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julienne86: So I had a brief relationship with a guy and we parted. Today I am married to that guy's brother. I never told my husband that I had a relationship with his brother. First I thought our relationship would just be a fling and I did not take it seriously. As time went by, we became closer and closer and fell so hard with each other. At that point I was afraid of losing him by telling him. As our relationship grew, it was harder and harder to tell him. Today we are married. I still haven't told him. His brother haven't told him either. Everyday, that past haunts me and it only gets harder. I have a gazillions of questions that runs through my mind. Am I betraying my dear husband? Will he discover that I was his brother's gf one day? How will he react? Will he despise me? How does his brother perceives me now? Am I a monster for doing what I am doing?
I do not want to lose my husband, I love and respect him beyond words. I just do not if I am doing the right thing by concealing my past to him! Should I tell him? I am getting sick. I am stressing so much. IS there a way out of this? Please advise!

do nothing.....
for all you know, your husband might have slept with your cousin too and he's keeping that secret from you. i fail to see how telling him now would strengthen your marriage. if you could not cop the cojones to tell him before the marriage then better take that secret to your grave. as for the brother, worry not about him and if he tries to blackmail you hire an assassin......

[quote author=Mr_TA]We are going to get raped on Sunday.[/quote]thankfully, we have carrick and fletcher and jones can do a job in the midfield!
giggs is a disgrace to wales.....his pass completion tonight must be less than 20%

nateevs: Hehehe. Goal keeper error?
Nothing to do with the brilliant pass by Moses, the pace Torres picks up to get on to that, not his initial attempt to lob the keeper but a goalie error.

Well. . .

dayo is a rëtard!
even if torres picks the ball up and dribble all the 11 opponents to score....dayo would find something to say

nateevs: Which is exactly the problem I think Sturridge has.
Apart from the known fact that Sturridge never justifies his chances in terms of team play, there are other things about Sturridge that managers see that we don't.

Benitez will be the third Chelsea manager who refuses to play Sturridge. Ancellotti didn't, RDM didn't.

mark hughes didn't play him too - same as hodgson

bluediva gets my vote....

BlueDiva: My point exactly. We don't need to be relying fully on Terry to coordinate the defence.
Dude has just a few more years left, someone like Iva or Cech should be able to marshal the defence.

With all that cheese, he ought to be fresh and clean na.
Leader, Legend, Captain!

gary neville wasn't wrong when he said david luiz looks like a player controlled by playstation gamepad.....the brazilian knows shyte about defending. ivanovic and cahill should be doing better though......

OMO IBO: Remember studge at Bolton?
remember studge last season Despite being played out of position all season?

remember torres @ liverpool
remember torres @ athletico....

remember studge is yet to get an extended playing time in his favourite position.

see, he cannot get playing time because he's not good enough.
sterling, welbeck(with 3 super strikers around him), oxdale, etc are all getting regular run outs in their respective teams. look at his international career with england too.....

OMO IBO: given a quarter of the chance studge will outperform torres by a mile.
That's how wan.k torres is.

that's a big lie......


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VKc337M9huc

Ibime: Admire Sturridge?. . . no!

but I know what Sturridge can provide in terms of pure GOALS!!

Welbeck cannot compete with Sturridge in terms of pure finishing. . . anything else, Welbeck is ahead. . . but Welbeck finishes like a wet sack of. . . Torres!!

welbeck finishes better than sturridge even though united fans don't rate welbeck that much...
it's kinda pathetic that united's 4th best striker is better than chelsea's 2nd striker or best striker(if you take the opinion of bluediva, ibime, el guapo and dayonwankwo)

BlueDiva: Sturridge is actually whack but i'll take him over Torres.
I agree with coogar, a Demba Ba is what we need - cheap and effective.
I'm worried that our defence needs an old man like Terry to perform. What happened to rebuilding?

chelsea defend better with john terry on the pitch......
he brings calm and composure to the back four - he is a natural leader and his team mates tend to do better with him barking orders @ them. i saw him last weekend on barking road driving one badass bentley......wigga was so fresh n so clean(the w@nker)!!

debosky: Is the question too difficult to answer?

I hope Ancelotti's elixir of youth can slow down the degeneration of your brain cells.

and extinguish all his adipose cells as well.....
ever since ibime got obese in the fall of 2010, he has been full of shyte......then he surrounded himself with imbëciles like dayokanu n co and they all ooze an aroma of shyte!

jidegirl12: Give them the in-suite in the basement and we can be one big family (shakes head).

jidegirl is so evil ....

Ibime: A lot of people with vested interest in Torres have not given Sturridge a chance at SB.

Some are even yarning all sort of nonsense in the press about "Torres and Sturridge have not done it this season". . .Whilst some Chelsea fans are happy to claim Studge has not done it this season. . . as if Studge's season boils down to a 15 minute cameo.

Sturridge has that sharpness that will always score goals.

If Sturridge gets to play no9 in any club, I bet ma bottom $, he will score loads.

sturridge has no football intelligence
only fat charlatans admire sturridge - welbeck is head and shoulders above sturridge in terms of decision making and finishing! sturridge shoots when he should pass and he passes when he should shoot. he is a very frustrating player - torres is miles above him in terms of smart interplay and intricate passing........

BlueDiva: Sharktar can beat Juve no doubt.
My fear is that we can't beat Nordsjealand. A draw maybe.

As for Sturridge, add cash and give us Suarez.
I think Emenalo is going crazy.

chelsea are clueless......
sell sturridge, get demba ba or huntelaar....
get terry back into the team - the defence has been a joke since his absence....
last but not the least, get cesc fabregas!

all4naija: This is an excuse to con women into being submissive(forced against their will) than cooperate(doing things as family of equal minds). It is clear what submission means to enslave the female folks and there is no connotation in whatsoever manner that removes that from the translation of it in the bible. Cooperation would rather be a useful word that can replace what you are trying to insinuate with submission. Or else submission has never been used in the way you are driving at all along. Let's call a spade a spade!

don't argue against logic.....

submit to your husband like you submit to your Lord.....
now, are christians forced to worship God? is it not free will to worship and serve God? why would submitting to one's husband slavery yet submitting to God isn't seen as slavery? i am beginning to think comprehending simple lines is a challenge to most people.

husbands who use this bible verse to "oppress" their wives are misguided or just taking advantage of that poor wife. the message itself is clear. husbands should love and respect their wives and wives should return the favour by giving their husbands the privilege of "submission". the privilege can only be earned, not forced!

carefreewannabe: coogar

Thank you so much for your posts on this section. For the first time in my life I feel that submission is not only something I can make peace with but also enjoy.

My mum was scared I would never marry, I was like I don't mind. I said I was not going to be submissive, 'cause it wasn't me, I JUST couldn't do it. It felt like mental and physical slavery.

Now I feel like, it could really be nice to be submissive because you have explained it very well and I understand that submission is something I choose and not something that is forced upon me. It's me, the woman, who can make submission the greatest gift I can give to the man I love and respect. It's not just a s.tupid tradition not making any sense.

The way you see it, is perfectly understandable and even something desirable.
Coogar, I think you have changed my life

thank you!
now get a man that deserves that "gift".......

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]IF u've got Probs with the Fonts then there's a Way Out for ya Mate ------> GO ScRew Ya LovePeddler MommA!

Retard ITK! [/color]

son of a thousand fathers!
stiffen your middle finger and sit on it, you homoerotic zoophile!

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Anuofia I made mention of names that are nowhere near Footballing Powerhouse.[/color]

shut up your stinking mouth with your faggöt fonts......you post like a whöre! i dunno how chamotex can actually allow a male poster to use this coloured fonts. you seek attention so much because without the coloured fonts, no one would pay any attention to your gibberish! you make me sick......

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Little Wonder my Instinct keep sounding it Out Clear that this Moof Is a Clown!
What Led to Jose Leaving On Mutual Understanding? Cos he Was denied the Power to Call the Shots at Chelsea Abi?

We drew Blackburn and Rosenberg at home some days to his Axe. . .aint that bad enough to Show Jose the Exit door in a terrain Roman breathes?[/color]

this anorexic centipede just loves to seek attention....,
were you born feet first? so 2 home draws got mourinho sacked? you mean jose never drew twice @ stamford bridge in the first 2 seasons of his career @ chelsea?

if the moderators trim this section to 100 posters based on their intellect, you would not be among.....you are so much of a bïtch if you run away from home, you would come back pregnant! if you stand close to bluediva in a photo-shoot, the scenario would look like a stereotypical lesbian relationship!

get the fück out of here, you this mumu version of larry izamoje!

[quote author=BABE!]You don misyarn finish! Contrary to popular belief, Coogar has found the one. Everyone will be invited to our big day.... no one will be left out.[/quote]i cannot wait, my dear......
my whole day was spent in the city looking for that big rock that would fit your finger..... I can hear the wedding bells tolling.

ileobatojo: You hear that Coogar? You HEAR?!!

Sh*t stirrer! Thankfully no one's swallowing your bait!

*criminally biased against divorced people's experience and advice*

mama biology, no vex o....i never knew you would take this matter too personal!

ileobatojo: You're out of control and criminally biased!!! Trouble maker!!

mama biology - what now?
where's the bias?

jidegirl12: You're funny..... It's true, I'm not kidding .... I'm chatting with her as I speak type.... and she's older than me but we just clique and nothing more..... I sometimes forget she's older me

that's refreshing to know - i wouldn't mind befriending one too - i need to know "what not to do" in marriage. any takers?

Cooger I think you just saved someone in 'submission' thread , go look!

for real? wow
not surprised though - coogar has always been saving lives!

jidegirl12: That's not true , they are human like you and I, there's nothing special about them that you probably don't already possess , they're just unfortunate to experience a sour taste of being in love case closed! .... I have a 50yr old divorcee friend ( still single) .... I don't think I've learnt any special lesson from her for about our 8years of rapport we just enjoy each other's company that's all.

you don't mean it.....
seriously, you mean this divorcee does not lecture you on the dos and don'ts of life like ileobatojo aka mama biology opined? are you sure? you must have forgotten. divorced women pack so much intelligence they are almost psychic and they can sniff trouble 1000 miles away except the ones relating to theirs. keep your ears open - jidegirl, your friend knows a lot about marriage and her wise words are golden - pay attention!

dayo is a toad.....
as at 2006, he still relied on what complete football magazine and that sports guy on ogbc radio used to tell him. he lacked the tactical nous and he's not conversant with the premier league then. only a nincompoop would even think jose mourinho would fit makelele, ballack, essien and lampard in a 4-3-3 formation!

another evidence.....

Match details

Man United (4-4-2): Van der Sar; Neville, Ferdinand, Vidic, Heinze; Ronaldo (Fletcher, 85), Carrick, Scholes, Giggs; Rooney, Saha (O’Shea 85).
Subs: Evra, Silvestre, Kuszczak (g).
Booked: Carrick.

Chelsea (4-1-3-2) : Cudicini; Geremi (Robben h-t), Carvalho, Terry, A Cole; Makelele; Essien, Ballack (Ferreira 90), Lampard; Drogba, Shevchenko (J Cole 74).
Subs: Boulahrouz, Hilario (g).

Booked: Makelele, Drogba, A Cole.
Man of the match: Rio Ferdinand (Manchester United).
Referee: H Webb (Yorkshire).

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/sport/football/2351168/Chelsea-celebrate-their-turning-point.html

akintun: It is good to relate with divorced people, so dat u will learn how not to become divorcee.

relate with divorced people so you would learn not to become one? why not relate with happily married folks and learn how to be happy in marriage. in other words, i should relate with fat people if i want to become slim. relate with the poor if i want to be rich. these comments amuse me.......you guys have got jokes!

dayokanu: Every opinion you had are always baseless and always waiting for someone to come back it up.

Lack of conviction below

Last week we heard Only Torres can save torres, Few days later after coogar posted it became, the players are not working with torres hence his failure

Stick to the week in week out analysis and Stay out of football or better still ask coogar before you post anything

dayokanu, explain to us how chelsea deployed 4-3-3 using ballack, lampard, makelele and essien? you accuse nateevs of goofing - but you have a professorship in the art of chatting nonsense about tactical formation....

dayokanu: Jose Mourinho played 4-3-3 in Inter. Who were the wingers? Etoo, Pandev?

your problem is you don't know when to give up - until you force me into shoving you into a quicksand.....chelsea in the first 2 seasons under mourinho operated a 4-3-3 formation. in 06/07, sheva and ballack arrived and mourinho had to abandon 4-3-3 to fit in shevchenko.....

this was an excerpt of the match report that day....

No matter where they stand at the end of the campaign, United will lead Chelsea in popularity charts. They delivered the entertainment, while Jose Mourinho's side made do with inspiring a sense of foreboding among their enemies. For a club of such intimidating means, the footballers, all the same, were scrappy.

Mourinho even had to abandon his preferred strategy for this campaign. The trio of Michael Essien, Michael Ballack and Frank Lampard that he stations in front of Claude Makelele were too narrow, too liable to be caught up in the snarl and shove of the contest.

Arjen Robben came on and hardly delighted his boss. Mourinho even walked to the edge of the technical area to bawl and gesticulate when the Dutchman knocked a pass out of play, but the winger opened out Chelsea's approach. Essien did even more in that regard once Geremi was removed and the Ghanaian went to right-back.

dayokanu: Thats the thing, Nateevs never has a conviction about anything. Ask him what he thinks about anything, He repeats what ever rubbish coogar says

[size=15pt]Now Nateevs : Is it possible to fit ballack, Essien Makeleleand Lampard in Jose Mourinhos 4-3-3?[/size]

dayo, stop embarrassing yourself - chelsea did not play 4-3-3 against united...it was a diamond formation. how do you play 4-3-3 without wingers(no joe cole, no robben, and no duff).....chelsea trailed 1-0 in the first half with united pulling jose's team apart

dayo is a tool!
little did the mumu know that jose deployed the diamond formation mostly in 06/07 to fit drogba and shevchenko in the same team. 4-1-2-1-2. dayo does not understand tactics and formation. the line up that day against united @ old trafford played like this....

-----------------cudicini----------------
geremi - terry - carvalho - cole
------------makelele----------------
------essien------ballack----------
-----------lampard-------------
-----drogba-----shevchenko-----

dayokanu: Torres has a total of 7 goals in 1900mins of football Thats an average of 1 goal every 270min or better still 1 goal every 4hours 30mins of football. Yes Torres has indeed improved

Torres has played 23 games this season started in 22 of them. Scored 7 goals in 30hours of football He deserves ballon D or for such improvements

torres has 4 league goals already and we are not even in christmas yet, obviously if he repeats this same feat in the 2nd half of the season, he would outscore his previous seasons @ chelsea! there's an improvement - but what do you know?

Di Matteo is Chelseas best Manager based on records And who told you Good Managers dont get sacked? Del Bosque was sacked by Madrid, Mourinho was sacked by Chelsea

this has been overflogged!
jose and del bosque were not sacked for their poor performance - it's simply boardroom politics.....di matteo was sacked for his poor performance on the pitch!