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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 10:09am On Sep 26, 2016
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PaperLace:


oh...hush it and don't play that gender card with me.
I asked you a simple question Mr Logic, ain't they better than people brought up by abusive parents?
Yes or No?
What of men brought up by single mothers?
Women brought up by single dads?
The ones brought up by two abusive parents?

I think you're the one that lacks logical reasoning, you expect everyone to come in and agree with you?
So much for a logical man.

Maybe the single mothers should have thrown away the child. Do you guys even remember Nigeria's population before churning out these preposterous and facile assertions? ?

What is even your definition of single mum?
A widow?
Divorcee?
Never been married mother?

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 10:10am On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......


What a shallow school of thought!

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 10:11am On Sep 26, 2016
goingape1:
if you find out that there are raise by single parent pls abort that mission.

those women are wayward and would put that same cursed on you.


she will later leave and repeat the same process again.
ladies! If you find guys that are raised by a single parent abort that mission! cheesy tongue

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 10:23am On Sep 26, 2016
ItsQuinn:
ladies! If you find guys that are raised by a single parent abort that mission! cheesy tongue

LOLz...exactly. They prolly specialize in beating women to pulp.. grin grin

How someone can seat somewhere and pen down some bullshit generalization based simply on some random experience he had with a few people baffles me.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 10:24am On Sep 26, 2016
PaperLace:


oh...hush it and don't play that gender card with me.
I asked you a simple question Mr Logic, ain't they better than people brought up by abusive parents?
Yes or No?
What of men brought up by single mothers?
Women brought up by single dads?
The ones brought up by two abusive parents?

I think you're the one that lacks logical reasoning, you expect everyone to come in and agree with you?
So much for a logical man.

Maybe the single mothers should have thrown away the child. Do you guys even remember Nigeria's population before churning out these preposterous and facile assertions? ?

What is even your definition of single mum?
A widow?
Divorcee?
Never been married mother?
lol...don't get emotional...I was not trying to make comparisons...with abusive parents et al...I can see you are trying to empathise with single mums...just see the topic the way it is don't try to modify...

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 10:26am On Sep 26, 2016
Arthurwinner:
impaired perception

Explain how this perception is impaired.
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 10:28am On Sep 26, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Exactly! He's just being biased undecided
Absolutely not...ItsQuinn...even if you are a single father (as you claim to be) definitely you are planning to get married sooner or later...
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 10:30am On Sep 26, 2016
LadyMercedes:
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What a shallow school of thought!
seemingly the ladies are here to tear me apart...doesn't change the truth though...

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 10:31am On Sep 26, 2016
Timbuktou:


Explain how this perception is impaired.
let him explain bro...seems all the ladies are asking for my head on a wooden plate...
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 10:33am On Sep 26, 2016
Creamish:


LOLz...exactly. They prolly specialize in beating women to pulp.. grin grin

How someone can seat somewhere and pen down some bullshit generalization based simply on some random experience he had with a few people baffles me.
it is not simple generalisation. Ladies often take after their mum...

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 10:35am On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
it is not simple generalisation. Ladies often take after their mum...

What about the ladies who don't? The ladies that you have deliberately excluded from your piece?

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 10:37am On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
Absolutely not...ItsQuinn...even if you are a single father (as you claim to be) definitely you are planning to get married sooner or later...
did I say I'm a single father? I'm being raised by a single father undecided

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 10:38am On Sep 26, 2016
Creamish:


What about the ladies who don't? The ladies that you have deliberately excluded from your piece?
if you have a sample size of about 100 people and 85 is sick...will you be incorrect if you say almost everyone is sick?...the remaining 15 is negligible compared to the sample size...

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 10:41am On Sep 26, 2016
ItsQuinn:
did I say I'm a single father? I'm being raised by a single father undecided
my bad...oversight...perhaps your dad may soon get married but either way I wouldn't advise anyone male/female to marry anyone raised by a single parent (especially divorced)

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 10:41am On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
if you have a sample size of about 100 people and 85 is sick...will you be incorrect if you say almost everyone is sick?...the remaining 15 is negligible compared to the sample size...

If a man happens to meet any of the remaining 15, going by ur thread, he will not give her a chance cos U didnt believe she was worth the mention. Little drops make a mighty ocean. It starts from the 15. Never underestimate anyone.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 10:49am On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
lol...don't get emotional...I was not trying to make comparisons...with abusive parents et al...I can see you are trying to empathise with single mums...just see the topic the way it is don't try to modify...
I wonder why anyone would sit in his house and tell me not to get emotional_ psychic much?
You can't even answer simple questions, yet you claim to be logical. If you're that logical, you would know those questions are a subliminal way of telling you, it takes a couple for a marriage to work. Majority of the threads here on NL complaining of bad wives (that's me trying to FOCUS), I haven't seen any_ where it was stated that the wife was brought up by a single mum.
Sooo, what went wrong Mr Logic?

Do you know Nigeria's population? I ask once again.
You met just one lady raised by a single mum, out of millions of Nigerians and you run to NL to create thread...as statistician you be ba?

There are few single dads you say?
Jointly made, jointly owned.
'but somehow the woman gets to be stuck with the kids, most times doesn't get married again, raises them to be strong independent people and you think you can rule them out without giving them a chance? Who exactly are you, Uncle?

I am not 'empathising' with anyone but I know what it takes to train a child. Anyone who does that (independently) gets my support.
Now, go back and answer my questions, stop looking for supporters grin.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 11:00am On Sep 26, 2016
PaperLace:

I wonder why anyone would sit in his house and tell me not to get emotional_ psychic much?
You can't even answer simple questions, yet you claim to be logical. If you're that logical, you would know those questions are a subliminal way of telling you, it takes a couple for a marriage to work. Majority of the threads here on NL complaining of bad wives (that's me trying to FOCUS), I haven't seen any_ where it was stated that the wife was brought up by a single mum.
Sooo, what went wrong Mr Logic?

Do you know Nigeria's population? I ask once again.
You met just one lady raised by a single mum, out of millions of Nigerians and you run to NL to create thread...as statistician you be ba?

There are few single dads you say?
Jointly made, jointly owned.
'but somehow the woman gets to be stuck with the kids, most times doesn't get married again, raises them to be strong independent people and you think you can rule them out without giving them a chance? Who exactly are you, Uncle?

I am not 'empathising' with anyone but I know what it takes to train a child. Anyone who does that (independently) gets my support.
Now, go back and answer my questions, stop looking for supporters grin.
If I answer your questions I will be drifting further from the subject. Which means technically changing the topic...lol...yeah I need supporters cos the way the ladies are bombarding me jeez...

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 11:06am On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
If I answer your questions I will be drifting further from the subject. Which means technically changing the topic...lol...yeah I need supporters cos the way the ladies are bombarding me jeez...
You must answer question.
I still dey wait. You think na by creating thread? Defend your thread like a spartan. grin

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by CuteMorriz: 11:34am On Sep 26, 2016
PaperLace:

You must answer question.
I still dey wait. You think na by creating thread? Defend your thread like a spartan. grin
loooool...you are very funny...and a wordsmith..I don too laugh abeg make them no go sack me for this recession...I like the way you write..brilliant!!! But I won't change my topic... tongue

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 12:19pm On Sep 26, 2016
The thread title is a little too simplistic even though it may have some merit. It would have been better framed as a quite risky to marry someone raised by a single parent or from a broken home.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 1:18pm On Sep 26, 2016
Creamish:


Single fathers are there. What is your opinion on them or are u simply biased towards women alone?

I just wonder. What a biased thread!!

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by joseph1832(m): 2:25pm On Sep 26, 2016
PaperLace:
rubbish.
Ain't they better than people raised by two abusive parents?

It's actually a good quality to be able to carry on without most men of this generation.
Not necessarily. What's good is good and what's bad is bad.

Someone who was raised by an abusive parent might turn out right, thus not being abusive to their kids.
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by cococandy(f): 2:46pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums.

what about the men raised by single parents? Oh wait we don't care how they turned out. Any man is good for marriage. Only the ladies must be perused and observed under a magnifying glass just to make sure they are perfect.

Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

And why is that? If not irresponsibility on the men's parts. So the men walk off as they mostly do and the women who stick to raising this children by themselves should be punished and made to look bad for it? You're what's wrong with the world. You and your ilk. Maybe they should have thrown the kids into the gutters (like some do) so that your retardedd asses who judge them for being single parents. Umm but you still do (judge them I mean).

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said

Only God knows what frivolous in this context means. As she wasn't dead yet, it was probably frivolous in their opinion. Like they lived in the marriage with her. undecided

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.
nothing wrong with strong will. Except when you're dealing with a control freak who must always have their way. Then your strong will becomes a problem to them. Because those people's existence is hinged on the subjugation of others. When there is no one to impose themselves on, they don't know how to live.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.
true if the man is an asshole. The lady has learned from experience that she doesn't need to be miserably married to be a complete human being. Hence she's willing to leave than sit and whine and look for pity party like a helpless 5yr old who's trapped behind a chair.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)
don't you mean safe way out? Rather than in a body bag? Or wait. What if the man was the one who left? Never mind. It's still her fault for being a single mom. She didn't have enough red pants to keep him from wandering off. Whatever led to the situation, it must have been her fault. undecided

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring
if he's an asshole, the probability is high. I agree.

5.
A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.
Hmm. Professor without research. Where's your proof that only raised by single parents have psychological issues?

6.
Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

What ugly parts? before I comment.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......
maybe. Maybe not.

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......

Yea she probably killed him. We have to find something she's guilty of. There's not way that woman is without blame. If we don't find one, let's make up one.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Ayoolajumoke(f): 2:51pm On Sep 26, 2016
The op is right ooo, but then, there's always a strong will to raise a happy family .
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 2:58pm On Sep 26, 2016
cococandy:
what about the men raised by single parents? Oh wait we don't care how they turned out. Any man is good for marriage. Only the ladies must be perused and observed under a magnifying glass just to make sure they are perfect.



And why is that? If not irresponsibility on the men's parts. So the men walk off as they mostly do and the women who stick to raising this children by themselves should be punished and made to look bad for it? You're what's wrong with the world. You and your ilk. Maybe they should have thrown the kids into the gutters (like some do) so that your retardedd asses who judge them for being single parents. Umm but you still do (judge them I mean).



Only God knows what frivolous in this context means. As she wasn't dead yet, it was probably frivolous in their opinion. Like they lived in the marriage with her. undecided

nothing wrong with strong will. Except when you're dealing with a control freak who must always have their way. Then your strong will becomes a problem to them. Because those people's existence is hinged on the subjugation of others. When there is no one to impose themselves on, they don't know how to live.

true if the man is an asshole. The lady has learned from experience that she doesn't need to be miserably married to be a complete human being. Hence she's willing to leave than sit and whine and look for pity party like a helpless 5yr old who's trapped behind a chair.

don't you mean safe way out? Rather than in a body bag? Or wait. What if the man was the one who left? Never mind. It's still her fault for being a single mom. She didn't have enough red pants to keep him from wandering off. Whatever led to the situation, it must have been her fault. undecided

if he's an asshole, the probability is high. I agree.

5.
Hmm. Professor without research. Where's your proof that only raised by single parents have psychological issues?

6.

What ugly parts? before I comment.

maybe. Maybe not.



Yea she probably killed him. We have to find something she's guilty of. There's not way that woman is without blame. If we don't find one, let's make up one.


Bless u!

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Cutehector(m): 3:02pm On Sep 26, 2016
Come who are those that are fighting in here? undecided
Respect ya old ages!




Cutmorriz your logic doesn't apply in all cases. The ladies attacking you are quite correct in their opinion especially the one asking if those being raised by both parents are any better than the ones from a single parent.


I also read a comment from a dude stating his girlfrnd is from a single parent family and that she is all nice and homely and respectful and all that and he really loves her but can't marry her due to his parents standing on marrying a lady who'z been raised by a single parent.




It's quite through that a good number of them are likely gona tow the part of their parent in their own marital home, but nevertheless, it varies due to one own's training.


Not all single parents(especially mothers) divorced their husbands.. some lost their husbands through death at an early age. And I believe such women in this category understands the importance of a father in the family.



To the ladies attacking cutemorriz, he is also right because people tend to follow the footsteps of their parents. Trust me, if I came from a home where my mum always disrespects my dad, to d extent that they got divorced, I will actually do thesame if my wife makes my home a living hell for me. But my dad is a dad who i've come to admire when it comes to being a Husband. He has grown to take my mum's bullshit! Sometimes I wonder why he even fell in love with her cuz sometimes she can be so so so wicked. Buh he really loves her to death and that alone has really really inspired me.


My dad is my role model when it comes to being a Husband.. and most times I tell myself, nothing can ever make me divorce my wife due to my dad's way of handling misunderstandings.



So please, let's not all fight and attack each other.



They say everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I say, receive wisdom from the Lord.



Cc: cococandy, creamish, itsquinn

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 3:04pm On Sep 26, 2016
joseph1832:
Not necessarily. What's good is good and what's bad is bad.

Someone who was raised by an abusive parent might turn out right, thus not being abusive to their kids.

Same goes to a child raised by a single mum. There is no hard-fast rule that the child's destiny must be the same as the mother's. The fact that the mother did not abandon the child and decided to ensure the child is raised regardless of the reason why the man stayed/ran away tells a lot about the strength and courage of the woman.


..and then some know-it-all judge who dint lift a foot in her journey thinks he has the right to pen down crap about single mothers? D'u know what it takes to be a single mum??

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by KingRex1: 3:06pm On Sep 26, 2016
So ladies raised by a single mum should remain single undecided

Double wahala for dead body lipsrsealed
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 3:09pm On Sep 26, 2016
Cutehector:
Come who are those that are fighting in here? undecided
Respect ya old ages!




Cutmorriz your logic doesn't apply in all cases. The ladies attacking you are quite correct in their opinion especially the one asking if those being raised by both parents are any better than the ones from a single parent.


I also read a comment from a dude stating his girlfrnd is from a single parent family and that she is all nice and homely and respectful and all that and he really loves her but can't marry her due to his parents standing on marrying a lady who'z been raised by a single parent.




It's quite through that a good number of them are likely gona tow the part of their parent in their own marital home, but nevertheless, it varies due to one own's training.


Not all single parents(especially mothers) divorced their husbands.. some lost their husbands through death at an early age. And I believe such women in this category understands the importance of a father in the family.



To the ladies attacking cutemorriz, he is also right because people tend to follow the footsteps of their parents. Trust me, if I came from a home where my mum always disrespects my dad, to d extent that they got divorced, I will actually do thesame if my wife makes my home a living hell for me. But my dad is a dad who i've come to admire when it comes to being a Husband. He has grown to take my mum's bullshit! Sometimes I wonder why he even fell in love with her cuz sometimes she can be so so so wicked. Buh he really loves her to death and that alone has really really inspired me.


My dad is my role model when it comes to being a Husband.. and most times I tell myself, nothing can ever make me divorce my wife due to my dad's way of handling misunderstandings.



So please, let's not all fight and attack each other.



They say everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I say, receive wisdom from the Lord.



Cc: coco.candy, cream.ish, itsqu.inn

U just spoke for urself. A billion and one other children raised by single mums wont go down the same road with you. Ul never know what ur reaction will be till U actually live in their shoes. This is where individualistic traits comes to play. We don't all commit suicide when our girlfriend or boyfriend dumps us. Some do ..others don't.

I hope u get my point?

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Cutehector(m): 3:21pm On Sep 26, 2016
Creamish:


U just spoke for urself. A billion and one other children raised by single mums wont go down the same road with you. Ul never know what ur reaction will be till U actually live in their shoes. This is where individualistic traits comes to play. We don't all commit suicide when our girlfriend or boyfriend dumps us. Some do ..others don't.

I hope u get my point?
creamish, I totally understand where you are coming from. But where I won't agree with you is you thinking all children raised by a single parent will never likely follow their parent's footsteps.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 3:22pm On Sep 26, 2016
joseph1832:
Not necessarily. What's good is good and what's bad is bad.

Someone who was raised by an abusive parent might turn out right, thus not being abusive to their kids.

Talk about double standards...

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 3:28pm On Sep 26, 2016
cocoandy creamish itsquinn. Bless you ladies wink wink wink wink #PREACHIT

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