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debosky: maclatunji is a Muslim so he doesn't believe in the antichrist.

of course he does ...if he believes christ exists then he must surely know there's antichrist

I agree on the latter - as for the former, who knows? Some people think there's something to gain like coogar above.

i move ever closer to heaven each time i poke shots at you. my place(abraham's bosom) awaits me!

debosky: The honeymoon is over and reality strikes!

I do sympathise with the way you're feeling - many men often go through this 'shock' phase especially if they have kids soon after getting married and if they are carrying all the financial responsibilities. Just a year ago you were just a man running his business living well, now you have to be a husband, a father and a breadwinner too, while running the business and getting no sex as well. My brother, like Yoruba people say ko easy lati je omokunrin - it's not easy being a man.

You need to wake up and face reality - what is done is done. I could spend pages saying why did you get her preggers so early when you didn't have sufficient funds, or that you should have planned better and so on, but that is all history.

You just need to relax, calm down and approach the situation methodically. If you have any excess expenditure, cut it out so you can keep your family provided for (1st priority) and grow your business. Manage your finances by cutting your cloth accordingly and try to get a job if the business is not working out. If you couldn't afford 300k naming, you didn't have to do it - that should be your philosophy from now, only what you can afford!

I agree with your wife that you are simply doing your duty (though she should be appreciative) - who else will take care of your family if not you?

Kids always shake up marriages, and the lack of sex doesn't help either. Like CC said, discuss that aspect with her to find out what the issue is, but PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE - use PROTECTION or get her long term contraceptives. If you think life is dull with one child, it will be dull x 1,000,000 with two kids to feed in your present state.

Don't give up - things will get better with time. Just don't blame your wife - you knew she was a student when you married her, and you willingly did so. Don't regret what has happened, just use it to learn lessons and forge ahead.

he made bad choices from the word go - he married a struggling student so the income is only coming from one source. as if that wasn't bad enough, he knocked her up @ the very first opportunity. to compound his problem further, he went on to cut his cloth at Bleep-large when he should have cut x-small. i really hope he has learnt his lessons......

raising a family in nigeria is tough even with 2 working parents. this dude has zero skills in project planning. he's now faced with paying his wife's fees, buying handouts for her in school, paying for her accommodation in school, taking care of the baby, etc.

he shoulda married the bankers - he messed up big time and he has screwed up the chance of even securing a loan from them now that they know he abandoned them for a young blood! i say let the nairaland donation start!

maclatunji: What will I gain by attacking you? We can't always agree.

attacking debosky gives you a first class ticket to heaven - debosky is the antichrist!

ayikondu: Hello nairalanders! I'v actually been a guest on dis forum for a while and found it interesting so I decided to register. I now need help on a serious issue bothering my mind and I hope you guys can help out.
I'm 30yrs married to 25yr old lady with a 4-month old son. We met in 2008 during my service year and she told me she was in unilorin 200 level biz admin so we started a relationship, It wasn't so serious then cos she was always in school and only come to lagos only on holidays.
I finishes my service and got a job in a bank at which I worked only 1 year before I resigned and started my business. All these while I was busy with work and stuffs so d r/ship was more of a phone thingy plus I thought she would have someone in school anyway. I realised I had feelings for dis lady and decided to pursue dis lady even though I had some banker ladies ready to settle down with me but I wanted someone younger .
We started dating seriously and I proposed 3months later which she accepted, all was going on fine until abt 3 months to our Introduction when she came crying one day dat she has a confession to make. She said wen actually met a few years back, she did actually lie abt d unilorin biz admin thingy dat she was doing pre degree course there and unfortunately she was unable to get in to study the main course and dat she just gained admission into federal poly ado-ekiti 2010 and the stories went on like dat, even her parent sent for me and started pleading dat I can cancel d intro but if I really love their daughter things can still work out. Even though I felt akward and betrayed, I still went ahead cos I was in love and I felt I was making enough to sustain d marriage.
We got marriedin july 2011(sponsored by me and my family cos dem no too get) and she got pregnant immediately. Issues just started happenin like business going down too many expenses I wasn't expecting, basically it was chocking having to carry all d responsibilities and wen she was gonna give birth again like 4 months ago, I spent almost 800k (300 for d CS, 200k for new house rent and like 300 for naming and baby stuffs) which she doesn't appreciate much as she thinks I'm just doing my duty and to confess, I'm broke now as Iv been spending my capital.
I can't continue like dis as der is nothing exciting abt d marriage anymore, all d attn is on the new baby and we have not even had sex since d 6th month of d pregnancy. Too many issues but not to bore you guy, I'll need ur honest advice as I'm planning to divorce or run away ... Pls HELP!

op, don't mind the other posters - i move for starting a donation to get you back on track.
like how much do you think you need to restore you back to what you used to be?

[quote author=tpia.]ok, who got me banned here?

the oyibo woman or the perverted blacks?

anyway, na una life sha- no biggie.

no be me get the site.[/quote]i did!
dayo asked you few questions which you evaded and that's an offence punishable by a ban! so stay in the ice for 48 hrs.....

seunajia: Big ups Maclatunji! We cavemen understand your point.

Now it's okay for people to dress indecently because their partners approve of it. It doesn't matter if it offends other people's senses. Uhmmm they should either cover their eyes or travel a lil bit and stop being caveman!

Interesting thread.
It's okay to dress like a LovePeddler since men would pick on you anyway :/

What has happened to our African ethics?
What has happened to dignity?
What has happened to the pride of a spouse?
What has happened to self respect?
What has come over our people?
What has marriage turned into?

The answers are not far-fetched. "Freedom" "ko matter" "it makes me comfortable", all rationalisation have slowly eroded our core values.


I read from page one up-till this point and I was awed. Are these Nigerians? Are these people for real?
Abajo. No wonder! No wonder you guys get treated like s.hit. No wonder your spouses do not respect you guys anymore. When you have no self worth whatsoever. Nothing is left to the imagination. unclothedness is now fashion.
I used to think it's only "omo-alata", "ashewo", "show biz people" that show flesh because they have goods for sale? And that educated, well brought up people dress and think decently :/ How wrong was I?



PS: I'm a caveman thinking aloud. I hope we still have cavewomen out there?

Caveman/cavewoman is euphemism for, atleast, decently dressed men and women or men and women who believe privates should remain privates. Copy that!

balderdash
gibberish
thoughtless

[quote author=Efemena_xy]@Tpia, my dear...just ignore them abeg. E don do.

Dayo 'n Co. Person eye go fall this night from reading una posts o! [/quote]you are asking tpia to ignore her husband? what kinda neighbour are you?

[quote author=tpia@]^ I was referring to yall's quickness to e.jaculate to anybody's picture.[/quote]and how did you know this piece of info? madam tpia, who have you been sleeping with on this forum? don't say it loud, just whisper in my ears...

[quote author=tpia@]if i give details, many of you on this thread will e.jaculate spontaneously, given your quickness to e.jaculate and all. [/quote]quickness to [color=#000000]e[/color]jaculate? don't use our last encounter as a yardstick, tpia.....i had done few lines of cocaine before the humping. i promise the next one would be longer!

dayokanu: Let Tpia talk.

Tpia which one do you prefer

Anus fuccking You go to coogar

Toto fucckking you come to Dayokanu

Mouth fuckkinng you go to Iragbijiile

Earlobes and eyeballs fuckkiing you go to Sagamite

So choose you today which style you want

cheiiiiii - you're too crude - this outlandish comments ain't my normal diet
time to go watch "jackie brown" on the box -
see you clowns later!

debosky: ^^

We shall see - with Fergie acting like a dog in heat, anything is possbile. We SHALL have our revenge for Agent Mikael Silvestre!

more like robin van persie acting like a pitbull terrier without no leash.....
van persie disrespected his club - if i were wenger, i would sell him to kaiser chiefs in south africa!

dayokanu: Tpia, You know I love you? Dont follow coogar, he is a womaniser. And he loves to fucck from anus. If you want anus fuxkking then you can follow coogar.

But for hardcoree toto fuccking, I am the way, the truth and the sexx

for [color=#000000]f[/color]uck's sake, this is polemic!
you can campaign from here to burma, tpia and coogar are walking the aisle this fall.....
she thinks you are not man enough for her!

[quote author=tpia@]madam, are you coogar's wife, because I believe i was replying him- not sure why you took it on yourself to respond on his behalf as if i mentioned your name.[/quote]awww, come on......don't be oversensitive
you should know you're the only wife i have got on this planet....

if you dont mind, i think coogar has a typewriter he can use to reply if he's so inclined.

grizzly tpia!

maclatunji: I am sure any man would love this description of his wife if I am going to believe people here.

stop scraping the barrel....
i might not mean what I say, i might not say what i mean.....
my intentions can be more evil towards another man's wife than the people commenting about her pics.....you cannot control the perception of men towards women!!!

if she covers herself up in tarpaulin, men would still do what they wanna do. there were fornication and adultery before facebook....hell, fornication/adultery existed in genesis when women covered every inch of their skin bar face....

iragbijile: You make sense die.[b] I have slept with a pastor's wife [/b]who makes it a point to ask God for forgiveness after the deed. The first time, I was like WTF? With time, I learnt to just go with the flow. Sometimes I even join in the prayer. Crazy pretentious mofos.

[color=#000000]f[/color]ucking hell......
pastor's wife? you got balls, mate!!! i never went to such obscene levels but i know many who get their baptism of fire before/after choir practise - all dressed up in long skirts, long sleeve shirts and tight-fitting scarves!

[quote author=tpia@]@ coogar
^ if you think you're looking sexy, but those around you dont agree, then my dear, you don miss road be that.[/quote]looking sexy is subjective and it boils down to what the individual concerned feel about herself. if she's confident and comfortable in her outfit - then who cares what people think?

it all depends on the context, geddit?

it depends on the comfortability of the wearer!

In a nightclub, for example, you're expected to show as much skin as you're possibly able, while when walking on the street, people would prefer you dont offend yourself by revealing every crease in your buttocks and all the fat in your frontal area.

is that clearer now?

it's not clearer - it depends on what the individual considers comfortable!
what a woman wears says nothing about her attitude - there are more promiscuous women covering up every inch of their body than the ones who love to show some skin especially in nigeria where people love to pretend.......

[quote author=tpia@]do you consider yourself more decent than this :

https://www.nairaland.com/1015646/swedish-mothers-rage-against-balcony#11770596

why or why not?

plz answer.

I'm waiting, thanks.[/quote]tpia, stop displaying your gross ineptitude on a public forum.....there's a difference between looking sexy and indecent exposure! what has a nudist/flasher gotta do with a woman who shows some skin? you are comparing a man who flashes his private parts to a woman who is showing her legs?

you need cerelac....


[quote author=tpia@]well, watch her abi you think all these young guys searching for sugar mummy, are joking?

you dont want coogar as your stepdaddy?[/quote]why should i go for dayo's mum when there are thousands of circumstantial celibates like yourself lying around the planet? tpia, i reiterate you need "ogun eje"

maclatunji: Another wrong conclusion. You see many Nairalanders have a problem: If you think someone has made an "outrageous" comment, ask for clarifications before jumping to conclusions.

i hate to be spoonfed - next time, word your comments properly so people would not be misled!

maclatunji: @bolded, your suggestion.

In case you haven't noticed, I used the word "splash" not "post" pictures, that implies that the "individual" posts multiple pictures at once with different poses. Hence my questions in the thread opening. Again, you see what you want to see,

so it has come down to splash/post technicality?
mac, do yourself a favour: delete this woman from your facebook. it's obvious she's making you lust over her and the scriptures say you should remove whatever makes you sin!

maclatunji: I agree with the bolded.

However, do you concede that your husband might feel jealous if he read some of the comments that you would get after posting several "catchy pictures"?

and how sure are you it's not the husband "splashing" those pics to identify the friends of his wife that are potential sex deviants?

[quote author=tpia@]yes, as a matter of fact. It does.

but that's a topic for another thread.[/quote]tpia, you have come again with your backward reasoning ---
what makes you more decent than a woman who loves to show some skin?

Truckpusher: they are all married but they luv to flirt and when they finally land in a messy situation all they say is had i known!!!

you must have loads of idle time on your hands to worry about messy situation....

JallowBah: Hah, maybe for 2-5 seconds if you`re lucky.

oh dear -----

maclatunji: You said that not me. Your conclusions can as well apply to you. React to the things I type not what you imagine. Thank you.

don't get excited, fella!
you don't want a married woman to expose herself on a social medium because she might be seen as advertising her wares - it then suggests you think a woman that is well covered up is absolutely decent, isn't it?

maclatunji: But there's a difference which could be because of any number of factors.

so you think the way a woman dresses determines her promiscuity? come on - you are beginning to sound like those islamic extremists who cover up their women like ninjas. what does it stop? i have a reliable statistic that says women in hijab are hornier than the babes in bum shorts and tank tops!

JallowBah: You hardly see anything of the nipples when the baby is eating..
And no, that is not exposure. Its feeding a baby. Youre not flashing anyone, you are FEEDING A BABY.

do i get to see anything when the baby stops eating?

debosky: Symptom #4 of messianic hallucinations - the subject has an insatiable need to save the world.

mac is humanitarian!
he's on a mission to stop adultery in nigerian marriages......what the [color=#000000]f[/color]uck!!!

maclatunji: Thank you, you have hit the crux of the matter. This thread started-out as a question, until our women jumped-out for the Jugular. In that case, I am just dishing-it out to them.

married women can be insecure as well - they know there are younger chics out there who would scheme ways to get into their husbands' knickers thus they go all out on social media to prove there's life in the old dog yet....

besides, indecency is subjective. what you see as indecency might not be indecent to your next door neighbour. the only individual with the right to fuss/cuss is the husband of the woman you are discussing. if he's satisfied, you should be satisfied!

stop trying to save the world.....

JallowBah: And about breastfeeding; one of the most natural things you CAN do.
I dont know how it works in the public in Nigeria, but in Gambia, the women around you almost forces you to breastfeed if your baby starts whining.."get the boob out girl, your baby is hungry". Anywhere, anytime. And that is a damn good thing.

bringing chesticles out on a public transport? isn't that a sorta indecent exposure?
gambia must be one helluva place to be then....

If a man starts to think SEXUAL when he looks at a baby eating...well.

some men are wired that way - the huge dark ring around the [color=#000000]n[/color]ipples of feeding mothers stir their hormones - lol

maclatunji: Who is she trying to impress? I ask because obviously men will admire them and being married, one would think she understands that she shouldn't do anything that will make other men who are not her husband well... "hit on her". What are your thoughts?

a woman(married or unmarried)should be allowed to post whatever satisfies her on any social network. if her husband is not complaining, what's the fuss?

picture or no picture - a married woman would cheat if and when she wants to ----

debosky: Then why is Fergie sleeping at the Travelodge in Colney trying to put together a few extra pennies to offer to Arsenal?

No sale - pay up or piss off!

fergie is in cheshire - i saw him this morning.
he will not pay £30m for a 30-yr old striker who has averaged only 25 league apps per season in his career in england!

Imanuelle: Me?? Yes!!
U?

i am addicted to baby food!!!
stealing baby food was a norm especially nestle lactogen - yummy!!!

[quote author=Mr_TA]Stop it. [/quote]when was the last time you saw cleverley play?

muffins99: ...wow, now that is harsh! You may be right that the black man sold out first (to get rid of war captives or in return for mirrors, etc) and that we have to stop blaming the 'white man' for our problems when we are still the ones helping them. Many nigerians are still selling out for shiny stuff (status symbols)and look down on indeginous stuff. We spend money on products manufactured outside of Nigeria, in churches the music and preaching is usually American-style, we drive imported cars, wear imported clothes, use imported drugs and eat imported food...why? because made in Nigeria is no good. Then we come online and rip each other apart because our opinions differ- there's so much intolerance for opposing opinons, ethnicity, religion etc. Is the white man to blame? I say no, Nigeians are to blame for Nigeria's current problems and Nigerians are the solution. Please let us put the past where it belongs, 'in the past'. The future is yet to be and it is up to us to determine this.

even kids from broken homes blame their unhappiness on the white folks - the imperialists have their faults but that excuse is fast wearing thin! are boko haram militants whites? is massob a white group? is jonathan white when he unleashed the penury of the oil subsidy on nigerians? year in year out, nigerians put zombies in power and when shyte hits the fan they blame slavery for their own stupidity! nigerians hate each other more than anyone of another race can even muster. go to politics section and see raw tribalism ripping the country apart - we turn a blind eye to that but scream racism when a street sweeper from brazil got a chance to dance @ the london olympics!

arrant nonsense!!!!

debosky: Put up or shut up scumtwats - RVP is not on summer sale. Full price or no deal!

united are not after robin van persie anymore - arsenal should go n put their dilapIdated house in order! yeah, fergie had a bid and wenger was demanding a ridiculous transfer fee for a 30 yr old striker - united have since walked away from the shyte.....


[quote author=Mr_TA]Its not about cover in midfield though? Its about getting the right quality that is lacking in the midfield. We may have the numbers in midfield but we lack the quality there. Quality that a Yaya Toure shaped midfielder would snack on in his sleep.[/quote]yaya would get murdered against a fit ando/clev axis ---they would give him the run around of his life and he would collapse on the pitch!