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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .
It gives me joy seeing men so deeply in love, they can be so humble at that time, they can be so forgiving ooooo and they can overlook shit from the babe, even when they see you on top man,dem no go mind but when dem no love you, even if you are a virgin mary, your honey will be like bitter leaf to them. Oga Op! I leave you with your girlfriend o,may God help you.

Randy100:
I agree with you 100% but a woman who wants her marriage to work will make it to work. Proverb 14 vs 1

. This is what is ruining many homes,only woman build home and make marriage works while the man fold his arms,sleep around,irresponsible and serve the woman with all shit because she is the builder, the woman gets fed up,starts nagging,care less and face her kids,the man continues his irresponsibilities with this stupid mentality and the home becomes a war front! Pls marriage is a work for two, if you are not ready to head home and build it together with your wife, stay single, May God help us ooo.

YorubaNinja:
Nigerian Churches are the worst filled with evil intentions and materialism. The platform on which 98% of Nigerian churches business ventures are built is as a result of poverty and to make money NOT, win souls.

>98% of the Pastors are even more corrupt than the 9ja Politicians. The know the truth but would NEVER speak it. They Nigerian people are also very, very bad. Their mindset set towards one another if filled with evil intentions and jealousy.

You wonder why the nation suffers while other nations that are less religious progress.

. Oga YorubaNinja! Which one you be You be Chinese ni? They Nigerians! You no be Naija ni Bad people are every where! And not all Nigerians are bad! No leave marriage matter con dey fight church, leave the churches to God, face your life race,run it and make good impact!

YorubaNinja:
Awon adviser.. Africans and their foolish mentality!

Na ONLY Africans dey do medical test as a condition for marriage which makes it conditional love. 'True love' loves unconditionally. I'm even surprised 9ja churches dey encourage all this medical test prior to marriage. Should I be surprised? 98% of them are fake churches anyway. That shows their level of faith. God is love and love above everything else.... Not in a place like 9ja where poverty and wealth determines everything.

In developed worlds, they love unconditionally regardless of the their partner's medical condition. Some even go ahead to marry their partners on their death beds.

. Oga Anti Africa/Anti church,No church is telling couple not to marry whosoever they chose to marry,medical test allows you to know the health status of your partner and to be counselled, it’s left to you to decide if you want to go ahead or not if medical test proves you both are incompatible especially on the cases of blood types having known the implications,if medical test is ruled out,how would you know how to care for an HIV partner or those with terminal illnesses? How would you know how to manage him/her and the transmission? you can marry your spouse on any health conditions if you so wish, No church will stop you! We Nigerians should stop this bad mouthing of the churches and Nigeria thingy, there is evil in every part of the world!

Rachaelgold:
These words are loaded. Thank you very much.
More Grace

. Thanks ma’am

IMO,people should take time to know themselves very well before rushing into marriage,nowadays you’ll see people that only met for 3/6months when the love is still shacking them get married,no background check,no temperamental check,no perseverance check,no psychological check,no marriage ideology or understanding check,no maturity check and so on,they just want to join the league of the married ones,to have constant sex or to shut the society up, the ones doing a long time relationship sef,have multiple partners and can’t even work on one spouse,some sef relationship to them is all about sex and going out together with no understanding of what relationship and marriage should be,they never ask themselves if they can still cope with the person even if he/she turns bad,if they can manage him/her no matter the situation The truth is, no one is perfect,one just have to look for who you can bear in all cases, if you are in a relationship with someone you know you can’t tolerate in their bad state,the timing in relationship allows you to let go easily other than finding it hard to let go in marriage because of societal pressure and stigmatisation but we must know that we are not answerable to anyone about our lives but God Take your time,know your spouse,don’t let anyone push you,family and friends will push you and back off when it turn sour! let people talk! marry at your convinient time,marry when you have gotten it right with the person you about to marry, your time of marriage doesn’t matter,what truly matters is your peace! If you are in a bad marriage,run! You can still get it right with another person!

PrinceMajestic:
This has always been true, same findings with Richard's cave men. Oldest human species re always been discovered in Africa dated back to million years old Australopithecus afarensis, Paranthropus boisai, Homo heidelbergensis, Homo rudolfensis, Homo florincensis, Homo eagaster, Pithecanthropus erectus(java man), homo sapien (ancestor of present africans)Homo neanderthals (whiteman ancestor that migrated to colder regions) and recently discovered Homo nadeli in Kenya, all these are fossil evidences that prove evolution of man in relation to changing climatic conditions over time but the least years of man evolution is not less than 400k years which features man in different shapes and forms like our ancestors 7th centuries back still fed on juice n plant nectars like present day apes, survived harsh weather conditions and had a wild forms compared to present day man. We humans re not existing alone as the only wise species, there re more alien species even more intelligent and complex than man as confirmed by US scientists so these re knowledge that re worth it but all we care about in 3rd world countries like mine is a stupid tool of foolery called religion that has no factual evidences about its claim on the universe but have made gullible people to believe a white bearded fairy whose lie was invented 2000 years ago is a creator of this diverse universe but cannot tell us who created that creator. The planet is billions of years old, man has evolved, lived, and survived millions of years the different favourable and unfavorable climatic conditions that comes with evolution of the eartt nd led some homonid species to extinction. We have been here b4 religions, before government or anything, we have lived wild in the bushes and caves before evolution brought us here today, who knows 5000years from now present wild apes like Gorilla gorilla, Pongo pygmaeus, Pan paniscus, Pan troglodytes will evolve into a better version of primate species superior to man and they will claim they were never wild animals in the bush like we ancient wild apes claims today. You re either an animal or plant as a living thing and if you're an animal you're a mammal, a primate and a great ape. Embrace science and be a reasonable sapien not some dull empty brain religious fanatic.#ProudlyHomonidspp. #ProudlyGreatApe

. You make sense you know! I believe so much in God’s existence though, I also believe the world has been here for billions of years or even more, only Adam and Eve couldn’t have been our only origin as humans as they only had two sons,how cain came by his wife is a mystery as no other humans apart from Adam and Eve started the human creation as we were told(according to bible records) Also the evolution of apes and probably other animals comes to mind(humans may also have origin from animals) and with the knowledge of crude oil being formed by fossils for million of years,we can agree with the scientists that the earth has been here not just for 2000years but for years we can’t search, well google says the earth is 4.543 billion years, I am sure it’s more than that!

An 8 years old child sleeping on the same bed with the parent? Beautiful rubbish! Do we even understand the use of the baby cribs we buy during baby shopping? It is not for decoration or to be displayed for guests to see you have one, couple sleeping on the same bed without the interference of children is beyond sex! It’s bonding,it’s saying nothing can come between you two,not even your children! good parenting is not keeping children who are ought to be sleeping peacefully on their own on your bed! I was brought up in a room and parlour settings,I can’t remember sleeping in between my parent even I was the only child for 9years! Couples should pls work on this

Brandonx:
How can one accept Christ. I was raised in a Christian home but I grew up and stopped going to church. Now it seems like I'm missing something, I ve done things I'm not very proud of. I can't every say my prayers anymore. I really want to have this relationship with God.

. Repent of your sins,stop all those wrong things you do, open up your heart and cry out to God for help, you can start your prayers with not too long sentences,you will improve as you do that continuously, join a church that preaches the true word of God,attend bible study services to help you understand the bible, most importantly always let it be in your heart that you are nothing without God,this will help you to always reach out to him, may God help you.

Skyfornia:
Hmm...Las Las they are going to make this girl a celebrity. Bad things for naija can make you rich overnight.

Anyway, I'm just here thinking of a bad stunt to pull to make me trend. Please PM if you have any suggestion.

. Hawking a coffin completely naked

@op you took all the blame or you should be ashamed of yourself,you slept with your fiancée bestie not once or twice but severally before she left your place,you allowed your organ to be your control unit,whatever happens to pulling away and telling the devil off? Na people like you dey sleep with their house maid because the girl is putting on a short skirt or because she’s too busty, Oga open up to your fiancée,seek for her forgiveness,am sure she will forgive if she truly loves you and please stop all your self exaltation which is entering your head(irresistible my foot) and learn to control yourself.

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Our existence and GOD is deep and deeper than what we can reason,if we look too much for answers about all these things, we may end up running mad, how do we explain how we get to sleep and start another journey in another realm? Our souls leave our physical bodies,transcend into another world where we may find ourselves in the past, future or where we can't describe,what about the life events that is full of puzzles? Some says our existence has been scripted and every events is playing out according to the script! What about the reincarnation stories, someone died here,he/she is seen in another place, how do we also get to see dead families and friends in our dreams? What about the feeling of familiarity and connection we get on meeting some people for the first time? What of the feeling of loving some on the first meeting and not wanting to get close to others on first meeting even when they are not bad?some times I question myself on who I am! I could go on and on cause I started this questioning since I was little and I had to stop as I grow older cause I don't want to run mad,I am a Christian and I don't see the consciousness of all these questions as not believing in GOD,some of us think deeply.

cobsol:
Oya start your own company and pay people you guys will keep face like shit and run away,

Bro the pressure to be a CEO in this country is greater and idiots like u have the mentality of counting down date a take salary and not be productive

Oga CEO! You don't have to call someone an idiot before you make your point

OdefaGirl:
You just have to be creative for tailoring job, even hairdressing job... Before I get what I want, I just have to make out time and sit with my tailor to instruct and draw....
Thinking of grabbing a machine, learning the ABCs and sowing out my thing myself.

That is it my sis,tailoring has a lot to do with creativity, most of our tailors are not creative and they don't upgrade by trying out designs they've not done ,they can be frustrating at times but she should have voiced out her complains without talking it to the gram,As for me, I make my clothes now

Pls I just beg you guys bad mouthing Nigeria women,pls stop defaming us!
Having a good marriage doesn't have to do with race, your skin color or the language you speak, if you are abroad,came home to get a wife and it got bad and that made you create a bad identity for Nigeria women and discourage others thinking about doing such with deserving partners,permit me to say you are committing a grave sin against humanity and also accept my sincere sympathy if you fell into wrong hands,bad men and women are everywhere,Nigeria,America,Europe,Asia,middle east e.t.c,im sure your sisters and aunts are Nigerians,are they bad too Not every Nigeria women see you guys abroad as an escape route out of poverty,some of us are God fearing,hard working, disciplined and love genuinely,good marriage is more than big ass,big boobs,fine,skin colour,level of education or exposure or even fat pocket,i know people who married home based and are enjoying it,i also know another who got the other side of it, not leaving out those who married abroad based/other race and are enjoying it and those who also got screwed, Life happens! get a partner who loves you genuinely and understand what marriage is irrespective of his/her race.
I am Nigeria woman and I'm virtuous!!!

Be encouraged,work harder n prove her wrong, act as if you never met her at all, this will help you to forget the slay bitch easily,switch off her memory in your mind cause you deserve better and when you finally bounce back,look for a real woman who understands life and has the fear of GOD other than beauty,believe in your self and get up each time you fall and most importantly thank GOD you haven't ended up with this kind of foolish woman

Capensis:
Will you pay attention and stop this victim mentality. It is either you will take advise, since you brought this matter to the court of public opinion, or you will narrate your experience, believe your wife is the worst woman and conclude that you are leaving a marriage. You are sounding emotional and your feedback system has totally clouded your judgment.

Pay attention:
Being a husband is a full-time job. Just like any job, it comes with serious responsibilities and repercussions if you fail to understand how the game is played.

1. It is your responsibility to get the money, pay the rent, pay kids school fees. You are the chief medical officer of your home, so everyone's health including your wife's and kids', are under your care.

2. You are the chief security officer of your home, you must check that all doors are locked at night and ensure the safety of everyone in the family.

3. You are the chief romance officer, you must master how to play women with sweet words, give her massage every evening, and make sweet love to her during the massage sessions, and I mean this. Get a massage table, it goes for about 180K to 300K for a good one. If you cant afford that, then buy massage mat. Prepare the oil and get some candles.

4. You must join her in the kitchen, even if there is a maid to do the chores and help her out, you must learn this. Wash those plates sometimes.

5. You must lie down with that woman on bed after sex, hold her face, and tell her truths and lies of how you love her. Then if you have nothing more to do, do some gossiping with her. Stroke her nicely and tell her how hard you are working to ensure your family is financial stable for the next 100 years.

6. You must stop thinking like your ancestors. Define your own path and ignore customary and traditional ways of running your home. Times have changed. Why wont you fetch water and wash your own hand. Seems she is the one doing all the kitchen work and you are the African man waiting to be served. It is not mandatory, besides do you know if her mother used to serve her father that way? It might be she got a different kind of training.

7. Do not ever think you have done enough, cos you havent done jack. If you feel that your wife is cheating, then rent a place somewhere else and move towards a different location. It does not matter if you own the house you are living now. Go and rent someplace nice for a year and move there and change your children's school so as to forget the shame and embarrassment your quarrel may have caused. If it is your house, you can return back after a year.

8. Always remember that most women are like babies. You must master how to lie to them if you know that truth will hurt. Learn all those skills from yahoo boys how they control white women and use it for your marriage. If you do it right, your wife might be giving you pocket money sometimes and you all will fall in love again.

Do you think your wife is bad? You have no idea. No one will tell you what is going on in their homes.

Master how to manipulate women, and you will control them like a intimacy gadget.

God has chosen to bless you with a second to none understanding of how things work,I give it to you sir!

Beautiful woman

mhizroyalty:
Daddy Freeze should just STFU what concerns him and those paying tithes? At least those paying their tithes are not complaining so why is he taking panadol for another man's headache stupid man

(PROV. 3:9–10)
Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce; then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine.

Leviticus 27:30: (The tithe is introduced into law) A tithe of everything from the land, whether grain from the soil or fruit from the trees, belongs to the LORD; it is holy to the LORD.

Leviticus 27:32: The entire tithe of the herd and flock-- every tenth animal that passes under the shepherd's rod-- will be holy to the LORD.

Numbers 18:21: I give to the Levites (ministers) all the tithes…in return for the work they do while serving (the Lord).

Malachi 3:7–9: Return to me, and I will return to you," says the LORD Almighty. "But you ask, 'How are we to return?' "Will a man rob God? Yet you rob me. "But you ask, 'How do we rob you?' "In tithes and offerings. You are under a curse-- the whole nation of you-- because you are robbing me.

I can see his End is finally Here
Akpororo is the perfect match for him

Are you still operating and relying on the works of the law? If yes which I'm sure is no cause we are not observing and abiding by all those laws!
Read Galatians 3:10-14,though we should give and support the growth of house of GOD but if we should study the Bible thoroughly, we'll understand that the way our pastors preach tithe it's not the way it is written in the Bible

BluntBoy:
You want to eat your cake and have it

You are putting yourself in the bondage of the law that Jesus got cursed just to set you free from. And now, you still want the grace even though you want to remain under the law.

Do you know why Christ was cursed for our sake?

It is because the Law was like a curse, a bondage. There is no freedom. It is either you keep it (pay your tithe) or suffer the curse that comes with the law (the devourers of crops).

But Christ left the luxury of heaven and became wretched (human and mortal) so that we can be rich (have eternal life). He took upon himself the curse of the law and liberated us.

But you people want to continue to make a mockery of his sacrifices by remaining under the bondage of the law.

And the most annoying thing is that you want to play smart. You want to tithe but don't want to keep the other laws. Even the tithing procedures are regarded as unimportant by you people.

Spot on bro! Galatians 3:10-14

Mr op what you need is a woman with a well functioning brain that can sustain wealth, understanding, help you build and give you peace whether rich or poor, the issue of marriage is complicated that you can't just use a woman's family rich background as a yardstick to marry,desire a sweet and peaceful marriage