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walcolm: you have put it succintly. any averagely educated woman who tells you your money is our money but her own money is her money is just a wicked and selfish person and it has nothing to do with culture.

i know of a couple...the husband was badly burnt in the 2008 economic and stock market crash in Nigeria and he has been struggling with paying loans and maintaining his stock portfolio to wade through the downturn. he was already in that situation by the time they got married. the woman earns a significant income from her job with a top multi-national bank but keeps all her money to herself. she has not helped the guy with a penny to offset his loans. she keeps her money in fixed deposit and treasury bills, always shopping for shoes and clothes and travelling for vacation every year. she would rather offer to buy his ticket for them to go abroad for a holiday than put her money in the family pot.

so OP, dont fall for that cultural BS...men were saddled with the responsibility for providing for the family because historically, men were empowered with education and the means to earn a living whilst women were expected to be domesticated. they made noise about inequality and all what not but now that they are now equally empowered, they now dont want to accept the responsibility that comes with that power

why would a woman spend 12hrs of her time working at a job, 10hrs sleeping, eating, taking her bath etc. thats 22hrs spent on herself and 2hrs available to spend on issues that have something to do with me and i get to pay for her 24hrs of existence in a day? that's the height of inequity!

ledima: Some of u pple r funny. We keep shouting that we are 'equal' so women are now sharing the responsibility of men at home, but that's all. @poster if get home u will demand for dinner, if there is a mess u may demand for an explanation. If you choose to help ur wife with the baby n domestic chores it is because u have 'chosen' to, and if you don't nobody will call u a bush man. So, it is the mans 'responsibility' to provide for the home (including mortgage). If u are married to a wife who helps with that thank God, but if u r not, suck it up and be a man. Don't come and make a mockery of your home on NL. After all, were u forced 2 marry her?

Lexusgs430: I also live in the UK and pay towards my mortgage and have been doing for almost 15 years. There is no crime in you paying the mortgage, but there are other bills that needs looking after, ie council tax,water bill,electricity bill,sky bill,household and contents insurance,life insurance policies,feeding expense,kids extra curriculum activities,kids clothing,car insurances,kids school meals to mention but a few.
Both of you would sit down, work out who does what and who pays what, problem solved.
If she insists on you paying all, run like fire is burning you,cos after you have overworked yourself and ended up an invalid, she would serve you a divorce petition and claim she needs to keep to the house for the well being of your kids and inevitable, kick your sorry ass out!
Best of Luck.

neyostica: Op, leave the girl alone, she wants a real man who can takecare of her not some struggling modafucker like you. Yeye boy, why she go contribute? You beta go n work harder. Queensmith, you are a foollllllllllll

neyostica: Op, leave the girl alone, she wants a real man who can takecare of her not some struggling modafucker like you. Yeye boy, why she go contribute? You beta go n work harder. Queensmith, you are a foollllllllllll

centoqoh: Waoh. . .Imo state with d highest number of applicants? this tells that peopl like n knw the value of education afterall. if only other state governors would declare free qualitative education, literacy level will double wht it is presently.

2010a: I am commenting on a slightly different issue. This is the first time in many years I've read a 2 page long thread on nairaland's frontpage without running into a fullscale tribal warfare. I am so impressed with the moderators. This has ignited my hope that in Nigeria, one may still find people who can stamp their foot on the ground & insist on things being done the right way. Kudos to the moderators.

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Killz.:
[color=#000030]Bitter? Where did you read such nonsense? How will someone who doesn't have your time be bitter about you? Na you dey carry Killz for head. . . Have you EVER seen me mention "dabrake" in any of my posts on Nairaland? This is the first time i mention your name in my comment!

Now, who's bitter? [/color]

kelz88: Tribal bashing excluded?
Interesting!

Ammyng: Hi Moderator, kindly take a look at this thread and take the neccessary action https://www.nairaland.com/902639/did-you-lose-virginity-before/3#902639.116

breezy047: I understand you.
You see what OP is saying is beauty will fade so if you get married becuz of beauty you will be running at a loss.

He's indirectly saying build your own values.
Values will always be with you. Like if you learn to drive a car today, even if you dont touch the wheels in 2yrs, the day you finally get down at it, it still all comes back to you.

So if you are getting married weigh your pros and cons. . .while you are considering physical beauty that will fade, look for values too as they are the only beauty that can appreciate.

safarigirl: I can't even imagine how ugly you must be, dayyum! An ugly dad ǡŋ₫ Ǟ horrendous mother prOduced you.

@topic, Naija gurls are only as ugly as the guys, we ÄŁĻ have the same ancestors anyways

khukhi: Yeah.... She would...Women love flowers. Especially if they're delivered in your office for everyone to see

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Help your mother. . . And support the ministry of your father. Obfuscated half blind bat! Why are you such an idi[i]o[/i]t? Why? Help those that really need you!

See the rubbish you are spewing. . . Flash drive and all the blah! At least you spelled correctly this time. . . Apart from pluggin

Your intellect is only as tall as my smallest shoe, so shut tha hell up! Fool! [/color]

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Your father did that? Did it work? Why is he so gay? I heard he was sacked after being caught by security cameras. . . Wanking!

You fool. There is nothing like anomalities. . . It's anomalies! I know you are dumb, just quit proving me right!

Fcck the programmer that programmed your mom. For without her, there wouldn't be a dumb arse idiot as yourself. Imagine fortran on a woman. . . Why she no go misbehave? [/color]

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Your father did that? Did it work? Why is he so gay? I heard he was sacked after being caught by security cameras. . . Wanking!

You fool. There is nothing like anomalities. . . It's anomalies! I know you are dumb, just quit proving me right!

Fcck the programmer that programmed your mom. For without her, there wouldn't be a dumb arse idiot as yourself. Imagine fortran on a woman. . . Why she no go misbehave? [/color]

shymmex: I'm planning to come to Nigeria later this year, and as a guy; I'll like to see beautiful girls everywhere. But a thread posted on here by the notorious and infamous Bittyend is making me have a rethink. Nigerian girls, please defend yourselves here

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Your father should be shot! What incoherency. Which ngwa people? Do you believe everything you read on NL? Unlike you, NONE of my info on NL is real!

You are a fool! If JAMB is granting them privilege, Good luck to them. So, how does that make your father less gay, or your Mum, for raising an idi[i]o[/i]t for a son?

The half past 4 eyes you inherited from your mother of course. . . [/color]

Ijogz K: I fink am certainly getting older dan d kinda responses pple give to threads.. Use to enjoy dem in da past, but dey now sound so Juvenile...

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Nah It's only a privilege to your father. If you really love him, help him out. Yoruba is in his system, so blame that for his erratic tendencies. . . Fcck you, fcck your grant for a break thru. Slap yourself for thinking of a breakthrough for another, when your dumb "roots" are screaming for a breakthrough. St[i]u[/i]pid boy! . . . Grant a breakthrough to your father, and one to your mother. Cursed they are, for having an idi[i]o[/i]t for a son, and then, deal with your half past/quarter after 4 eyes first . . . Idi[i]o[/i]t![/color]

dany191: S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ pathetic...who gives a Bleep.i hope you all are having fun unloading your private life on the INTERNET.GROW UP

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Your father is the lebanese wannabe gay lord for you to have such info. . . And i hope you have provided him with the emboldened information. . . You don't wanna grow up without a father, now do you? Your mum has fccked you up enough! Idiots![/color]