₦airaland Forum

kitty kat: I dey fear to marry naija man o. Once u r married any isbehaviour of the husband is blamed on the wife. If he is depressed na d wife cos am. If he needs to save and doesn't ggive money to d family na d wife send am. If he is over worked at work and under pressure and thus can't attend family funtions, na d wife dey gossip am not to come. If the family annoys him and he ggets angry, na d wife ask am to hate his family.

fear to marry a nigerian man? you must be joking!
nigerian men are the salt of the earth. i dare say without nigerian men on the planet, God would have done another noah rainstorm. any woman that is not married to a nigerian man is missing. how do you want it?

-love at first sight
-frequent trips to the village
-sunday service
-four to nine children depending on the strength of the wife
-drama! drama!! drama!!!
-chauvnism!
etc.....

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Hehe -- I Love Seeing tis Bloke get Worked Up for No Sh1t [/color]

crack must be a helluva drüg to make you think you get me worked up! check my history, i battle twerps like you on a daily-basis. twerps with better verbiage that you can ever muster and you think your nursery disses would prick my surface? let bluediva lecture you about coogar......you are too insignificant to cause me a bother!

ileobatojo: . Ah! If I were some of these posters' wife, my own done finish be dat. Cos I'm sure they will open the gate for their sister and drive off so she will really have time to finish the job she came ther to do.

haven't you heard blood is thicker than water? the op even came back to say the issue has generated more problems for the wife - ask me, was she the one who beat the sister bluish-black? nigerians and their blame culture? 2 siblings decide to act like agbero and the wife is the fault?

cheddarking: I'm yet to be convinced by the lad.
He has done nowt more than the minimum ask of a premier league level footballer...

Time will tell though...

welbeck is criminally underrated here.....
he's the 4th best striker in united but i can bet he would be 2nd best in most clubs in the division. he's better than sturridge in my opinion and i am sure he would give adebayor a run for his money. he's operated mostly as a winger this season so his stats don't look really good. i can't wait to have nani back so welbeck can move back to his natural position.

jidegirl12: I'll take ^^^ that as a compliment

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ileobatojo: Sooo, first the sister believes that she can come fight her brother's wife in her own home at anytime she feels like it.

She believes she has a right to park herself outside their house like a crazed stalker waiting for an opportunity to enter even after being locked out.

She also believes that she has the right to be gained admission into the home by her brother at any time even when her mission is to come fight with his wife.

She believes that failure to be admitted to the house means fighting with whoever stands in her way.

Ooookay!
By the way, what's the OP's question again?

better go and learn some karate and hapkido - your sister-in-law is lurking around the corner to "jet-li" your butt!

tunapawizzy: this mo cheddah mouth go dey smell sha

have you kissed her before?

toluene12: except they are a upper middle class family, $240/month is good money that could go into other meaningful things other than wasting it on housemaid (particularly if they reside in u.k). Besides she still has to manage daily domestic chores which is actually the real work.

you would get a good housekeeper in the uk for £11/hr. uk houses are very small - if she's not an obese heifer, she should be completing her task within 2 hrs and i mean white glove test performance!

[quote author=Miss_Ife]Well, I've budgeted it, and as long as we pay for daycare/nanny, housemaid would take too much of our savings. I'd rather save up for my kids' future than pay for an help that wouldn't be necessary if we both took our responsibilities as adults and parents. I mean, if he offered to reduce his personal expenses to pay for an housemaid, I would probably agree, but things being the way they are, I will not push him to do it.[/quote]well - you would know your husband more.
as for me, i told my spouse time is money too. the time i am using to babysit or do some needless chores can be used to make more money so why not pay for an au pair. i am extremely social and i would not be shackled by domestic chores - so i pay my way out to go see friends or watch an opera!

That being said, figures thrown by nairalanders living in the west always surprise me, nobody I know around me has enough money to pay for a housemaid, and most of my friends/family are into full-time employment with kids, and I don't mean minimum-wage jobs.

nigerians in the west especially the woman would never see the need to hire domestic hands to help them out because they always convert any cost to naira and they always feel they can take on the task - only to complain later.

i am kitchen-lazy and time spent in the kitchen can be used for other things. why should i spend 1hr in the kitchen to make a meal for 2 people when i can easily order readymade food and use my time judiciously. i can pay as much as $1000/month for housekeeping. having worked monday till friday, saturday n sunday are the only days left for me to rest - domestic chores won't steal that little time away from me.

RuuDie: Perhaps we should trade him for TW14 + some cash too - since you seem to regard him so highly!

welbeck has more potential than theo walcott....welbeck's only problem is his composure and decision making in the opponent's penalty box. his workrate is exemplary. he pressed the liverpool defence so much the brendan rodgers tiki-taka couldn't be deployed. welbeck kept forcing reina to hit it long thus losing possession! however, fergie should have replaced him with hernandez in the 70th minute!

[quote author=Miss_Ife]We have kids. when it was only the two of us it wasn't a big deal. And yes, $15*4hrs*4weeks -> $240 a month, IS expensive. Unless [i]he [/i]pays for it with his own money. or at least for half of it.[/quote]$240/month shouldn't be expensive if the two of you are into full-time employment. of course, he would be willing to pay 75% upwards of the cost of hiring a maid. a less-stressed wife is a bonus!

dayokanu: Oya coogar can you be the officiating minister and lets do this thing Kpa kpa kpa

i will not join you in matrimony with someone else's wife.

[quote author=Miss_Ife]Because we live in the west and it is way too expensive. [/quote]$15 per hour is expensive?
she comes on a friday/saturday and she cleans the house thoroughly(for 3-4 hrs). it would be a weekly appointment and since you live with your hubby alone, i really don't think the house would be that untidy. hire a maid and save yourself the stress.

[quote author=Miss_Ife]Marry me, I'd leave my husband for you

Seriously, we both work full time, we bring in more or less the same money BUT I have a second job i'm not paid for, which is cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, running errands... I wouldn't leave my husband because of that, but I am way less tolerant to any other flaw because I consider that i contribute more than him to the home.[/quote]why don't you hire a housemaid?

jidegirl12: I'm waiting for some kind of epistle from some particular handles here...... back to work now

it's 2013 and you are still evil!

debosky: Abegii! No be rising from the ashes make us rise from 17th to 3rd last season?

Short memory gooners sef!

wenger rising from the ashes....

did i just read mochedda is 22?

debosky: QPR allegedly signing Remy and M'Vila. . . .not that I'd really want any of them per se, but surely a fit M'Vila is a better option than an injured Diaby?

The silence and lack of activity continues. . .

redknapp is getting yann?
if any gooner disses redknapp's management skills again on this thread i shall piss in his nostrils....

jidegirl12: You don't get in my personal space just like kobojunkie used to say.

i thought as much.....
the sister was lucky she wasn't fed to the dogs. another woman would just release the doberman pinschers/pitbulls to get some bits of flesh from her butt!

dayokanu: But thats the law even in advanced countries

A man beats a woman he is labelled a woman beater, The society expects when a woman attacks a man, the man should never respond and just walk out.

Woman beat woman its an equal case.
Sexism already exist and its not a Nigerian thing

woman beat woman is not an equal case. the offender would go to prison if the case is reported. which advanced country you dey? cambodia or papua new guinea?

kitty kat: Just beingg naughty but real at the same time. Why do we always forget the part in d Good book that says, " and the 2 shall become 1 flesh"

I am sure its cos of ppl that say, we came out of the same womb so the woman is inferior to d inlaws that the bible said that.

don't mind the sentimental hypocrites......
if my wife steps out of her boundaries and she gets beaten in my sister's house - then she deserves the beating as well. no individual has any right to go and invade another person's house and issue threats there.

wlex8: Two women fighting is different from when a man beats another man's wife to the extend that she was dripping blood, did he consider how the woman's husband will feel as well, no matter what she has done, what if he also loves his wife so much that he would also do anything for her, won't that result into more serious issue

see sexism in sheer display.....
so if two women fight and one draws blood out of the other then it's acceptable - but when a man does it, it's forbidden? hahahahahaha - i like the reasoning of most nigerians. its not violence when a woman beats your wife but it's savagery when a man does so.

This is a sister they both came out from the same womb and might have been of help to him one way or the other when they were growing up

exactly....
the sister should have thought of sharing the same womb with her brother before going there to make trouble. the sensible brother arrived at the scene and was trying to settle the rift but the evil sister refused to budge......there's a point where womb sharing and common sense must part company.

Even jidegirl supported that lady because they rekindled their luv. I want to ask jidegirl a question. If your husband ex rekindle old love with his ex, so, he should throw you out. I hate this family section so much, because many people here just hypocrites and they dont say the truth. Do not do to others what u wouldnt like to be done to you. How would a man beat his elder sister to the extent of dripping blood because of his wife? Smh

the single most important question is - what was the sister doing in their house? why did she come to threaten someone else's wife? what right has she got to be there? even after the husband showed up, he refused to leave when asked to and the original poster said she slapped her brother first - what does she expect in an animal kingdom country like nigeria? she deserves every platelet of blood she lost in the ordeal. next time, she would act accordingly!

wlex8: They all live in the same area, the husband probably didn't know it will result into that
What should the husband do to the person that beat up his wife

very funny....
this is like asking what you should do if your child gets beaten outside for misbehaving. if the wife had marital training, she wouldn't go to another woman's house to make trouble. since she refused home training, it's only fair she got trained outside her matrimony!

May be I'm a bit sentimental here, I just don't like women beaten up no matter the provocation, what if something terrible happened in the process or should the husband and the brother start their own endless fight.

one question - would you have liked it if she had been beaten up by her sister-in-law instead of her brother?

dayokanu: I dont know whatever happened oo But no one would beat my wife to the extent of dripping blood and go free

Especially a man beat my wife and drips blood? If it was another woman I might free them but another man?

Ka maari ni Paul wi.

better train your wife properly and not have her behaving like a rabid dog otherwise anyone would beat her up and you won't do nada. the woman here got beaten by her own brother and blood is thicker than water. what can you do?

wlex8: That's true but in this case, the wife is inside the house while the sister is outside their gate. The sister could not have beaten her up since they are not together at that point in time, the treat was not severe enough to warrant the beating up of the sister. What if her own husband was there at the time or what should he do to the brother who beat up his wife like that

her own husband must be irresponsible to have allowed his wife to go to another married woman's house to cause trouble. if this was on a neutral ground, i can understand! what right has a woman to go threaten another married woman in her home?

It's like saying "you people don't want to leave my wife alone for me, I will deal with you all today and wham!!!! beating, the sister also might have been so aggressive and she slapped first (not sure)"

there's no sentiment here.
i would not tolerate such nonsense as well - if my sister respects me, she won't come after my wife to threaten her. in a nutshell, if you threaten my wife, you have also threatened me and i would do anything within my powers to put you down. she's lucky she wasn't fed to the dogs. respect begets respect - no individual has any right to go into another person's house to threaten them.

[quote author=Mr_TA]I personally don't see much in the kid.[/quote]a cheeky bid for yann m'vila would send me tail-spinning like an overdose of heroin! i hate signing english wonderkids. he would cost money and the media would feast on him pending the time he would mature and become a consistent player. walcott and chamberlain have suffered that already. i hope we send him to cambodia on a season long loan before he starts playing for us.

wlex8: I need you guys to comment on this, how right is it for one to beat up his elder sister for his wife?

This is a true life story

His family would love to have him and his wife separated if possible and this has been going on for a while, they believe she is not a good wife.

Recently, his wife and his elder sister had exchange of words somewhere, later the same day, the sister came to their house with intention to fight with the wife over the nasty things she said about her

The wife kept the house door locked so she could not gain entrance into the house to avoid further confrontation, she later alerted her husband on the phone that his sister has come to kill her

When the husband eventually came and met his sister outside, he tried to settle their quarrel all to no avail, he also insisted the sister must not enter the house

This resulted in a fight, he finally whipped and beat up his elder sister (another man's wife) to the extent that she was dripping with blood

Question: Can you beat up your elder sister for your wife, how can this issue be resolved as every member of his family are against him including his mother, should he go and beg them or not?

he did well considering the circumstance.....
like your story revealed - he tried to settle with the sister, he told her not to enter the house but she insisted on making trouble. i think the sister deserved what she got. a man must protect his wife from any threat(foreign or local)!!!

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Lol -- Ya Postz sometimes reminds me Of an Ediot that gets banned everyday at Jokes Section

No Offience[/color]

more like you are reminded of the idiotic father that spurted you out of his poisoned scrotum! you disgusting sack of shyte!

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Ok -- Ba Is Owing his Fmr Car Cleaner, Coogar has got something to Cheer about [/color]

keep my name out of your faggöt lips already - you need a toothpick or what exactly is your problem? what's my business with your faggotry-self and demba's car cleaner? anuofia!

fellis: So your mother is among those women who would take a mile if you give them an inch?

women are the same everywhere....

How often is furniture moved around in the house? Which heavy lifting are you even talking about that the wife cannot carry out with the help of her children and how often do electrical units need installations? You mean to say that your work in the house are the type of work that only come up once a month or once in a couple of years abi? While your wife's house work are an everyday affair.
How nice.

that's how it works.....
these out-of-the-blues task occur very often and it's not really advisable for women to lift heavy objects before she slips her disc. the heavy stuff would be taken care of by me.

Before you married and while you were still washing your clothes by yourself you were not a afemale, you were male. And doing those things did not turn you into a female.

i take my clothes to the dry cleaner every month. where is the time to be washing/drying and ironing clothes?

Your ideas on what 'positions' everybody should play are not binding on the whole of humanity and they are not written anywhere as laws that must be followed. If you like living that way, fine. It doesn't mean that those are the positions people should play.

have i called your husband to force my opinion on him? if another couple wants to reverse the roles i have stated, it's entirely their prerogative. i have just given my sound opinion and it works a treat with the couples i am close to.

If your wife's car breaks down then she can call a mechanic. You don't have to leave your work to drive 30 miles. That is just ridiculous.

call a mechanic? and the mechanic would give her a car to drive home as well? oh - wait, my wife should stay by the roadside and wait until the mechanic finishes? you are the smartest decision maker nigeria has ever produced yet.

fellis: Do you have a mother?

what has having a mother or not having gotta do with this? women are the same everywhere unless of course you are one dark-skinned hermaphrodite!

Wow......
So what are these physically tasking chores you speak of?

moving furnitures, heavy lifting, installation of electrical units, etc. sciences like cooking, washing, cleaning are feminine chores. everyone should play his/her position. if my wife's car breaks down 30 miles away, my duty is to drive down there and give her my own car to continue her journey while i sort her vehicle out - just like i expect to meet a steamy bowl of jollof rice after work every evening.

ileobatojo: You may not have noticed but that's actually what the thread is about.

Thread title: Should he fight for custody of his KIDS?

he shouldn't fight nada.
i would try as much as possible to avoid anything that would bring me in contact with this witch of a woman. my children would grow up one day and become independent. then i would explain my absence to them. the woman wants the game to persist and the man is refusing to do the dance of shame with her. that's common sense - to hell with the woman and her demonic antics.