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livebyday:How will the nation survive when the "Captains of the Ship" are bent on a suicide mission? Just accept that the current President is a terrorist Sympathiser, Simple. As absurd as that may be, if we factor in the fact that he is a Fulani, he has his roots in another country (Niger Republic), he and hell RUfai invited these Fulani terrorists from all over W/African states and Morroco, to come and cause mayhem if he looses the 2015 election (which he won), their decision to "hold land", as against Nomadic life and Buhari has assured them that the best place to settle is Nigeria, where he is President and does not give a Bleep about how many lives are lost to achieve that plan and that the terrorists are of his own Fulani stock (he said so himself but added that they are foreign Fulanis).................... Is it not feasible, even if not very clear to his sympathisers that he and his fellow Fulani are behind the enduring Fulani terrorism plaguing Nigeria? It is not rocket science to see. The Insurgency and terrorism Problem of Nigeria quadrupled since Buhari came to Office, as he has assigned the military to protect the terrorists, he pays them Money and encourages them thus,it is getting worse by the day. [b]I hope we can wobble and fumble to 2023 when we can get rid of this cancer but my instincts tell me that the enxt two years will be so bad that we wont be able to hold it together, as they accelerate their Genocide Plan, knowing that 2023 is fast approaching. We just need to stand our ground steadfastly, No Retreat, No Surrender[/b] |
Toks2008:Which one be SPIRIT again? Nigerians and their giving life to every common phenomena sha ![]() And a lot of people consider their first marriage a MISTAKE and having divorced and remarried, they have found happiness in their second marriage, that lasted them their Life time. I know so many Elderly Couples in that category so, l'm not just imagining it. ![]() How is it that they are "forced to tolerate" the new Wife? If they cannot be forced to tolerate the first one, what makes you think such person can be FORCED to tolerate the next one? As a matter of historical fact, people who have divorced once, have a higher tendency to divorce again, and again, if they keep re-marrying. Most would rationalise that: "if they did not tolerate something then, they wont tolerate it now" amd having experience divorce once, they don tlive in fear of it anymore. No Bullshyte. ![]() Do you not think that some people can make the mistake of marrying the wrong person in their first marriage (laying emphasis on beauty or physical attributes, money, family connections, celebrity status, etc) and then get it right in their latter marriage? That is what l think makes the second marriage, even though more challenging, work better than most first marriages. |
Chinny024:Pastor that is already eyeing your wife before, na to help you scatter the marriage further sef. But then, if the Wall does not open, Lizard Pastor/Iman cannot enter |
johnkey:In-between the ten years, who were they fucking or who are they pretending for? So, what happens to those "Men and Women"? DUPED? ![]() Anyway, another Son of Adam has gone back to his Vomit. ![]() I hate "Dogs". If youknow, you know. |
techmo:Aaaah, she don sufffer for dem hand o. She is eternally wounded. ![]() Olosho eye don see sheege, walahi. |
arsenal33:You dey compare lowly Boko to Al Queida? |
Dand12:Why dont you hack the account of any of those thieves looting Nigeria, it is the account of Spouse that you want to hack? Misplaced priorities full this Nigeria sha. You will see Armed Robbers with correct gun going to rob in middle income areas when they see the Homes of Senators, Governors, cabal oil magnates that load Money inside Soakaways. Stupid Boko haram is dropping bombs on innocent people when the "Meeting House of looting Politicians" is here in Abija. ![]() |
tradepunter:If the bolded is true, why then does the Army not adopt a strategy of CARPET-BOMBING such isolated, uninhabited locations that the terrorists occupy? The Nigerian military is more interested in bombing Southern Nigeria locations occupied by Civilians (Akwa Ibom, Benue, South East, etc), than bombing terroirists locations in the North., according to the instructions of their Fulani heirachy. Such Miliatry has made itself the butt of jokes of many nations. |
YoungLionken:The "Fulani Wing" of the Nigerian Army and the Fulani Terrorists are one and the same. That is what we get when we elect a "foreign terrorist" from Niger Republic, as the President of Nigeria. |
Ammishaddai:Heeeh, dont get greedy o! I am the one entitled to the "Real Hugs", please make do with the E-Hugs. ![]() More E-Hugs, from me to both of you |
Juliearth:Dont worry, we are all cool. I am happy that both of you are at peace. I know it can be a challenge not to get angry at times. ![]() |
maasoap:Where in the Post did you read that she was just staying for 30mins or 3days? How would you know? You mean a MIL will leave her house probably at 6:30am, drive for 35mins in Nigeria's early morning Holdups, just to "Say Hi" to her Son-inlaw and then drive back after staying for 10mins? ![]() You guys need an Upgrade, really. In-laws dont come and spend five minutes on Visits, they likely will sleep-over. and you cant tell them when to leave. ![]() What if it was a working day and the Couples have to go to work? That means they have to leave her all alone at home. She came at 7:30am for God's sake and it is not her first visit.. Let me give an example: What if they have just fumigated the House at that 7:30am (since they will be at work all day) and she just bumped-in as they were about going out, will she not be embarrassed when told she cannot stay and have to go back or will she kill her self with the Mosquitoes, just to prove she can visit anytime? Is that kind of embarrassment not better avoided, just by calling them to inform them of your intention to come to Visit? |
Ammishaddai:It has nothing to do with being African. To be 'African', is not to lack mannerisms and Courtesy, to others. ![]() What is Right is Right. Respecting people's boundaries, timelines, Home, etc are just Courtesies and Respect for ourselves and the people we are visiting. These are Universal values though it is not everyone that imbibes them. Some dont even know they are "worthwhile values", as we can see from this thread. ![]() |
Juliearth:You need not mention his/her Mother,The insult was directed to you, not your Mother. Caveat: This does not excuse his use of foul language on you, it is wrong. |
forestwilda:You guys are just speaking out of emotion, most of you are not even reading the story! Once you see "tell me before you visit", you'all just go gaaga ![]() If you want something to work and always work out well, you set "boundaries". When l am going out, l tell my wife and children where l am going because that is what my own parents did while we are growing up and l know it is the right thing to do. Does it mean my parents are afraid of their children or that l am afraid of my wife and children or that l am responsible to them? When l want to visit my in-laws, we call them about three days earlier and tell them we are coming on so-so day. Is it because they dont like us or we hate them or just to make sure they are very comfortable with that date and are ready to receive us on that date? Does it also not show that we respect their RIGHT to chose the day they want to be visited? When they are coming, they call us too and we are happy to receive them and spoil them as much as we can. It is a system of mutual respect and courtesy we have developed for each other. Except on emergency, even my wife will dare not go to her parents home without informing them first, her Dad will ask: Is there a problem or why are you here unannounced. It happened once, a long time ago and she jokingly told me about it, saying "my Dad does not see me as an occupant of his house again"! I just smiled and told her: "I will always admire your Dad". Anyway, it all depends on the Parent, a Mother-Inlaw that respects herself will not be hobbbling into her Son-inlaws house every now and then, unannounced. You dont wait until they tell you to do the right thing, before you know, that is why you are older and supposed to be self-respecting. |
donbachi:I pity people like you, whose idea of Right or Wrong, is determined by MONEY. That is really sad . And FYI, the Wife of a President does not have the FREE TIME to be visiting her Son-Inlaw's house everyday, she has Pet-Projects and other important things to do. When was the last time Aisha, Patience or Turai visited their Son-Inlaws house? Go and find out and come back here' These Wives of Presidents, stay in their own Husband's House, that is how sensible MIL do. If we look well, it is broke, idle and possessive MIL that run to their Son-inlaws house regularly, forgetting they too have a Home and a husband. |
Aforxzy:Thank you jare, your head dey there. The Mother-inlaw does not need to be told that Young Couples need time alone and she should not only iform them before she comes but should limit her kurukere visits to once in three Months.riving 35mins, just to go and know what is happening in her daughter's Home, she should be going to work or attending to her own Husband and home but some MIL are so jobless, they cant stay in their own home again. A busy or working MIL does not have time to be visiting at 7:30am in the Morning. Some see their daughters husband as the Passport to all the goodies they missed in their own husbands house. Every Woman should stay in their own home, with their own husband or does MIL want to become second wife of the Son-inlaw nii? Informing them before you Visit and limiting your Visits, is a matter of Courtesy, Privacy, Discipline and Common Sense. Dont wait till "see-finish" enters your relationship with your Son-Inlaw before you do the right thing Reading the responses here, l can see that a lot of Nigerians lack these Virtues and need re-orientation. |
densiks:This one is a slave to Money, no doubt. Goldenklassy:Comprehension is the problem of many people on this thread! ![]() @Op DID NOT say Mother-inlaw should not visit, that would be wrong. Read the post again, please. His complaint was that she should INFORM THEM BEFOREHAND, of her Visits How difficult is that? Carry your Mobile phone and say: I will be coming to your House tomorrow. next Tomorrow, carry phone again and say: I will be sleeping over tomorrow. After that, carry phone again and say: I will be spending the next two weeks in your House, as from tomorrow. ![]() And the "Visit" should not be everyday, so to speak. Once, in three or four Months is okay or does Mother-inlaw want to turn to second wife nii? |
joyousever:Which one is "stopping-by", for a driving distance of 35mins? Lagos to Ibadan in One Hour, so someone will drive halfway between Lagos and Ibadan and call it "stopping-by"? Stopping-by on the way to where? How many times in a Month would she be stopping by? Is she that idle that she cant find something to do with her time again? You call the @Op "stingy", what if he was affected by the Pandemic and is just managing the little amount left between him and his wife? It is idle people and time wasters who just keep running from one place to another, under the excuse of Casual Visit. Women are fond of running around their Son-in-laws place, leaving their own husband isolated and most of them end up ruining their daughter's marriage. One "Stop-by Visit" in FOur Months is enough., for anyone who is not jobless or idle. Anyway, this busy-body behaviour, starts early in life. Edit: many people think the @Op is about her not visiting them at all, which will be wrong. The @Op is about her VISITING WITHOUT NOTICE, WHICH IS A MATTER OF RESPECTING ONE'S PRIVACY. And maybe about the FREQUENCY of the Visit, Any decent and intelligent Parent-in-law should know that newly married Couples need their privacy more than anything, let them grow together as a family, not poke-nosing into their affairs every minute. |
Midas01:You are wrong, confirm. The only house the mother inlaw has control over, is her own husband's house, not her Son-in-law's House. To affirm my position: Can she force her way in or call the Police to come and break the door, if she is refused entry? This siwhat ordinarily one would do, for a house that is your own. Her Visit is at the pleasure of the owner of the House, her son-in-law. His wife is an "appendage" to his ownership, that is, her "sub-ownership" derives from any power her husband surrenders to her. Ownership authority (husband) is not the same thing with "resident-ship authority" (wife). |
In this age of Mobile Phones, it is not difficult to inform someone, even if it is by text, that you will be in their House in five minutes time or you are at the door and want to come in. But some people (including in-laws) enjoy bursting-in on others and just running roughshod over their privacy and dare you to complain. I am sure she has a phone but just dont think she has to call to inform you. Now, you cant keep running away from an inlaw with such mentality. What l would do, if l were you: 1. Tell your Wife to tell her that SHE (not you) does not want her to come over without first informing her, so she can also inform her husband, so they can prepare for her visit and that visit should be limited to 'at most', ONCE in FOUR Months. 2) Refuse to open the door for her, on one of those unannounced visits (I hope it is raining that day or it is in the evening ) while letting her know that you are at home.3) If after much pressure from your wife and you allow her in on such day, make sure she sleeps in the living room to let her know that she came in suddenly and you are not prepared for her visit and ensure she leave the next morning or that same evening, if she came in the morning. Ofcurse, if she informs you and she is welcomed, treat her like a Queen for the period of her stay. BTW, does she have a husband? Does she have other children, other female children? Is she still young (40- 55yrs?) These are psychological factors that MAY affect her running around or not. |
Eval123:How did we end up with stupid guys like you? How can a 28yr old call himself a young guy? ![]() Its either you love her, she loves you and both of you agree to marry or not, what has her age "by then", got to do with it? Whether you marry her today or in five years time, there will still be the same age difference of two years between the two of you or are you going to still be 28yrs in five years time, Confused Heeediout! ![]() I feel like slapping your head off yoru shoulder right now. Please free the lady, you will make a terrible husband and father of children. And you are an age fraudster as well, gosh. |
oyeb15:While what you wrote is true, the reality is an exposee on the hatred those control the levers of power within the Nigerian Military, have for Southerners in Nigeria. Believe me, these Fulanis have plans, very horrible plans for Southern Nigeria and the Middle Belt and except we all wake up fast and standup strong against this GENOCIDE, Buhari and his folks do not give a Bleep. Using AirStrikes against your own Citizens, within your own borders, in the middle of a Civilian Villages and towns, is TREASON. Buhari and his Fulani Jihadist are guilty of Treason. This wont end well. |
Guide777:It boils down to the fact that Buhari is enabling and carrying out GENOCIDE in Southern Nigeria and the Middle Belt. The Jihadi-Fanatic from Futa Jalon in Guinea must be resisted at all cost |
Idiko1:You see yourself? You are Refugee in Lagos, yet you cant even go back to your dirty Region to Vacate? What happened to all those Yam-Tuber leg girls from your Region? Too dirty and too smelly for your taste? Akpaara |
luluman:And why has air strike not done it against Boko haram, ISWAP and the multitude of Fulani terrorists kidnapping Female Students and raping them, all over the North? Or is it only in the South that Air Strikes can work, Muumu Some of you forget to insert your brain before talking. |
So, the Nigerian Military had the capability to bomb and level a whole Community in the South East and Middle Belt? But it CANNOT bomb the Camp of Fulani Terrorists, who not only killed Soldiers, who not only overrun Barracks but also rape and kidnap innocent Students and our Farmers? You see the DOUBLE STANDARD of the "Fulani-infested Nigerian Military" and why they wont get any sympathy form the Middle Belt to down South? The "Nigerian Fulan"i Military is being used for Genocide and the World must know this and deal with Buhari |
oilPUSSY:And the former Ambassador is saying Utter Rubbish! Just this February 2021, the American Govt of Joe Biden OFFERED to assist Nigeria to fight Fulani Terrorists that are raping, kidnapping and killing Nigerians. But Buhari, through one of his Fulani Special Assistants, said "Nigeria does not need Help". I heard and watched it with my eyes and ears on the TV. Buhari knows that if the American Security gets involved, they will expose the financiers and God-fathers of this Fulani terrorirsts and it would be traced back to him, hence his refusal So, to say it is the Americans that are reluctant to help, is a big lie. I will search for the link to the information online and post it here once l get it. |
Lovethaa:Get another Bed and put in same room or by the side of the other. When Kung Fu begins, just roll over to the other bed and live happily thereafter. Small problem, you cant handle ![]() |
Jmw2kblogposts:A Woman will always Cheat ..... for a reason, ANY reason. Thing is, Cheating is Women, Men should just be aware and not be deceived. That is why most marriage are 'scams' because she promises not to cheat, when she knows she will cheat, if allowed to MA'GUN to the rescue! Men of today must adopt the ways of their Forefathers. Just quietly, put the "insurance" there and your mind will be at rest. No need to shoot, strangle or injure anyone |
GENES11S:That is why most of them end up with a bullet in the head or strangled. Something MUST give. ![]() |
jikaseo:Your head dey dea jawe. ![]() Any Man expecting Loyalty from a woman, is a complete Fool and he is setting up himself for heartaches. ![]()
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