₦airaland Forum

armyofone: haha, i'm a cool chic now but i will not allow oga to help me. I will deal with her myself
But come, your mouth sharp well well kai!! I read your comments and

i am innocent!

dayokanu: Coogar thats shouting can only view his genitals through a mirror due to protuding tummy 9 bottles of beer daily has ruined his anatomy

look at you - a protruding belly is a sign of good living. women particularly nigerian females always tell me that.

Okija Juju's photo is on coogars profile. He got that name because the gods rejected a person that worworish (How you go use Juju on Juju)

the same okija that won "mr niger-delta" award only last christmas?

debosky: So because they helped him out they can go to his house intent on having a confrontation with his wife?

People need to know their boundaries. I am sure the guy isn't crazy and didn't just start whipping the woman out of nowhere - she refused to leave and must've become very antagonistic for things to get to that point.

If she wanted to marry the brother she should kuku have married him instead of taking up issues with a wife who is supposedly many years her junior.

Like Yoruba people say - ediye funfun ti ko mo ra re lagba.

translation, please......

armyofone: Sister has no right to go fight another man's wife at her home. She got what she deserved and I hope she learnt her lesson.

i wish she had met a trigger-happy militant like you - the elder sister would have regretted the day she was born.

wlex8: I really appreciate all your comments for / against what he did to his sister.

I can not provide too much information, I'm not even sure if any of them are reading this, but for clarification purpose, I'm aware of the following


1. There are unresolved issues between the wife and the husband's family

2. The husband is not 100% satisfied with his wife's attitude to his family, just trying to live with it, managing it

3. The husband's family loved her so much initially, they changed due to some of her attitudes to them and even to the husband

5. The sister is far older than the brother

6. When the guy was seriously sick, they claimed the wife did not take good care of him, rather it was the mother & sister that helped him out

7. On that very day, the wife said very nasty thing, a kind of allegation that could cause the sister her own marriage

8. Since the wife knew the gravity / how terrible what she said, she refused to open the door for the sister she instead called the husband that his sister is about to kill her

9. Not that she carried gun / cutlass or tugs to beat her up / they did not have any physical contact to warrant her beating / killing the wife

10. The husband could have left her outside and go somewhere else to relax / call police / call the husband etc

Applying force for her to leave without addressing why she came led to the struggle, the brother later used "koboko" to whip her, reason why blood came out

11. The wife felt very happy that her husband dealt with his sister

I hate how the sister did not respect herself and leave the house but I also hate how the man beat her up mercilessly

The wife and the husband are now living in fear of unknown

PLEASE CAN YOU GUYS SUGGEST THE SOLUTION, HOW CAN THIS NOW BE RESOLVED. THANKS

he used koboko? i actually thought it was blows, headbutts and kicks. koboko is not beating - it's discipline! the family should leave husband and wife alone. his allegiance lies with his wife, not his family! hopefully, they would have gotten the message after the incident!

dayokanu: Who did she assault? And where did she burgle? She hasnt even broken into the house. Worst is trespass and its a misdemeanor

threatening to harm the wife is an assault - it's not until people trade blows. read a book!

She wasnt playing football rather she was beaten. How many cases of man beats woman have you seen adjudicated as two fighting?

let her go to court - good luck to her!

dayokanu: The woman trespassed which is a misdemeanor. A fine and restraining order at the maximum,

common assault nko? burglary nko?
she's looking at 15 yrs if the sentences don't run concurrently!

A man beat a woman causing her serious bodily harm, Thats assault, battery with the intention to kill and possibly attempted murder.
He is looking at 5-10yrs

this is the law.......
it's not about what happened - it's about what you can prove.....what makes you think this was even the beating everyone thought it to be? it could have been an elbow flipping out unintentionally that broke her nose. football players often get bloodied on the pitch - is it as a result of them pounded with blows and kicks?

[quote author=BABE!]5-10 yrs in a normal country! Husbands beat the sexiness out of their wives in Nigeria and get away with it, so 5-10 yrs na wash!!!!

In a "normal" country, she won't even come near the house Talkless of the husband having to tear her apart![/quote]don't mind dayo and his archaic mosaic laws.....the sister had the intention of causing grievous bodily harm to the wife in the first place. she didn't go there for good intentions - her punishment would be severe!

[quote author=Okija_juju]ANYBODY WHO BELIEVES THAT THIS BEATING IS AN ISOLATED CASE IS DEADAZZ WRONG!!!

I believe that this issue must be long standing. This quarrel must be atleast some weeks old and re-occuring. I want to believe that this elder sister must have caused so much strain in this marriage that today was the breaking point!

Except it can be proven that the man is mad.. [/quote]he's not mad - he's sensible!
he came back to enter into a dialogue with the sister. other men would start beating the sister the moment they arrive at the scene. the man did what sane people would have done: protect his wife! it's only in nigeria people trespass anyhow in the name of "my family, my uncle, my aunty" - such a dysfunctional society!

honeric01: Assumptions, your ELDER sister insulted you, you end up beating her up to the extent of seeing her bleed.

my elder sister invaded my premises, threatened my wife, insulted me when i tried to calm her down and then landed the first blow on my face in my own house. of course, she deserves every beating she gets from me.

This is your elder sister here.
I think that family is screwed up, if a younger bro can beat an elder sister, then that family is SCREWED all over.

elder sister can abuse me and get away with it in my home? what is your point? he shouldn't have beaten her cos she's a sister or she's a woman? if it's a female stranger, then it's acceptable? if it was the wife that beat her - is that also acceptable?

dayokanu: I didnt know I would see a day a man would beat a woman and it would be applauded as a good thing by other women

You beat a woman till she was bleeding then you better have a good lawyer

story!
you would have to tell the court why you were trespassing in the first place.....the man that shot his own son in america cos he thought they were invaders was freed. trespassing is a felony. this woman trespassed, insulted, assaulted and you want her to get a lawyer. she would be sending herself directly to jail!

J12: Nigga please, this is her younger brothers house, not the house of a random stranger or even a friend. If his elder sister erred in anyway during the heat of that period, he shouldn't have resorted to beating her black and blue. So I ask again, what if she died due to complications from the manhandling he gave her? Will you kill your sister because she has a misunderstanding with your wife?

i think you should break out of the cocoon you dwell!
you are a stranger in any house if you are not invited. on this day, the elder sister was uninvited which explains why she was locked outside. the husband is not foolish - the report said he tried to make peace with his sister but she was hell-bent in causing trouble. how do you keep a rabid dog down? patting its back or rubbing it's head? you decide.

There's nothing violence can solve that dialogue and compromise can't solve. Violence adds salt to injuries, it opens more wounds and creates undesirable effects. Yes, she won't come to her brothers house again but it is that the kind of relationship he wishes to maintain with his family? Not only that, his relationship with his parents and his siblings would be severely damaged, his relationship with his children and his sisters children will also be strained and lastly, he'll lose the respect of his sisters husband just because of this singular act. He's now like an outcast.
This is the aftermath of violence

when dialogue refuses to work then violence is inevitable. ask yourself - why do advanced countries like america, britain, france, etc go to war? these are the same people preaching human rights and animal rights and gay rights and yet they do not hesitate to go to war.

as for the man being an outcast, who cares!!!!
people with no family are in this world and they are happy. who needs a troublesome family members anyway. if my family would not give me peace of mind and all they do is threaten my wife then i would cut them off.

The root cause of the problem can be traced to his wife, she's trying to isolate him from his family, keeping malice with his family members and all. . . She's a malicious woman, it ain't hard to tell. Such women should be avoided at all cost

oh please.....
the root cause is the elder sister. if she had stayed in her house this wouldn't have happened. she had 3 opportunities to avert this disaster but she insisted on causing trouble.

she could have gone back home when she got locked outside - she could have gone back home the moment her brother arrived. she could have gone back home when her brother tried to beg her to stop her idiocy. what else is the man supposed to do?

COOLDUN: If he resorted to beating his senior sister, then what is difference from her sister beating his wife? Mr. Evil supporter, as a peace maker he would have continued with the pleadings till he gets his sister’s heart calmed. Beating his sister meant that he had already taken side with his wife. I love my wife but never in the level of losing my family because of her, because she herself has a family which she will not like to lose too. His wife is a member of his family no matter what is going wrong in the family; all hands should be on deck to settle the matter and move the family forward. The question is this, now he has turned back to his family because of his wife, will his wife do the same to her family because of him?

this is sheer tunnel vision.
he did not beat the elder sister for his wife - he beat the elder sister cos she probably insulted him or she landed the first blow. what kind of narrow-mindedness is this one?

Marriage is 90% family affairs and 10% personal. Your family, your wife’s family are all directly involved in your marriage, for you to make things match, you have to share your love between your both families. The wicked wife always jam the heads of her husband’s family together, separate her husband from his family, before she will embark on her wicked mission, when she knows that her husband will not be rescued by any one.

the wicked wife? how's she wicked?
did the wicked wife instruct her husband to beat his sister of the sister stepped out of line and got disciplined? according to the op, the elder sister assaulted her brother first and she got the beating of his life. the wife had nothing to do with the fight!

I love my wife and my family because all are important to me. One can marry many wives, but you cannot have other family members. I have come a very long, good, bad and ugly ways with my family. No one will ever separate us.
My love to my wife is agape, while my love to my family is unconditional. He has no right to beat up his senior sister, who might be another man’s wife because of his wife.

your love to your wife is agape? are you daft or you are being paid to be one? so you mean you don't have sëx with your wife cos agape = selfless love minus sex. why did you marry her then if the love to your wife is agape? biko, some nigerians are cretinous!

[quote author=Okija_juju]This biitch has got a bad case of acute PMS.. Go grab two tampons.. One for your leaking punny and the other for your mouth!! [/quote]https://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mc5wcccCug1ql005v.gif

J12: You trying to act like a tough guy. Imagine that your went to her to younger brothers house to settle a dispute with his wife, events turned messy and your wife was stabbed and fatally injured by her brother with the full support of his wife. How would you feel?

events don't just turn messy - several insults would have been fired before things become physical. if i go somewhere to settle fights and i am locked outside, i would go back home immediately. what kind of fight am i settling where i am not wanted?

He had other choices apart from beating her to stupor. There's nothing violence can solve that dialogue and compromise can't. What if he killed her? How would you feel if you killed your sister because she had a misunderstanding with your wife?

violence solves a lot if its not misguided......
do you think this sister would ever try such nonsense again? i didn't think so......some people act like goats and until you give them the goat treatment they wouldn't stop acting like goats. she must have landed the first blow on her brother or said something very insulting......

What his sister did is wrong but His wife is not innocent either, if she's a wise woman, all these could've been avoided. She's the cause of the whole problem.

how's the wife guilty? she avoided a possible disaster by locking the in-law outside and called her protector to come and sort the issue. husband arrived and the sister refused to leave. the wife is blameless and it's the woman who assaulted them first. yes - attempting to harm or threats is also an assault! it's not until you slap someone that you have assaulted them. if the sister sues the brother should counter-sue for affray, assault and attempted burglary!

J12: So because you swore to protect your wife now implies that you have to beat shìt out of everybody she's beefing, including your beloved family members?

not everybody she's beefing but everyone who threatens her in her own home. if this was on a neutral spot or if my wife had gone to her house, then it would be my wife's fault and she would have deserved whatever she got there as well.

Your analogy doesn't fit a bit, his elder sister is not an armed robber, she didn't come to his house to kill or rob him, she only came to settle a dispute which the man himself let spiral out of control.

she became an armed robber the moment she invaded my home with the intention to threaten my family. this woman was locked outside and she didn't move an inch(how idle this woman must be). brother arrived at the scene, tried to pacify her and she still refused till she assaulted him. she left the brother no choice......

Its obvious you don't have an elder sister, even if you do, I don't think you have a healthy positive relationship with her.

what a daft assumption!
i have sisters and they are not idle and irresponsible as you appear to be - so this kind of incident can never happen between us. they respect my boundaries, i respect theirs. people like yourself give women a bad name. you would not sit down where your husband has instructed you - but go about other people's homes to cause chaos!

J12: He's a real man for beating blood out of his elder sister but he won't be a real man if he beats his wife, abi?

why would he beat his wife? who is his wife threatening? who did he swear an oath to protect? so because a man shoots at armed robbers means he would shoot his wife and children?

jennykadry: I have to agree with CC here.

But at the same time, Coogar and 2buff's posts were quite straight to the point. I kinda saw where they are coming from

no, you cannot agree with cc! she's too soft!
chaircover is the type that would see a snake around her kids and would call pest control services and wait 30 mins because she does not want to violate the rights of the snake. violence is not necessarily bad - we are humans and the things we love are the things we are very passionate about.

i wouldn't hesitate to beat all the male teachers in my daughter's school if she tells me she has been sëxually abused - that's also violence but it's necessary. i wouldn't hesitate to shoot down any robber invading my home to harass my family. that's also a necessary violence.

i pledged an allegiance to provide and protect my wife till my pulse stops on the church's altar and no irresponsible sister of mine would threaten/insult/harass my wife while i sit back. what kind of man would i be then? some violence are very very necessary and this man is within his rights to put down any individual invading his territory.