₦airaland Forum

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

I understand and feel your plight. But I advice you have a sit down with your hubby and discuss this heart to heart and dint hide your feelings or emotions. This is necessary before things escalate.

Brahamimo:
How do I narrate this without feeling let down?

It's really painful and sad.

Last week, I bumped into an old school mates of mine. In fact, we weren't just sch mates but coursemates.
This is someone who wouldn't attend lectures or read. He used to copy from me during exams . He was more of a nuisance to almost every of his coursemate. It wouldn't be act of exaggeration to say he was the dullest amongst us. You know these types of coursemates that are never serious, they just go about talking and disturbing everyone. The guy no get shame at all. He will beg you for money, food and everything.
During exams, he would go into the hall with chokes. He was a photocopier. You must open your scripts for him to copy, else he will keep disturbing you.
So, yesterday, we had into each other. He's married now and doing very well for himself. He is the most successful of all of us.
I'm a hussler. I do all sorts of menial jobs. So last week, he drove into a car wash stand where I work. I saw him and I was surprised. All the while, we were only seeing on Facebook. When I spotted him, he didn't know I was the one until I went to him. We hugged and exchanged pleasantries, I saw the disappointment in his face. Why would I be washing cars after sch?
Did you know that this same guy asked that we took a picture together?. We posed for the camera and one of my colleagues snapped us..
He left. And this guy began sending my pictures to other former coursemates of ours. The next week was my birthday, and this guy posted same picture on our WhatsApp platform. I was mocked. They now call me a car washer.


This has affected my self esteem and confidence. The admin of our WhatsApp platform had to delete the photo . Most of my mates called me directly to pacify and encourage me cos I was among the best students during our time.

I'm really disappointed. This guy didn't call me on my birthday, but had the guts to post a picture of me while wearing rags and washing cars at my workplace.

I am really traumatised at this moment. I'm pained. Nothing has ever hurt me like this, not even the death of my dad ever hurt me this way.

Nlfpmod mynd44

Note this as part of your testimony and move on with your life. Life is an individual race, maybe when you hammer now he will be broke.

China presently needs a strong Nigerian Consulate/Embassy to help mitigate against the troubling activities and comportment of some derelict Nigerians here in China. Not one rented office space in Guangzghou or Beijing.

Things are getting out of hand.

Putindbutt:
https://punchng.com/fg-confers-national-honours-on-fallen-hero-uba-other-soldiers/

Buratai is hardly seen in Benin Republic, especially in the embassy. he possibly works from home most times or his assistants or subordinates handle affairs at the Embassy. The man is just lounging like on a retirement holiday in Benin.

43Ronin:
Guys lets cancel chukwueze so that he never plays for super eagles again. He took the penalty like he wanted to lose it. Let's make him pay

Focus this energy on your misbehaving politicians government. Cancel someone because of a game?

Georgry:
Nigerians will begin paying a 7.5 percent Value Added Tax (VAT) on selected banking services, including mobile bank transfers and USSD transactions, from January 19, 2026, following a new government-backed regulatory directive.

SaharaReporters obtained a notice sent to customers on Wednesday afternoon by Moniepoint, informing users of the impending implementation of the VAT
regime on certain electronic banking charges.

According to the notice, the development is tied to a directive from tax authorities mandating financial institutions to begin VAT collection and remittance.

“We would like to inform you of an upcoming government-endorsed regulatory change regarding Value Added Tax (VAT),” the notice stated.

It added, “From Monday, 19 January 2026, we are required to collect a 7.5% VAT, to be remitted to the Nigerian Revenue Service (NRS) (formerly known as the Federal Inland Revenue Service).”

The company disclosed that the tax will apply to “certain banking services,” including “electronic banking charges such as mobile banking fees (transfers), USSD transaction fees and card issuance fee.”


Source:
https://saharareporters.com/2026/01/14/breaking-nigerians-pay-75-vat-mobile-bank-transfers-ussd-transactions-january-19?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPMjc1MjU0NjkyNTk4Mjc5AAEesYwhCXMawxnDNKkp7b3wxE46yKmGJmbmDj2DeegMsNkKyPAvDQCbLPAIOOo_aem_x_2ds6Mi5Vfpbnl83b_6vg

Meaning your ordinary 1000 transfer will now be 925... APC why? These taxes will only fund your lootings.

Serendipity2023:
bank?

Private information. Sorry

wirinet:
That's because they don't run to the US or other countries, and start constituting a nuisance.
Even in neighbouring countries like Nigeria, Benin Republic Citizens go about their businesses quietly without making noise or commiting crimes.

They aren't focused on the US but France. There are lots of them there. Still they aren't a nuisance in France, if you see a nuisance abroad check well it may be a Nigerian who managed to get a Benin passport.

Demigod22:
My friend started dating a girl recently, and she claimed to be single. One week into the relationship, my friend had to travel and she visited him, they had sex and he travelled the following day. A strange number called him to warn him to stay away from his wife, the husband visited his house and reported him to his Mom.

He confronted the girl, she informed him that the guy beat her and ceased her phone. She has been crying and apologizing, claiming they're no longer married, but they lived together, she had a child for him before the child died, and begging. I told my friend to move on and block her.

My friend is a nice guy and he is really disturbed he slept with another man's wife, I told him it's not his fault. Why do people cheat, and why is this generation celebrating cheating like a hobby or fun activity? Loyalty is dead.

Guys be careful out there. Use your brain to think ahead of your dick. I have fallen victim to this too to the extent I have a kid with a particular lady. She never told me she was married, the husband was abroad even trying to process green visa for her. At the time she got pregnant her family even adviced her to invite the husband who came and they had sex, afterwards they put the pregnancy on him. But kasala still bust and she lost both me and him plus green card, because his friends around told him about our relationship to the extent he called me on phone to confront me. I told him plainly to sort the problem out with his wife, that I was lied to also and had no knowledge that she was betrothed to someone else. All this happened while we both were in the bank.
Beware, it's not joke.
Ladies now don't cling to one dick

LegendHero:
Trump just want to deal with everybody.

Even Ghana dey there too.

Benin Republic always seems to have a soft spot Internationally, believe me a Benin passport is more recognised than a Nigerian passport. They are not in that list.
Congratulations to them.

Pakute:
https://www.channelstv.com/2026/01/13/ministry-dss-intercept-trucks-allegedly-transporting-illegally-mined-lithium-in-kwara/

Mined for the Chinese.

Jman06:
"After every operation" you said. This error was made by the surgeon DURING the surgery so don't bring in the nurses here. So, if the nurses take stock AFTER the surgery and discovered that a scissors was missing and it was then found to have been left inside the patient, does that absolve the doctors of negligence?

If this stock taking was done after the operation it wouldn't have been too late, it may have cost them additional work for hours and not endanger someone's life for weeks. It does not absolve the doctors but double checking from another person (more likely to be the nurse) would have saved the situation. Doctors just walk out of the theater, who cleans up and moves the tools away? Reason am.

SlavaUkraini:
https://www.thecable.ng/woman-dies-four-months-after-doctors-allegedly-left-scissors-inside-her-during-surgery-in-kano/

What is the job of the nurse that assists during operations ? They are meant to take stock of instruments after every operation

mmadu4:
So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried. What can I do in this situation pls need some advice

Until one of you land in the hospital Una eye go clear. Toxicity dey start small small

CyynthiaKiss:
https://thesun.ng/us-strikes-in-nigeria-killed-155-lakurawa-terrorists-report/

Up till now there is no proof of this. Even villagers confirmed they fled before the attack as intel was leaked.

Thank you.
So if you have your comfortable house, you go leave am go sleep inside Rolls Royce chair?
But dead man sleep different, na inside coffin and not in a Rolls Royce.

dgitrader:
Lol.

Sleep on rubber mats, allow others enjoy thier semi- orthopedic mattress, no need to compare. Sleep na sleep afterall.

Namaster:
Buying this car and NOT getting a Driver would be like buying condoms just to masturbate—MADNESS!

If this car at 1.5billon cannot drive itself is just buga. Forget luxury interior, you will not sleep inside.

DomPerignon:
Now that reality has hit him hard that he must contest the primaries in ADC and with Atiku ruling him out as a running mate VP candidate, Giringori has opted for Plan B and Plan C.

Plan B is ditching the ADC a few weeks to their primaries and jumping to Zenith Party just as he did with LP when he found out there was no more zoning arrangement in PDP and Atiku was no longer having him as his running mate.

Plan C is if Zenith plays a fast one on him at the very last minute and declare that all candidates must submit themselves for their primaries.

Giringori has a phobia of contesting party tickets . He has never in his disastrous political career ever contested for the ticket of any platform including APGA that brought him to the limelight.

Plan C involves Obi deputising Datti as his running mate if Datti clinches the LP ticket.

Such a shameless and desperate character this Giringori is.

Spit!

Don't blame him. Party ticket primaries are mostly rigged. And giringori no dey like give shishi

derico:
When they tell you to take one puff, don't be greedy, take only 1 puff.

I wasn't greedy when I first tasted colos.
I didn't trust the guy I was with, so I took just one long drag.

Like 30seconds, it kicked in.

I started uninstalling every bank app on my phone...I no wan hear stories later.
For bout 15mins, it was a wild buzzing feeling.
Not a sweet ride at all...it came it rough, stayed rough throughout the time, until is seeped out.

He asked if I wanted another drag, I turned it down.

The feeling isn't worth it.
It's too hazy...you can't do anything productive in that state.

Drug that can make you stand or bend your spine and you will be sleeping. If they empty your pockets na Sahra, you won't flinch.

kiddaz:
Colorado,Co is not the same as black mamba... Let me go back to your very long epistle cos I can't sleep now so make I use am pass time

Finished reading. Stay away from smoke it's obviously not for you and you're lucky

The colos variant with small black seeds that looks like mustard seed is the one called Black Mamba. Those small seeds are deadly.

The one with Black mamba or the fresh green coloured leaf are dangerous.
#saynotodrugs
#stopcolosnow

CandyOps:
Normally I started using weed roughly about 10 years ago. As usual i was introduced to it by a friend. I should have said no but here we are.

So as we all know, weed is a gateway drug for a reason — it makes it okay for you to try out other highness which exposes you to more danger

Na so one day I enter my coz house and offered me the synthetic version of weed also known as Colos. a.k.a Demon a.k.a Colo. short for kolomental. More street names include: K2, Scooby Snax, Spice, Black Mamba, AK47, No More Mr Nice Guy (all depending on location)

Of course I had to try it out… you know that little tiny voice in your head that says “if his head can take it mine can”

Yup!
That voice… so he stressed that I should take one drag alone. But I was stressed out from the days work and needed the THC to hit me hard so I went 1.. 2… and another 3.

Inhaled and held it deeply before exhaling.

My brother… no be small thing my eyes see that day. I say na that day I understand why dem dey call am Colo.

Bruuh!

I instantly lost control of my motor neurons. That’s a fancy medical way of saying I was bleeped up real good

I couldn’t seem to move my feet.
It took eternity for me to get my foot into my slippers. And the Deadpool vs Wolverine movie that was playing felt like torture to my eyes.

I couldn’t even swallow water properly and I felt plan out of body experience… as in.. the Colo comot me from my body; sit me down come dey advice me say “see as I done spoil my life”

I began to see myself in a 3rd person POV.
The trips no funny at all. I hold me brand new iPhone 13 for hand and it literally dropped and the back screen got broken.

The worst of them all is tingling/shocking sensation that overwhelmed my body. My fingertips and feet keep getting shocks of waves of vibration like a buzzing vibration feel.

Your grip is effed up!
Your motor controls are effed
Your autonomous nervous system is fried and everything is over-sensitized.


The trip lasts for a short 15 to 20 mins but my guy… that 15 mins go be like 1 hour for you body.

Now after that episode passed, guess what happened afterwards?

Did I abstain from it forever?
Of course not.. I stupidly went back to the Demon.
To the extent of going out to buy it myself and it’s so cheap. 500 naira for one sachet or 1k

I remember throwing it away mid way smoking on two occasions only to be back searching for it at the same spot the next day.

Funny thing is the total number of days I was on that demonic substance wasn’t up to a month in total. But the effect lasted for months afterwards.


I knew water has passed garri the moment I just dey class begin get the same trips wey Colo dey give when you take am and I no even dey on the colos that day.


That one na him off me!
As in, my hands go begin tremble. Not physically (you won’t notice it if you look at me) but internally.

I go immediately drop my phone or anything wey I hold on top desk so I no go drop am.


Lol. I dey high when I never smoke wahala.
That happens whenever I’m stressed out, dizzy but not ready to hit the sacks yet.

I noticed it happens more whenever I have a sleep jerk. I chatted with AI and it suggested my nerves are fried and it’s getting mixed signals when I want to transition from wakefulness to sleep mode.

So the signals misfire and it misinterprets it.
Mad.
It’s like your Peugeot car when it’s having electrical issues.


So I decide to take break. No smoke.
I did that for exactly 4 months.
No THC, no Backwoods cigars. Nothing just pure fresh natural air filling my lungs daily.

I felt rejuvenated and like I’m immortal so did I stay away from weed? Of course not!

Mumu me went ahead to take a blunt that was passed to me in that same cousins house.

If felt good not gin’ lie but it felt the same.
A flood of dopamine to your brain and a wave of energy flooding your bloodstream

But it wasn’t all sweet n vanilla.
It came with a little of the shakes and skin buzzing that was synonymous with colos. Hmmm

I say no wham since it wasn’t as severe I could handle it and I did. But then I traveled to Villa for Detty December and we had this event where some big shots attended. Even Cubana ChiefPriest was there.

I drink red wine wetin no nice for that event and I had smoke some Scottish loud weed the day before.

After the event, I strolled down my house (it was a walking distance) on getting home I found out the gate was locked already and my phone was dead.

I tried to pee and noticed I couldn’t pull out my D
I felt that familiar vibrations buzz through my entire fingertips.

When I touched my D it felt like stings of little pins all over my groin. I immediately thought about the weed I took and how it might have triggered my symptoms all over.

Damn!
I almost peed on myself.
I felt the warmth of a little drops already leaking in my pants. I had to totally ignore the urge to let it go. Hold it back and stopped trying to whip it out.

I went back to the gate and pushed but it didn’t give way. I didn’t want to knock so Mumsy won’t see me in that high condition. So I decided to rest on the bonnet of my car parked outside in front of our gate. With the intention that if my Coz comes out to call his CL by midnight (due to poor reception) he’ll open the gate for me.

My guy… you won’t believe that I opened my eyes to the bright full moon shining down through the night sky right on me.

For a split second i tried to figure out where the heck I was! Like imagine say you wake up for middle of night dey see moonlight 😂😂

Guy alcohol na bastard! Wallahi!!

I recollected my memory and I was like “damn! You sleep outside!”

My instincts told me the time was 3am and since my phone was dead i couldn’t confirm that. But one thing was sure. I was determined to enter the house.

I peed.
Thankfully the sensation has died down a bit and I had regained some control of my hands.

I whipped it out and eased myself and whipped it back in. Walked/Staggered towards the gated fence. Put both hands on the lower part of and pulled my weight up and on top of the fence.

Sat on it with my both my lega hanging over the other side. I let myself down slowly then let go and landed softly inside.

Thankfully our Brazilian Mastiff guard dog didn’t notice me when I landed so I walked in checked the time and it was few mins past 3am.


I went to bed with hands still buzzing
It’s been 2 days since then and the symptoms have eased up a bit (say less by 5%)


According to AI it’s not a sign of damage or anything permanent but a clear sign weed is no more for me. Like I give a flying Bleep about weed.

It (AI) says I should not tough it out but visit a clinic. It also says it will take like 7 days fr my nervous system to get back to base level. It suggest I eat, stay hydraTed and avoid all stimulants.

Am I gonna do that ?
Of course not! Lol
I’m gonna quit obviously but I’m not visiting any hospital.


So this is my farewell to anything intoxicants and stimulants. You son of a bitch almost got me! It was a helluva ride but I’m sorry, “my time has come, it must continue its journey without me” (in the voice of Master Shivu. From the Kung Fu Panda)


Say no to drugs, kids
Even one puff can send you down a spiral 🌀 you don’t wanna go in. A.k.a e go Bleep up your life

If you never pass out enter another realm with your body on the ground and your soul faraway, better just stop taking COLOS now. Omo when you wake up body go tell you, me I entered another realm come go dey fight, I woke up with injuries on my body.
I smoked to the point I knew when I wanted to pass out, and I learnt to start fighting it but in the process na so i go begin run like mad man..unaware of my immediate surroundings because my soul don go another realm.

Abi na the one wey I use bare hand break toilet ceramic wey hard like rock, or me trying to pass through a burglary. Things you won't try in real life. Omo things colos don do me for my toilet make shame catch me for house.

God saved me oh. If I no achieve anything 2025 but that I left colos is a testimony. I smoked and I sold, now imagine the supply. My brain come dey strong because of addiction, if you follow me smoke na you go misbehave I go dey look. I even had a record/reputation for that, but I was destroying myself. I spoil for Cotonou sha.

Precious201010:
iPhone 3 pro

With WELCOME? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

BlackViper:
Shared by Deborah Ocheido




Source

If she sin against that humble man, her hell will be earth. Karma is God's natural payback and your receipt for your decisions..

ShalliFvckMe:
Imagine a girl telling me sex with her will cost me 30k and I must put on condom.


I told her if I must pay 30k I must chop it fully

Imagine you buy sweet for 40k.
Come dey lick am with the sweet wrapper

I block the mgbeke. Imagine the audacity

This 2026 you dey run ashawo. Make sickness or infection no join your prayer point oh.

ViceGovernor:
I swear nothing do your predictions na those thieves rob you.....3 teams play zero zero today, since then born me I never see rubbish like this before.

Aswear after Tottenham and Mancity matches play draws I know say e no normal. I lost twice.

Useless people cut my ticket.

AriseAndShine01:
I rejoice with you Bro.
May next year see you reaping the fruits of your labours and fruition of your dreams.

Amen. Thank you so much. I appreciate you. God bless you too.

iwaeda:
How did you survived year 2025?

God is truly great for those that believe in Him.
I spent most part of the year with nothing in my bank account, but Every day I step out His grace and divine provisions see me through to the the end of the day. By the next day I wake up broke again but hopeful, and he never stopped providing for me. My needs were always met. Even in my bad habits of drug use due to depressions and insomnia God still showed me mercy.

A few months ago, I decided to relocate because of bad influence of drug use to a difficult Asian country.. and I have been trying to process my resident papers even though it's cost me alot. But with my mum's help and belief in me she saw this through, and despite hurdles and challenges along the way... Today being 31st that my visa is even supposed to expire I have concluded the process of getting my resident papers and have an appointment to collect it by 2nd week January. I give glory to God for 2025 and a fruitful 2026

Ibtxxo:
How can 45 years jobless man marry, rent house and start a business with 2m

Start the business first, even if it means sleeping in the shop for a while. Till you are comfortable enough to rent a house and marry. These are tasking stages and require planning or else your name na sorry. Women these days dey hungry pass men, so don't try marrying to please anyone or any girl without making adequate provisions

Calvinkel:
I need serious insight on this, no jokes, no insults and this is a real life experience i had yesterday.

There's a female friend i have known for some years, we worked together at LG company located in Lagos Abuloshun beside Trade Fair market for those who might know the place.

Whenever me and her speak she always sound so raw (sexually speaking), she tells me things she has done with her ex-boyfriends and overwhelms me with naughty ideas.

Yesterday being Sunday i invited her over and swiftly she arrived and i persuaded her to spend the night, i was shocked to find out she's tight knowing all i did about her.

My question: Is she real or is there like a medical explanation for why a lady could be loose and still be tight.

She must have prepared that tightness specially before meeting you. It's not hard these days, allum alone will do the job. Or she may have had sex long ago