth and look out for your own best interest? So why will a father that goes to check on his prospective son in law know anything at all? Is it the money that should matter or the personality. Obviously you have said your ex was rich, maybe your dad wanted to maintain the same lifestyle you were used to, and that was the focus. I am married ma'am, so save the conjecture and your speech for someone else. What is wrong is wrong. My father would not bring himself down to that level. Nothing wrong with doing background checks, but it is the guy's attitude that should be most important. I also will never bring shame to my family by marrying someone with a shady past or present. My dad knows who he raised and he trusted us to make the best decision for ourselves. for my dad to be escorting my husband to his job, what an insult and a let down. I shouldnt even be getting married, as i cant think or reason for myself. How many more times will i need my father or family to think for me in my husband's house? My family is not inlay of bournvita or chin chin

baby_123:

I have never lived in the same town and house as my parents since i was 17. Not even same country. But no matter what, when i am serious with a guy. He has to meet my parents. My parents will talk and assess him. If they give approval, we most definitely would have had a relationship. Your father raised your ex, but still didnt have the judgement to know he was bad eggs. Was that not your job? To tell yourself the truth and look out for your own best interest? So why will a father that goes to check on his prospective son in law know anything at all? Is it the money that should matter or the personality. Obviously you have said your ex was rich, maybe your dad wanted to maintain the same lifestyle you were used to, and that was the focus. I am married ma'am, so save the conjecture and your speech for someone else. What is wrong is wrong. My father would not bring himself down to that level. Nothing wrong with doing background checks, but it is the guy's attitude that should be most important. I also will never bring shame to my family by marrying someone with a shady past or present. My dad knows who he raised and he trusted us to make the best decision for ourselves. for my dad to be escorting my husband to his job, what an insult and a let down. I shouldnt even be getting married, as i cant think or reason for myself. How many more times will i need my father or family to think for me in my husband's house? My family is not inlay of bournvita or chin chin

debrief08: Baby, My Ex wasn't rich when we married, became rich after we married.
Sorry for wrongfully assuming you were single.

ileobatojo: Personally, the only thing I see wrong with the father's proposed action is that it's a crude, intrusive, in your face, poor man's way to go about it.

I would think making some calls or getting others to do the investigating would be more classy and less likely to cause friction. At the end of the day though, looking into one's employment history/ status is still part of a background check. Whether the father decides to slap himself from the guy's work to his family home in the village to his ancestors graveside, or decides to hire a PI, all na background check.

None of my folks would do things this way though and I would be quite irritated if any of them suggested such a thing.

ileobatojo: Personally, the only thing I see wrong with the father's proposed action is that it's a crude, intrusive, in your face, poor man's way to go about it.

I would think making some calls or getting others to do the investigating would be more classy and less likely to cause friction. At the end of the day though, looking into one's employment history/ status is still part of a background check. Whether the father decides to slap himself from the guy's work to his family home in the village to his ancestors graveside, or decides to hire a PI, all na background check.

None of my folks would do things this way though and I would be quite irritated if any of them suggested such a thing.

devour129: [b][/b]if mi dad did this in mi sisters case,she wouldn't living in "death beta pass" life in usa.mi sista have always been very exceptional ! she went to the gifted school,came out tops at unec medical school with the best result,came out tops in houseman-ship at UK,they one bastard came and mi sis fell hard,married and moved to usa.she got there and found out the man was married and had a daughter and was only hoping mi dad will take of his problems.mi sis calls sometimes crying that she is tired of life and this is a medical doctor.you know you take some exams over there before you are qualified to practice but this bastard keeps getting mi sis pregnant but thank God after three years,she has finished,and now she is about to start working,the bast claimed he wants to do his masters he never did all the years he was loofing around there.AND SOME IDAITS THAT WILL SAY MAYBE MI FATHER WAS GREEDY,THE GUY IS FROM MI VILLAGE,HIS FATHER IS LATE AND MI DAD HAS BEEN HELPING THERE FAMILY EVEN BEFORE HE MET MI SIS.MI DAD JUST THOUGHT BECAUSE OF HE KNEW HIS LATE FATHER AND HIS MOTHER THAT THE BOY MUST BE A GOOD PERSON WITHOUT SENDING SOMEONE OVER THERE TO CHECK HIM OUT.like one poster said,in igboland,marriage is for better for worse,this marriage has not only killed my sisters spirit,it has also killed my parents spirit to the extent my dad has told my sister to come back and he will open a hospital for her.so PLZ PARENTS SHINE YOUR EYES FOR BOTH BOYS AND GIRLS ! SOME GIRLS ARE EVIL SPIRIT THAT CAN DESTROY TOO

adconline:

Who paid for your sister's MLE exams? Who paid for her reviews and classes? Who paid for upkeep and maintenance when she studied for her exams? Who paid the rent/mortgage/car note? Why did your sister bring to the union outside Med degree that required validation in the US. No pain no gain.

LastApostle: What is the man investigating and why all this investigating bullcrap! If all men were this inquisitive and investigating,then I don't see the truck pusher, mason man, okada rider, cab driver,petty trader,even aboki that shines shoes ever getting married. People should relax this 'financial security' issues and be more concerned about the happiness of their wards.
Proper check should only be done in the health status of the intending couple,family history and religious compatibility.
If a man is not buoyant enough the woman can as well shoulder responsibility if she is capable or well groomed to do that. There is no law in marriage that state a man must work in shell or be a professor before a wife is allocated to him after all no man in his sane nature will venture into marriage without doing something economically except his woman encourages him on.

A gateman is likely to investigate too before handing over his educated daughter to a prospective hubby because he wouldn't want his daughter to marry a gateman like him while he lives peaceful and in harmony with his wife. Then we are likely to have a population of gatemen with no wives. Mtcheeeeeeeeew!!!

coogar:

by the same token, the mother is not checking out of greed but out of genuine concern for her son's welfare before the son enters one chance marriage. by all means, let the checks begin.......

bukatyne: Is the guy's FIL to be testing him for infertility?

coogar:

the bastard!!!!

BABE!:


Your father will find out more than what you already know about your spouse?

Can the father know 99% of what his daughter knows about her spouse?

You already know this man you're presenting to your parents . . .you've known him for all these years and suddenly what the father sees after going to the office will "disqualify" the man?

If you're not an 1d1ot, you'll already know what the father is about to find out. It's 2013! Abi you want to tell me you've never been to your spouse's office to see what he does?

If your father is the one that has to go his office to "confirm" for you, then he raised an 1d1ot.

PS: my you's are not necessarily directed at you

bukatyne: Then our grand parents were all idiots since they went to the intending groom's village to research his background and family if they have any curse, disease etc. The father is not finding out to inform the daughter; He is acting as a guide.

coogar:

nope, he's testing what concerns him the most in the son in law - the mother in law should also test what would concern her the most in the bride to be(fertility)! what is good for the goose should fit the gander perfectly!

gabbytabby: Covertly doing this is only an option if the guy lives in Nja but as he is abroad he had no option but to be in your face about it and it shows the depth of father love and care for his daughter. If the suitor has noting to hide he really would be proud to be married into such family.

It reminded me of the years/months before year 2000 when everyone was a consultant . There are too many people who dey abroad that are claiming that they are what they are not. If na me I go recruit professional PI put.

nikkyshyne: lol. What took you there? Sexy init?

bukatyne: If the FIL wanted to check his financial status, I don't think the office would be the best place to do that. The FIL might have been too direct, but he's doing what everybody in his shoes would. Today in the office, an health organization wanted to register our company under their scheme and a member of staff asked for the health organization's audited accounts. We can't be too careful in our world today.