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I agree with you, especially as it relates to respect from the lady. I feel I'm ok with a 5 years gap but like you opined earlier, ability to provide changes lots of things.

One thing I know I wouldn't compromise on is: Education and Employability/Income earnings, beauty can go to hell, I'm not a big fan of overly beautiful ladies.

"you hang your leg on top of the ceiling fan"

murphyibiam15:
So why did you leave Catholic Church to Rccg and what made u return?

Let's say it's influence, my roommates and course mates were all Pentecostal, I soon found myself following them to their church since we did almost everything together.

Why I came back? Simple, "he maketh me lie down in green pastures" my green pastures has been in the Catholic church, I am a beneficiary of the enormous benevolence of the Catholic church from Nursery school till date so why should I leave were I was being fed spiritually and physically? Secondly, I saw the lives of my fellow Pentecostal friends and it didn't reflect any growth, yes they were all spiritual but mentally and financially, they were just hovering.

Nevertheless, I am grateful for the knowledge and experience garnered there, I was able to grow spiritually and took many things learnt there to the Catholic church. I still follow Pentecostal Pastor's online but I never hide my Catholic identity. Firebrand Pastors and Ministries are springing up everyday, are you going to be jumping up and down like a Kangaroo? The good thing is the Catholic church is open to some changes as I believe reformation per time is very important and we have been seeing such changes lately.

The work of the church is to help guide and direct you to finding Christ, I can agree to some extent that the Catholic church is lacking a bit in this aspect but the it can only get better, no perfections anywhere.

I was a babe, but not anymore have passed through that stage in my life and won't go back. The responsibility of my spiritual growth is first, in my hands.

GRIMMJOE:
Just try and watch the first 2 season, you won't regret it, this
show has earned a place in my top 10 right next to GoT S1-6

Yes it's slow paced, they'll show someone drive to his house, step down from his car and enter his house, no joke, but even at that I have already schedule re-watching the show again.

And also booked marked 3 more series written by thesame author will begin watching tonight.

Below are screen shot of series by the same author, notice the reviews?, like that guy said, this many people can't be wrong. So give it a try.

Vince Gilligam is a genius.

saxxyb:
I also need advice, I am a young man of 26 years old, I am from a Catholic Christian family, I gave my life to Jesus in November 2016 when i listened to a message of Apostle Joshua Selman ever since my life have been a wonder, that is my main place of spiritual empowerment.

Now the problem is that I no longer attend the catholic church because I don't feel connected there, I started attending Christ embassy because of a close friend of mine who is a member of Christ Embassy, he invited me during the pandemic last year and I was glad to go because churches were closed during that period and my spirit was dry so I have attending ever since, although I attend Christ embassy on Sundays, though I am not consistent in Christ embassy church because I value Koinonia and interdenominational ministry headed by Apostle Joshua Selman which i attend virtually I.e an online church and I can't be in two place at a time and I intentionally avoid taking responsibilities and taking up positions so that I won't be too connected to Christ embassy so that I will easily focus on koinonia and also make it easy if I decide to leave Christ Embassy when koinonia opens a church in Lagos, one problem my family members are against me attending Christ embassy and they criticize me because they think I am being brainwashed by Pentecostals, speaking in tongues is really a strange thing, my mum doesn't like Christ embassy all because she think they aren't serious Christians due to their dressing and the way their men relaxes their hair .

Talking about marriage I feel its going to be difficult choosing a partner coz of these church identity, I will want to avoid these same problem, so nairalanders I need your sincere and good advise because I am still your and don't want these kind of problem in marriage.

Lol. Bro, I've been there. Born and bred in the Catholic church, I later moved out to winners and RCCG, I'm back to Catholic. See eh! As you grow older in life, you will understand somethings even about your Christian life. The thing about we Catholics is the same thing every human has, you always want something you don't have, it's all a facade, give it 3 to 5 years and the scales will fall off.

My sisters left, I left but las las na we tire, LOVE is the greatest of all commandments and if you don't have it, every other thing is a jamboree, the Catholic church has it in abundance, there are certain things I feel should be abolished or reviewed, nevertheless no church is perfect. I experienced God while in RCCG but if I had been able to give it a go, I would have experienced such in the Catholic church too.

Finally, pray about it, lest you get tossed from one church to another wandering like a deserter.

Hahahaha, let me first laugh.

First, I'm not surprised this is coming from a lady, met many of them in campus and during my NYSC. Don't know if I should tag them as religious but for a lack of a better word that's what many of them are. I'm a born Catholic and later left to RCCG, so I'm surprised someone is saying that she doesn't feel God there because I did though I later returned to the Catholic church (story for another day)

I'm not unaware of how this church brouhaha is such a big deal, so I've resolved to marry a fellow Catholic, if we ever decide to leave, then we leave together as a unit. Most importantly, and I reiterate, the most important aspect of any church is LOVE. Forget about all other aspects, worship, prayer and the word cannot be substituted for LOVE and that's where the Catholic church stands tall.

obyikye:
I got married at the age of 21+, during my final year. I bless God for his Grace and presence all through these years..

Nice, how old was hubby?

FOLYKAZE:
[s]As hard as this is, I just have to put out this response to the allegations against me here. Seeing this happening now is heartbreaking, I never wished for it, but when relationship becomes more a prison, situation like this is inevitable. Unfortunately, we hooked up, and certainly breaking up online.

When we met back then, it wasn't that I manipulated her mind or took advantage of her young age, she had previous relationships that didn't work. So I don't know where the idea that I fooled her is coming from. Was she coerced, absolutely no!

Into the relationship, she got pregnant and moved into what she called uncompleted building. This very apartment is where my parents and myself lived. Though not a duplex or mansion, it is what we call home. She consented to live in the house. The room wasn't conducive enough, we cohabit in there, happily. We both weathered the conditions till she delivered and also had admission. I had a job that helped us patched up our livelihood. From this job, I was earning very little but managed to foot all necessary bills for her schooling, accommodation, her well-being and that of my baby. I also renovated that uncompleted building into a tasting simple apartment. During this period I was the best husband and best daddy. Yes, she had it all.

One fateful day, a year after she graduated, I found her personal diary. In it, she record all the expenses she incurred while in school. There she stated I only gave her N50,000 financial support in her first year, and afterward did nothing. Though infuriated, I confronted her peacefully about what I saw and what she meant. She stood by her words that I did nothing and that was it. I let it slide though. Days later, she informed me she is about to start processing her degree, and that she will need my support. There I told her, Madam, you have a job already and should bear the responsibility in issue like this, not that I couldn't support but the previous ones I gave were never acknowledged or appreciated. This became the genesis of our misunderstandings. She flared up, told me she would do it all herself, and maybe with support from her family. But till date, that ambition remain a pipe dream. Yes it was a good vision, however, I can never afford to contribute into a project my effort would be worthless.

Many months while she works, she never spend a dime from her earnings. All her money were saved, but mine was meant to be spent to the last penny. She never wanted to bear any financial responsibilities. I took up every necessary bills, even though when it entails monitoring and controlling every damn expenses. This include that of the kid and her own well-being. I systematically stopped footing her bills; clothing, hair making, among others, when I observed that her spending culture was becoming wild. During my maternal granddad burial ceremony, she requested for N5000 for her hair making. I told her I can only afford to pay N2000 as I have already spent more than N400,000 on the burial. Hearing this, she not only threatened to call all her families not to attend to ceremony, but acted accordingly. On that very day, I stopped investing on her personal expenses.

Aside that, she was disrespecting my Parents. At a point, she called my Mum a witch, not only to her face but went out telling people on the street. Those she told personally that my Mum is a witch who allegedly killed out late son, informed me of this. She kept grudges with my mum till her death. This is the woman who never killed her own son or grandchild. This is the woman who fed you during your first years in Ore.

Considering the unreliable job security in the nation, I decided to learn a trade. Cocoa Merchant to be precise. Told her about my plans. And since I wouldn't be earning enough, told her to take care of the kid school fees and also some miscellaneous. Since the apprenticeship would take a year, we both agree that she will bear those expenses for a year. Unfortunately, I lost my formal Boss, and was reassigned to another Boss. I was supposed to complete this apprenticeship in December but this Boss shifted it to March this year. Much of the running of things in the house come from her. I appreciated her for that, but I did contributed somethings. She painted a scenario that she had all the bulk on her shoulder. I have personally called her in April that I will take back school fees of our son and some expenses esp feeding of our daughter. All these I have done within two months that I am free. She is here calling me Lazy and over pampered.

Some years back, my Dad saw me helping her to fetch water. I was only trying to help her but my Dad saw the other sides of my actions. He asked me to stop because I have given her an Inch and would likely go for miles in the future. She wouldn't wash my clothes, sweep the house, and take days before she wash plates. She is here on this forum, and can answer when last she washed my clothes. Its more than 10months. I raised this issie many times but she was adamant, unwilling to bend. Worst still, she deliberately cook bad food, some she cannot eat herself.

Two months ago, she called me at the middle of the night, and informed, out of the blue, me that she want a seperation. I told her, this is fine by me. And I enquired when she would be leaving. She said December this year. Leaving separately for 10 months is unreasonable. I halted her and gave her grace until June Holiday. Days later, I often inquired from her when the holiday would be. She was curious though. I gave my words and will stand by it.

The window grace was opened wide, she stubbornly decided to stay on the other side. On Monday, I almost lost my life when the boat we boarded from Ese-Odo to Irele capsized. I arrived home drenched at some mins past 10. This is the Lazy me struggling in the wild, ocean and forest looking for daily meal. She saw me drenched and do not even care to welcome me home. She was busy watching movie, while I was dying away. I told her point-blank, she is in, this week. I gave her money to prepare food the following day. Even until Wednesday, we were cool until I surprisingly saw this thread blackmailing me.

Well, I believe strongly she is been influenced and wrongly advised. This is not her. But I cannot help it anymore. She just have to go away. I have informed her family and they seem contented with my decision. I wish her well[/s]

Rubbish. Trash for Lawma.

Like I said earlier, you don't understand what it takes to be a Husband or a father, you still a boy.

pappy2000:
How do I get divorce please help me I need your help

There's a divorce lawyer on the Family session.

Not that I'm making any brief for the lady here but she contacted me few days ago seeking assistance, I promised to help immediately I get some funds and still plan to keep my promise whether this is a facade or not.

It's not a big deal if one is financially down and Lizzyangel, if you need help state in what form you need it, if you need transport fare or you need money to feed your baby state it, the ones that can help will do, I didn't even know I helped last year, just stumbled on your thread in the Health section and you replied by thanking me for the previous time.

Nevertheless, I must be sincere with you, it's tough out there financially for everyone, I am happy that you are a very good communicator and a professional teacher, please plan for yourself and your kids from here now, leave that man to fend for himself.

Like I told you offline, I will keep my promise immediately I get something but many people here as you have seen aren't as nice as I am, the first law of nature is the law of Self Preservation, ensure to strive to lookout for yourself and your kids, as I'm typing this, I'm typing on an empty stomach, haven't had anything since today but for the sake of your kids I really understand.

As for your marriage, the underlying factor is that all isn't well, I know how a small mistake can change the equation of one's life, you got pregnant at a young age, it's in the past, please move on, if your husband doesn't want you again, and since he hasn't done tradition as it's required move on with your life, you are intelligent and strong to trudge on without a man, stop thinking your world would crash if he leaves you, if you both can make it work then do.

Really don't have much to say anymore, make I go find a way to solve my own problems, whatever decision you take, put those children first and you alone wears this shoe.

Bye.

Modified:
Please reconcile with your Father now that he is still alive and there's still time, infact that would please me than anything, forget it, he's been waiting for your call and I know this because I'm a guy though his ego may not admit it. Your peace will begin at that point.

Even corruption follow for marriage? Trouble níyen.

Truly, her Hubby is a Religious scholar at the Religion thread. Wonders!!

Raalsalghul:
You never even hear from the man, you just dey cap anyhow.

Everything rises and falls on leadership, I bet you, He is gonna come out with some weak pity story when he should be taking charge of his home, he wants to blame his wife just as Buhari has been blaming us for his own failures, now that's a man who doesn't know jack about himself and his being.

You lock your wife and your child outside? Even if the "bath water" is bad (assuming) must you throw away the baby with it? I'm just refraining to call you some names because your wife is also here but honestly eh, you are just a baby. Grow up!!

So Oga has been on Nairaland since 2009, I take it that you are at least 10 years older than me.

I have refrained from making any comments on this issue except for calling out the stupidity of one poster up there, forget about money, especially the lack of it, your home is what Apple is to the Late Steve Jobs, or what creation is to God, if you fail at it, you've failed at everything. That's your primary responsibility in this life, to protect, provide and nurture them till your bones say time up.

If you don't understand this concept, if you don't understand your family is your most prized asset, then you don't deserve to be called "Daddy" by those little kids and Okó Mí by your wife or any woman.

If you deny those kids a chance to have a peaceful and happy home where they can be raised to the delight of society, then I can bodly assure you (not swearing) that peace and happiness will forever elude you (quote me anywhere) what you are going through will be a child's play in 20 years time if you keep at this.

Finally, don't think you can make the kids or your home happy when the woman isn't happy, so taking your wife away from the equation by sending her out or tormenting/subjecting her to abuses will only make your misery come faster.

Your time starts now, what's it gonna be? "Life" or "Death" your choice to make.

As usual and in continued display of their Nepotistic method of leading a multi-lingual country as Nigeria, the Attorney General of Nigeria sat down and gave a press conference in Hausa first, before switching to English.

Hung behind him was a frame of the Nigerian flag and at his front were microphones from various media houses from all parts of the country.

Not that it matters anything but d Buhari Govt is no different from a gathering of extremists, herdsmen, terrorists, and secessionists.

As usual and in continued display of their Nepotistic method of leading a multi-lingual country as Nigeria, the Attorney General of Nigeria sat down and gave a press conference in Hausa first, before switching to English.

Hung behind him was a frame of the Nigerian flag and at his front were microphones from various media houses from all part of the country.

Not that it matters anything but d Buhari Govt is no different from a gathering of extremists, herdsmen, terrorists, and secessionists.

As usual and in continued display of their Nepotistic method of leading a multi-lingual country as Nigeria, the Attorney General of Nigeria sat down and gave a press conference in Hausa first, before switching to English.

Hung behind him was a frame of the Nigerian flag and at his front were microphones from various media houses from all parts of the country.

Not that it matters anything but d Buhari Govt is no different from a gathering of extremists, herdsmen, terrorists, and secessionists.

potland:
Don't get me wrong. But Sometimes marriage is not always a bed of roses. Hence the need to endure to enjoy.

Quote me anywhere, you are stupid, very stupid.

Viktorinox2:
To those of you who are asking to know what the pib entail. Hear this
The petroleum industry bill is only a microcosm of a macrocosm ask me how

Lol. I get you.

Anchored a program about "Building Relationships" in my church today. As an introvert, I was a little bit nervous but immediately I took that mic, I owned the stage and there was no stopping me.

Chukdobz20:
System Administrator (on prem and cloud infrastructure)

Lol. Don't really understand but nice one, just started Digital Marketing here.

Chukdobz20:
That's nice bro. I understand. I am a lab scientist but now working in IT. Lolz

What aspect of I.T?

FEARLESSDUDE:
male fashion designer in 9ja

It will only ends in frustrations and tears

Dey there, you sit in your room and make assumptions, you don't know anything boy.

MadamVanessa:
Waste of time, money and resources. She won't even be smart enough to be attending to patients.

It would have been far more better of her begging on the street than this.

Just say it politely - you want attention abi?

laykman:
Just seeing this. Still available?

Yea

Pricelessruby:
I can't date a man that is not working, he must have something doing, I am saying this from experience, money matter in a relationship,
if he cannot afford 3 square meal, pay his house rent and having little money for expenses, then it a "no" I dated a guy that almost wreck my life and business, because he wasn't working, I was feeding him daily, clothing, and I invested money in poultry business, he told me, that he had done it before, and he had the experience regarding it, so I believed him and invested in it, but I never knew he was using my money for experiments, he lost all the birds, because he was feeding and giving them the wrong vaccine, I ran into debts, I was owning my sister 4 hundreds thousand, my mum 2 hundreds thousand and also owing some of my friends, I because a shadow of myself because of one stupid love, I have learn my lesson, money for me is number one in relationship, if you Don't have, pls start clear, before I started dating him, I have been brainwashed most expecially, "nairaland" that it is better to start with a guy that has nothing, painting ladies that are after money as bad girls, I use to blamed girls too that goes after money, but I don't anymore, because some do that based on experience, please never judge anyone until you have worn their shoes, thanks

I can bet that the guy was so handsome and it made you throw away all caution to the wind.

I can also get that there were other guys around interested in you but you didn't them attention because they didn't fit into your "taste"

Yeah, I'm speaking from experience but it serves you all right, everybody go collect. Lol.

smeag0l:
Imo state does not produce substantial gas, for now. They only have one of the largest gas reserves in Nigeria. The government is already building the infrastructure to extract, process and send the gas to either the North or for export.

But Power Plants are already being built in IMO state.

Thebest12:
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I confronted her you won't believe the out com

Share with us.

Amazingamb:
The interview story for another is here o.. we have moved to project phase

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