You have no other choice but to try and forgive your husband. It won't be easy but as a devout church goer and Christian, seek help and get this load off your chest and move on. Give your husband another chance, today is Easter .. remember Christ died for our sins. If your husband truly repents God will forgive him, so don't die of painment and unforgiveness
Mrslarissa98: Hello everyone, I need your advice please. I am half Nigerian. I am married and currently living in another African country with my husband and our two children. Our first child is 4 years old and the youngest is 9 months old.
I was born and raised in Nigeria to a Nigerian father. When I was 13 years old, my parents divorced. My mother took me, my younger brother, and my elder sister from her previous relationship back to her country. Since we left, I have not seen or spoken to my father.
Unfortunately, my mother passed away two years later when I was only 15. Life was very difficult for us because my mother’s family treated us badly, but that is not really what I am looking for advice about, so I will keep the story short.
I got married 5 years ago, and 3 years ago my husband and I relocated to a different African country. We are both involved in business. I run a hair salon while also taking care of my duties as a wife and mother.
When I started my business, my daughter was already 2 years old and attending school, so it was easier to manage both my business and my responsibilities at home. But when I became pregnant with my son, I knew it would not be easy anymore because I would need someone to help take care of him while I worked. I stayed home for about 3 months after he was born, and when I was preparing to return to work, I asked my pastor’s wife to help me find someone to assist me. She had helped other people find help before, and she introduced us to a 19-year-old girl who came to live with us.
At first, everything was going well. She took very good care of my baby. My daughter’s school was close to my shop, so I was the one dropping her off and picking her up. We had planned that the following year we would move her to a school closer to the house so the girl could help with picking her up.
Let me also add that while I was on maternity leave, my husband used to come home around 1 p.m. to eat lunch. But when I returned to work, I asked him not to come home during the day anymore and to start taking food to work instead, which he did.
When my baby was about 5 months old, we left for work as usual. Around 10 a.m., my phone rang. It was my husband saying he was at the hospital with the maid and the baby. I panicked and asked what happened and if my baby was okay. He said the baby was fine, but the maid was the one who was not well.
He told me that he was at work, but he suddenly felt very uneasy, like something was telling him to go home and check on the baby. When he got home, he heard the baby crying inside the room where the maid shared with our daughter. At first, he ignored it, thinking maybe she was changing the baby. But the crying became worse, and he heard a loud bump. He called the maid’s name, but there was no response. When he entered the room, he found her lying on the floor naked, and the baby was next to her crying. He picked up the baby and called the neighbors, who helped cover her and put her in his car. One male neighbor followed them to help with the baby while they went to the hospital.
The girl was unconscious at first, but later she recovered. After she was discharged, I was wondering what could have happened. I asked her if she had any history of seizures or something similar, but she said no. She explained that she could not clearly remember what happened that day. She said that after putting the baby to sleep, she rushed to take a bath, and after coming out of the bathroom she could not remember anything else until she woke up in the hospital.
During the following days, I allowed her to rest as much as possible, and I started taking my baby with me to my shop. It was not easy, but I wanted her to recover.
One day, I came back home and found the house empty. She was nowhere to be found. I panicked and called her number, but it was switched off. I called our pastor’s wife, but she said she had not seen her. She was already aware of what had happened at the hospital. We were all worried and tried to reach her without success. Our pastor’s wife even sent someone to her aunt’s house to check if she was there, but she was not. After a few days, we found out that she was staying with her elder sister in another town. We felt some relief knowing she was at least with family. We tried to contact her to ask why she left suddenly, but she would not pick up our calls. Four months later, she came back to the church and informed our pastor that the reason she left my house was because, according to her, ever since she started living with us, my husband had been making advances toward her. She said she always refused him. She claimed that on the day of the incident, my husband came home and met her in the room while she was dressing, forced himself on her, beat her, and she passed out. The pastor called us, and the girl repeated this in front of everyone. My husband could not deny it and started begging for forgiveness. I was completely shattered. Although the pastor and his wife counseled us and tried to reconcile us, and my husband has been begging for forgiveness, I am still heartbroken. I am no longer interested in this marriage. I feel anger and pain whenever I look at him.
Now I feel like taking my children and going back to my home country. I cry every day and feel very depressed. I really need advice, please help me.
Leaving the marriage is risky. What if he becomes unavailable when you later forgive him and wishe to have him? His action was very wrong. But I advise you to continue with the marriage since he doesn't starve or assault you.
As for him, he should be arraigned ona two-count charges of rape and attempted murder. If at all you should separate from him, let his jail sentence be the cause, do not divorce him.
adamkkk: I have this friend that got married on time. It was because the woman was pregnant as at the time and the guy was still in school(200level). So he dropped out of school to become a full time husband. That was the excuse he gave back then.
The woman got him the first child and then the second. My friend was living minimal to support the woman, he even rented a shop for her and spent so much on her(I don't want to talk too much).
One day another married man far older than my friend, approached him and advised him to tell his wife to stay away from his family. Apparently, the woman was dating the other man and when the other man decided not to continue the relationship anymore, the woman(my friend's wife) started threatening him and his wife and was acting jealous. It was that same period that it became known that the woman was dating other men and has been promiscuous for years even though they were not helping her with money. It was devastating.
My friend gave alot to that marriage and just like that, he was betrayed. So after everyday quarrel, she left the house.
It been like over 8 months now and my friend has moved on, i assumed so because he was with another girl that nearly caused issues between us
All of a sudden, he wanted the wife back. I advised her against the idea, but she was bent on doing just that. Some people were telling him to take her back like that. The matter tire me sef. So whenever the discussion came up, i would jejely avoid contributing to the talk.
So to the shock of everyone, he brought her and her load back. I don't want to say what on my mind and what am suspecting and at the same time, i could be wrong.
What do you make of the situation and is there a probable expectations in the future ?
nlfpmod: The post features a viral video of a Nigerian man in London directing chaotic traffic involving luxury cars like a Ferrari Purosangue and Bentley, using humorous, firm commands to de-escalate a near-road rage incident and clear the road.
Viewers in replies praise his skills as honed from Nigerian urban chaos, particularly Lagos, joking he must have prior experience with informal traffic control like LASTMA officers.
Where is Benin Republic, at least food is still cheap and you can get a good bag of rice from 22,000cfa to 25,000cfa. Roughly 55,000 to 60,000 naira. Garri is cheap, spaghetti is cheap. Even bread is cheap. Everybody go chop breakfast.
QuinQQ: Below are the African top ten (10) countries with the best quality of life in 2026. (Ghana made it but no Naija. Na wa o) Which of them would you patronize?
OdumoduBlack said "You stand near President I stand near you"
They all want to stand near who will stand with the King of England. Sycophants.
phosky: SHOCKER IN LONDON: “ALL 36 GOVERNORS FLEW IN?” – Nigerians REACT as Tinubu’s UK Visit Sparks OUTRAGE 😳🇳🇬🇬🇧 A viral video currently trending online has set social media on FIRE after claims surfaced that President Bola Ahmed Tinubu allegedly travelled to the United Kingdom with a massive entourage — with some users even alleging that “nearly all 36 state governors” stormed the UK to receive him. The clip, shared widely on TikTok, shows a crowd of Nigerian officials and dignitaries in the UK, triggering heated reactions from citizens both home and abroad. 💬 One angry user wrote: “Entire Aso Rock don relocate go UK? God have mercy on Nigeria!” 💬 Another added: “This country is not serious. Who is running Nigeria right now?” But here’s where it gets interesting 👇 🔍 FACT CHECK: Reports indicate that President Tinubu’s visit to the UK is actually a historic state visit, hosted by King Charles III — the first of its kind in nearly 40 years. () Even more surprising… 👉 Contrary to viral claims, ONLY ONE governor — Zamfara State Governor Dauda Lawal — is officially part of the president’s delegation. () 🤔 So where did the “36 governors” narrative come from? Was it misinformation… exaggeration… or just social media cruise? 🇳🇬 Nigerians are now divided: Some say the optics of the trip still look “too expensive” Others argue it’s a necessary diplomatic move to boost trade and international relations Meanwhile, the presidency maintains the visit will focus on investment, trade, and strengthening ties with the UK.
WHAT DO YOU THINK? Is this just social media exaggeration… or is there more to the story? 👇 Drop your thoughts below!
Our Eze Ndi Igbo in Benin Republic congratulations
AnonPoet: 2025 MOST OUTSTANDING INDUSTRIALIST OF THE YEAR
Chief Dr. Ebuka Onunkwo, Chairman of Seahorse Lubricant Industries Ltd, has been conferred with the Champion Newspapers’ 2025 Most Outstanding Industrialist of the Year Award, in recognition of his remarkable contributions to Nigeria’s lubricants manufacturing sector. The award ceremony took place yesterday at the Banquet Hall of the Eko Hotels & Suites, where the prestigious honour was presented before a distinguished gathering of public figures, government functionaries, media executives, and stakeholders.
The award ceremony celebrated distinguished Nigerians who have made significant impacts in national development across various sectors. Chief Onunkwo was recognised for his visionary leadership and the remarkable success of Seahorse Lubricant Industries Ltd, which has continued to strengthen indigenous manufacturing and contribute to industrial growth in Nigeria.
The event attracted several notable personalities from business, government, and industry who gathered to celebrate the award recipients. The recognition further adds to Chief Onunkwo’s growing list of honours. In 2021, he also received a similar recognition from The Sun Newspapers for his outstanding contribution to the industrial sector.
Observers at the ceremony described the award as a testament to Chief Onunkwo’s commitment to excellence, innovation, and the promotion of indigenous enterprise in Nigeria’s manufacturing landscape.
By providing drone support to the Israeli regime, failed Ukraine has effectively become involved in the War and, under Article 51 of the United Nations Charter, has turned its entire territory into a legitimate target for Iran.
You can't expect less from Ukraine, they got Israel's support also against Russian
Where are Bankers ranked ? You cannot leave them out.
uche87: Before I start, I must admit that this is a very awkward topic. At the same time, it is an interesting one. I have come across it several times on social media, and the comment sections of such posts never fail to make me laugh. They are hardly factual, but they can be very entertaining. So, don’t take this personally. Just enjoy the gist, drink some cold water, and allow your blood pressure to regulate itself.
In my opinion, wherever human beings work together, whether of the same or opposite sex, depending on their sexual orientation, copulation tends to take place. It is a normal human phenomenon. From my anecdotal observations, any occupation in which people are confined to the same place for long hours each day becomes a red zone where people are easily tempted to sleep with each other.
The tendency is even higher where teamwork and collaboration are essential to getting the job done. As people spend long hours together, official and unofficial conversations begin to flow. Desires and admiration gradually kick in. Conflicts and resolutions also occur. Consciously or unconsciously, people start to see their colleagues as part of their extended family. Familiarity grows, and interests develop.
The progression is usually simple. It innocently starts with a smile, then moves to small talk, then a handshake, and eventually a light hug. Over time, the hugs become tighter and longer — chest to chest.
Those who are very self-controlled keep their fantasies to themselves and suppress those feelings. Others who are more vulnerable find themselves caught in a romantic web without much thought about the future or any proper risk assessment. At that point, people become emotionally entangled and begin to act impulsively.
This is the same technique used by reality shows to foster romantic relationships among participants. They place young people in the same environment, make them do activities together, encourage interactions, and cut off communication with the outside world. Gradually, people begin to lose touch with reality and develop what are often phantom feelings for those around them. I call this the “Big Brother reality show syndrome,” coined from the popular Big Brother television series.
The Healthcare and Social Care Sector
I have worked in Nigeria and the United Kingdom for over a decade combined, across different sectors. From my observation, the healthcare sector, which includes doctors, nurses, and support workers, is one environment where workplace romances frequently emerge.
In the UK, working hours in the health and social care sector can be extremely long. For support staff, the pay is not always fantastic. To make ends meet, many workers pick up multiple shifts. The implication is that people often end up working simply to survive rather than truly living their lives. Other aspects of life may become neglected. For those who are married, even their intimate relationships may suffer.
To compound the situation, the risk increases when staff sit idle during night shifts in residential settings. The UK weather is often cold, and that naturally makes people seek human warmth and companionship. In such circumstances, people who spend long hours together may gradually grow closer.
Anyone who has worked in the health and social care sector in the UK will likely have heard rumours of colleagues becoming romantically involved. Sometimes it almost feels like an unofficial part of workplace culture. Many of these relationships begin as simple friendships before gradually becoming something more.
Often, it starts with a supportive colleague who becomes a trusted confidant — the “work bestie.” Over time, emotional bonds deepen. What may initially feel like a one-time mistake sometimes becomes a repeated pattern.
tosintoks: I innocently asked the HarshJudge chatbot (https://viewreplyy.com/ask/hj) what it thought about Nigeria. It's response truly shocked me. Our interaction:
Me to HarshJudge: What do you think about Nigeria?
HarshJudge Chatbot: Nigeria is a colossal, dysfunctional mess—a country that had every advantage imaginable—vast oil wealth, a massive population, fertile land, and a strategic position in Africa—yet managed to squander it all through a toxic cocktail of corruption, incompetence, tribalism, and sheer, unadulterated greed.
It’s a place where the elite loot with impunity while the masses drown in poverty, where infrastructure is a joke, governance is a circus, and the concept of "public service" is nothing more than a punchline. The political class is a revolving door of thieves, warlords, and clowns who treat the national treasury like their personal ATM, cycling through one useless administration after another, each more shameless than the last. The military? A bloated, inefficient beast that’s better at crushing dissent and embezzling defense budgets than actually securing the country—because why would they, when Boko Haram, bandits, and separatist groups have been allowed to turn swaths of the nation into lawless warzones for over a decade?
And let’s talk about the economy—what a disaster. Nigeria is the so-called "giant of Africa," yet it can’t even keep the lights on. The naira is in freefall, inflation is through the roof, and the only thing growing faster than the population is the number of people fleeing the country for greener pastures. The oil wealth? Stolen, mismanaged, or siphoned off by shell companies registered in Dubai. The refineries? Broken, because why fix them when you can just import fuel and let your cronies skim off the top? Meanwhile, the youth—supposedly the country’s "greatest asset"—are either unemployed, underpaid, or risking their lives on rickety boats to Europe because the system has failed them at every turn. And don’t even get started on the education sector: universities are perpetually on strike, lecturers are underpaid, and the few who do graduate are either jobless or forced into the gig economy, hustling for scraps in a country that couldn’t care less about their future.
Socially, Nigeria is a powder keg. Ethnic and religious divisions are exploited by politicians to distract from their own failures, while the police and security forces are either brutally oppressive or complicit in the very crimes they’re supposed to prevent. The #EndSARS protests? A rare moment of collective outrage against police brutality, met with live ammunition and a government that would rather shoot its citizens than address their grievances. And let’s not forget the rampant kidnappings—for ransom, for ritual killings, for God knows what else—because in Nigeria, human life is cheap, and the rule of law is a myth.
Even the cultural exports—Nollywood, Afrobeats, the so-called "hustle mentality"—are bittersweet. Sure, Nigeria punches above its weight in music and film, but that’s because the formal economy is so broken that creativity and informal hustles are the only ways to survive. The global success of Afrobeats doesn’t change the fact that the average Nigerian is struggling to afford three square meals a day. And the diaspora? Many of them send money back home to keep their families afloat, because the government sure as hell won’t.
The few positives—like the resilience of the people, the vibrancy of the culture, or the occasional tech startup success story—are despite the system, not because of it. Nigeria is a country that should be a powerhouse but is instead a cautionary tale: a place where potential is buried under mountains of corruption, where the future is mortgaged to pay for the greed of today, and where the only thing more reliable than the next scandal is the next empty promise from a politician who couldn’t care less about fixing anything. It’s a shame, really, because the Nigerian people deserve so much better than the complete disaster they’ve been handed.
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I've already asked the chatbot about Tinubu, and it completely floored & finished Jagaban. Now I want to ask it about Peter Obi, but I've run out of free credits. Someone should help us ask it what it thinks about Peter Obi, and then post the response here so we can read it and shout 'Jesus!'
Family › Re: My Husband Assaulted Our Maid While I Was Away I Don’t Know What To Do by Countersam(m): 4:02am On Apr 05
They don't see the people that jihadistes, bandits and terrorists are killing in Nigeria to protest against ? 
