₦airaland Forum

This is a good bill. I believe the only good thing to have come out of this Ahmed Lawan Lead National Assembly. Direct primaries are need for the ordinary party member to choose who he wants to see in various political offices. We the youth should make sure we join political parties as that's where we can bring about real change. Especially after this bill is signed into law

This people are thieves. What stops the government from fixing the refineries before removing the "subsidy " so that the cost of PMS wouldn't be so high? Have they thought of the inflationary effects this will bring to the economy?? The masses should just brace up for suffering if this is done, because left to me I don't trust Wabba led NLC. They are sell outs!

Power drunkenness

We don't want! It is useless! And how many times will subsidy be removed in this Administration? From 89 to 165 and it was said subsidy was removed. So why did they increase the price of fuel back then?

Lies

There are levels to this things oo

Just be romantic and prepare the ground early enough from the beginning of the day. Most of us men don't help out our wives, they get really tired. After you go won come nack them for 1 hour when them suppose dey sleep. Only for them to wake again at 5 am to get the children set for school. Just help her out a little and set the tone early enough

Na wa. These politicians have no humanity in them. This was a party that brought him to limelight, he didn't only leave which is bad enough, he now wants to demolish the building. A building someone built with his money. Of what economic value will destroying that building add to the state of Zamfara?

Nice

This is entirely true. A man's ego is fragile when the woman earns more. But most times, the women change because they earn more. A woman always looks to her man as a leader. So as a man, if you want to be worth it, if your woman is struggling to make it, don't just sit there, you have to struggle twice as hard.

adamsmith914:
Criminals blaming other people for their own criminality, Maybe the people working @ firs are Ghanaians & Cameroonians? Where your mama & papa dey work?

If my Dad or Mum works there, that wouldn't have stopped me from calling them out. However, it is wrong for you to have insinuated that I am a criminal because I am stating the obvious!

This government is just the worst government Nigerians have faced. They are "legitimately" stealing us blind by budgeting for useless things. Budgeting billions for computers like there are non in the agency, budgeting billions for uniforms? Are those gold made uniforms? The more you know what is happening in Nigeria, the angrier you get about the country. Mr President please wake up. NIGERIA is SINKING on your watch!

chudez0147:
Alternative to cow meat how?? Maybe goat meat

There is already an alternative to cow meat(Beef) Google Beyond Meat. It's a synthetic meat that has all the properties of meat but healthier

obembet:
At 23 I got married immediately after my first degree. Had my first kid at 24, got a master's degree in my area of study, yet without a job. My ex was doing well in his business and he carried all the financial responsibilities of our home while I shoulder all the manual work; ranging from cooking, laundry, cleaning, buying groceries, making sure that every bills are paid, school runs, etc. All he does is to provide the money to carry all of those. I'm all- must -be -tidy kind of person so I made sure to maintain that.

I'll make sure I keep the house clean, prepare his favorite meals which I do by following the meal time table cos he loves three different meals for each day. Most times he will come back with a different meal to be prepared for him after I must have made dinner. This must be accompanied with fruits or nuts to crack, extract, slice and serve. As this continued I became perplex and may complain but he never listened or appreciated all my efforts.

As years come by our population increased and I begged him to buy a washing machine. This is a no go area as he believes it makes one lazy. After much begging and no compliance for about two years I stopped washing his main clothes, but washed only his inner wears. I saved some money and got myself one. He was happy I did so and gave me 25% of the amount I bought it. I later learnt that that was a bribe to start washing his clothes again. All my married life I never had a full house help. His relatives will come, stay for some time and leave. Even while they're still around I prefer to do some things myself for some reasons.

Now this is my round the clock non paid job from from year to year. I'll wake up by 4:00 am to prepare children's snacks or meal for school, wake everyone up by 5:00 am for morning prayers, bath the children and at the same time have clothes rolling in the machine while breakfast sits on fire simultaneously. By 7:15 am I'm with the children on the road to school. Keeps them at school and gets back home to continue the outstanding works. I may come back to meet ex still sleeping or brushing his teeth. I will serve breakfast, help him choose his day wear and most times look for one document or car keys.

I tried to get a teaching job which can help me continue my “rat race” at home. None of them lasted for more than four months, reasons I couldn't figure out till today cos I believe I'm very good at that.

By the time I could say “ehee, time to rest” it's already 3 to 4 pm, time to get the children back from school. Preparing dinner, helping in homework, correcting complains from teachers if there's any, bathing and feeding them. Sometimes I still find time to play and tell stories with the kids. I buy everybody's wears including ex's, especially during festive periods. I guess that's the only time I have to get new things for myself. It never bothered me cos I'm happy putting smiles in the faces of people around me. I'm always preparing home-made groceries cos I'm good at most of them.

I could remember vividly a friend advising me on improving in my outward appearance which I gave little attention to.

By the time I'll retire to bed, it's already 11 or 12:00 midnight. And so it continues.

I never received any form of appreciation; either in kind or in cash. And to worsen it all, he became so abusive; verbally, physically, emotionally and would complain and blame me in every misfortune of his life. Life was so terrible living with him. Yet, I did not complain until he pushed me out and finally left.

Most times we focus all our energy into building our homes, that is wonderful, thereby neglecting ourselves which should come first, it's not being selfish. I celebrate every member of my family every year but I was never celebrated for the thirteen years we lived together. After reading a book, “what kids need most in a mom” by a retired white nurse; Patricia Standforth, I started changing my status but things have started going sour in my marriage and I was kicked out by hubby. He got a nullification note from the church, refused me access to the children, etc. Though I'm working towards getting a civil divorce from the court.

It's been two years now and alot of people could not believe it when they meet me, as a mother of five who's so young looking, energetic and sophisticated. I've got a lot of space and time to travel, learn new things, meet new friends and recently working towards getting an MBA.

And more importantly, I wouldn't want to be seen where I was left.

Edited : Obembet

I unfortunately leave my wife to handle most of the manual jobs while I provide the money. I don't abuse her in anyway, I get with this I should help her more

Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

Tell him to exercise and give him sex enhancement drugs.

Good

Strong CV. I hope he does well as the national publicity secretary.

Afamed:
May be you have suddenly forgotten the history of PDP

PDP was way! Better. We could eat and have little disposable income. Now we can barely survive. Food that was nothing during the PDP era, is now a luxury. This government has taken us back several years. And PDP were more open than this government that does whatever she likes and acts so saintly when they are most corrupt.

Nice. Those who knows politics know that it was moved to tomorrow so that another counter judgment wouldn't be served on the party

The amount PDP used a month to subsidise petrol wasn't up to this and yet Nigerians wanted to kill them. Now that APC has increased fuel from N82 to N165 with higher subsidy payment we are keeping quiet like say them use jazz hold our mouths! I SMH for Nigerians

This is clear vote buying by the government. Why didn't they wait till the elections are over. This government is dragging Nigeria into the mud.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Call off the marriage now that the signs are CLEAR!

benuejosh:
This is a very contradictory article. The girl ran more than the bullet? Because from the article, the girl did run but not up to even three minutes before the mother took off. So come did they get the mother alone.



The killing was done by HOODLUMS and NOT Herdsmen. The same elements we find in IPOBs. Killings in the South East is being done by this individuals and then they try to blame it on others.

Vanguard has always been a Pro-South East newspaper. Very regional. Herdmen attack revisit was the head story but reading deep it was said to be hoodlums (IPOB - ESN). This was written to indirectly discredit Buhari since he is a Fulani Man. And Fulani men are known to be pastorals.

So you mean a girl will lie about how her mother died? Some of you really have a weird way of reasoning and analysing things. She would have probably seen them started running while shouting calling to her mother. Human instinct makes you run and shout. If you have been in situations as this you would have known that.

Very sad

NaijaNaWaa:
Unless Okowa is doing something outside Asaba, I don't see what qualifies him for best performing governor on infrastructure. I'm an Asaba regular and there's little going on there, infrastructure wise.

You and I know this is not true! How many roads were motorable before he came? He has tiled most of the roads in Asaba. Talk true make devil run!

Character is what will bring up your children in the right way and instill discipline in them. Big yansh or big breast or fair skin wouldn't make your children. But to be truthful sha. We love the big yansh and fair skin. So always try to balance it out make your eyes nor go outside

Way to go

Wastage everywhere. This is why the National assembly don't need to just pass budgets presented to them. We are looking for money, yet we have all of this useless expenditures from different Ministries and MDAs

Lol. Why was he the only one to be called by the EFCC? Was he the only one on the Pandora paper?

I bought 12.5kg for 12,280

Sad. This is what you get when the will of the people are not reflected in elections. That man is a disgrace to the people of Kogi state!

When you are in power, everything thing around you is heightened. I wait 5 year when he leaves for us to really ask him if he meant this statement he made