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Trina0936:
Your opinion though. One man's meat still remains another's poison.

awwwww...I am yet to see another choose poison over meat though...

Nnemuka:
i Love the write up....straight to the point.

Finally, any guy above 25years still living with his parents is a disgrace and no lady should date such broke ass.....
How can a 25yrs old be living and feeding from his parents house? its a big shame.

well you were trying to change the subject...you can actually create a new topic for that...but let me answer you..there are more 25yrs old male living alone than female. (don't tell me ladies ought to live with their parents). Most guys who are working and Over 25 contributes more than 60% to the household income. Some even pay the rent and want their siblings to continue living with them. I am an example. How many 25yrs old ladies are living singly? Most cases where working dudes still live with parents they cater for some of the responsibilities especially when the parents are retired civil servants or low income earners. And for those not yet employed, they continue to strive it's a messed up country but the guys are giving their best. To Be A Man Is Not A Day's Job...I hope the lady that won't date such a guy is living alone...lol

Trina0936:
OP stop blabbering. Like I said on the other thread you are obviously below 30. Why should you even think any responsible and decent 30 yrs and above lady would date you seriously? Pls this is Nigeria not USA. Most of them have serious boyfriends and fiancé's older than them. You would be surprised how many men are still bachelors and actually get married at age 35 and above. So stop disturbing yourself abeg,they no send you trust me
Although few have started taking after the whites and getting hitched to younger men. Still doesn't change the fact that we are Africans and most black women prefer men older than them.

why should I think of a 30yr old lady when the beautiful ones are not yet born?...this piece is written so that the guys would know when the time for relationship actually elapsed...so that they don't get exploited...it should actually be 25...but I raised the bar...you know, naija is hard

Trina0936:
There is a huge difference between maturity and experience even though they correlate.
One can be young,experienced and immature as well as inexperienced and mature.
I was actually viewing experience from the age angle ie the longer you live,the more experience you get; doesn't necessarily make one mature in character and reasoning though.

you will make a good solicitor...

Sesanbimbo:
Yeah.. I received a call from a lady.. I think she is in her 20s. It was a brief chat on the phone. She said she will get back to me later if I'm going to proceed to the next phase. That was on monday.. Since then I'm still waiting o

have they gotten back to you after phone interview?

LorDBolton:
Very clear, concise write up

thanks bro...

iceybux:
lol...seem the lady's aint cool wit the post at all, n for those of u sayin she is dz n dat at 30 its pure fabrication. .n fake life..plenty re fuckin broke

don't mind them...I asked a lady; what percentage of young ladies are high earners...she was just blabbing. Ladies can give themselves hope ehh...

Okijajuju1:
I swear I hate you!!

My last interview, na so o!! I walked in, killed the intevriew like it was nothing. Had the panel laughing after some point. Infact we started gisting politics and the industry.. Then came Salary. Na so I tell them say make dem offer me something.. They said No, you tell us what you will like. Na so I open mouth hala 1 million/month. I watched their faces for a reaction, nobody shake. For my mind, I say THANK YOU BABA.. The Lead interviewer just wrote something on her note and said I should send them my last 3 pay slips from my previous job.. I just whipped out my phone and sharply forwarded the thing.

Fast Forward to like 2 - 3 weeks later. Na so I see email one beautiful morning as I wake, these murra's offer me 120'k/month..

I rush go pour ice water for my head incase na dream I dey.

Companies sha brutal..

why you were offered that much was because you had evidence of being paid...where I work, when the wanted automation engineers the external guys hear big company some they call 650k...I just dey observe when hr tell them to bring pay slip some brought 100k...omo na 85k I hear say company plan to pay them...naija is bleeped up

Okijajuju1:
I hate suits but started wearing them on Mondays and Blazers on other days because of the Mad Punnana I started getting..


I get respected everywhere I go and it opens doors for me..

But guys, please make sure the suit sits properly on your body.

Also avoid those jump up trousers, it takes away the smartness from your suit and turns you into a raggamuffin.

Wear a nice shirt with Cuff sleeves and try to wear a statement cufflinks..

I hate ties so the max I can compromise is a cravet.

Pocket Squares too always adds a little something, something to your suit.

Make sure your shoes are well polished.. (Oxfords not Brogues.. ) iKnow...

Then walk Straight and have a presence. Walk into the interview room brimming of confidence, a warm smile and a firm handshake.

then after the interview they price you 50k.....

Trina0936:
But its true. You can't use just one scenario to judge. Besides, what do you even know about life,you are just below 30. While life begins at 40 according to a popular adage! Bros,you need to get to certain age and move around before you can start drawing conclusions, once more your statistics are flawed.

I would have really loved to meet you in person...you were the one who said age has nothing to do with maturity...check ur previous post...what else can I say...you are quite slippery...

Everything on earth living or non-living is affected by a factor called "Time". For the guys; you were once a boy, a teenager, youth and probably now you are a Man. Time has had its effect on you. As a guy you go about chasing ladies then at a time you entered a "relationship".
The truth is in that relationship you were between the age range of 20-32 and your girlfriend or lover was probably between 18-29 hence you shouldered about 70% of all expenses incurred. That is not bad, you are the guy...of course a lady of 19-25 may demand for money to take care of her hair, toiletries, cosmetics etc...you may foot the bill and take care of additional needs (if you are buoyant) that is why it's better to for a young lady to date an older guy (age difference should be between a reasonable limit though) so that he can start working and sustain the "relationship". Definitely the guy gets "Love " in return...Therefore the reward for "Relationship" is "love" and it is expensive!...

Now when a lady is thirty and above...on several occasion you don't just walk up to her and woo her you may be a bit confused (you don't know if she is married or not) forget the ring thing...so your friend or family refers the girl to you or perhaps you guys just started talking and you feel she is the right person for you. At that point in "Time" you are not starting a relationship...you are about entering a "Mutual Agreement". They are not the same. She had been in a relationship and now it's a mutual agreement. So you go Dutch, you should NOT give a 30yr old lady money for any frivolous reason. I mean it is an "agreement" you don't spend. You share cost 50-50 everyone to his/her tent. Technically there have been a depreciation in value (don't ask me, ask Time); so why pay more? The reward you get from a "Mutual Agreement" is "companionship" and trust me it is quite cheap. A dog or cat can keep you company; even the Internet can also do that.
Finally guys stop spending on your bae once she is 30...

Some people may ask for my head...thank God lalasticlala have been conferred Defender of the Faith....My crush jashar...don't judge me with all these articles and post on NL...I may be your prince...just a little time...cutehector oya come say your mind...

Trina0936:
You haven't even seen half of life yet so quit telling us your life story. We have better things to do than listen to the story of your life. You are still immature and it has nothing to do with age. Once again,grow up!

lol...I came up with the statistics around me cos you claim my statements were vague now I gave you facts. You can also make enquiries...o o o...now it's no longer statistics it is about exposure and seeing life...? Huh? Babe na wa for you...you can change like APC...

Trina0936:
You already proved with this reply that you are indeed an immature kid as everyone has attested to on this thread. Grow up

it is a norm even at work when you tell people the obvious truth they seek cover and shield themselves with the matured/immature trash...yawns...let me enlighten you...I am a contract staff with an fmcg (project engineer) in the whole engineering dept females don't work there...in fact in most fmcgs females don't work in production and barely works in engineering.(that is where you get paid for over time and target bonus)...now if you move to admin sales and all...the young female sales trainee is between 21-25 years and as trainee they earn less than 100k (no thanks to recession and slash in salaries) or less...when the get to junior sales analyst they already in their mid to late twenties...at that point the good ones are all picked...the remaining become iyarugbos...I did my IT with gtb same thing is applicable. The ND's (45k) and the HND's 68k...those that came in as ETs (210k) then were all taken...and they were very FEW. I met 3 batches of ETs before I left and in the second batch just a female. I had tried my hands with KPMG during NYSC and during the assessment centre we were 16 divided into 2 groups...in the first group 1 female, mine none. Although I fell out at the partner interview...so what is the population of females who are young and are high earners? Yes some earn high what is their age again? They prolly worked hard/smart and climbed through the ranks. How old are they? Abeg make I hear word...who woman money epp?...sharwama and boxers...lol

Trina0936:
You don't have any statistics or proof to back that up and I am very sure your type would take a woman's money without thinking twice! Hypocrite!

Taaaah....on a more serious note how many ladies earn much? Very few...is it those secretaries, front desk officers, merchandisers, marketers, cashiers, customer service et al...the very few in consulting, core banking, medicine are already married before they are 26...unless you are talking about the iyarugbos who are not married and are often above 33 (not my portion though)....so ...when people talk about young girls having morning is it the 68k salary...?taaaaaah...make I hear word...money wey them dey exhaust before month end.....tah

Sheggy13:
The mistake people like you make and those from your ilk is that you think militants bombing pipeline is affecting Buhari and his immediate family or only "Afonjas", alas the stupidity of the actions of these mere criminals is felt by the ordinary Nigerian including Niger Deltans in states like Cross Rivers, Rivers and Bayelsa who they claim to be fighting for. They are owed salaries for months and made to suffer as a result of dwindling revenue owing to this pipeline explosion by their brothers. It's only fools that will praise the actions of these boys.

The point is those people are already at their nadir of misery...so it can't get worse than that....so when they bomb the pipes and crumble the oil sector, we all going...down...remember when a man is down he cannot go down..

NobleG1:
What last statement? I responded to your thread not any last statement.

I've smart uncles and they don't have insane mentality like yours.

get out...

NobleG1:
It seems your uncle is an illiterate or completely nuts! His reasons are totally absurd and illogical! His mentality is horrible. What your dumb uncle is saying is that every woman behaves and does exactly what their mother did in life, which is totally false.

Haven't he seen a man or woman who came from a very good home, whose parents are still together but he or she turns out to be terrible?
There are people who come from bad families but they turn out to be great people! There are orphans who are great people today.

Being a single mother is not a crime. That a mother is single doesn't necessarily mean it was her fault her relationship didn't last. What would your uncle say about a woman who was raised by a single father? What would he say about a woman who was raised by her mother and step-father? Take him to see a psychiatric.

And please, send him the url of this thread to read.

I hope you will ever get an uncle half as smart as him...did you read the last statement?

Creamish:
....Seems u have selective understanding. Of course there are those who the parents try to raise right but end up wayward..it exists in all families..whether single parents or both parents. There are also daughters who grow up respectful under the tutelage of her single mom or dad or both parents. Why are u hellbent on pinning it on single moms alone?

Nwayz... U can stay away from them. It does not guarantee u a long lasting marriage as it is not d sole determinant of a healthy marriage. Whatever rocks ur boat.

from the opinion of people who aired their views I hope you could see that those in support gave real life experiences...I can count about 5...truth be told the probability of the marriage being a disaster is quite high

Trina0936:
Na so. But you can't marry one who is independent and prolly earns more than you. If that isn't the height of cowardice,then what is?
This is why I can't marry a guy am richer than! He would always look for a way to blame his inferiority complex on me

abeg make I hear word...last time I checked how many women earn more than their husbands? Even those that did earn still push most responsibility to the husband...abeg eeee....start to earn big first...who woman money epp...

razortruth:
Unfortunately, this assertion is very true. Even my brother's wife who is a chosen mopol, I mean a member of the Lord's chosen church owned by Pastor Lazarus Nmoka deserted her husband because that's exactly how her mother behaved. Their mother ran away from the husband and trained them (five girls) alone and today, none of them is living with the husband. Even with all entreaties and begging from my brother, she remained adamant and incorrigible. What baffles me is that they made her "a worker" and ursher even with her immoral lifestyle perhaps because she pays "big tithe" it's so unfortunate. But this assertion cannot be generalized. There are the few whom God himself touched their hearts to be different from their mother. Note:My brother is young!!!

creamish paperlace cococandy ladymercedes et al...pls look at real life experiences

pumpingmachine:
Listen to this wise person cos it's true. My brother married one and the marriage has collapsed. I also married one and I'm so fed up with her. I grew up in a complete happy home so nothing prepared me for the stuffs she's throwing at me, not to forget her mum that wants to turn me to ATM machine. Run if you can, if not, do what I do - take solace in your career if you have one.

creamish, cococandy, paperlace, cute hector...you see people who are in support of my opinion have real life experience of what am talking about you guys are just trying to be termed "rational"....

PaperLace:
You must answer question.
I still dey wait. You think na by creating thread? Defend your thread like a spartan.

loooool...you are very funny...and a wordsmith..I don too laugh abeg make them no go sack me for this recession...I like the way you write..brilliant!!! But I won't change my topic...

PaperLace:
I wonder why anyone would sit in his house and tell me not to get emotional_ psychic much?
You can't even answer simple questions, yet you claim to be logical. If you're that logical, you would know those questions are a subliminal way of telling you, it takes a couple for a marriage to work. Majority of the threads here on NL complaining of bad wives (that's me trying to FOCUS), I haven't seen any_ where it was stated that the wife was brought up by a single mum.
Sooo, what went wrong Mr Logic?

Do you know Nigeria's population? I ask once again.
You met just one lady raised by a single mum, out of millions of Nigerians and you run to NL to create thread...as statistician you be ba?

There are few single dads you say?
Jointly made, jointly owned.
'but somehow the woman gets to be stuck with the kids, most times doesn't get married again, raises them to be strong independent people and you think you can rule them out without giving them a chance? Who exactly are you, Uncle?

I am not 'empathising' with anyone but I know what it takes to train a child. Anyone who does that (independently) gets my support.
Now, go back and answer my questions, stop looking for supporters .

If I answer your questions I will be drifting further from the subject. Which means technically changing the topic...lol...yeah I need supporters cos the way the ladies are bombarding me jeez...

ItsQuinn:
did I say I'm a single father? I'm being raised by a single father

my bad...oversight...perhaps your dad may soon get married but either way I wouldn't advise anyone male/female to marry anyone raised by a single parent (especially divorced)

Creamish:
What about the ladies who don't? The ladies that you have deliberately excluded from your piece?

if you have a sample size of about 100 people and 85 is sick...will you be incorrect if you say almost everyone is sick?...the remaining 15 is negligible compared to the sample size...

Creamish:
LOLz...exactly. They prolly specialize in beating women to pulp..

How someone can seat somewhere and pen down some bullshit generalization based simply on some random experience he had with a few people baffles me.

it is not simple generalisation. Ladies often take after their mum...

Timbuktou:
Explain how this perception is impaired.

let him explain bro...seems all the ladies are asking for my head on a wooden plate...

LadyMercedes:
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What a shallow school of thought!

seemingly the ladies are here to tear me apart...doesn't change the truth though...

ItsQuinn:
Exactly! He's just being biased

Absolutely not...ItsQuinn...even if you are a single father (as you claim to be) definitely you are planning to get married sooner or later...