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Insecurity

Ebonyeyes,

Thanks for the advice. That is exactly what I am gonna do. She is having da feelings that I am changing towards her cos I received a text message not a while ago that I was full of life when she was around me yesterday and afterwards I grew "cold feet " towards her. I haven't replied cos I want her to look at me straight in the eye to tell me what she has to. Did I show her too much love?

Thanks once again

Sorry, I forgot to add this, the last muslim break we had I gave her some dough (Money) for her hair do, actually I always do that without her even asking for it, she told me she gave it to this guy because the guy was in a mess (flat broke) and needed help. I didn't respond to her statement because i ain't a bank that would be milked dry but I must admit she knew I was pissed. Manner wise she is anything you want in a woman, but she is fucking ( sorry to use that word) with my brains right now,

I need a quick answer/advice to this puzzle. I went visiting my gf(girlfriend) and we got talking, she told me how she met her long time friend (male). She tod me they actually dated and called him by name Akeem. That name got stuck in my head. She told me the guy is now married bla, bla, bla, the exchange numbers which I think was a normal thing.

A few days later (yesterday) she came to my house and as I was surfing the internet on the black berry phone I gave her as a birthday present, a call came in , she stored the number of the caller as " AK   S heart". Her middle name starts with an "S" and AK could mean Akeem. When the ringing stopped, I checked the number of the said Akeem I stored on my phone and noticed that it is the same number that called her phone. A lot went through my head, With this I must confess that I feel she is double dating.

Nairalanders, what do u think?

Yes, they played well and I commend the players. They even played better than our tired winged eagles. I love Siasia's composure as a coach. The NFF would have to go to the drawing board and get programs that will uplift the game of football in this country. There is the need to sack Amodu if he fails, Amodu dosen't know what he is doing. I do not see the reason why NFF and NFA not putting all the programs they have for the year in the papers for scrutiny before embacking on fruitless journies they are always known for. Let us see the programs in black and white. The flying eagles has done well as far as I am concerned.

Yes,
It is a good thing dough. The boys played well but a goal poacher was missing, Siasia has done did well.

otokx, make tunder fire that ya mouth! I pray that we go out and grab the maximum three points, What kind of people do we have in this country sef. Siasia has done well. Yes, they lost the last match but we saw that they played their hearts out. GO FLYING EAGLES!

Besiktas 0 V Manchester United 6

I am a MANU fan but I think arsenal trash them say 2-1 in favour of ARSENAL!

Go kill them boys! It is ur night. From the blast of the whistle attack attack and attack!

I had sex while the mother was right in the next room.

[b]Answer to Question 1

Yes! Someone that truly loves you might become tempted to suggest such a thing to his loved one (but you must realize that he was tempted by you to do so!) The reason? Like he said, he wants you to be happy, and believe it or not, he TRULY loves you. And take note that men naturally need to be left alone to solve their problems. Learn not to bother him so often, or doubt his confidence and ability to make it. He is the MAN! Instead, tell him such words as, "Honey. It's not your fault. I know you are trying your best, and I am sure that everything will soon be fine. It's just a matter of time. So, cheer up!"

Reason it: he is willing to sacrifice being with you to make you happy (if you eventually find someone who has the money), and let himself go unhappy for the rest of his life. Pity him! Haba! After all these years? Why quit now? He needs you right now more than ever girl!


Answer to Question 2

You are not confused! Get that first. You are only trying to (unconsciously) listen to what the people around you are telling you. My dear, people will always talk; whether what is happening is good or bad! Shut out the other voices and listen to the soothing words your heart keeps on telling you; "You love and you trust him. You have come this far with him. FINISH YOUR RACE!"

Distance doesn't matter! Learn to see everything in life as risky. And indeed, (believe me) of everything we do on this earth, no one is ever certain of anything; from investment to business, from learning the real thing to taking exams, and so on. That is why you must pray. Prayer will give you the most certain answer from God; JUST the way you want that situation to change to. Pray also from the bottom of your heart so that he'll get a job soon, as well.

Have a peaceful mind! because nothing is wrong. He loves you; VERY much. Hold onto him. This is what marriage will look like later. Tell me, if you can't trust him or a word he says now, will it be then when you're now ONE that you will?

FINISH YOUR (SWEET) race, THE HONEY IS JUST ONE FOOT WAY! [/b]


U don't need any more advice from anyone. You have the answers already from this genius mind that posted this above. And for the lady who said she dosen't like dating poor men my responce to you is TO-HELL- WITH-U. It is not all about money but happiness.

SOrry, He sent me these now,


Here is what I started to do. I got us an appointment with a counselor. This is very important. If she was willing to go then maybe there was nothing going on behind my back. Well my suspicions were confirmed, she declined the offer to go saying everything was fine, but she still continued her destructive behavior. So then I started going deaper. I started looking at cell phone calls bills cos I bough her a business line. This is very important because if someone is cheating they will usually call their lover as soon as they leave the house. So I checked times and dates that matched when she left for work and sure enough their were several calls to one number. I even called the number from a blocked phone and it went to a generic voicemail. So no help. I did a reverse lookup on it and it stated the wireless carrier and information about the location. You can pay to see more information. From this point on I am going to list the steps I took.

* Make appointment with counselor (just to verify reaction)
* Check mobile phone calls and times
* Check bank statements for unusual expenses. (you can often get the name and location and sometimes even times of expenses charged to credit and debit cards. This is helpful so you can ask what they were doing at this location and time)
* Check credit history, look and see if they have gotten new bank accounts or credit cards without your knowledge. (My wife had gotten a new credit card, and she was paying the bill out of our checking account. Pretty ballzy huh?)* If you have a PC that is used by your spouse then install legitimate spy software on it. Im not talking spyware that infects. These software types log keystrokes (great for getting passwords and instant messages, websites visited, they even take screenshots of things on the screen. They range from $15 to $40 dollards(I paid online for this pls don't think I am crazy) depending on the power you need) Form this I actually intercrepted instant messages and discovered that my wife was looking at home rentals.
* I really didn't do much else from here. I think I had all the evidence I needed, but there are other things. Another option would be to hire a private detective and to setup a tracking service through GPS on the mobile phone.

People what do u think?

He is planing something big to know if she is really cheating on him, For me I ain't buying that and whatever thing he does I will keep you posted, I believe her a 100 percent too but he believes his instinct is directing him correctly. I wonderwhat he is up to now,

I have a friend who is almost runing mad because of this. But in his own case he is married and do not deserve what his wife is doing to him cos he loves her to a fault. He also needs help cos he can't get it off his mind. Kindly visit https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-315167.0.html

He needs your help.

My advice to you depends on how important she is to your life. If you truely love her, I don't c why you shouldn't give her a second chance. ANd if you don't trust her anymore then send her away in a gentlemanly way without stress.

A friend needs your advice fast befoe he throws his woman to the gutters. The story goes as , 
Note: I posted this the way it was sent to me, I couldn't edit it because of time cos I love them both!

[b]I recently began to suspect my wife of cheating on me. At the onsite of my suspicion, I began to monitor her cell phone bill. I checked it daily and found out that she was constantly in communication with a co-worker. She would talk with him several times a day, begining early in the morning on her way to work. I noticed the telephone calls and never mentioned anything to her. They would be on the telphone several minutes and times per day. He would inform her of various things going on in the office, she initially would tell me what he informed her of. However, I never thought that they were having the number of calls to one another. She would call him and he would call her. Anyway, to make a long story short, one day I stopped talking to her and she could tell that I was upset about something. So she erased all of the telephone calls that she made to him and that he made to her. Once I realized this, I confronted her about it. She began by saying that she knew that I was upset about something and did not want me to think that something was going on and it was not. She also claimed that another co worker had informed me of something going on out of misery for their home. Furhter into our conversations, she stated that another male would make comments to her like "How much will it take to get with that". She claims that she put him in his place. I would frequently ask her if anyone was making passes at her and she always denied this. THe reason I asked such questions is because I would frequently have dreams that she was having an affair. Should I believe her or is it my imagination?[/b]

A friend needs advice and I have invited him to join nairaland. I am sharing this with you cos he needs your help.

[b]I recently began to suspect my wife of cheating on me. At the onsite of my suspicion, I began to monitor her cell phone bill. I checked it daily and found out that she was constantly in communication with a co-worker. She would talk with him several times a day, begining early in the morning on her way to work. I noticed the telephone calls and never mentioned anything to her. They would be on the telphone several minutes and times per day. He would inform her of various things going on in the office, she initially would tell me what he informed her of. However, I never thought that they were having the number of calls to one another. She would call him and he would call her. Anyway, to make a long story short, one day I stopped talking to her and she could tell that I was upset about something. So she erased all of the telephone calls that she made to him and that he made to her. Once I realized this, I confronted her about it. She began by saying that she knew that I was upset about something and did not want me to think that something was going on and it was not. She also claimed that another co worker had informed me of something going on out of misery for their home. Furhter into our conversations, she stated that another male would make comments to her like "How much will it take to get with that". She claims that she put him in his place. I would frequently ask her if anyone was making passes at her and she always denied this. THe reason I asked such questions is because I would frequently have dreams that she was having an affair. Should I believe her or is it my imagination?[/b]

Na wa o

Your husband should check the paternity of the child/children you have for him, I don't trust you.

Thunder fire that ya mouth. You have tasted her fruit and now you want out. Let me just make you understand something here, there is nothing in this world that is not subjectible to change. Culture isn't a barrier in marriage. I tot u are educated! At this present stage and time, you talking about someone being a yoruba. Ladies who are truely in love with a guy can die for their men why can't you do the same if you truely love her? I want you to be serious man! The church she attend isn't a criteria. You are really a small boy. My best friend got marrried to an Ibo girl. He didn't blow off the roof because she is Ibo. We need your response on this thread. Grow up boy!

Is your spouse cheating on you ? If you are suspecting your spouse is cheating on you this is the right thred for you to share your experience. Common nairalanders let us help each other out on cheating partners. A friend needs your advice and his story goes as thus(Sent this to me after having posted cheaters on nairalad. He said he will be joining us on nairaland soon. He is heart broken and needs our help):

[b]I recently began to suspect my wife of cheating on me. At the onsite of my suspicion, I began to monitor her cell phone bill. I checked it daily and found out that she was constantly in communication with a co-worker. She would talk with him several times a day, begining early in the morning on her way to work. I noticed the telephone calls and never mentioned anything to her. They would be on the telphone several minutes and times per day. He would inform her of various things going on in the office, she initially would tell me what he informed her of. However, I never thought that they were having the number of calls to one another. She would call him and he would call her. Anyway, to make a long story short, one day I stopped talking to her and she could tell that I was upset about something. So she erased all of the telephone calls that she made to him and that he made to her. Once I realized this, I confronted her about it. She began by saying that she knew that I was upset about something and did not want me to think that something was going on and it was not. She also claimed that another co worker had informed me of something going on out of misery for their home. Furhter into our conversations, she stated that another male would make comments to her like "How much will it take to get with that". She claims that she put him in his place. I would frequently ask her if anyone was making passes at her and she always denied this. THe reason I asked such questions is because I would frequently have dreams that she was having an affair. Should I believe her or is it my imagination?[/b]

Run for ya dear Life!

I hope say u don chop am,

the guy don catch HIV. hear him, Na sex partner, THUNDER FIRE YA YEAD!

Jane needs to go and seek for forgiveness. I wonder what will happen when ur parents later found out about ur escapade, It is interesting now and later , crocodile tears and, IT IS THE HAND WORK OF THE DEVIL, I wonder what the devil done this time around,

wHERE IS THIS CHEERFUL GIVER CALLED JANE