₦airaland Forum

CHIMSKY: My brother,a word is enough for the wise.Na fly wey no gree hear word dey follow dead body enter grave.People are giving you free,solid advice now and you are being stubborn.Ditch the babe and find your soulmate who flows on the same wavelength as you.Do you know how much I envy you?I wish someone had been nice enough to tell me what several people are telling you now.If this girl is headstrong now,by the time you get married,she will be the General while you will be a mere pawn.Caveat Emptor!

armyofone: welcome back, nice to have you around.
i'm sure madam made you to finally shop at that african market you so loathe
i will be in london so try getting a permit to visit Base

MrMaintain: Pls help on this situation,

I am currently living in the UK, and have been planning to get married to my partner who is back in Nigeria. We have been discussing a number of matters and today something which hadn't been discussed before came up.
She said that she "wants to be financially secure" and "would rather stay single than marry a man who can't take care of her" I asked her to she said that she is willing to work, but that any money she earns in her job is just for her, but the husband should provide all other things such as shelter, food, etc, but shouldn't take her from her own savings.

I explained to her that here in Europe, it doesn't work that way, I explained to her the concept of a mortgage, and that if a typical family has a family 3 bed house out here, both partners contribute to the mortgage. That things are different than in Nigeria, young couples go the bank together and get a joint mortgage. I explained that here, a couple go out for dinner and they often times split the bill, they have joint bank accounts, and that they budget and invest, save together.
She was astonished and still maintained that she doesn't believe that. "the husband must provide shelter, why should she contribute to the mortgage?"

Now I fully nderstand how things work back home, the guy would own a house(outright, no mortgages etc) and would woo the woman. And I explained that if I move back home after the wedding, I can do that. However, here with mutual funds, gas, taxes on everything, investing , etc etc it is slightly different. I was explaining to her how we buy houses here via 25 year mortgages etc.....we are oth late twenties.

Much of this is cultural. She has never travelled outside of Nigeria.....meanwhile, although I am Nigerian, I have actually spent not too much time there.

Can you folks offer any advise as to if either of us here is being unreasonable, and those abroad, how can I explain to her better how things work here in Europe?
Thanks

Lilshaddy: I actually don’t know where to
As I write this piece, Mandy is
already a wreck and I am totally
confused. What do we do?

2buff: Well would you?

armyofone: Sauron coogar, i think you got a sick mouth. remember you are one hefty talkative and for a man, that's really a brain in jeopardy where have you been. nice to know i brought you out.
Cheers.

slimyem: things have happened on this thread...
Damn!

armyofone: wouldn't it be nice to see dayokanu in tong and skirt


and then some guys toasting her?

flairlady: i wil lose mine wen i get married

queensmith: U got it!
Reasons best known to them ke? Lets try foolishness, stupidity desperation and thoughtlesness....

dayokanu: ^^ ANother Brainless post.

Di Natale top striker for his club. Muller not top striker for his club.

A rational person would compare Di Natale with Gomez but thats too much to expect from this homoerotic nuisance

dayokanu: Ok We get it Torres stopped existing in 2008.
When Torres scored that goal Obama wasnt even US President

Di natale and Muller are getting supplies from the same midfield like Drogba and Torres?

Compare Di Natale to Muller what next Compare Zlatan to David Alaba
Brainlessness at its best

tanimz: @Poster - Were you bitch-slapped in your sleep or something?

dayokanu: How many games has Malouda played this season?

Arjen Robben has more goals than assists, That must mean he is a useless winger?

How did Drogba who feeds on similar delivery manage to score? Example the delivery that Torres and you claimed were non existent was what Drogba turned into a beautiful flying header vs Napoli. But if it was torres, he would lament that there are no crosses.

34yr old Drogba 25 games 9 goals, 27yr old Torres 37 games 6 goals

The same way he doesnt get passes from the most creative midfielders in the world who play for Spain

chic2pimp: And Chamakh has been Arsenal's best player this season.

StarBoard: It's these ignorant ABUs who are everywhere.
Sometimes I wish there wasn't this proliferation of football everywhere.That way you get to hear less dross.
In my place, one cross-eyed jackass kept harping on the penalty incident,and even when I reminded him about the Newcastle incident,he kept ranting like a hor-ny bull;apparently he didn't recall the incident,so I just gave up.

Sugardiva: oh Shut up! Every one who reads ur post on that topic https://www.nairaland.com/887707/facebook-vs-nairaland-which-more#10342997 will knw u were practically enchanted. You even sent me a friend request as soon as Seun introduced friends into NL. Eyaa did the fact dat i practically ignored u contribute to ur posting this topic?

Im not usually one to attack pple but on this one i will fight u to the end. No woman deserves to be called ugly especially women of my kindred (Naija women),certainly not by people with low self esteem such as urself.

bittyend: LMFAO!! I did touch a nerve, huh??

If you could get thesaurus to chat to me, it shows you've ACCEPTED I'm superior to you. Thanks for looking up to me, and I hope you be like me in future.

StarBoard: I was bringing up this stat to folks.
It's unfortunate that low-lifes think that way.

bittyend: Brilliant discourse and you don't belong in the same sentence. I guess it's typical for pseudo-intellectuals to blow hot-air, and make the loudest noise - which is what empty barrels do.

I wish you the best in your discourse with your fellow morons - I won't give you the opportunity to bring me down to your level.
good luck, mate.

medjai: You didn't see my earlier post?

slimyem: stop replying this frustrated monkey!
He aint worth it!

Sugardiva: You have already admitted on another thread that i am beautiful. No need for me to do that. While i appreciate the compliment i do not need the approval and neither does any Naija babe. Before u said i was beautiful i knew I was. Coogar take note too.

bittyend: Keep blowing hot-air - you and I don't to the same league nor class, and you're so beneath me.

Only classless, uncouth, and stupid kids talk about other people's mums. I don't even have time for your folly, you low IQ having idiot.

dayokanu:
A striker with 2 league goals in the whole season?
Please how many does Pappis Demba Cisse who joined in january also Pavel pogrebnyak have?

bittyend: Are you a butt pirate? I'm not homophobic, but I don't like faggit and can't stand them.