Dorcas23: There is this guy I just recently started talking to. He's very good looking and intelligent and dresses well. He is my type and we have so many interests in common. I'm already falling in love with him but I haven't told him. I'm still trying to take it slow. I have not had sex with him yet but I want to. He told me he is in love with me and I was so excited to hear it but I hid my excitement because I'm still confused about his intentions.
The problem is that whenever I try to become vulnerable with him like texting him early in the morning to ask how his night was, he will ignore my texts for days and then call me out of the blue as if nothing happened. But other times he will call me multiple times and talk on the phone like we were dating.
Yesterday after ignoring my texts for over 24hrs he called me and said I should come over to his place. I've never been to his place before. I was already on my way when he called me to tell me that a lady visited him and she is spending the night at his place. He apologized and told me not to be offended. I acted all cool and told him some other time. He hasn't texted or called me since. I'm confused. I know we aren't dating but why would he even tell me this?
Make una two dey fool una selves. Dey play psychology games...
A simple NO would have done it. All this talk shows really that the reporter might be right.
In a class the lecturer says answer the question, you wearing a brown shirt. You brain does a quick assessment. What colour of shirt did l wear. White spot is not me....
For those that ask me, me it is because your brain has assessed what your are wearing is brown or close to it. Also you could in a cluster of people wearing brown like you...
Another could be that the lecturer is looking in your direction at which point you look at those around you if any is wearing brown if your brain is convinced you are not...
HOME UPKEEP MONEY, HOW MUCH SHOULD A MAN GIVE HIS WIFE?
A must read for every couple.
Last Friday evening, I decided to gulp down a couple of beer bottles at a joint before going home after a hard day's work.
Sitting next to my table were these two guys whose discussion was almost disturbing the rest of the people in the bar. One seem to be bitterly complaining to his friend about his wife. "My wife wan kill me", "she too like money", "she is too demanding, infact I am tired of her nonsense.
From his utterances and countenance you will know he just finished a fight with his wife before coming to the bar. Probably the friend called him out in other to quell the situation.
The friend was trying to calm him down. Johny cool down nah, what is the matter? I thought you and your wife have out grown these constant fights that have almost become a ritual. Ahh ahh, be a man, calm down and tell me what happened.
Then the man started, could you imagine? before I use to give my wife N30,000 as the home Upkeep money. She was complaining that the money was not enough. then she will be asking for small small money untill next Upkeep money. One day I came back from work to discover that NEPA has cut our light because she failed to pay. I was not happy because I have already given her the monthly Upkeep, when I asked, she said there is no money. Then I decided to take up the payment of NEPA bills which is about N5000 per month. The next month she still complained and we quarreled as usual.
To make her happy, I increased the monthly Upkeep to N45,000. To my surprise, I came back today, just barely three weeks after giving her the money and she continued with her usual way of demanding for more money. That's why I have to beat her up.
Even though, I was keenly listening to their conversation, they did not care. Considering the way he was glancing at me from time to time, it seems he wouldn't care if I say something.
Then, I adjusted closer, and assisted his friend in calming him down. After calming him down, I asked him, how many children do you have, he answered 4, then I asked, do you have a house help, he said yes, I also asked, is there any other person living in your house, he said yes, his wife's sister is living with them. That is a total of 6 people, if he is added, there will be total of 7 people living in the house.
I now asked him to get his calculator. That I am going to teach him a simple calculation that will surprise him, and help him manage his family. He brought out his mobile phone and opened the calculator.
Then, I asked him, how much do you think is the cost of one plate of home made food. i.e. food prepared in the home without additional Restaurant cost. He thought about it for a while but couldn't come up with a figure.
Then I wadded in and told him, let's say a plate of home made food costs N100, which you know is impossible because an average home made food for a low income family should cost between N150 to N300 depending on the quality.
If one person consumes N100 per meal, then s/he will consume N300 in a day, if he takes breakfast, lunch and dinner.
That means s/he will consume N300 x 30 =9,000 in a month. He was pressing the calculator without knowing were I am driving at.
N9,000 x the six (6) people in your house = N54,000 excluding you. If your cost is added, let's say it's not up to N,9000 because you don't usually eat lunch in the house. Let's say it is N200 x 30 dayss = N6,000 if your lunch money is excluded.
Then the total food cost in your house per month = N60,000, that is, if a plate is N100. Remember that a plate of food can never be N100.
If the average cost is N150, then you should be thinking of N90,000 per month as the food money for your home. Remember, we have not considered other expenses.
If the average cost is N200, which is still not too costly for a good home made meal, then you should be thinking of N120,000 per month as the food money for your family.
At this point, the man was looking at me in utter surprise with his mouth wide open.
The friend immediately cut in awe, thank you my brother, thank you my brother, you are God sent, I have been telling this my friend that women hardly waste money but he never agrees.
He started calling the bar man , abeg bring a bottle of beer for this our friend, infact bring two at a time and a plate of perper soup for him.
I now asked the man to call his wife immediately and apologise to her, which he obliged, men have ego issues but not in this case because he have realised how wrong he was.
He called the wife and said "Babe, I am so sorry for hitting you, please forgive me. I have realised my mistake, please forgive, At this point we can hear the faint voice of his wife crying and sobbing at the other end. We asked him to invite her over. He begged her and told her the name of the joint we are in. Though the wife initially refused but his friend took the phone and asked her to come that we will be eagerly waiting to meet her. Then she agreed. The husband took the phone again and asked her to take Keke drop.
In the next 20mins she was with us. And we all apologized to her and narrated to her about our calculation, how she is so right. We could see a wave of inner joy that engulfed her. Then smile showed up on her face and she leaned on her husband's shoulder.
Then, I ordered for Fish Berbecue while the friend was ordering for more drinks.
We all went home happy.
Women are indeed amazing, they try much hard to keep the home going without little or no appreciation. When they go to market, they will price and price and will not hesitate to go round the whole market to ensure they are buying at the best price.
Men, let us appreciate our women a little, please. Kindly share widely to bring peace in various homes.
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Before you started this your calculation I expected you to have asked what he earns We cut our coat according to our cloth. There are people whose one meal at home will be N3000...In mathematical calculations you work from question to answer and not from answer to question Hope you collected their number to follow up that the quarrel has completely ended Everyone in paid employment is not satified with their earnings. Labour unions continue to request for pay rise. Give a 10% pay rise today, every one is happy and in 3 month euphoria has ended and the agitation has started all over again. It is the way of life.
I agree to appreciating women a little, but they should also appreciate the men a little too. If both parties appreciate each other there will be more peaceful homes with minimal rancour!!!
Primate Babatunde Elijah Ayodele has categorically stated that nobody can take over his church in the wake of the recently amended Companies and Allied Matters Act (CAMA).
In an exclusive interview with Legit tv, the fiery preacher noted that he built the church with his sweat and labor of many years, therefore, nobody can dictate to him how to run the affairs of his denomination.
The Founder of INRI Evangelical Spiritual Church also condemned Christian Association leaders for allowing themselves to be used by the government to promulgate such.
These chinese people are determined in keeping us in 17th century.
Is this not the same train in one of Jackie Chan's films, "Once upon a time in China produced in 1991?
This train was first manufactured in 1812. It emits atmospheric pollution. Just when sane countries are talking of clean energy, we are doing nonsense.
It's unfortunate.
Where did the same countries intend for us to be Like our British colonial masters
lexy2014: Is CAC in charge of collecting tax in Nigeria?
Simple yes or no
Like I said earlier, people should not argue for the sake of arguing. Why because it is counter productive. Everyone knows the crux of this matter but some have chosen to live in self denial and playing around semantics!!!
mattbass: I laugh in Hindi language. Can you go through what you just wrote down and read the whole epistle on CAMA. Don't quote what you don't have an idea on. Stop reading a verse of passage and believe that you have understood everything.
We have seen you that knows it all. Let God fight his fight.... not Oyedepo.
Evercurious: You guys can never change.. instead of you to take the one wey concern you go cry for yourself you dey tell the speaker say him own country sef follow as if you no go deny Nigeria 100 times within 4 seconds if given a better option of trading your citizenship.lol..
Growth is a process filled with both positives and negetives.... Its like advising the child who took his or her first steps and fell to go and be crying for falling... I fail, I learn and I move on...not cry...
robosky02: Emmanuel Onwubiko: The idiocy of attacking Oyedepo on CAMA
Recently, one of the most powerful voices against dictorship and human rights violations in Nigeria and the founding Bishop of the fastest growing religious organisation:- the Living Faith Church, Reverend David Oyedepo has been made the object of political campaign calumny and vicious attacks by the Current president of Nigeria Muhammadu Buhari.
The unreasonable reason for these deluge of attacks including media attacks by some completely ignorant and rebellious characters, is because of the stand of the Christian leader concerning certain provisions of the companies and Allied matters Act of 2020 in which the financial controls of religious and non-governmental organisation were interfered with and certain powers vested in the Corporate Affairs Commission (CAC). ........
These amendments that relates to the plot by President Muhammadu Buhari to control how NGOs and Churches are administered are satanic and must be expunged by the National Assembly or annulled by the Court of law immediately.
To the writer of this epistle, it is funny when Oyedepo talks to the president any how from his pulpit, he is the Oracle of God. Why are we shouting Is God not capable of fighting his own battles If it is the will of God, it will happen, and if it is not, it will not happen. Would the minister remove the board of trustees without a cogent reason Ok when that happens will the courts not be there to seek redress Why are we making a mountain of a mole hill The succession plan for churches in Nigeria are to their kids... In 1 Samuel 3: Did Eli not have children, why did he not pass the mantle to them
PoliticallyInco: One I know recently got introduced to a guy overseas.
She has had a boyfriend who is a computer Science graduate from University of Benin. The guy is hustling, trying to set himself up as a young graduate.
Now the girl gets introduced to a guy overseas by an older in-law/relative who is in the USA. She hadn't even got to know this guy well and what his intentions are. She had barely talked to this guy for one week.Suddenly she rushes to break up with the Uniben /Nigerian guy. This guy called and begged and even cried. It got so bad she will give the phone to her young relative (a little girl) to tell the guy that she is no longer interested in him but in the most insulting and derogatory tone. This young gun kept calling. I wondered at how simpish he was. What he doesn't know is that God has just allowed him dodge a bullet. Because she would have abandoned him in future if she met someone better.
Finally, the overseas guy tells her that he doesn't think their religious differences will be nice in a relationship such as marriage. Then she starts begging the overseas guy. Trying to convince him that it can work out fine. She was left devasted for days. Nigerian guy, lost. American guy, also lost.
Who knows maybe the Nigerian guy will be stupid enough to have her back. But the overseas guy should also count himself lucky. He also dodged a bullet. Because if she can abandon a guy she has been dating for almost a year for a guy in the US she barely met within 2 weeks, then she is a really horrible person and a gold digger. She is living on primal/animal instinct and is very unreasonable.
What I want people to know is that the withdrawal of affection or love can either be sudden or happen over a long time. It can be acute or chronic. In anyway it can either be mainly your fault or the person's. But do we ever tell ourselves the truth?
Also, because we feel we have invested a lot into these relationships, we feel we are in too deep to go back. We have sacrificed a lot, so we keep staying in loveless relationships. If a lady says she doesn't want, leave her alone. Don't go begging to be loved. Don't go grovelling.
The American guy was in control and true to himself. He actually lost nothing...
Klass99: My classmate's story when we were @ University. I'll call her Nengi because she was just as hot as the BBN housemate (if not hotter sef)
Nengi was dating a working class guy off campus and would often visit him at his crib, she had some of her stuff at his place as well. She visited one weekend and all her stuff were gone (clothing, toiletries, etc) When she asked where her things were, dude said his crib had been broken into and the thieves made away with her things.
Thieves broke in but somehow only her things were missing! This was the first sign that things weren't right but none of us saw, what was to come. Mike (not his real name) did a 360 degree turn afterwards and started dating one of Nengi's close friends and eventually married her. I don't think they did proper marriage rites cos Nengi's friend got pregnant and moved in with Mike (not his real name) I hear they are still living as man and wife, several years later.
Nengi was devastated because she truly loved Mike and wasn't playing games on him, she also had a good character as far as, I could tell. So, I didn't understand the switch he made either. The shocker for me was the friend he went for. Adams Oshiomole will best describe the girl he ended up with.
Mike had proposed to Nengi prior to all this drama and if I remember correctly, he had gone to see her parents about his intentions. Some people say jazz was involved. I didn't know what to think back then or even now, except, fear men
Her friend got pregnant for him. Most guys at this point, there is no going back. Nengis friend moved in immediately in order to secure her grip without proper marriage.
These Oshiomole type, their womb na magnet wallahi...part of the test of most men...between honour and your true emotions.
lexy2014: I don't need to read ur subsequent post. There's a reason u brought up d issue of tax. If u say d thread didn't mention tax, y then did u say:
"What is anti Christian about it Jesus Christ himself paid tax...remember the money from the fish! Or give to Ceaser what belongs to Ceaser, and to God what is Gods'."
Oldpikin: I'm 27 and a graduate. But I look so much like I'm still a teenager and it turning me to an introvert. And my voice isn't helping especially when I'm on phone. I wanted to start smoking weed for a thicker voice but someone told me that it doesn't work for everybody.
I was about to start using some stuffs for my beards to grow but I'm scared of the side effects. Do you know how I get a thicker voice in few days? Do you know how I could get beards in few days using organic combinations?
alizma: When news like this comes up, try and dig further to get more info on the topic in order not to respond ignorantly thereby bringing yourself down. A question was thrown to the girl, given her three men and she is to class the three men into who she would rather take home to her mother(husband), who she will have a night stand with and who she will just keep as a friend? And she class them base on her perception of them, this doesn't mean she is soliciting for one night stand with wizkid. I believe her response is not different from that of an average human being.
AFONJAPIG: another APShit miscreant on the loose another APShit miscreant on the loose
Funny when someone has an opposing views, insults will have to follow... Just imagine a debate between 2 schools and you begin to use those words you used above in the course of reeling out your points l am sure you will win the debate...
Insults do not convey views better during a discuss... unfortunately so...at best it shows an inferiority complex, and bullish tendencies as a means to an end because you are loosing...
favor914: Nobody is bigger than his party, even the President, Obaseki should have just gracefully walked away like Ambode, since the party, and same mafia members that gave him the opportunity have chosen to go otherwise, why jump into the Enemies camp, and expect your former colleagues, & very good friends Yahaya Bello & Co, to treat you like a gentleman?, no honor amongst thieves, APC will treat Obaseki like a traitor. Whatever he experiences he should accept it in good fate. Politics is not Business.
Gbam!!! If him loose, na jail him dey see so. They will not rest until he is silenced for good...
backbone503: Does Godday Idahosa and his mushroom party have any recognizable name nor political clout in Edo state? This is a well known political con man looking for candidates to extort money from. Fortunate for him, he found a good client in the drowning obaseki who is desperately looking for support and endorsement.
That is the only person that can pay for now. Any how there must be left overs after the tax collectors took their bite...
Firstlady25: Fast rising Nollywood actress, Koko Pat has cried out on wanting to have a hot one night stand with popular singer and everyone’s favorite, Wizkid.
In an Exclusive ‘tell it all” interview with Gift Adene of Kemi Filani News, Popular Nollywood actress cum producer, Koko Pat opened up about her personal life, her relationship, growing up, family and challenges.
Koko who mark her birthday today with breathtaking photos opened up on the celebrity she would love to have a one night stand with. She further talked about her journey to becoming an actor, her motivation in life and more. Read the interview below…
1: How would describe your childhood?
My childhood was Fun. Not from the most buoyant home but my parents gave us the best experience. I was allowed to be a kid and act like one.
2: Why did you choose acting?
I didn’t choose acting. Acting was more of a natural thing. Its something I have strong passion for. Started acting from way back in my nursery school. I feel almost happy each time I am on set. Even when I’m sad immediately I get a script I forget my sorrows.
3. What are the challenges you're facing as an actress in Nigeria?
Money is my only challenge,as a new act you need packaging to belong or to be noticed.
4. How she handles these challenges
By not giving up. I’m still pushing and I pray I get noticed soon.
5. Who is your role model ?
My mum is my role. I look up to her for everything. Her personality enders people to her. My biggest motivation and reason am pushing really hard.
6. Are you in a relationship? If yes, with who?
I’m in relationship with my God
7. Between Wizkid, Davido and Burnaboy, Who would you like to have a one night stand with, have as just friend and the one you would take to your parent?
Burna Boy is tall and has the personality I want, so I will take him home. One night stand with Wizkid and be friends with Davido.
8. Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
I see myself in Hollywood, working as one of the best producer/actor. I trust God to help me achieve this dream.
9. Any word for your fans?
Never give up, whatever you dream to do wake up and do it. Set back will definitely come by never get disconnected from your goals.
Zzor: At 37 and you are still like this,you are even the one looking for her trouble because she didn't hide her wayward lifestyle from you but as a lover boy,you ignored,so enjoy your relationship and go ahead with your marriage plans and stop complaining,you weren't sleepwalking when you agreed to still date her after she opened up to you.
So people cannot change in others words
A girl that people say is way word confesses to having slept with only 3 men. Guys any one that confesses to 4 or 5 means the whole village...
alizma: He suddenly identify with deposed monarchs few weeks to his election. He has been on that sit for some years without asking of their well-being. Selfish politician
Such is life, they only need you when the want to use you...
Romance › Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Dalby(m): 10:23pm On Aug 25, 2020
We cut our coat according to our cloth. There are people whose one meal at home will be N3000...In mathematical calculations you work from question to answer and not from answer to question 
