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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by CanadianNaija: 2:59pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: Look, it is ok to brag, but you have to do it sensibly. You do not know as much as you think going by your train of thought, so calm down. Even the Einsteins of this world with all their grandiose intelligence, didn't claim to be as knowledgeable as you are claiming. 6 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by mechanics(m): 3:04pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Just pray to God, He has the answer to your problem. |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by viexcey(f): 3:12pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
GodisGood4321: Marrying from a poor/rich family isn't the koko. Marry from a good home with good name, marry a lady that can stick and respect with you no matter what. Marry a lady that wouldn't want her family interference in her marriage. Some rich homes occasionally needs your support and you much drop it fat to impress. You see, it isn't about family financial status... Its all about the lady involved. Nothing is permanent. Rich can be poor and poor can be rich. Use yourself as an example. Some rich families are living off their parent money, when their parents are gone... Money goes gradually while some humble families have graduates or bright people, things might be great tomorrow for them. BTW, don't you have a gf while you were hustling? If you have, go marry her. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Respect55(m): 3:15pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Most girls from well - to-do families really have problems. That was why I aborted with this last one I wanted to settle down with 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by dammypat(f): 3:19pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Mr op what you need is a woman with a well functioning brain that can sustain wealth, understanding, help you build and give you peace whether rich or poor, the issue of marriage is complicated that you can't just use a woman's family rich background as a yardstick to marry,desire a sweet and peaceful marriage 3 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Tellemall: 3:19pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: You may not realize it, but the op is a gold digger. Earning 7 figures doesn't mean he is doing fine. He is broke and struggling despite that salary, and is thinking of marrying a well off lady. If the roles were reversed you will admit that he is a leech. He probably wants a good wife to lifthim and his family out of their difficulties. That is not a bad thing, but just imagine if a woman wanted that. And if the advice is to copy the Nigerian women(a sweeping generalization which appears more stereotypic than true), then Nigerian men are the exact same women in disguise! Where is the manhood Nigerian men claim to have that they are reduced to becoming women marrying for money and its benefits? This is funny, actually. If he wishes to marry for money, he shouldn't complain when she and her family look down on him, disrespect and emasculate him, neither should he have an opinion on her faithfulness, etc. I have found Nigerian men to complain a lot about these things. They always want respect but it seems many are gold diggers. This thread proves it. 8 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by darqly(m): 3:30pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
GodisGood4321: This is the basis of your problem bros. People only submit in LOVE, not because you are the man, or because they are supposed to be women or wives! Don't you want a woman that will add to you and enable both of you grow, rather than one that just says OK and YES? There's nothing wrong in wanting a woman of high social standing, but be willing to pay the price by compromising. Most of them are raised to be independent, lacking nothing and won't beg you to drop chop money for them. And to be honest, if you're hardworking and sincere, a rich girl and her family will only (if they love you sha...) make way for you to reach the top. |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 3:54pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
zaragal: Marriage itself comes with challenges because two strangers with different backgrounds and upbringing and sometimes different cultures and religion are coming together to start a family. Definitely, there will be challenges. Now, the risk mitigating factor is to reduce the challenges in the future, not avoid them. Hence, people tend to marry within the same tribe/race, class, religion etc. Being from a poor or rich background does not guarantee a successful marriage. Neither does all the other factors highlighted. However, it is better to minimize marital issues. People keep believing in the fallacy of LOVE. Love is a minimal factor for marriage. If you doubt me ask those that practice arranged marriage. In fact arranged marriage has a higher success rate than stumbled/love marriage. I tend to agree that men should consider the family and work/professional background of their intended wives. Women do it to and not just Nigerian women. Most women. I will strongly advise men to NEVER marry a girl from a poor family regardless of how pious she might be. In fact even if the girl is the MD of her company - don’t marry. If you ever get confused on how to marry - just remember this - Marry for success, upliftment, connection. I wish I could explain more. Maybe when I find the time 2 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 4:09pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
viexcey: I am sorry, I disagree. Only a wicked lady would ignore her family problems because she is married. You are certainly right that a rich man may get poor and a poor one may become rich. However, a rich man who gets poor never remains poor except he is a stupid kind like the one who married a poor girl, instead of strengthen allies and connections through marriage. Have you ever wondered why political position and contracts circulate within a certain class or group of people! Think again. When it comes to marriage - Women are smarter than men. I think it’s high time men got smarter about it. A woman would marry you if she thinks that your future earning potential is sufficient for her and secure. However, when there is financial challenge, she would dump you or when a richer man comes around. Gets please get your money up and don’t be a Captain save a Hoe. If you are from a poor background, fine marry within your class if you think it’s right. If you want to move up and you are not married yet, NEVER, I repeat NEVER marry a girl from a poor background. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Jombom: 4:09pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
madampresident:I don’t understand why you feel sorry about his choice, I know for a fact more ladies live to marry from richer homes than their why can’t a guy desire that too ? Note this is not what I desire because I will beat many to stupor over nonchalant altitude so I know for a fact I will not marry from a rich home but every should be entitled to their desire no matter how biased it might seem. 3 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Caseless: 4:15pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
madampresident:Godisgood4321, listen to this lady here. |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 4:16pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng:I understand Ur point. i'm from a poor home (average kind of), trying to make way for myself, supporting my family then i will go ahead and marry someone i earn more than with financial responsibilities like me, even my spirit will not agree 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 4:17pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
cherriex:I am very humble and ordinary in real life oh, my future wife is a very lucky lady if she behaves Honestly I no get wahala, always happy and smiling but don't take bullshit especially from ladies cos I grew up around guys |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by jorion(m): 4:20pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Respect55:I am sorry to burst your bubble, girls in general come with a lot of baggage, whether rich or poor. So your train of thought is invalid. What is more important is to what extent would those baggage affect you. And believe me, poor girls with baggage can't be tolerated 2 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 4:24pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
I learnt something from this |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 4:24pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
jorion: Comment from an experience man. Well said. The attitude of a poor girl and a rich girl are almost the same. Why suffer yourself some more by picking a poor girl, that’s double wahala. Better to tolerate a rich girl than a poor girl. In fact Na the poor ones dey disturb pass because they would use you to accomplish those missed childhood dreams and experiences 4 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Oluhills007: 4:25pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
holysaint1: I really do mind you asking |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 4:32pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
[b][/b] Tellemall:My dear brother wake up, romantic love is a fallacy, it does not exist. Romantic love is a tool used by people; mostly women to manipulate men for their selfish gains. Why do you guys value this submission and wife submissiveness blah blah only when an average guy wants to marry a lady of his class or a bit above his financial class, why is it a crime Why didn't you people remember submissiveness of wife when Indimi son married President Muhammadu Buhari's daughter Zahra Why didn't you people talk about wife submissiveness when that guy married Dangote's daughter Super rich people are rich not by mistake but because they understand how life works and they marry mostly to keep their wealth growing and expanding not just based on physical beauty and romantic love. It is only the poor and average middle-class people that always want to die for love and submissiveness. If there is money and your wife refuses to submit, the most important thing is to make sure she has given birth to your biological children, and if she says she won't be loyal to you bingo; you find solace outside na, abi you don't know that 99% of successful men find more solace outside their marriage Think like a capitalist, don't die because of love and submission, bra think beyond those things, focus on keeping a sustainable and assured future for your kids, if marrying a Lady of your class or one above your class will help you achieve that supreme goal, go for it and stop looking for submission and love. How many wife of poor men of today are submissive to their poor husband self, wake up oh, if you like don't okay Mind you, we aren't fighting, just airing my opinion on this, we are still cool anyday 4 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 4:35pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
gloria34:its well sis, see don't let me opinion change your own belief. You know every guy can never think like me, there are millions of financially buoyant single guys searching for beautiful broke ladies to marry, they don't care, they have a different belief about life and I pray u find one soon. 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 4:37pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
CanadianNaija:Bros, I have the right to brag, it doesn't concern u okay I bless God for the enormous wisdom he bestowed in me, and if it pains u go and jump into the nearest lagoon it doesn't concern me, nonsense If you think its easy, go get your own sense na and leave me with my own sense na, haba |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Respect55(m): 4:39pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
jorion:Shebwill be like, "that's not how it is done in my family;that is not how I was brought up...." Before u know it, she is already abusing me. She once told me her dad's servants are richer than me. I suffered in her hand. Now she wants me back |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by pocohantas(f): 4:40pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Nothing wrong with your expectations. I also do not have any business with a broke guy. 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by lastclaire4(f): 4:45pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Boss13: Grade fire. Girls know the reason people ask this question. She will tell u something commensurate with the salary she wants you to know. |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 4:45pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng:Not at all. I am really not after marriage right now but when d time comes, i hope to meet a guy who we Dont have to worry much about money and he shouldnt be d sole bread winner of his family. That burden is just too much |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 4:48pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
lastclaire4:hahahaha, I like your type that allow nature to take its place lol. I don't dispute the fact that I might end up marrying below my class finally, but it is my desire like the op to marry within my level, and if by nature's making I end up with a lady below my par, I will make sure I help her come up to my taste and if she refuses or keeps dulling, I will call it quits for real. I love focused and ambitious ladies who are friendly, and not rude; I have met such ladies in the past but then I wasn't just into ladies for no reason I can tell, so there are still successful ladies that are friendly, reasonable and well mannered, one just need to take his time and don't rush or be desperate in your search to find them. I am not the type of guy that want my lady to be cooking and cleaning for me, I hated this even when we were in school, I always abuse my guys that do that. I am not a foodie; I eat like bird, I pick, I am highly choosy with food and food don't make me go gaga so I don't need a wife to be my cook or cleaner or house girl. If we need one, we hire. I once had a house keeper that comes to take care of my house chores some time ago until I was advised that its bad because of the so many ills we hear in the world today before one uses his hand to hire his killer. So I am not those kind of guys looking for a submissive house maid as wife, I have a different notion about life and marriage entirely and if I don't find what I desire I may stay single for life its not a crime my parents have plenty enough grandchildren already. I just need a friendly lady, jovial, humble, smart, financially valuable, focused and hot looking 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by wizkidblogger(f): 4:49pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Dee9977: lol. Some last born are the pillar of their families oo 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 4:54pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
naijacentric:hahahahaha, easy oh, there are sweet ladies among Nigerian ladies oh, sweet and financially valuable ones who are not parasite, and not wicked and prideful like some fools If u are ready to settle, talk to your mom, aunts, valuable friends, and be active on worthy online discussion forums like Nairaland and believe me u will find one. Don't write off all our ladies, cos there are amazing ones; I have friends married to great ladies and they inspire me too, so don't give up on our ladies pls 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by jorion(m): 4:55pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Respect55: U no even happy say na rich man pikin they insult u. Poor girl don look u up n down, whine mouth for you before. At leaest she shows you that attitude, a poor girl won't until ur pepper dry. Fear poor girls o. A girl like that would take you out, cook u meals, spoil u once in a while, she contributes generally. No try am with poor girls o. with poor girls, u give them gifts on their birthday day and also give them gifts on your own birth day. I won't lie to you, I hardly talk to poor girls, infact I am allergic to them. They hate me for being a snob, I hate them for being parasitic. 4 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 4:55pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: Chief don’t allow people discourage you. You are on the right track. There are certain things I want to say but out of respect for the concerned people involved. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 5:01pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
dumaro:If u read my response to some quote s above, u will find my answer to the question of submissiveness of a wife. Why is it mostly broke and middle-class men that are always after their wife being submissive Don't you see wedding news of successful guys marrying rich ladies and ladies from very rich families, have they all died I repeat, Nigerian guys should learn to marry like Royal families; they don't marry for love or physical beauty or submissiveness of the woman, they marry mostly to for Royal status, and for expansion of their family royal dynasty, which is why they keep prospering from generations to generations. How many nowadays wife of broke or financially struggling men are even submissive to their husbands when our ladies are already trying to become the men of the house, so let them also come with equal money and financial worth, bingo 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Respect55(m): 5:06pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
jorion:Na just Heaven go save us for this world 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 5:11pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Boss13:many guys who were once successful became broke after some years they got married, why Too much financial load in the name of forming the man of the house nonsense! Nigerian guys need to wise up seriously. Because u are earning 300k monthly, you then go to your village to go marry one ill mannered poor girl and bring her and her numerous financial problems into your life, tell me why won't u suffer financially with time Some claim women bring favor, why must she bring financial favor to your life and not financial value, tell me Nigerian guys must wake up from their slumber. You can date any class of lady for fun but once u want to marry, shine your eyes and consider her financial value and what she earns, unless maybe u have plenty enough money and investments and ready to establish her to become financially relevant too, if not, na suicide mission it has brought so many Nigerian men back to square 1 3 Likes |
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