₦airaland Forum

Estac:
Your views sir, are representative of biblical headship and I have to say sir, that you are a representation of manhood.

If start to drop my two-two cents, POF go finish. But I will only add that "submission" or what is like to call respect (in its deepest and most profound form) comes naturally to a woman who is loved (sincerely, unconditionally and yes, sacrificially) and treated right. It is a natural bi-product of a loving and trusting relationship.

Submission, like respect cannot be "demanded" but earned. It's not something that is earned merely by acquiring the title "husband" or by having a phallus (borrowing the word from a poster). A woman will naturally submit to someone she trusts -- trust to understand, consider and more importantly, PROTECT her in all of his decisions/dealings. A woman will let down her guard for, and defer to any man she KNOWS will protect her, no matter what.

Sirs, I understand how important submission is to a man. But you also don't want forced or pretend "submission", the type that leads to marital collapse once the woman finds an escape route. You want the submission that is willingly given, from a place of a woman's trust.

vascey:
I've followed this discussion and I'm quite impressed with your candor. Not because of your point of view - no two marriages are alike so nothing is caste in stone- but more for your composure. Indeed, your opinion is yours and others should respect that. When we begin to hear people being attacked for airing their personal opinions respectfully, then that conversation is a no no. I'm very surprised that the culprits are some of our most respected contributors on this thread.

Pls @maternal and @vole, I can't attempt to disrespect either of you cos I know we have built this thread of your help and knowledge. But pls it's not okay to personally attack a person for airing his opinion and perspective. Its called cyber bullying and it's an issue that undermines whatever point you are trying to make. I understand you feel strongly about the subject and that's fine, but speaking to Guiterlife like you did is not consistent with what we know about you. It's not ok to say he's saying bulshit just because you don't agree with him. It's not okay to tell him to do and sit down for airing his perspective.

That's my 2cents.

Ndukaezennia1:
Hehehehehehehehe! Typical Nigerian hypocrisy being displayed here. Why did you omit verse 21 of this your lengthy bible post. My people verse Ephesian 5:21 says "Submit to one another out of Reverence for Christ (The NIV bible titles from vs21 to end as (Instruction to Christian household). But the typical Nigerian guy will always ignore that verse 21. But its ok. My brother @guitarlife if you are going to stay in Canada you must revisit your mindset of submission although I have reasons to believe you didn't want to marry the lady in question. Your submission story is just a cover loool! We have all used it before and gone ahead to marry crazier women. My wife told me worse than this lady told you I still went ahead and married her because I was crazily in love with this crazy girl. Three years down the line. I have a woman who will transfer her whole salary to me if I am short of cash, do my laundry( I do not know how much washing a shirt cost, she washes and irons like a pro), send me to market with soup list,I have customers now..Lol! hand me okra to cut, taught me how to make spaghetti and plantain (infact she swears I fry plantain better than her so she has stopped frying plantain, I do that now..Loool!But all in all I have a woman who is willing to love me with her all, who is still not afraid to call me out whenever she feels I am wrong. If that is the partnership, my guy I will take it and to be sincere I am happy. I will not lie and say I wasnt scared prior marriage but I have learnt that all you need is a good woman. if the so called partnership is me taking part in house chores. It hasn't killed me yet. This our Canadian journey she gave it her all infact I just started participating. My opinion is let us all work with stuff that will work for us. Naija favors we men all the time but if you are planning to move here with your spouse my dear naija brothers readjust o. Bikokwa to avoid had I known. If you dont want to you can do like our Igbo brothers relocate alone and be sending money down but then there are still downsides to that..

Iyamefa:
Hi there.
Those areas you mentioned are in the GTA and to be honest, your budget isn’t realistic for an apartment. Rent isn’t exactly cheap here unless you look into smaller towns probably outside the GTA.
It’s not impossible but highly unrealistic to get an apartment for that amount. Why aren’t you guys going for a basement? That budget will get you a basement apartment. If you can’t exactly increase the budget and have no one to stay with, I suggest you go for the basement apartment and save your Airbnb money. I don’t know the size of your family but you can get a 2 room basement (even more, who knows) with that amount.
If your concern about basements is the fact that its the coldest part of the house, get mobile heaters to add to the central heater and you guys will be fine. Afterwards, when you guys are settled you move from there.
Hope this helps

Ij1000:
I don’t see why this shd be an issue it will be helpful if we knew what exactly the ADR said. This is common practice even outside Nigeria. The idea is that as you move higher in these firms you should have completed your professional exams, thus promotions get stalled at some point if you haven’t completed the exams, but at a lower level you are being trained and coached on your job so it isn’t a basic requirement for getting a job offer.

joo2018:
Legal basis or qualification? Do you have any evidence of a training program at work or on-the-job training? Maybe it may help.

cochtrane:
You are wrong. You only need Google it. You'll find tons of stories where people have been detained at the US and Canadian borders for trying to enter these countries with child pornography.

o2:
Hello can this be true.
WHATSAPP MESSAGES, VIDEOS AND PICTURES.

I am a lawyer licensed to practice law in Canada and I handle a lot of immigration cases.

I came across a case this last Sunday (July 1, 2018 - Canada Day), which I thought is necessary to be shared amongst close ones without disclosing confidential information.

This client travelled from Africa into Canada and was interviewed at the point of entry into Canada. During the course of the interview, he was asked to hand over his phone to the Canada Border Services Agency officer. Upon reviewing the videos stored on his phone. The officer saw a video of a man raping a child and detained him for possessing child pornography.

He was determined to be ineligible to enter into Canada on grounds of criminality and was refused entry into Canada as he was determined to be a risk to public safety. He has now been charged to Court for being in possession of child pornography.

My client alleges that it was a widely spread WhatsApp video in Africa (I am sure some of you would have seen the same video) and that it automatically downloaded into his phone without his knowledge. He will definitely have his day in Court to prove his innocence, but we do not have to wait to allow such things happen.

What’s the moral of this story? This is the era of social media and the distribution of all sort of messages/videos/pictures. Check your phone on a daily basis and ensure that you delete all unsolicited pictures, messages and videos. Block anyone who has a penchant for distributing unwarranted pictures, messages and videos - you may not only be saving yourself from unforeseen embarrassment and/or criminal charges, you don’t want your kids to stumble into such messages, videos and pictures.

Finally, a whole lot is indulged in Africa (not meaning to be demeaning). It is a different ball game out of Africa. So for EVERYONE travelling, do a thorough search of the content of your phone before you embark on each trip - just to be sure you are CLEAN. What happened to my client could have happened to anyone, just because he didn’t pay any attention to the videos/messages he received on WhatsApp.

This is not a joke, it is a true story.to

Lufthansa:
House! How do I claim point for work experience where I get paid in cash. I can always secure a reference letter but there is neither a bank statement nor pay slip to show for remuneration as we get paid in cash.

Senior colleagues in the house, please advice on how to go about this. Thanks

happytbaby:
Hey DaddyTheFather,

So are you female or male? That's how some people like @ Fuzzyman will be deceiving us with gender- 'misleading' names......some people will be sued for misrepresentation, where are the lawyers? help me find charges for her.

I want to send you a PM, want to ask you some questions that are not entirely related to this thread.

fancydiamonds17:
Hello everyone,

i need your help ,

i just got admitted into a canadian university for my masters, to resume August 1,2018 and I am at the verge of applying for my permanent residency , i am waiting for IQUAS so i can start. My issue is i dont want to miss the admission so i also have to start the student visa application.

Can i send in the two applications at the same time , or should i do just 1. Then which one should that be ?

BoboXIV:
Good morning!!

Things I have learnt on Nairaland:

“The fear of banishment to Page 0 is the beginning of wisdom”

However, it is the Easter season and May the good Lord forgive you in advance for any “tasi” or “ela” or “isho” that you may be considering to bestow on me for my innocent questions

Aaaaanyway, just wanted to get some clarification re a couple of things Yeah yeah I've seen it asked before but everyone should have at least one “Get out of Page 0 Jail free” card.

Thanking you in advance and Congratulating all PPR collectors,ITA Receivers, WES Champions and IELTS survivors so far.

As is always said, It will end in praise

vickertony:
cc GlitteringStar

Good morning ma'am

I'm back again, I hope you remember me

The guy you helped to calculate his age and points

I scored 66/100,i would be 24 by September would it

increase my points to 67,you calculated it with my age at 23, no masters, just my BSc certificate and 1yr nysc

teaching experience would be through by October.

Finally, I like to ask, does this process need a block account? like a certain amount in my account.

Thank you and gracias.

greggng:
For calling me a scammer without knowing me and what I stand for, I will be reporting you to seun if you fail to submit apology within 24hours. Thereafter I will proceed with reporting this to the police so that you can prove your claim. I don't make empty claim. If you are real I will get you to answer for this character assassination .

Canadianfly:
Lmao. And they say I'm mean

Canadianfly:
Let me answer you as much as I can.



Now for number 5, here is my advice. Choose a province that is relatively cheap to live in. Alberta, Manitoba and Sask. Say you choose Manitoba, and land in Winnipeg, book an Airbnb close to St. Boniface hospital or Women's center for like $1000 CAD per month depending on amenities, bedroom number, bathroom number etc. I say go for the basic as it's just you and Oga. A one bedroom will do. Plan to pay and stay for 3 months - the money you planned to pay hospital in Yankee can be channeled towards this cost.
Transportation in Winnipeg is cheap. Buses are cheap. You'll only need to go for your appointments, baby shopping and groceries. Oga can even do the shopping and you stay warm at home. Expect to pay $200-$250 CAD for you and Oga for bus. Forget buying car now.
For family and social support, wetin you need this for? If you need friends in Winnipeg, PM and I'll help you. But you should not bother about this because you have a project at hand. Face it, then look for family and friends after you born.
For Alberta:
Calgary - PM vcole for hospital and Dr. She had her baby there.
Edmonton - Mummyjagirls and freeradical dey there. Pm them for pointers.
For Sask - PM Salford1 for advice.

If you ask me, go to Canada and save yourself the headache. What you think you're saving by going to America, you'll pay much more in the long run. All the best with the decision you make.

laminaria:
I think @ysteph is right.
Road closure happens everywhere, in 2014 during Brisbane Gsumit, Brisbane was shut down for a whole week.prior to that event, there are a lot of restriction of movements, everyone was forced to take a break. Obama was in Sydney last week and the same thing happened. Yes if France PM is going on a state tour or visit such is bound to occour , generally Nigerians are not just happy with their leaders.however, I think Gov could av made those days public holiday for state workers maybe that would reduce the rate of people on the road.
It is normal for such things to happen. I just think we do things without Puting other measures in place incase of emergency( fire, ambulance etc).[b][/b]
He’s the first citizen of the country, even Jesus rode on the donkey and He was given a first class treatment to Jerusalem.
Don’t ever assume Canada is heaven on earth, once u landed you see what people will never tells you or u never believe it exists both the good and the bad.

Is gonna end well for us all.

Newmum0615:
Good afternoon everybody,

I have been a silent reader here and I must say you guys are doing very great. Errm, I just need a simple favor, I have been reading through all the threads (0,1,2,3 plus thread 4 sef) and I haven't seen where they answered this my question.

Please are females allowed to apply for this Canada something? Or is it just for men?

Thank you for your anticipated response.

_{Biko, nobody should abuse me. I am not feeling fine.}

SolutionsGuy:
I don't know whether all the candidates took test in the same room. My own hall has about 40 candidates. Yes, section 4 was replayed but I didn't have issue with section 4 before. Sections 1 and 4 are my favourites in listening. The middle sections usually have more words spoken and I flopped there. I personally told them I lost points in listening because there's no headphone. They promised it will likely be available as from next test date.

In my post, I didn't attempt to rubbish MOD. Fact is there were no headphones and it pumped my 68k down the drain. You won't compare someone sitting right in front of the speaker to someone from a village seated some distance.
Your husband would recall that some people wanted the volume higher while others wanted it turned down.

MummyJaygirls:
Shebi it’s only court? For now it’s to apply for visiting visa, When u do the other 2 and have cert, u can sponsor her under spousal

happytbaby:
Now modifying my response after going to read your posts. For one I do not even recall reading your post. It totally has nothing to do with you or anyone for that matter.

You do not know me, you do not know whether I have 5 children out of wedlock from 5 different fathers (not that I would judge anyone who does) . What I am saying is that you do not know whether I actually have it better than you or not.

That was a joke question that has nothing to do with anyone. Had a busy day, checked in at 12am and decided to greet the house, it was just a coincidence and so innocent in my mind that I actually got angry **covers face.

Truth is marriage is not easy and I spoke from my experience and those around me ....not that this thread was about marriage.

Kindly accept my apologies. I think you may explain that you are separated but not divorced with an LOE, you may need to also check your social media profiles and maybe take down a few pictures....not that you declare your new status on social media o.

@ All, I was not even trying to imply that some people's question are not okay, there is no stupid question in my book. I try not to think like that, wakapass is an option in my opinion.

doreto:
There is this issue that I observed has not been touched on this thread.Please help me.

For separated couples who can't get divorce yet-legal hurdles,2years wait et al-what document(s) does one need to send to CIC post-ITA to show he or she is separated from the marital partner?

And how can the document(s) be obtained?

Thank you for answering.

balogunsam:
If they are still married, he could pose a threat as she would have to mention him as not accompanying but will still need his medicals and other informayion. But if they're divorced and hopefully no children between them, he may not have any chance or way to "spoil" her plans...cheers!